don’t want her thinking I’m some rabid horndog who only has sex on the brain.”

According to the friend who asked me, that’s a very unusual response, and most people would want to share that feeling with their partner, and maybe see if the partner felt the same way. I don’t know if there’s any real basis to that, but it really helped me clarify how I felt about sex and sexuality, and why I felt that way.

Think about your answer to that, and the other questions I’ve asked, in relation to the four types of attraction. Hopefully that can shed some light, and help you figure out who you are and who you want to be. Whatever you settle on, you’ll always have plenty of support, I guarantee that. Much love.

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I'm sex-positive, but want it kept away from me.

I'm in kind of a weird position. I don't believe that sex should be a shameful and dirty thing, and I believe in free sexual expression for all, but I'd prefer if that free sexual expression happened away from me. For example, I have no problem with sex toys being sold in Target, but I don't really want to see people buying them.This just feels like an odd in-between position to have. I'm not a prude by any stretch of the imagination, but I'm not fully okay with sexuality either.

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Attraction to unobtainable people like celebs

Hey, all! I've been pondering for a long while now whether I might be aro, and I think I am but wanted some other insights.

I've dated several people, and I was even engaged at one point, but my interest seems to be more in physical and sexual contact than anything romantic. Reading a lot of people's descriptions of what romantic attraction feels like, I don't think I've ever experienced anything like that.

I do experience what one might call crushes, but it's pretty much exclusively to people that are unobtainable like celebrities, people who live halfway around the world, fictional characters, and so on. The second one of those people seems like they might be able to come to me and actually meet up/go on a date, my interest evaporates like magic.

A small part (tiny, tiny part) of me wants to have a lifelong relationship, but I genuinely love being on my own. As I'm writing this, I'm realizing that I've never truly been happy in a relationship either.

Does this sound like I might be aromantic, or might I fall into another category? Any help and advice would be appreciated!

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not asexual but i dont like sex


hello everybody.
I am neither asexual nor aromantic, and yes I have found myself to be attracted to people and have sexual thoughts. But the thing is... I don't like it at all.

I don't have a problem with people being sexual, not being virgins blabla, nothing shameful, but I just can't see myself doing stuff like that. It feels so unserious and just so human, can't rlly explain it.

So it's like... I'm not asexual but I wish I was. Not saying life would be easier, not saying I would always like it, but it definitely suits my own values and the philosophy I follow. I want to voluntarily stay a virgin my whole life, without being intimate with anybody. I could be and probably want to be, but it's a limit that I like having for myself, if it makes sense...? I don't 100% get it myself but I'm very loyal to it. (not religious)

I was just wondering if anybody else feels like this, rejecting sex and physical intimacy altogether, and probably even romantic love, even though I feel the want to do all of that, but I think it's just my human body making me desire such things, yet my mind says other things.

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human bodies are disgusting

im turning 18 next year and i honestly decided to be single for the rest of my life, i just hate how bodies look like full of organs bones veins, they smell, carry many diseases and stuff, i honestly cant understand how people are attracted to this it feels so weird, i see people as piece of flesh and bones, this feels like i wont be able to enjoy my entire life having sex with women just because of all these reasons.

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yes, another "am i ace?" post

hi everyone :) i’m feeling lost and confused. i’m sure there are thousands of "am i ace?" posts on here, so i understand if you scroll past mine:

i’m 25 (non-binary lesbian), and haven’t felt "i want to rip your clothes off" arousal since puberty. i very rarely feel a desire to have sex, but i enjoy sensual touching and non-sexual physical touch.

i have only ever orgasmed from a vibrator, but it feels more like a mechanical response. as if my body is simply responding to the clitoral stimulation, rather than it being a result of sexual arousal. i watch porn when i masturbate, and i can sort of get into a sexual headspace, but i still feels somewhat removed. my orgasms are "meh" most of the time, and afterwards, i often feel disgusted and am immediately turned off.

i went through a phase of hooking up with lots of women. i was trying to prove to myself that i DO like sex, but i hardly got any pleasure from it.

i’ve been in a monogamous relationship for 2 years, and i love my partner deeply. i enjoy receiving sensual touch: cuddling, massages, ears being kissed, light and fast scratching all over, etc. this feels pleasurable and sometimes makes my brain feel tingly (if anyone knows what that sensation is, please let me know!!!). what usually happens is that my gf is touching me lightly or giving me a massage, and it feels pleasurable, so i initiate sex. but i rarely crave sex. i find my mind drifting (ADHD doesn’t help), but i proceed because i want to make her feel good. she has a relatively high libido, and i want to make sure im meeting her sexual needs. i top 80% of the time, but i usually don’t feel aroused from it. i’ve only ever orgasmed during sex from using my vibrator on myself.

i feel so ashamed of my low desire for sex. it makes me question if i’m actually attracted to my partner, or anyone, for that matter. i find her beautiful and aesthetically pleasing to look at, and i LOVE being in a relationship, so i know i’m not aromantic. but i feel intense guilt that i’m not drooling over her body. i’m ashamed that i don’t feel the same level of sexual attraction to her that she’s stated feeling for me. my vagina very rarely "beats" when we are physical, and it typically only happens when we’re making out or she’s kissing my ears.

i guess i’m just struggling to understand myself. i know i’m not alone, like, that’s not statistically possible, but i feel lost. i’m looking for any and all advice or feedback. if you have an idea of what umbrella i fit under/want to propose a label, please do!!

(i also want to say that my gf has never pressured me into sex and she’s supportive/understanding. a lot of this pressure and shame is internal)

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Acespace has been a great way to make new friends

Have you tried Acespace? Thank you to whoever from this sub recommended it because it's the most trans friendly AND ace centric app I've heard of.

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Am I Asexual?

If you are questioning whether or not you are asexual (including all microlabels), reply to this post with what made you start questioning, and why.

If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.

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I feel like I continously get "more" ace.

So I've been comfortable labeling as Ace for a very long time. I think like almost 6ish years now. I've had the same partner for almost 3 years. They are also on the ace spectrum which is nice though they dont always understand how much more I am affected by my own acesexuality.

In the beginning we didnt want anything remotely sexual from eachother. Then after a year and a half I was open to it and found after roughly half a year of that, I am very very not into sex. Want nothing to do with it, dont want anyone even looking or thinking of me in a sexual manner because it makes me feel yucky and like a scared animal.

I feel like I keep moving more and more up on the ace spectrum. Now even anything beyond hand holding makes me feel flighty or anxious. Small kisses on my head are find but I dont want contact anywhere but the top of my head. It just makes me uncomfortable.

Has anyone gone through a similar path? Sometimes I wonder if I also lean on the Aromantic spectrum because I have such a difficult time finding the line between friendships and relationships and how they differ for me. I enjoy holding my friends hands or being close to them just like my partner. I dont care who I live with forever as long as we care about eachother and take care of eachother. I love my partner but not the same way I love my closest friends. But also I dont know how they differ because it feels like society's only line between the two is who you kiss and who you dont.

Sorry for any spelling mistakes, its very late when I'm writing this.

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