national geographic
i think sex is great. in concept.
i dont mind talking about it, i know a ton of facts (about everything not just sex but im pretty open)
i think its funny as hell - i sound like a middle school boy with the kinds of jokes i make (always with well-known people i wouldnt want anyone to be uncomfortable)
almost every show ive watched me and my friends would be the "hottest one". ive had a fantasy crushes on tv and anime characters.
ive had sexual fantasies, and dreams. i masturbate often and occasionally consume erotica.
but i dont really like to be touched. sex makes me kinda nervous and blank and the only way i cant meaningfully participate its by turning into an episode of national geographic
like i can hear David Attenborough explaining everyone's action.
"here we can see a fine example of human socializing as this young strong male as attracted two females. "
...
it was my first time and a threesome
i was 19 and feeling being left behind and went of a journey to lose my virginity with a friend of mine.
i was curious and feeling out of sync with the people i knew.
after, i was rather disappointed: it wasn't the mind-blowing, life altering moment i thought it would be.
ive known people who ruined their lives, cheating on their partners, screwing managers choosing boyfriends over their children. and i always assumed that sex was just .... AMAZING!! that it had a magical life ruining potential. and that once i had it i would finally understand and it just wasn't worth all that.
i was explaining this to a friend that : i think sex is a great concept, very funny, very important to society as a whole, that i understand that it feel good but that id never really wanted to participate,
and that when i do i feel like im reading off a list in my head, like im far away from my body watching the whole situation - narrating it like its an episode of national geographic.
they suggested i might be a variant of asexual.
i really dont mind having sex if it makes other people happy but i don't really like being touched in general, and sex is never my goal or endline. i honestly try to avoid as much as i can - its a big reason i dont have a s.o.
i get aroused. i have sexual fantasies and think people are attractive but i dont want them, its just like a fact. but i would rather touch myself then have sex with another person
i do like making people happy and i like knowing that people find me attractive
i dont even know why im writing this. just not sure what it all means. its a complex label for a complex identity.
if i am asexual is there a way to make me better at experiencing sex. i dont want to be left out.
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i think sex is great. in concept.
i dont mind talking about it, i know a ton of facts (about everything not just sex but im pretty open)
i think its funny as hell - i sound like a middle school boy with the kinds of jokes i make (always with well-known people i wouldnt want anyone to be uncomfortable)
almost every show ive watched me and my friends would be the "hottest one". ive had a fantasy crushes on tv and anime characters.
ive had sexual fantasies, and dreams. i masturbate often and occasionally consume erotica.
but i dont really like to be touched. sex makes me kinda nervous and blank and the only way i cant meaningfully participate its by turning into an episode of national geographic
like i can hear David Attenborough explaining everyone's action.
"here we can see a fine example of human socializing as this young strong male as attracted two females. "
...
it was my first time and a threesome
i was 19 and feeling being left behind and went of a journey to lose my virginity with a friend of mine.
i was curious and feeling out of sync with the people i knew.
after, i was rather disappointed: it wasn't the mind-blowing, life altering moment i thought it would be.
ive known people who ruined their lives, cheating on their partners, screwing managers choosing boyfriends over their children. and i always assumed that sex was just .... AMAZING!! that it had a magical life ruining potential. and that once i had it i would finally understand and it just wasn't worth all that.
i was explaining this to a friend that : i think sex is a great concept, very funny, very important to society as a whole, that i understand that it feel good but that id never really wanted to participate,
and that when i do i feel like im reading off a list in my head, like im far away from my body watching the whole situation - narrating it like its an episode of national geographic.
they suggested i might be a variant of asexual.
i really dont mind having sex if it makes other people happy but i don't really like being touched in general, and sex is never my goal or endline. i honestly try to avoid as much as i can - its a big reason i dont have a s.o.
i get aroused. i have sexual fantasies and think people are attractive but i dont want them, its just like a fact. but i would rather touch myself then have sex with another person
i do like making people happy and i like knowing that people find me attractive
i dont even know why im writing this. just not sure what it all means. its a complex label for a complex identity.
if i am asexual is there a way to make me better at experiencing sex. i dont want to be left out.
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Help me figure this out
I identify as heteromantic asexual. I went on antidepressants at 17, but I don't ever recall being sexually interested in anyone before then either.
I struggle very much with dating. I haven't since high school. My friends tell me I have the looks and charisma. They are confused when I tell them how much I struggle with it. I feel like I have every other box in my life checked off. I have a functional life where I am content. I am pursuing a degree. I am good at talking to people and have a lot of friends and intimate emotional bonds. I have more hobbies than fingers. I just can't find anybody to get into a realistic, sustainable relationship with.
I have a friend who I have over sometimes to hang out at my apartment. I suspect they are interested in me romantically, and I am, honestly, interested in them too, but they aren't asexual so I have to shut it down before it starts. We just aren't compatible. It makes me very sad. The last time he was over, I had a little ace flag out prominently that I know he saw. They said they were hoping to come over again. I'm scared that they will want to start a relationship with me but we will be sexually incompatible and it will end in six months. I turn down everyone who hits on me because of this or just because I'm not interested. I might also be on the aromantic spectrum. I don't tend to be romantically attracted to people I've just met. Who the hell knows.
I am also generally neutral-averse to touch, even platonically. Sex feels unthinkable and frankly horrifying. I have no interest in sexual nudity or genetalia, let alone contact with any of it. It is not what I want my body to be involved in. I don't think I'd be able to force it do not plan on doing so. Being in a relationship where my partner is hooking up extraneously doesn't feel good either.
The point of a relationship is to be reciprocal, but I can't give. I know there isn't really much to be done here, but I need a shoulder to lean on. I need to feel like I'm not alone in this. I fear this is contributing to me being emotionally "blocked up".
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I identify as heteromantic asexual. I went on antidepressants at 17, but I don't ever recall being sexually interested in anyone before then either.
I struggle very much with dating. I haven't since high school. My friends tell me I have the looks and charisma. They are confused when I tell them how much I struggle with it. I feel like I have every other box in my life checked off. I have a functional life where I am content. I am pursuing a degree. I am good at talking to people and have a lot of friends and intimate emotional bonds. I have more hobbies than fingers. I just can't find anybody to get into a realistic, sustainable relationship with.
I have a friend who I have over sometimes to hang out at my apartment. I suspect they are interested in me romantically, and I am, honestly, interested in them too, but they aren't asexual so I have to shut it down before it starts. We just aren't compatible. It makes me very sad. The last time he was over, I had a little ace flag out prominently that I know he saw. They said they were hoping to come over again. I'm scared that they will want to start a relationship with me but we will be sexually incompatible and it will end in six months. I turn down everyone who hits on me because of this or just because I'm not interested. I might also be on the aromantic spectrum. I don't tend to be romantically attracted to people I've just met. Who the hell knows.
I am also generally neutral-averse to touch, even platonically. Sex feels unthinkable and frankly horrifying. I have no interest in sexual nudity or genetalia, let alone contact with any of it. It is not what I want my body to be involved in. I don't think I'd be able to force it do not plan on doing so. Being in a relationship where my partner is hooking up extraneously doesn't feel good either.
The point of a relationship is to be reciprocal, but I can't give. I know there isn't really much to be done here, but I need a shoulder to lean on. I need to feel like I'm not alone in this. I fear this is contributing to me being emotionally "blocked up".
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Feelings after having sex
So, I don’t experience sexual attraction as far as I know. But sex is an option, so I say yes, and I enjoy and have fun while it’s happening. But after I feel icky, and kinda guilty. This feeling doesn’t last too long, maybe a day or so. I just kinda remind myself that people have sex, it’s normal, it’s fun. And I always know I’ll do it again, because I do enjoy sex while I’m doing it, it’s just the feelings after that suck. Anyone else?
I’ve never really quite called myself either ace or allo. I’m like somewhere in between, grey sexual I think? And that’s really hard for me to explain to people in my life. So I’ve come up with an analogy that helps explain to people. You’re not hungry, but there’s pie. Pie is sex here, hunger would be sexual attraction. You do like pie, and it’s there so you have some. And while you’re eating your pie you enjoy it because it’s pie, you like pie. But after, you’re uncomfortably full, because well, you weren’t hungry. After the initial guilt fades away, and there’s always guilt, you realize it’s fine people eat pie all the time, and kinda talk yourself down from the feelings. And you know you’ll do it again, because pie is good. But you always feel slightly bad after, because you weren’t hungry.
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So, I don’t experience sexual attraction as far as I know. But sex is an option, so I say yes, and I enjoy and have fun while it’s happening. But after I feel icky, and kinda guilty. This feeling doesn’t last too long, maybe a day or so. I just kinda remind myself that people have sex, it’s normal, it’s fun. And I always know I’ll do it again, because I do enjoy sex while I’m doing it, it’s just the feelings after that suck. Anyone else?
I’ve never really quite called myself either ace or allo. I’m like somewhere in between, grey sexual I think? And that’s really hard for me to explain to people in my life. So I’ve come up with an analogy that helps explain to people. You’re not hungry, but there’s pie. Pie is sex here, hunger would be sexual attraction. You do like pie, and it’s there so you have some. And while you’re eating your pie you enjoy it because it’s pie, you like pie. But after, you’re uncomfortably full, because well, you weren’t hungry. After the initial guilt fades away, and there’s always guilt, you realize it’s fine people eat pie all the time, and kinda talk yourself down from the feelings. And you know you’ll do it again, because pie is good. But you always feel slightly bad after, because you weren’t hungry.
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Considering ending my relationship with an allo partner
It hurts me so much, because I love them more than anything. We’ve been together 2 years, and at the beginning of our relationship I had suspicions that I was aroace but had difficulty understanding and accepting it (still struggling with the acceptance part, but trying to work on it)
I find almost all intimate and sexual activity uncomfortable and repulsive, however I have always pushed myself to withstand it for my partner. It upsets them because they wish I could also enjoy it with them, but to me it’s more of an endurance test than anything else, to see how much I can take before flinching away because I really, really don’t like it. Having any kind of enjoyment during it is unfathomable to me.
When the relationship started, I had the mindset that even if I don’t enjoy it, I might be able to grow more comfortable with it so I can at least do the minimum to keep them satisfied, without it being a big deal for me. But after two years there has been no change, I always find it disgusting. I’ve tried all sorts of conditioning to try and change my mindset, but nothing works.
My partner often makes comments that they are unfulfilled sexually, and it has caused me considerable grief and guilt, so I started working on my mental health, and have now been trying to work on accepting my asexuality as it does not seem likely to change. However now it has faced me with the ultimatum that if I am to truly love and accept myself, this relationship might not be possible for us.
I cried even at considering this option. I love them with all my heart. I want to spend my life with them. But they want what I cannot give them, and it is crippling me. Has anyone been in a situation like this where they were able to make it work?
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It hurts me so much, because I love them more than anything. We’ve been together 2 years, and at the beginning of our relationship I had suspicions that I was aroace but had difficulty understanding and accepting it (still struggling with the acceptance part, but trying to work on it)
I find almost all intimate and sexual activity uncomfortable and repulsive, however I have always pushed myself to withstand it for my partner. It upsets them because they wish I could also enjoy it with them, but to me it’s more of an endurance test than anything else, to see how much I can take before flinching away because I really, really don’t like it. Having any kind of enjoyment during it is unfathomable to me.
When the relationship started, I had the mindset that even if I don’t enjoy it, I might be able to grow more comfortable with it so I can at least do the minimum to keep them satisfied, without it being a big deal for me. But after two years there has been no change, I always find it disgusting. I’ve tried all sorts of conditioning to try and change my mindset, but nothing works.
My partner often makes comments that they are unfulfilled sexually, and it has caused me considerable grief and guilt, so I started working on my mental health, and have now been trying to work on accepting my asexuality as it does not seem likely to change. However now it has faced me with the ultimatum that if I am to truly love and accept myself, this relationship might not be possible for us.
I cried even at considering this option. I love them with all my heart. I want to spend my life with them. But they want what I cannot give them, and it is crippling me. Has anyone been in a situation like this where they were able to make it work?
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My wife is hypersexual and im asexual
My wife told me when we firat got together if we never had sex she would be happy. Now shes changed it and says she needs it multiple times a day every single day or she feels unloved/undesirable and becomes 'distant' (which just means padsive agressive). Ive tried explaining to her im sex replused with no sex drive but she is convimced that sex drive is just a myth made up by younger generations because theyre incapable of feeling unconditional love like older generations. Advice?
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My wife told me when we firat got together if we never had sex she would be happy. Now shes changed it and says she needs it multiple times a day every single day or she feels unloved/undesirable and becomes 'distant' (which just means padsive agressive). Ive tried explaining to her im sex replused with no sex drive but she is convimced that sex drive is just a myth made up by younger generations because theyre incapable of feeling unconditional love like older generations. Advice?
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my parents threw my garlic bread in the bin 😖
very sad story guys. i had garlic bread last night with my dinner but i didn't get to eat it in time because i had to leave for kickboxing so i put it in the microwave. as we know us asexuals deeply love our garlic bread. i woke up this morning, check in the microwave, garlic bread gone!!! my dad threw it in the bin. im in a process of mourning now and will strictly be wearing only black for the next 4 years.
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very sad story guys. i had garlic bread last night with my dinner but i didn't get to eat it in time because i had to leave for kickboxing so i put it in the microwave. as we know us asexuals deeply love our garlic bread. i woke up this morning, check in the microwave, garlic bread gone!!! my dad threw it in the bin. im in a process of mourning now and will strictly be wearing only black for the next 4 years.
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I (21F) am starting to date someone (20F) who thinks may be asexual
Hello.
I — 21F lesbian
Her — 20F bisexual
We met about two months ago and we really like each other and i am going to ask her to officially be my gf soon.
Her background is very complext and has diagnosed BPD and CPTSD. I am a nursing student and im capable of understanding these disorders + she is very open and comunicates a lot with me. She is the first girl in years that i am interested in romantically
She has told me that she may be asexual, she has been sexually active with other partners in the past. She was red in past relationships and forced to be intimate. She has expressed to me that she thinks she is now asexual because of this, but she is also taking medication which also lowers her libido.
We did try being intimate once (didn't force her of course, it just went escalating) — we kissed for over an hour and everything was okay with her, but once i went down on her, everything was okay but after about only 5 minutes she started slamming the bed and i immediately got worried, stoped and she started crying saying that she's sorry and that its not my fault, i reassured her saying it didnt matter and that i wasn't annoyed. I offered her if she wanted to put our clothes back on and just talk or go to sleep. She kept saying that she is sorry and i tried my best to let her know everything was okay.
I am allosexual (just discovered this word by searching through reddit threads).
I have recently asked her why when we kiss it is only small pecs and she told me that she is scared that if the kisses are more intimate that i will want to have sexual intercourse with her and i have told her that i like kissing her and that i could be kissing her for hours without the need of anything more. She told me that she really wants to believe me but something on the back of her head tells her that i am lying because of past experiences.
I am okay with not having sex for long periods of time but i want her to feel comfortable enough to talk about her do's and don'ts wihe me but i dont know how to start this conversation as i really want to try to have a stable relationship with her even if it means that we will have little-no sex. Thats why i am asking in this community
Thank you for reading and ill be reading the replies
Sorry if its a bit messy, english isnt my first language
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Hello.
I — 21F lesbian
Her — 20F bisexual
We met about two months ago and we really like each other and i am going to ask her to officially be my gf soon.
Her background is very complext and has diagnosed BPD and CPTSD. I am a nursing student and im capable of understanding these disorders + she is very open and comunicates a lot with me. She is the first girl in years that i am interested in romantically
She has told me that she may be asexual, she has been sexually active with other partners in the past. She was red in past relationships and forced to be intimate. She has expressed to me that she thinks she is now asexual because of this, but she is also taking medication which also lowers her libido.
We did try being intimate once (didn't force her of course, it just went escalating) — we kissed for over an hour and everything was okay with her, but once i went down on her, everything was okay but after about only 5 minutes she started slamming the bed and i immediately got worried, stoped and she started crying saying that she's sorry and that its not my fault, i reassured her saying it didnt matter and that i wasn't annoyed. I offered her if she wanted to put our clothes back on and just talk or go to sleep. She kept saying that she is sorry and i tried my best to let her know everything was okay.
I am allosexual (just discovered this word by searching through reddit threads).
I have recently asked her why when we kiss it is only small pecs and she told me that she is scared that if the kisses are more intimate that i will want to have sexual intercourse with her and i have told her that i like kissing her and that i could be kissing her for hours without the need of anything more. She told me that she really wants to believe me but something on the back of her head tells her that i am lying because of past experiences.
I am okay with not having sex for long periods of time but i want her to feel comfortable enough to talk about her do's and don'ts wihe me but i dont know how to start this conversation as i really want to try to have a stable relationship with her even if it means that we will have little-no sex. Thats why i am asking in this community
Thank you for reading and ill be reading the replies
Sorry if its a bit messy, english isnt my first language
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I have no ace friends, I would like a friend who relates to me on that level
I don't know if this is the right place to post this, please remove if not allowed, I'm a graysexual person (minor) and while I am surrounded with queer people, they mostly don't seem to even understand asexuality at all, and I feel kind of alone in this situation. And that's literally it, I just need someone who understands this
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I don't know if this is the right place to post this, please remove if not allowed, I'm a graysexual person (minor) and while I am surrounded with queer people, they mostly don't seem to even understand asexuality at all, and I feel kind of alone in this situation. And that's literally it, I just need someone who understands this
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Help coming out to Mom. (Please read context)
To make things clear I love my mother, and she has said she'd love me "no matter who I sleep with" and she herself is Bisexual.
Over this recent summer I've come to terms with my Asexuality, it was hard to come to the conclusion because I was fearful of the hate the community gets even in the LGBTQIA+ space but I have come to terms with it. I'm out to close friends and they have all been supportive but not her, my father or stepmom.
But I'm going to spend the holidays with her this season because I don't see her often anymore but I don't think I can stay closeted to her this much longer. But back in high-school while I was younger she found out (this is embarrassing) I had been on porn websites. I don't know exactly why I was, it was years ago but I am pretty sure she'd remember that. I'm scared that if I come out to her she might bring it up, not believe me, or outright call me a liar. And still I don't know why I was, I've never gotten the pleasure out of it, but I'm just anxious but I don't want to stay hidden much longer.
Any advice is appreciated.
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To make things clear I love my mother, and she has said she'd love me "no matter who I sleep with" and she herself is Bisexual.
Over this recent summer I've come to terms with my Asexuality, it was hard to come to the conclusion because I was fearful of the hate the community gets even in the LGBTQIA+ space but I have come to terms with it. I'm out to close friends and they have all been supportive but not her, my father or stepmom.
But I'm going to spend the holidays with her this season because I don't see her often anymore but I don't think I can stay closeted to her this much longer. But back in high-school while I was younger she found out (this is embarrassing) I had been on porn websites. I don't know exactly why I was, it was years ago but I am pretty sure she'd remember that. I'm scared that if I come out to her she might bring it up, not believe me, or outright call me a liar. And still I don't know why I was, I've never gotten the pleasure out of it, but I'm just anxious but I don't want to stay hidden much longer.
Any advice is appreciated.
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How do you feel about cuddles?
I'm aroace. Sex for any purpose other than reproduction is gross and terrible sounding to me (still a virgin), however I feel mixed things about cuddling.
For one, sometimes I'm okay with it. Not really hyper into it like some people are but it's just okay. Other times it really makes me uncomfortable, and to be fair I'm not one for much physical contact.
I was wondering how other ace or aroace people feel about cuddles?
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I'm aroace. Sex for any purpose other than reproduction is gross and terrible sounding to me (still a virgin), however I feel mixed things about cuddling.
For one, sometimes I'm okay with it. Not really hyper into it like some people are but it's just okay. Other times it really makes me uncomfortable, and to be fair I'm not one for much physical contact.
I was wondering how other ace or aroace people feel about cuddles?
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My first ever sex toys (NSFW POST)
So im aceflux, and i have a partner but iv never felt comfortable with the thought of actually doing it with someone, and never had a high enough libido to make a proper sex life. Due to this i decided durring a very hormonal "Shark Week" to finally get my first ever sex toys. I unfortunately had to get them off of Amazon, and dw yall i checked thoroughly to make sure the toys were safe, but after pressing confirm on the transaction scene i felt so erked out and spooked. But i KNOW i want this, I KNOW i want to please myself and be happy, but the asexual part of me cant help but have a visceral fear of what is to come. I know no one is gonna see my package, my dad wouldn't peek cause of Christmas and all, but fuck guys, its hard out here
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So im aceflux, and i have a partner but iv never felt comfortable with the thought of actually doing it with someone, and never had a high enough libido to make a proper sex life. Due to this i decided durring a very hormonal "Shark Week" to finally get my first ever sex toys. I unfortunately had to get them off of Amazon, and dw yall i checked thoroughly to make sure the toys were safe, but after pressing confirm on the transaction scene i felt so erked out and spooked. But i KNOW i want this, I KNOW i want to please myself and be happy, but the asexual part of me cant help but have a visceral fear of what is to come. I know no one is gonna see my package, my dad wouldn't peek cause of Christmas and all, but fuck guys, its hard out here
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I'm alloromantic and romance-indifferent. i wish i realized this about myself a long time ago
Now when it comes to attraction, we pretty much have no control over who we find attractive. Only our actions due to said attraction
But we do have some control over our stances and our perspectives over our attractions. Whether it's through our own agency or based on past experiences
I love being romance-indifferent because i can pretty much talk to anyone i find attractive and go
"If i end up in a romantic relationship with them, that's fine. If i don't. That's fine too. Doesn't matter as much as the overalll depth of our connection"
If i knew this long ago, i wouldn't have ended up being infactuated and hurt over past attempts
But at the same time, if i didn't go through that pain and introspection, then i wouldn't have deconstructed my entire understanding of what's "love" in the first place
i would've been happy with whatever relationship i had...
But never learned about queerplatonic, relationship anarchy, stances, amatonormativity, heteronormativity, etc..
Nowadays, i accept people as they are. And if i really wanted to satisfy myself, that's what fantasies and adult content is for
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Now when it comes to attraction, we pretty much have no control over who we find attractive. Only our actions due to said attraction
But we do have some control over our stances and our perspectives over our attractions. Whether it's through our own agency or based on past experiences
I love being romance-indifferent because i can pretty much talk to anyone i find attractive and go
"If i end up in a romantic relationship with them, that's fine. If i don't. That's fine too. Doesn't matter as much as the overalll depth of our connection"
If i knew this long ago, i wouldn't have ended up being infactuated and hurt over past attempts
But at the same time, if i didn't go through that pain and introspection, then i wouldn't have deconstructed my entire understanding of what's "love" in the first place
i would've been happy with whatever relationship i had...
But never learned about queerplatonic, relationship anarchy, stances, amatonormativity, heteronormativity, etc..
Nowadays, i accept people as they are. And if i really wanted to satisfy myself, that's what fantasies and adult content is for
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When is too soon to ask a woman if she is asexual?
Hello! I hope you folks are doing well. I mean no harm by this post so I apologize if it seems rude!! So out of the last 8 women I've caught serious feelings for (so excluding minor crushes or passing glances), 5/8 of them have been asexual. Out of the 4 women who've liked me on Hinge, 3 have been asexual/under the umbrella. I found out yesterday a woman I was about to go on a date with canceled at the last second because she is demiromantic and mistakenly agreed to date.
This would be wonderful if I was asexual! I know more ace folks than all of my ace friends do combined. However, while I know asexual individuals can have sex, the lack of/uncertainty/conditionality of sexual attraction is unfortunately a turn off for me. While I'm taking a break from dating right now, in the future when would be too soon to ask a woman if she is asexual? In addition, is there something I can do to avoid falling for asexual women? Thank you so much for helping me with this dilemma I'm facing! Also while not linked, my hinge profile is on my page if you want to look at it!!
Have a wonderful day :D
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Hello! I hope you folks are doing well. I mean no harm by this post so I apologize if it seems rude!! So out of the last 8 women I've caught serious feelings for (so excluding minor crushes or passing glances), 5/8 of them have been asexual. Out of the 4 women who've liked me on Hinge, 3 have been asexual/under the umbrella. I found out yesterday a woman I was about to go on a date with canceled at the last second because she is demiromantic and mistakenly agreed to date.
This would be wonderful if I was asexual! I know more ace folks than all of my ace friends do combined. However, while I know asexual individuals can have sex, the lack of/uncertainty/conditionality of sexual attraction is unfortunately a turn off for me. While I'm taking a break from dating right now, in the future when would be too soon to ask a woman if she is asexual? In addition, is there something I can do to avoid falling for asexual women? Thank you so much for helping me with this dilemma I'm facing! Also while not linked, my hinge profile is on my page if you want to look at it!!
Have a wonderful day :D
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I like thinking about having sex, but not
So basically I fantasise about having sex but it is never something I want to pursue, because I feel uncomfortable doing so. Lately, I don‘t even find people attractive. Like any one. The weird thing is that in the past, I did feel attraction towards men but nowadays I feel nothing. I thought maybe I like women, but I feel nothing towards women too. The fantasies I have are about an unknown person or a person I know and whom I don’t even like/feel attracted in reality. It’s like I enjoy the idea of having sex but I don’t like anyone to have sex with! I feel so weird because there is this desire that I can’t satisfy because it makes me sick my stomach the real possibility of doing this with any person
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So basically I fantasise about having sex but it is never something I want to pursue, because I feel uncomfortable doing so. Lately, I don‘t even find people attractive. Like any one. The weird thing is that in the past, I did feel attraction towards men but nowadays I feel nothing. I thought maybe I like women, but I feel nothing towards women too. The fantasies I have are about an unknown person or a person I know and whom I don’t even like/feel attracted in reality. It’s like I enjoy the idea of having sex but I don’t like anyone to have sex with! I feel so weird because there is this desire that I can’t satisfy because it makes me sick my stomach the real possibility of doing this with any person
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