The Best Thing About Being Asexual Is Being Able To See People As People
Title says it all, so this is just gonna be voicing a few things. I knew this guy a few years ago who had a bunch of female friends, and all of this friendships with them started because he wanted to smash. I wish I was kidding, but this dude was all about sex. He would see a girl crying because she and her boyfriend were fighting and would try to immediately put the moves on her. When we were talking one day and I mentioned one of our coworkers had just broken up with her boyfriend, he immediately said he was gonna try and get her in bed. I say all of this to point out that a lot of people start friends with people of the other solely to try and get laid. Not everyone, obviously, but there is a lot.
At my new job, I have a female friend who isn't the most attractive person in the world, but she is probably the most fun person I have ever met. She and I have almost everything in common, from anime to video games, even to random internet videos. We can literally talk our whole break away about random topics. We literally just ramble on like absolute nerds, and it's a lot of fun. If I was an overly sexual person, I probably wouldn't have even talked to her, or just tried to hook up with her and ruin everything.
Being able to see people as people is really great. You can form real relationships, sometimes by complete accident. So many times I've seen people chase after someone because of their body, they expect a relationship solely because of the sex, and it falls apart in a few weeks or even days. Not chasing sex and physical gratification lets you get to know people for who they are, and that's honestly more satisfying to me.
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Title says it all, so this is just gonna be voicing a few things. I knew this guy a few years ago who had a bunch of female friends, and all of this friendships with them started because he wanted to smash. I wish I was kidding, but this dude was all about sex. He would see a girl crying because she and her boyfriend were fighting and would try to immediately put the moves on her. When we were talking one day and I mentioned one of our coworkers had just broken up with her boyfriend, he immediately said he was gonna try and get her in bed. I say all of this to point out that a lot of people start friends with people of the other solely to try and get laid. Not everyone, obviously, but there is a lot.
At my new job, I have a female friend who isn't the most attractive person in the world, but she is probably the most fun person I have ever met. She and I have almost everything in common, from anime to video games, even to random internet videos. We can literally talk our whole break away about random topics. We literally just ramble on like absolute nerds, and it's a lot of fun. If I was an overly sexual person, I probably wouldn't have even talked to her, or just tried to hook up with her and ruin everything.
Being able to see people as people is really great. You can form real relationships, sometimes by complete accident. So many times I've seen people chase after someone because of their body, they expect a relationship solely because of the sex, and it falls apart in a few weeks or even days. Not chasing sex and physical gratification lets you get to know people for who they are, and that's honestly more satisfying to me.
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Pls help me. Idk what to do
just realised i was asexual around 3 days ago. I just haven't told anyone. Almost all of my friends only care about how someone looks. And I hate it tbh. I can't tell them, cause they will prob laugh at me. And my parents are extremely sex obsessed. Like idk what to do. It's so annoying. All of my friends are like waw such a big ass, whoa look at her boobs. A friend of mine laughed at me cause I fell in love with an "ugly" person just cause she's such a nice person. I feel like there are almost no people who will accept that I'm ace. Some of them also don't care bout the outside, and I will tell them. But shit man, idk what I'm supposed to do. I had a dream about my mom getting extremely angry at me cause I revealed I was ace. And I think that might happen in real life, just cause she is so sexual. Idk what to do. Bro my life has been a mess the last few days
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just realised i was asexual around 3 days ago. I just haven't told anyone. Almost all of my friends only care about how someone looks. And I hate it tbh. I can't tell them, cause they will prob laugh at me. And my parents are extremely sex obsessed. Like idk what to do. It's so annoying. All of my friends are like waw such a big ass, whoa look at her boobs. A friend of mine laughed at me cause I fell in love with an "ugly" person just cause she's such a nice person. I feel like there are almost no people who will accept that I'm ace. Some of them also don't care bout the outside, and I will tell them. But shit man, idk what I'm supposed to do. I had a dream about my mom getting extremely angry at me cause I revealed I was ace. And I think that might happen in real life, just cause she is so sexual. Idk what to do. Bro my life has been a mess the last few days
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Opinion: coming out as asexual is weird to me and I don’t think I’ll ever do it.
So, I understand coming out to family and friends as bisexual, gay, etc. since it’ll be pretty obvious or require some sort of explanation if/when you start seeing someone of the opposite sex (for example). But for me… I’m a cis female, heteroromantic. If I choose to come out as ace all I am really telling people is that I don’t like or want sex like 99% of the time. To me that’s weird - I don’t talk about sex to my family or friends. It feels like it would be so weird and awkward and a TMI moment to volunteer this information to people.
I found out I was asexual about 6 years ago when I was just starting a relationship with my present day husband. I knew I loved him and I didn’t want to lose him, but I knew that I did not want sex. And I was terrified I was going to lose him BECAUSE I didn’t want sex. Of course, my husband knows I am ace. And while I was going through figuring it all out (and being completely distraught over it) I did talk to an ex-boyfriend about it (he was super sexual and I felt like I owed it to him to tell him why I was the way I was). I also talked to a couple of my friends for emotional support. Beyond that first “discovery” phase, I have never brought it up again. Part of me knows like 98% of people will laugh or say something rude or tell me to see a doctor. But I just can’t get over how fucking weird it feels to imagine myself just volunteering to people out of the blue that I don’t like or want sex.
Is this weird? Is that not how everyone else feels about it? I’d like to know y’all’s thoughts and feelings.
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So, I understand coming out to family and friends as bisexual, gay, etc. since it’ll be pretty obvious or require some sort of explanation if/when you start seeing someone of the opposite sex (for example). But for me… I’m a cis female, heteroromantic. If I choose to come out as ace all I am really telling people is that I don’t like or want sex like 99% of the time. To me that’s weird - I don’t talk about sex to my family or friends. It feels like it would be so weird and awkward and a TMI moment to volunteer this information to people.
I found out I was asexual about 6 years ago when I was just starting a relationship with my present day husband. I knew I loved him and I didn’t want to lose him, but I knew that I did not want sex. And I was terrified I was going to lose him BECAUSE I didn’t want sex. Of course, my husband knows I am ace. And while I was going through figuring it all out (and being completely distraught over it) I did talk to an ex-boyfriend about it (he was super sexual and I felt like I owed it to him to tell him why I was the way I was). I also talked to a couple of my friends for emotional support. Beyond that first “discovery” phase, I have never brought it up again. Part of me knows like 98% of people will laugh or say something rude or tell me to see a doctor. But I just can’t get over how fucking weird it feels to imagine myself just volunteering to people out of the blue that I don’t like or want sex.
Is this weird? Is that not how everyone else feels about it? I’d like to know y’all’s thoughts and feelings.
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