I feel like queer relationships in media are often much more well written and relatable as an ace person than heteroromantic-heterosexual relationships are
I was watching clips of the TV show Hannibal and the way that Hannibal and Will’s relationship isn’t sexual but is clearly more than just platonic just strikes a chord with me. I usually am not really a fan of romance, but the way they touch each other and hold each other kind of makes me want a relationship despite me being aro-spec. It’s just so pure and loving and it showcases this adoration and acceptance for the other person as a whole, not just as a sexual partner. I’m not trying to romanticize their relationship since it definitely was abusive, but it’s still much more enjoyable than shows where straight characters make eye contact and the next scene is them undressing in the middle of a dimly lit street (ok mild exaggeration on my part but you get the picture). I hate how straight characters get together purely because they’re the opposite gender and I feel like because queer relationships are less accepted when they do get shown in media they are much more well thought out. This isn’t to say that there aren’t great straight relationships in media, just that I relate to them much less on a personal level.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that the queer relationships I have seen in media are usually much more than just sex for the sake of having it in the show with not much other development or chemistry between characters.
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I was watching clips of the TV show Hannibal and the way that Hannibal and Will’s relationship isn’t sexual but is clearly more than just platonic just strikes a chord with me. I usually am not really a fan of romance, but the way they touch each other and hold each other kind of makes me want a relationship despite me being aro-spec. It’s just so pure and loving and it showcases this adoration and acceptance for the other person as a whole, not just as a sexual partner. I’m not trying to romanticize their relationship since it definitely was abusive, but it’s still much more enjoyable than shows where straight characters make eye contact and the next scene is them undressing in the middle of a dimly lit street (ok mild exaggeration on my part but you get the picture). I hate how straight characters get together purely because they’re the opposite gender and I feel like because queer relationships are less accepted when they do get shown in media they are much more well thought out. This isn’t to say that there aren’t great straight relationships in media, just that I relate to them much less on a personal level.
I guess what I’m trying to say is that the queer relationships I have seen in media are usually much more than just sex for the sake of having it in the show with not much other development or chemistry between characters.
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I feel like queer relationships in media are often much more well...
I was watching clips of the TV show Hannibal and the way that Hannibal and Will’s relationship isn’t sexual but is clearly more than just platonic...
subtly coming out to people by posting a pic of me next to ace cards on instagram, i doubt it worked though
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Being ace is so difficult
I hope I did this right - had to create a reddit account for it as I don't know where else to go to vent about all this.
I've had a lot of stuff happen over the past few days which is related to friendships I've lost, which I don't deal that well with for a few reasons but one is because my friends are all I have.
I don't tell most people I'm ace and even with those who know, everyone believes me when I say I'm "single by choice" and totally happy. But I'm not. I know being ace doesn't make it impossible to have a romantic relationship but the truth it that it's a lot harder and it just doesn't happen for everyone. I'm almost 40, I've always been single and I'm just so lonely right now.
Every time a lose a good friend (usually because they get into a relationship and don't need me anymore) it feels like a breakup. I pretend I'm fine and most of the time I suppose I am, but deep down it hurts that I'll never be anyone's first choice, that nobody will ever be in love with me, that I don't get to have that because of my sexuality. And when I try to tell people how I feel they tell me that there's still time or I don't need a relationship to be happy or whatever and I know they're trying to be supportive but it just invalidates my feelings.
Honestly, I've known I'm ace for close to 20 years and I've always hated it. And 95% of the time I'm mentally well and it's okay. But when I feel like this it's just... hard. I'm sad, and I have to deal with being sad on my own and it's unfair and it sucks.
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I hope I did this right - had to create a reddit account for it as I don't know where else to go to vent about all this.
I've had a lot of stuff happen over the past few days which is related to friendships I've lost, which I don't deal that well with for a few reasons but one is because my friends are all I have.
I don't tell most people I'm ace and even with those who know, everyone believes me when I say I'm "single by choice" and totally happy. But I'm not. I know being ace doesn't make it impossible to have a romantic relationship but the truth it that it's a lot harder and it just doesn't happen for everyone. I'm almost 40, I've always been single and I'm just so lonely right now.
Every time a lose a good friend (usually because they get into a relationship and don't need me anymore) it feels like a breakup. I pretend I'm fine and most of the time I suppose I am, but deep down it hurts that I'll never be anyone's first choice, that nobody will ever be in love with me, that I don't get to have that because of my sexuality. And when I try to tell people how I feel they tell me that there's still time or I don't need a relationship to be happy or whatever and I know they're trying to be supportive but it just invalidates my feelings.
Honestly, I've known I'm ace for close to 20 years and I've always hated it. And 95% of the time I'm mentally well and it's okay. But when I feel like this it's just... hard. I'm sad, and I have to deal with being sad on my own and it's unfair and it sucks.
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Being ace is so difficult
I hope I did this right - had to create a reddit account for it as I don't know where else to go to vent about all this. I've had a lot of stuff...
Got my femboy friend to make this for us sex-negative Aces!
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Dude's aphobic because I got fed up of him being stupidly noisy
So I live in halls right now, and am unfortunately directly below a guy who really enjoys his sex. Every day.
He usually has sex at either 11pm, half midnight, or 1 o'clock in the morning. All of which are well within our halls rules of "quiet time" when noise should not be heard outside of your flat.
To be clear, I don't object to him having sex, just the time that he does it. They are also fully aware that I can hear them - I have spoken to his girlfriend before, but have never met him.
So the other night I had finally had enough - he and his girlfriend were going at it past 11 and I was trying to get to sleep, so I just bashed on the ceiling.
Next day I also spoke to the girlfriend who was very apologetic and promised not to do it after 11.
But then I'm talking to one of his other flatmates and apparently the morning after I bash my ceiling, he goes ranting about "this fucking asexual" who won't let him have sex.
He's never met me and did not know I was ace. Coincedences abound. Clearly, he associates asexuality with prudishness 🙄🙄🙄 oh no someone expects me to be respectful of the time people are trying to sleep! Cleary a disgusting asexual!
But I'm pissed off now so might go down to the front desk tomorrow to complain about both the noise and the aphobia. I was gonna let the noise go as long as they were quiet from here on out, but no. coupled with the aphobia I'm too angry.
Apparently he's allowed to get away with shit because he's lived here 3 years, but bitch so have I. and I brought them cakes. I'm not taking this shit.
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So I live in halls right now, and am unfortunately directly below a guy who really enjoys his sex. Every day.
He usually has sex at either 11pm, half midnight, or 1 o'clock in the morning. All of which are well within our halls rules of "quiet time" when noise should not be heard outside of your flat.
To be clear, I don't object to him having sex, just the time that he does it. They are also fully aware that I can hear them - I have spoken to his girlfriend before, but have never met him.
So the other night I had finally had enough - he and his girlfriend were going at it past 11 and I was trying to get to sleep, so I just bashed on the ceiling.
Next day I also spoke to the girlfriend who was very apologetic and promised not to do it after 11.
But then I'm talking to one of his other flatmates and apparently the morning after I bash my ceiling, he goes ranting about "this fucking asexual" who won't let him have sex.
He's never met me and did not know I was ace. Coincedences abound. Clearly, he associates asexuality with prudishness 🙄🙄🙄 oh no someone expects me to be respectful of the time people are trying to sleep! Cleary a disgusting asexual!
But I'm pissed off now so might go down to the front desk tomorrow to complain about both the noise and the aphobia. I was gonna let the noise go as long as they were quiet from here on out, but no. coupled with the aphobia I'm too angry.
Apparently he's allowed to get away with shit because he's lived here 3 years, but bitch so have I. and I brought them cakes. I'm not taking this shit.
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Dude's aphobic because I got fed up of him being stupidly noisy
So I live in halls right now, and am unfortunately directly below a guy who really enjoys his sex. Every day. He usually has sex at either 11pm,...
I was very curious about sex until I got old enough to have it. Anyone else have this experience?
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I was very curious about sex until I got old enough to have it....
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Does anyone else feel this way? I just feel really gross, not guilty necessarily, just like "Why did I do that? What was the point?"
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A friend gifted me this hat, and it just made me so freaking happy
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Forget Denmark, I want to invade the ISS and make or make a sexless super-colony on the moon
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