I feel like I continously get "more" ace.

So I've been comfortable labeling as Ace for a very long time. I think like almost 6ish years now. I've had the same partner for almost 3 years. They are also on the ace spectrum which is nice though they dont always understand how much more I am affected by my own acesexuality.

In the beginning we didnt want anything remotely sexual from eachother. Then after a year and a half I was open to it and found after roughly half a year of that, I am very very not into sex. Want nothing to do with it, dont want anyone even looking or thinking of me in a sexual manner because it makes me feel yucky and like a scared animal.

I feel like I keep moving more and more up on the ace spectrum. Now even anything beyond hand holding makes me feel flighty or anxious. Small kisses on my head are find but I dont want contact anywhere but the top of my head. It just makes me uncomfortable.

Has anyone gone through a similar path? Sometimes I wonder if I also lean on the Aromantic spectrum because I have such a difficult time finding the line between friendships and relationships and how they differ for me. I enjoy holding my friends hands or being close to them just like my partner. I dont care who I live with forever as long as we care about eachother and take care of eachother. I love my partner but not the same way I love my closest friends. But also I dont know how they differ because it feels like society's only line between the two is who you kiss and who you dont.

Sorry for any spelling mistakes, its very late when I'm writing this.

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This sub in a nutshell
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Feeling pleasure but gets bored and tired of it easily, does anyone also feel this way?

So I’m pretty sure I’m on the aroace spectrum. There times I get in the mood tho. I don’t really have much to think about sex since I think sex is just sex. However whenever I try to jerk off and have sex I’ll feel it and probably ten seconds in I get that bored and tired feeling that it’s is such a chore. It’s not like I don’t feel pleasure from it. I do feel it and would even get horny especially when hormones spike but even so I get that tired and uninterested feeling while I do it or after. I think it just makes my sex life difficult because I don’t really enjoy it as much but still get horny? My words are kinda scattering a bit cuz I’m not sure how to really put how I feel into words but I wonder if there’s anyone who also feels somewhat similar or know what this feeling is when it comes to sex

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People won't let this go, will they?
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This really annoys me.

I see reports of sex-related crimes - horrifying hetero acts having been committed. I see a society so focused on sex, the idea of "bedroom performance" (from stiffy drug ads), the purity culture folks crashing Grindr, wedding attire that looks like a strip club and a bottle of Clorox had a baby, and the utter bigotry of people who think their sexual behavior is the only valid choice.

But aces are the abnormal ones? Puh-leez.

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How people can actually enjoy genitals?

I used to think that it doesn’t happen irl honestly, only in fanfics and porn videos that were made just for people masturbating 😅 how u can actually enjoy touching and even licking reproductive organs of other person? For me it’s really dirty organs, u go to toilet with that and so on, that’s really gross. And I don’t even speak about ass (sorry haha) that’s really awful

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