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My bday is coming up soon! My bday and my coming out day are pretty close so I celebrate both with my partner. :)
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My bday is coming up soon! My bday and my coming out day are pretty close so I celebrate both with my partner. :)
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A rant about dating apps as a sex-averse woman
I am not truly an asexual, but a sex-averse heterosexual woman. Regardless, I'm still effectively only interested in finding non-sexual relationships and in that sense relate to the asexual community.
All the big 3 dating apps, Tinder, Hinge and Bumble, have added an option to choose your sexual orientation. Great addition, I thought, and chose "asexual", albeit technically inaccurate, it best describes what I'm looking for.
Except that in practise, from a sex-repulsed/asexual perspective, this feature is literally useless. It doesn't seem to, in any way, make the algorithm show you profiles that match that orientation. On top of that, you cannot even manually add a PAID orientation filter - but god forbid you want to filter out other relevant stuff like Covid vaccination status, sleeping habits, ZODIAC SIGNS - we got you!
Today, I got desperate, and signed up for an OKcupid account, which is not a super popular app, but sadly the only one known to have orientation filters... And then I realized that the free plan only lets you add a "preference", which does next to nothing. To effectively use the filter, you need to sign up for a 20 dollar monthly plan. Which I did, only to see around 50 profiles after which it told me I've run out of options, within 500 MILES. And I live in a big city.
I just don't get it. Why can't the big 3 apps get this simple thing done? I bet so many sex-averse ppl and aces would literally sign up for Tinder Gold or some shit just to be able to use the filter.
Lastly, I've heard good things about an app called HER, but that's sadly not suitable for straight women.
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I am not truly an asexual, but a sex-averse heterosexual woman. Regardless, I'm still effectively only interested in finding non-sexual relationships and in that sense relate to the asexual community.
All the big 3 dating apps, Tinder, Hinge and Bumble, have added an option to choose your sexual orientation. Great addition, I thought, and chose "asexual", albeit technically inaccurate, it best describes what I'm looking for.
Except that in practise, from a sex-repulsed/asexual perspective, this feature is literally useless. It doesn't seem to, in any way, make the algorithm show you profiles that match that orientation. On top of that, you cannot even manually add a PAID orientation filter - but god forbid you want to filter out other relevant stuff like Covid vaccination status, sleeping habits, ZODIAC SIGNS - we got you!
Today, I got desperate, and signed up for an OKcupid account, which is not a super popular app, but sadly the only one known to have orientation filters... And then I realized that the free plan only lets you add a "preference", which does next to nothing. To effectively use the filter, you need to sign up for a 20 dollar monthly plan. Which I did, only to see around 50 profiles after which it told me I've run out of options, within 500 MILES. And I live in a big city.
I just don't get it. Why can't the big 3 apps get this simple thing done? I bet so many sex-averse ppl and aces would literally sign up for Tinder Gold or some shit just to be able to use the filter.
Lastly, I've heard good things about an app called HER, but that's sadly not suitable for straight women.
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Remember guys, if you have four aces you can’t have a straight (feat. These cool gold playing cards)
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Anyone feel like womanhood emphasizes on femininity and sexuality too much?
Idk?
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Idk?
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Is anyone else disgusted by people saying “would” to strangers online in a sexual way?
To me it seems like saying you’d have sex with someone you don’t know, in a non-sexual context like an instagram post, feels like it’s crossing the line by a lot. When I talked to someone about it they said it’s not an actual problem and just online discourse.
Am I alone in this?
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To me it seems like saying you’d have sex with someone you don’t know, in a non-sexual context like an instagram post, feels like it’s crossing the line by a lot. When I talked to someone about it they said it’s not an actual problem and just online discourse.
Am I alone in this?
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Any German Aces here? 🇩🇪
Helloooooo fellow Aces. Exactly what the title says, I just wanted to ask if here's any German People around. I feel that Asexuality isn't very talked about or people aren't really aware of it's existence (well at least in my region). Feel free to share you story on how you'd found out about Asexuality or some random thoughts about it. :)
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Helloooooo fellow Aces. Exactly what the title says, I just wanted to ask if here's any German People around. I feel that Asexuality isn't very talked about or people aren't really aware of it's existence (well at least in my region). Feel free to share you story on how you'd found out about Asexuality or some random thoughts about it. :)
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Finding someone like you as an asexual…
As a Cis Butch Tomboy Lesbian of asexuality...
I wish there were others the same and they do the parts of life I can't do despite knowing how just fine due to my mild autism, they are fine with that, kissing; yes just don't touch my face and cuddling; yes just not the spooning way as I'll burn up and can't get comfortable on my side. The rest of them just like me.
...and even though on the outside it would look like total parent child... It wouldn't be that. I'm just limited on a lot of if not most of the big life things despite knowing how just fine; but I still contribute.
But hey I can only dream.
What are your alls wishes in this regard? Maybe there are others the same for you too who see this.
Let's be supportive and comforting of each other here.
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As a Cis Butch Tomboy Lesbian of asexuality...
I wish there were others the same and they do the parts of life I can't do despite knowing how just fine due to my mild autism, they are fine with that, kissing; yes just don't touch my face and cuddling; yes just not the spooning way as I'll burn up and can't get comfortable on my side. The rest of them just like me.
...and even though on the outside it would look like total parent child... It wouldn't be that. I'm just limited on a lot of if not most of the big life things despite knowing how just fine; but I still contribute.
But hey I can only dream.
What are your alls wishes in this regard? Maybe there are others the same for you too who see this.
Let's be supportive and comforting of each other here.
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It shocks me that everyone confuses being asexual with being aromantic/aroace.
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Found out I'm demisexual today
It's my word of the day. Looked it up after seeing it thinking it had to be a little more than something like "half sexual" and found out it fits me pretty well. Apparently it's on the ace spectrum too? So here we are.
Always kinda suspected based on how I identified with some of the posts out of here, but figured you are or you aren't, period.
I now have a more compact way to express why I'm not into one night stands and hookups and a few other things.
So... where do you all get your prescription garlic bread?
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It's my word of the day. Looked it up after seeing it thinking it had to be a little more than something like "half sexual" and found out it fits me pretty well. Apparently it's on the ace spectrum too? So here we are.
Always kinda suspected based on how I identified with some of the posts out of here, but figured you are or you aren't, period.
I now have a more compact way to express why I'm not into one night stands and hookups and a few other things.
So... where do you all get your prescription garlic bread?
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Parents can’t wrap their head around me wanting to travel to see my friend just because I’m not dating them
I just graduated from uni and have been feeling pretty lonely considering my friends all live away from me in different directions. I proposed the idea of me going to visit a good friend of mine a few hours away since they’ll also be coming up to my town next month. I thought my parents would be on board since they would let my younger sister drive the same distance to stay with her boyfriend and his family so I thought they’d say yes.
I was wrong. My parents thought it was “ridiculous” that I wanted to drive to see my friend’s hometown and that “you only do that if you’re dating someone.” I hate the idea that friends are somehow less important than romantic partners and that it’s somehow not worth coming to see someone just because you aren’t dating them.
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I just graduated from uni and have been feeling pretty lonely considering my friends all live away from me in different directions. I proposed the idea of me going to visit a good friend of mine a few hours away since they’ll also be coming up to my town next month. I thought my parents would be on board since they would let my younger sister drive the same distance to stay with her boyfriend and his family so I thought they’d say yes.
I was wrong. My parents thought it was “ridiculous” that I wanted to drive to see my friend’s hometown and that “you only do that if you’re dating someone.” I hate the idea that friends are somehow less important than romantic partners and that it’s somehow not worth coming to see someone just because you aren’t dating them.
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