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My father's attitude towards my asexuality has drastically changed and he's deliberately making me upset.

I apologize if there are typos or if I don't make sense. I'm typing this at 4:21 AM right after waking up.

My dad and I are rather close, and we normally don't argue, but lately, he's been crossing lines that he knows make me uncomfortable. I will preface this by saying that I didn't have a choice in coming out and he outed me to his girlfriend. Over the past year since I came out, he appeared to be trying to understand. But in the past few weeks, since about my 20th birthday, his attitude changed and he's been saying and doing things that he knows make me uncomfortable. Talking about the "adult" books he's been reading in way too much detail. telling me about the things he and my mother did, etc. He insists that he's a super supportive ally (only because he wears kilts, has long hair, and paints his nails), but then he said that because I am s*x repulsed and I refuse to read adult novels, I'm incapable of feeling romantic love and any relationship I have will ab*sive to my partner. He has made it very clear that he thinks asexuality is something that can be fixed, and he thinks that romantic and sexual attraction are completely linked and you cant have one without the other.

He used to be proud that I didn't become a hormonal mess like my sister(his words not mine), but once it became clear that it wasnt a choice, he keeps pushing me to date someone, trying to play matchmaker with me and my best friend, who is already in a serious relationship, pushing me to read the fifty shades series and other books like them, and trying to make me go into an "adult toy store" as a form of exposure therapy. I tried telling him that my sexuality isnt something you can fix and that it makes me uncomfortable that he acts like it is. I also told him that I am trying to find a partner. He responded by saying that I can't possibly find a loving partner and still be asexual. He uses the fact I want children as a way to say I can't be ace. I tried telling him that I dont have to sleep with someone to have children, I'm not limiting myself to cis men, and I never specified that I wanted biological children. But he wouldn't hear it.

I love my dad, he raised me and my sister alone after our mom passed, but his attitude has been making me feel as broken and hopeless as I felt before I realized I'm ace and when I was being badly physically hurt by my sister. And his attitude has made me hesitant to tell him I'm nonbinary. I don't want to cut him out of my life, or limit our relationship when I can move out, but its getting more and more difficult to be around him when he makes comments like the ones I've mentioned.

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My father's attitude towards my asexuality has drastically changed...

I apologize if there are typos or if I don't make sense. I'm typing this at 4:21 AM right after waking up. My dad and I are rather close, and we...

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