Well, it was a good five years.
Maybe writing this down will help myself feel normalized.
Today isn't a day of celebration as it normally would be on September 10th for myself. It is the 5th anniversary of my relationship with my "current" partner. Unfortunately, she sat me down at lunch time. I thought the conversation would be, "happy anniversary babe!" Or "we should spoil ourselves today, we deserve it!". Instead, I was met with the dreaded: "we should talk".
My Aro and Grey-Sexual identity has taken its toll on her. We communicated throughout our relationship about it and everything seemed fine. Today- or sometime during the last few weeks- was her breaking point. I'd like to think of myself as a good provider and a great relationship giver. I have my shit together (mostly). I can't help but feel utterly defeated and alienated by my own body and mind.
Needless to say we are in the process of breaking up. It wasn't personal. I hate the fact that she was suffering. But... I just feel betrayed. Melancholy and self-loathing are also emotions I am experiencing. Anyone have any advice? I don't mean to vent too hard. I just don't have many supports and wanted to give Reddit a shot.
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Maybe writing this down will help myself feel normalized.
Today isn't a day of celebration as it normally would be on September 10th for myself. It is the 5th anniversary of my relationship with my "current" partner. Unfortunately, she sat me down at lunch time. I thought the conversation would be, "happy anniversary babe!" Or "we should spoil ourselves today, we deserve it!". Instead, I was met with the dreaded: "we should talk".
My Aro and Grey-Sexual identity has taken its toll on her. We communicated throughout our relationship about it and everything seemed fine. Today- or sometime during the last few weeks- was her breaking point. I'd like to think of myself as a good provider and a great relationship giver. I have my shit together (mostly). I can't help but feel utterly defeated and alienated by my own body and mind.
Needless to say we are in the process of breaking up. It wasn't personal. I hate the fact that she was suffering. But... I just feel betrayed. Melancholy and self-loathing are also emotions I am experiencing. Anyone have any advice? I don't mean to vent too hard. I just don't have many supports and wanted to give Reddit a shot.
https://redd.it/plse9k
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reddit
Well, it was a good five years.
Maybe writing this down will help myself feel normalized. Today isn't a day of celebration as it normally would be on September 10th for myself....
found for your non-enjoyment in r/theowlhouse (go watch it)
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I told a fuckboy I was ace
And he said "Well you didn't seem so asexual when you were making out with me." He asked me to go back to his dorm with him and I said I need to leave and he asked why so I told him the truth, I'm asexual.
Like wtf, you kissed me literally one hour after you met me and without any warning. I only kissed back because I didn't know what else to do.
And also, even if I did like kissing that doesn't mean I want sex. And I might actually like kissing, but the only time I kind of enjoyed it (still think it's gross) was when I was asked for consent.
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And he said "Well you didn't seem so asexual when you were making out with me." He asked me to go back to his dorm with him and I said I need to leave and he asked why so I told him the truth, I'm asexual.
Like wtf, you kissed me literally one hour after you met me and without any warning. I only kissed back because I didn't know what else to do.
And also, even if I did like kissing that doesn't mean I want sex. And I might actually like kissing, but the only time I kind of enjoyed it (still think it's gross) was when I was asked for consent.
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I told a fuckboy I was ace
And he said "Well you didn't seem so asexual when you were making out with me." He asked me to go back to his dorm with him and I said I need to...
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Am I proud of how it looks? No. Am I proud of what it represents? Hell yea!
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Allos and Their Complaining
Anyone else tired of hearing it? I'm tired of hearing allos complain about how hard they have it. I get dating's rough, and I try to be supportive. But I hate talking with straight guys because I can't relate at all.
If I have to hear one more guy, especially on Reddit, complain about how nobody hugs him or compliments him, how much he wants his girl to pat his head like she's his fucking mother, or says "people say all men want is sex but that's not true!" because we all know damn well they won't consider dating an asexual woman, especially one that's sex-repulsed. If you truly cared about being loved, sex's importance would be further down the list.
It's impossible to relate to allos when they talk about online dating, too. I can't even pick "asexual" as my orientation. Even when it's in my description, I have to remind people of it in case they didn't read the two sentences I put in there and get turned down anyway. I can't ask to be paired with only other asexuals or I would do that.
In general, people complain about being single, incel, or "forever alone." Well, at least you have a fucking chance, douchebag, and you're squandering it. You don't have to whip out your Powerpoint presentation explaining your entire sexuality on the first date, or be asked out, only for that person to say "nevermind" when you mention you're asexual.
Whenever they have marriage problems, they come to me for someone to talk to because I "get it." Or they tell me I'm lucky that I don't have to deal with all this. You think I chose to be like this? I would love a chance at what you have! SHUT UP.
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Anyone else tired of hearing it? I'm tired of hearing allos complain about how hard they have it. I get dating's rough, and I try to be supportive. But I hate talking with straight guys because I can't relate at all.
If I have to hear one more guy, especially on Reddit, complain about how nobody hugs him or compliments him, how much he wants his girl to pat his head like she's his fucking mother, or says "people say all men want is sex but that's not true!" because we all know damn well they won't consider dating an asexual woman, especially one that's sex-repulsed. If you truly cared about being loved, sex's importance would be further down the list.
It's impossible to relate to allos when they talk about online dating, too. I can't even pick "asexual" as my orientation. Even when it's in my description, I have to remind people of it in case they didn't read the two sentences I put in there and get turned down anyway. I can't ask to be paired with only other asexuals or I would do that.
In general, people complain about being single, incel, or "forever alone." Well, at least you have a fucking chance, douchebag, and you're squandering it. You don't have to whip out your Powerpoint presentation explaining your entire sexuality on the first date, or be asked out, only for that person to say "nevermind" when you mention you're asexual.
Whenever they have marriage problems, they come to me for someone to talk to because I "get it." Or they tell me I'm lucky that I don't have to deal with all this. You think I chose to be like this? I would love a chance at what you have! SHUT UP.
https://redd.it/ply4te
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reddit
Allos and Their Complaining
Anyone else tired of hearing it? I'm tired of hearing allos complain about how hard they have it. I get dating's rough, and I try to be...
Question for my ace-spec peps who have periods
How do you feel about using tampons?
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How do you feel about using tampons?
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I came out to my mom as aroace
And it couldn't have gone better, I'm so happy right now words cannot describe it. And i want to say thank you to everyone for the support on my last post, I'm going through a hard time currently and seeing all the upvotes and comments makes me so happy. Thank you. This community is truly the best.
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And it couldn't have gone better, I'm so happy right now words cannot describe it. And i want to say thank you to everyone for the support on my last post, I'm going through a hard time currently and seeing all the upvotes and comments makes me so happy. Thank you. This community is truly the best.
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I came out to my mom as aroace
And it couldn't have gone better, I'm so happy right now words cannot describe it. And i want to say thank you to everyone for the support on my...
No you're not 'just asking' when you question our humanity, our rights, our representation, or our inclusion.
Questions about our right to exist are inherently offensive. There is no 'good faith' question about those topics. We dont need to debate our rights to exist. It's not a 'fun logic puzzle'. It's our lives. Just asking those kinds of questions is dehumanizing and discriminatory.
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Questions about our right to exist are inherently offensive. There is no 'good faith' question about those topics. We dont need to debate our rights to exist. It's not a 'fun logic puzzle'. It's our lives. Just asking those kinds of questions is dehumanizing and discriminatory.
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reddit
No you're not 'just asking' when you question our humanity, our...
Questions about our right to exist are inherently offensive. There is no 'good faith' question about those topics. We dont need to debate our...
I don't care if we are together or not, if you don't know the passcode, you shall not pass
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Ive got an ace up my sleeve. Its me. Im ace. And im up these sleeves
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Suddenly ace (is there a sub for that lmao, there should be)
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