My book club is reading Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex this month.
Hi, my discord book club is reading Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen in our LGBTQA+ book club and I wanted to invite you to join us if you're interested. We'll be reading it throughout the month of August and it's read-at-your-own pace, so you can read it as fast or as slow as you like and just post your thoughts as you go.
You can find us here: https://discord.gg/KgFF9j3GTh
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Hi, my discord book club is reading Ace: What Asexuality Reveals About Desire, Society, and the Meaning of Sex by Angela Chen in our LGBTQA+ book club and I wanted to invite you to join us if you're interested. We'll be reading it throughout the month of August and it's read-at-your-own pace, so you can read it as fast or as slow as you like and just post your thoughts as you go.
You can find us here: https://discord.gg/KgFF9j3GTh
https://redd.it/ox7taw
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What is something that allos (anyone who does feel sexual attraction) do that you don't understand?
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Am I the only one who feels bad for my future partner(s)???
Unless they are also ace I feel like I won’t be able to give them everything they need. I know that they’re sexual needs aren’t my problem and with how big the porn industry is it shouldn’t be a problem, but I still feel horrible for them, and I don’t even have a partner right now lmfao. I kind of wish I was demi or an ace who was comfortable with sex, because I’m fine talking about sex but going into details or thinking about doing it makes me so put off honestly. Does anyone else feel this way?
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Unless they are also ace I feel like I won’t be able to give them everything they need. I know that they’re sexual needs aren’t my problem and with how big the porn industry is it shouldn’t be a problem, but I still feel horrible for them, and I don’t even have a partner right now lmfao. I kind of wish I was demi or an ace who was comfortable with sex, because I’m fine talking about sex but going into details or thinking about doing it makes me so put off honestly. Does anyone else feel this way?
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Am I the only one who feels bad for my future partner(s)???
Unless they are also ace I feel like I won’t be able to give them everything they need. I know that they’re sexual needs aren’t my problem and...
It's summer and I'm way too hot and bothered. Please, someone get a fire extinguisher. Quick!
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What’s your favourite bit of Ace iconography?
I just came across the garlic bread vs sex pole and saw all the comments saying they prefer cake and that made me wonder
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I just came across the garlic bread vs sex pole and saw all the comments saying they prefer cake and that made me wonder
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I just told my mother...
...that I'd like garlic bread with dinner soon because it's too long since we had any. It's been a few months at least, so definitely not since I realised I'm ace. My family doesn't know about that though, because I'm concerned what the consequences would be if I came out. I'm not concerned about the consequences of eating garlic bread though. Garlic bread is yum!
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...that I'd like garlic bread with dinner soon because it's too long since we had any. It's been a few months at least, so definitely not since I realised I'm ace. My family doesn't know about that though, because I'm concerned what the consequences would be if I came out. I'm not concerned about the consequences of eating garlic bread though. Garlic bread is yum!
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I just told my mother...
...that I'd like garlic bread with dinner soon because it's too long since we had any. It's been a few months at least, so definitely not since I...
Feeling invalidated after coming out
I've told a guy I trust about my asexuality today and he seemed quite understanding at first and even said he knew other ace people (dude what?! That's so cool!). After I finished he told me it doesn't sound like I'm ace to him, I'm only afraid of relationships. Like, just completely invalidating everything I've said because the "real" ace people he knows didn't describe it like this. Later I told my mom about it (I've been out to her for more than a year) and she just plain and simple agreed with him.
I just don't get it. Why can't they just believe me about my own experiences? Why does it seem so impossible to people that someone just doesn't want a freaking relationship (at this moment in time or maybe ever)?!
Does anyone have experience with similar situations? How did you handle it?
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I've told a guy I trust about my asexuality today and he seemed quite understanding at first and even said he knew other ace people (dude what?! That's so cool!). After I finished he told me it doesn't sound like I'm ace to him, I'm only afraid of relationships. Like, just completely invalidating everything I've said because the "real" ace people he knows didn't describe it like this. Later I told my mom about it (I've been out to her for more than a year) and she just plain and simple agreed with him.
I just don't get it. Why can't they just believe me about my own experiences? Why does it seem so impossible to people that someone just doesn't want a freaking relationship (at this moment in time or maybe ever)?!
Does anyone have experience with similar situations? How did you handle it?
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Feeling invalidated after coming out
I've told a guy I trust about my asexuality today and he seemed quite understanding at first and even said he knew other ace people (dude what?!...
Someone else finally knows I'm ace
I was having a chat with one of my coworkers about fictional relationships which led to me saying "I'm not into people". This caused him to ask "you're asexual?".
This is the first time I've talked to someone about it without the other person reacting poorly. That he even knew the right term gave me pure joy. It felt amazing to finally know that there was at least one other person who knew for sure.
A small part of me is jealous that he was able to find the word instantly when it took me well over a decade.
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I was having a chat with one of my coworkers about fictional relationships which led to me saying "I'm not into people". This caused him to ask "you're asexual?".
This is the first time I've talked to someone about it without the other person reacting poorly. That he even knew the right term gave me pure joy. It felt amazing to finally know that there was at least one other person who knew for sure.
A small part of me is jealous that he was able to find the word instantly when it took me well over a decade.
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Someone else finally knows I'm ace
I was having a chat with one of my coworkers about fictional relationships which led to me saying "I'm not into people". This caused him to ask...
My asexual boyfriend and me. Being in a relationship with another ace person is something I could only dream of. It's the most wholesome thing in the world <3
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