Cuddle Drive?

Hey guys, quick question. Does anyone have like a sex drive, but instead of for sex it's for hugs and cuddles? Like sometimes I'll get this fuzzy feeling and really want/need a hug and can't concentrate well on anything else until I get one. This can happen both randomly, or also when I hear/read about people hugging and cuddling. It's kinda weird. I'll sometimes also have platonic fantasies as I call them about me hugging/cuddling with my favorite characters.

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Asexual or allo?

I’ve been labelling myself as Asexual for a bit now, but I’ve recently been thinking about changing it. It’s mostly because I don’t know what sexual attraction feels like anymore.

What I’ve been experiencing is vague sexual fantasies of people, but their faces are always darkened to the point that I can’t see their face. I can’t imagine myself having sex either. It’s usually just a placeholder in my mind. Does this still count as asexuality?

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(26F) I think I'm an ace but I live in a country and a family that will never understand asexuality

Long story short. I'm from India. I have tried telling my parents, friends and even my sister that I'm asexual. Everyone thinks it's a phase. I'm being forced to think of getting married soon. I get nightmares frequently of being married forcefully.

In India, marital r*p* is not considered illegal. If I say yes to arranged marriage I'll be r*p*d practically every day. It's so hard to convince my folks that I never ever want to get married. I truly have no desire for companionship. I don't know how to find a solution. Any thoughts are welcome. Thanks in advance.

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Just one extra data point in the “no, my hormones don’t need to be checked”

I figured I’d share with y’all as a group who might appreciate this, but-

I’m trans and as a result of going on HRT, they had to first take a baseline of my hormones to see where I was at, and I was fully expecting to some extent, either as an ace person or a trans person who had heard from so, so many people that it must’ve been a result of some sort of hormonal imbalance (ugh), that maybe I did have an unexpected hormonal level somewhere.

Instead, my T count to start was at the high end of the scale, but otherwise completely typical. I’ve since completely changed my hormonal balance in my body, where my T is now happily near the bottom of the scale, and surprise surprise, I was ace before and I’m ace now!

We get told so many things to explain away who we are and why we are, but it’s garbage. Be ace, eat cake.

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Hey y'all! Quick quiz on how old everyone is!

I'm just super curious

View Poll

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It seems being Ace makes people think I don’t understand jokes

Whenever there’s a sexual joke or innuendo in a movie, instead of laughing, I kind of just make a face, sorta like “the Jim face” from the office.

But my friends have started being jerks about it, saying stuff like “this is a joke you SHOULD get, but you don’t”.

I understood it, I just felt uncomfortable reacting. Some of the jokes are a bit funny but others are too over the top.

Should I change my reaction to laughing?

Just because I’m asexual doesn’t mean I don’t understand anything sexual or I’m stupid/childish.

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Ace vibes
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f the law!!!! (jk) 💜
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I will never understand the point of this.
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My friends and I discussing our ace-phobic parents
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I told a guy I was AroAce before sleeping over but woke up to him touching me up

I started talking to a guy I met online and he mentioned having dinner with his friends at his place, I agreed to go for the food but I asked him if he knew was AroAce was, I had to give him a long lecture about it so he would understand that I was only coming for food, I wanted nothing but platonic interaction during my stay. He said he understood.
Fast forward to the dinner party, I said I had to go cause it was well past 8pm but the person kept asking me to stay over and I gave in on the promise it would just be movies and sleeping. We headed back to his place I was exhausted and wanted nothing but to sleep, but when I did fall asleep I felt hands touching me up and sliding in my clothes. I woke up to find him half naked and my clothes pushed out the way.
I felt violated, an idiot for believing the person would respect me and heed my explanation that I wanted nothing but to hang out and eat. I hated it.
I exclaimed my disappointment and he apologized, he asked if we could just go to sleep after talking about it. I couldn't sleep, it was too late to get a ride and I was sort of stuck in his house so I stayed awake all night while he slept and left first thing in the morning.
He messaged me after I left but I want nothing to do with him anymore, should I block him?

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This belongs on r/AretheStraightsOk
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The correct choice
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How do I figure out my family's opinions on asexuals without making it obvious?

I really want to come out as I'm sick of being asked if I have a girlfriend, sick of people making the same unfunny "iS sHe YoUr GiRlFrIeNd" joke whenever I'm taking to a female like is it illegal to have a female friend or something? I'm also tired of people trying to talk about sex with me, but I'm worried people will be aphobic but I don't know how to figure out their opinions on it.

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Aroace spade (part of a WIP of an entire card)

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No, seriously, are the allos fucking ok?
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B&B is even funnier if you're ace IMO
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It doesn’t happen very often
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