My best friend told me I have "An advantage to talking to girls because I'm ace" and it's making me angry and confused
A few months back I came out to my best friend, who is as straight as a flag pole, that I'm ace. He did ask a bunch of questions because I've shown to like girls, have libido and have kinks. I explained to him that I'm only romantically interested in girls and that libido is just the biological process that everybody has. My kinks: I'm a gray ace so some things bring forth that.
Anyway, he is generally supportive but I believe he does not fully grasp what Ace means because a few months ago he told me "Bro, you have such an advantage in talking to girls, because if you make it clear that you are ace they won't automatically assume you're trying to fuck them and be on drop guard"
And this statement is like. I don't know it makes some sense from a purely logical perspective but it makes me angry for some reason. It's like he's saying "As an Ace you can be straight better" and sure I'm romantically straight, but most of my conversations with women are very asexual in nature. And if I do I'm usually quite anxious to share that I'm ace because of my social anxiety, but at the same time I'm worried people are going to think I'm just another straight guy wanting just to have sex, which I am not.
Or worse: I end up thinking "I hope they don't get feelings for me "Romantic or Sexual" because then I would have to deal with that.
Before anyone asks: I am in therapy about my anxiety and even on meds about it.
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A few months back I came out to my best friend, who is as straight as a flag pole, that I'm ace. He did ask a bunch of questions because I've shown to like girls, have libido and have kinks. I explained to him that I'm only romantically interested in girls and that libido is just the biological process that everybody has. My kinks: I'm a gray ace so some things bring forth that.
Anyway, he is generally supportive but I believe he does not fully grasp what Ace means because a few months ago he told me "Bro, you have such an advantage in talking to girls, because if you make it clear that you are ace they won't automatically assume you're trying to fuck them and be on drop guard"
And this statement is like. I don't know it makes some sense from a purely logical perspective but it makes me angry for some reason. It's like he's saying "As an Ace you can be straight better" and sure I'm romantically straight, but most of my conversations with women are very asexual in nature. And if I do I'm usually quite anxious to share that I'm ace because of my social anxiety, but at the same time I'm worried people are going to think I'm just another straight guy wanting just to have sex, which I am not.
Or worse: I end up thinking "I hope they don't get feelings for me "Romantic or Sexual" because then I would have to deal with that.
Before anyone asks: I am in therapy about my anxiety and even on meds about it.
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PLEASE can we not start another round of the touch chart?
Having lived through the first round, I still don't need to know that much about your preferences for your junk touch.
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Having lived through the first round, I still don't need to know that much about your preferences for your junk touch.
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