Those of you who came out to your parents, how did they react?
I came out (asexual lesbian) to my mother earlier this week. While nothing catastrophic happened and she acknowledged it, she has also been very cold with me since, either giving me simple one-letter answers or ignoring my messages all together, even casual ones like "how are you," which is really uncharacteristic of her. It was kinda shocking to me and still makes me sad, since I feel we always had a pretty good relationship and she was never really one to be super hateful, and has in the past even given me the "I'll love you no matter what," yet now it feels that she's turned around and I just don't understand why. Part of me hopes that it's just like an initial shock of sorts and she will come around, since that has happened before, but I still worry a little bit and kinda it breaks my heart that something so irrelevant could strain our relationship.
So I would just like to hear other people's experiences. Were your parents negative? neutral? How fast did they come around? What did you do to help them come around etc. idk just anything, thank you
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I came out (asexual lesbian) to my mother earlier this week. While nothing catastrophic happened and she acknowledged it, she has also been very cold with me since, either giving me simple one-letter answers or ignoring my messages all together, even casual ones like "how are you," which is really uncharacteristic of her. It was kinda shocking to me and still makes me sad, since I feel we always had a pretty good relationship and she was never really one to be super hateful, and has in the past even given me the "I'll love you no matter what," yet now it feels that she's turned around and I just don't understand why. Part of me hopes that it's just like an initial shock of sorts and she will come around, since that has happened before, but I still worry a little bit and kinda it breaks my heart that something so irrelevant could strain our relationship.
So I would just like to hear other people's experiences. Were your parents negative? neutral? How fast did they come around? What did you do to help them come around etc. idk just anything, thank you
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Came across this on Twitter today and it really brightened my mood
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The way these emojis aligned in my frequently used tab is way too perfect for Aros. 🥖 > ♥️
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Am i Asexual?
Hey. i don’t think i fully fall under asexuality, because i think about having sex and i get turned on but i can’t stand having actual sex i’ve tried a lot of different things during intercourse and nothing does it for me i also don’t get off to self pleasure either nor porn. i dont know if my body is just broken. i don’t really know why i’m posting this on r/asexual i just have a feeling i’ll get a good piece of advice or i hope to get pointed in the right direction.
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Hey. i don’t think i fully fall under asexuality, because i think about having sex and i get turned on but i can’t stand having actual sex i’ve tried a lot of different things during intercourse and nothing does it for me i also don’t get off to self pleasure either nor porn. i dont know if my body is just broken. i don’t really know why i’m posting this on r/asexual i just have a feeling i’ll get a good piece of advice or i hope to get pointed in the right direction.
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Aphobic things people have said to me after they found out I was ace.
"I don't get why you need a big fancy word just to say you're a prude." -Guy from school.
"So you're saying you won't let me hit? Like ever?" -Guy from school.
"God, this new generation and the BLTXYZ crap." -Old lady who saw my ace pin while in a grocery line.
"You didn't need the label. Who'd wanna fuck you anyway?" -Girl from school.
"Human beings are sexual creatures by nature. You want to tell me that you're an exception to nature?" -Biology teacher.
"Come on, at least explore a little before making any decisions. I can help." -Guidance counselor. This was just creepy.
I've been out for a year, and these are some of the new ones. I didn't even directly tell some of these people I was ace. Some found out via rumor, and I have it in my insta bio, and they feel the need to comment, including the guidance counselor, who told me this in my dms. Don't worry, he was fired.
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"I don't get why you need a big fancy word just to say you're a prude." -Guy from school.
"So you're saying you won't let me hit? Like ever?" -Guy from school.
"God, this new generation and the BLTXYZ crap." -Old lady who saw my ace pin while in a grocery line.
"You didn't need the label. Who'd wanna fuck you anyway?" -Girl from school.
"Human beings are sexual creatures by nature. You want to tell me that you're an exception to nature?" -Biology teacher.
"Come on, at least explore a little before making any decisions. I can help." -Guidance counselor. This was just creepy.
I've been out for a year, and these are some of the new ones. I didn't even directly tell some of these people I was ace. Some found out via rumor, and I have it in my insta bio, and they feel the need to comment, including the guidance counselor, who told me this in my dms. Don't worry, he was fired.
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A real conversation I’ve had with my very mormon mother
Her: And remember, absolutely no sex before marriage.
Me: Yeah, that wont really be a problem, I have no desire to have sex at all actually.
Her: Oh, that’s not good. We might need to talk to someone about that
Me: But you just said no sex before marriage!
Her: Yes but you shouldn’t not want to have sex!
This went on for the next 40 minutes, is she ok?
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Her: And remember, absolutely no sex before marriage.
Me: Yeah, that wont really be a problem, I have no desire to have sex at all actually.
Her: Oh, that’s not good. We might need to talk to someone about that
Me: But you just said no sex before marriage!
Her: Yes but you shouldn’t not want to have sex!
This went on for the next 40 minutes, is she ok?
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Term for a person without sexuality? black stripe+nonlibidoist+does not enjoy sexual activity
Hello any other people like this here? It's great that the asexual community is so diverse but it's still alienating not finding people like me in the minority of a minority.
The other times people have said to relate to this (complete lack of attraction+libido+enjoyment of sexual activity) they turned out to partially relate to this, which was disappointing as they are different experiences.
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Hello any other people like this here? It's great that the asexual community is so diverse but it's still alienating not finding people like me in the minority of a minority.
The other times people have said to relate to this (complete lack of attraction+libido+enjoyment of sexual activity) they turned out to partially relate to this, which was disappointing as they are different experiences.
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for His Roomate!
while he was drunk with his office mates…. Me sitting alone on his flat just thinking of him and being possessive for his 4th after party while thinking his roomate is too alone and did not go as his gf did not allow and thinking that he must be so kind and loyal… was in the comparison state and randomly someone knocks at my door and asking did you had food??
Uhmmm me in shocked mood I replied, had before coming here,
He stated’ well! Lets cook and have together….
I replied’ great! you start!
Now i am waiting inside the room and thinking whether to join him or not but mind is exactly stating why now!
In a deep thinking process and I stood up, i went to kitchen and he was there cooking some egg sandwich so Well I said ‘ Let me toast the bread and scramble the eggs’
He replied hmmmmm i will too help you after chopping veggies’
There was a silence for a while and toasting of bread was completed
Now comes the preparation, he asked me and there was some giggles and gossips along with the preparation
Now comes the sautéing and yes i burnt myself while lighting the gas… Huhhh go slow he replied
While me screaming Ohhhhhh shit!
Then he told me to just stand while he does…
Uff not kidding he was looking daymmm while cooking,
Suddenly we were now having eye contacts and that drunken eyes were saying a lots of hints!
Huhhhh why not he replied
What if I said
Chuck it he replied
And came closer while grabbing my waist and rubbing hand on my side line and waist in a seductive manner
While me looking into his eyes and questioning is it right?
And waiting for the reply of who cares! Let them enjoy while we make love!
Slowly while looking into his eyes we started rubbing our lips with each other and started kissing deep… removing all frustration and deep tongue engagement…. While he is pampering my Body while touching his smooth hands rubbing all over back and damnnn you know further….
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while he was drunk with his office mates…. Me sitting alone on his flat just thinking of him and being possessive for his 4th after party while thinking his roomate is too alone and did not go as his gf did not allow and thinking that he must be so kind and loyal… was in the comparison state and randomly someone knocks at my door and asking did you had food??
Uhmmm me in shocked mood I replied, had before coming here,
He stated’ well! Lets cook and have together….
I replied’ great! you start!
Now i am waiting inside the room and thinking whether to join him or not but mind is exactly stating why now!
In a deep thinking process and I stood up, i went to kitchen and he was there cooking some egg sandwich so Well I said ‘ Let me toast the bread and scramble the eggs’
He replied hmmmmm i will too help you after chopping veggies’
There was a silence for a while and toasting of bread was completed
Now comes the preparation, he asked me and there was some giggles and gossips along with the preparation
Now comes the sautéing and yes i burnt myself while lighting the gas… Huhhh go slow he replied
While me screaming Ohhhhhh shit!
Then he told me to just stand while he does…
Uff not kidding he was looking daymmm while cooking,
Suddenly we were now having eye contacts and that drunken eyes were saying a lots of hints!
Huhhhh why not he replied
What if I said
Chuck it he replied
And came closer while grabbing my waist and rubbing hand on my side line and waist in a seductive manner
While me looking into his eyes and questioning is it right?
And waiting for the reply of who cares! Let them enjoy while we make love!
Slowly while looking into his eyes we started rubbing our lips with each other and started kissing deep… removing all frustration and deep tongue engagement…. While he is pampering my Body while touching his smooth hands rubbing all over back and damnnn you know further….
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