Alcohol free asexuals
I’ve noticed an interesting pattern since joining asexual communities (just Reddit and AceSpace to be fair) - a very large percentage of ace individuals I have met, compared to the general population, tend to be alcohol free. Has anyone else noticed this? It may be a coincidence but I don’t think I’ve actually met a single asexual person who drinks alcohol yet! 😂 the only theory I can think of is that alcohol related cultures tend to be tied closely with hookup culture, and for those of us who don’t care about hookups maybe we are less inclined to drink? would love to hear y’all’s opinions.
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I’ve noticed an interesting pattern since joining asexual communities (just Reddit and AceSpace to be fair) - a very large percentage of ace individuals I have met, compared to the general population, tend to be alcohol free. Has anyone else noticed this? It may be a coincidence but I don’t think I’ve actually met a single asexual person who drinks alcohol yet! 😂 the only theory I can think of is that alcohol related cultures tend to be tied closely with hookup culture, and for those of us who don’t care about hookups maybe we are less inclined to drink? would love to hear y’all’s opinions.
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Publicity is making me feel like I am sick
Where I live, there are adds about a med that is suppose to help with libido.
Already, I wish more and more that there was something to help me get rid of my Asexuality, as I feel like I am sick and life seems so much easier for allosexuals.
And now I see those adds and it makes me wish even more that there was med to help me be sexually interested in anyone.
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Where I live, there are adds about a med that is suppose to help with libido.
Already, I wish more and more that there was something to help me get rid of my Asexuality, as I feel like I am sick and life seems so much easier for allosexuals.
And now I see those adds and it makes me wish even more that there was med to help me be sexually interested in anyone.
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Question
So I identify as asexual because I don't feel sexual attraction to people (mostly because of childhood trauma) but I do for fictional characters that I find attractive like Astarion from BG3 (its a game based off DnD) my ongoing theory is because fictional characters haven't hurt me like real people but honestly im just confused, i know im only 20 but it's hard to explain to people who just say "oh you'll change when you get older " but honestly I personally feel like I could be single the rest of my life and my own mother said thats sad because and I quote "I don't love myself enough"......sorry for the weird rant but this has just been on my mind lately and I just want to talk to other people who might understand as well
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So I identify as asexual because I don't feel sexual attraction to people (mostly because of childhood trauma) but I do for fictional characters that I find attractive like Astarion from BG3 (its a game based off DnD) my ongoing theory is because fictional characters haven't hurt me like real people but honestly im just confused, i know im only 20 but it's hard to explain to people who just say "oh you'll change when you get older " but honestly I personally feel like I could be single the rest of my life and my own mother said thats sad because and I quote "I don't love myself enough"......sorry for the weird rant but this has just been on my mind lately and I just want to talk to other people who might understand as well
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Am I Asexual?
If you are questioning whether or not you are asexual (including all microlabels), reply to this post with what made you start questioning, and why.
If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.
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If you are questioning whether or not you are asexual (including all microlabels), reply to this post with what made you start questioning, and why.
If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.
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Are asexual lives better?
I've always daydreamed about being asexual, I assume my life would be simpler and more time and energy focused on myself. I wouldnt have wasted my entire teenage years chasing girls with terrible personalities. I wouldnt have spent my entire 20s healing from heart breaks. I feel like I wasted so much time because the urge to reproduce is increadibly strong and I wish to escape it for a simpler existance.
is this actually the case, or am I doing the whole grass always greener thing?
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I've always daydreamed about being asexual, I assume my life would be simpler and more time and energy focused on myself. I wouldnt have wasted my entire teenage years chasing girls with terrible personalities. I wouldnt have spent my entire 20s healing from heart breaks. I feel like I wasted so much time because the urge to reproduce is increadibly strong and I wish to escape it for a simpler existance.
is this actually the case, or am I doing the whole grass always greener thing?
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how to be okay with your so desiring you?
I'm running on a big hypothetical. This is my first real relationship at 18 and it's still pretty new. We were friends for a while before this though. I'm simultaneously wishing he'd express more want for me and also thinking that if that happened I would be uncomfortable. So, obviously I cannot know how i'll react until I do, but is there another way I can think of someone desiring you? Because that, to me, means lust and objectifying and dehumanizing and just gross and unsafe behavior. I have previously opened up more to the idea of sex by thinking of it as an exchange of love, where you're with someone you trust with your sensitives and your heart. So, is there any kind of romanticism I can replace that traumatized line of thinking with? Because I think I would like that but I don't want to ask for anything before I understand this.
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I'm running on a big hypothetical. This is my first real relationship at 18 and it's still pretty new. We were friends for a while before this though. I'm simultaneously wishing he'd express more want for me and also thinking that if that happened I would be uncomfortable. So, obviously I cannot know how i'll react until I do, but is there another way I can think of someone desiring you? Because that, to me, means lust and objectifying and dehumanizing and just gross and unsafe behavior. I have previously opened up more to the idea of sex by thinking of it as an exchange of love, where you're with someone you trust with your sensitives and your heart. So, is there any kind of romanticism I can replace that traumatized line of thinking with? Because I think I would like that but I don't want to ask for anything before I understand this.
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Saw all the horny people in the comments getting goth girls and wondered what y'all thought
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Not a victim
I don't know if anyone needs to hear this but I need to say it: I don't feel unlucky that I'm Asexual. I don't feel lucky either, I just feel normal. I feel like me.
I used to feel miserable only when I compared myself to how other people. I used to resent my sexually active friend for just casually hooking up and having fun and I felt self-conscious because I realized I could never do that. I felt boring. I felt like a bad feminist for not wanting sex or enjoying sexual attention like the "strong empowered sexy" girl boss archetype social media pushed onto me saying "this, and only this is what strength looks like".
But it slowly dawned on me that I don't feel miserable or sad when I think about my life and how I want to live it. When I think about my future I feel untethered, free. When I think about the connections I've made so far, the rich friendships I've formed with men and women alike I feel blessed. The lack of sex makes no difference when you prioritize honesty and genuine emotional connection. I realized that when I focus on just myself and self-improvement, I don't feel like I'm a victim of my asexuality. I dont feel like I'm missing out. I just feel comfortable in my own skin.
My advice? Think about yourself in isolation, as an individual. Think about who you are and who/what you value. Work on that and don't let society's standards bog you down. Yes, it is a choice. Yes, you can form long-term, meaningful connections with people without sex. Go back to the community, volunteer. Get off social media, hang out with friends in real life. Do fun nerd stuff with like-minded people. See people as they truly are and they'll see you too.
I know this is corny, but that's what I am. Corny, not horny. Hehe 🌽🖤🩶🤍💜🌽
https://redd.it/1on8hya
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I don't know if anyone needs to hear this but I need to say it: I don't feel unlucky that I'm Asexual. I don't feel lucky either, I just feel normal. I feel like me.
I used to feel miserable only when I compared myself to how other people. I used to resent my sexually active friend for just casually hooking up and having fun and I felt self-conscious because I realized I could never do that. I felt boring. I felt like a bad feminist for not wanting sex or enjoying sexual attention like the "strong empowered sexy" girl boss archetype social media pushed onto me saying "this, and only this is what strength looks like".
But it slowly dawned on me that I don't feel miserable or sad when I think about my life and how I want to live it. When I think about my future I feel untethered, free. When I think about the connections I've made so far, the rich friendships I've formed with men and women alike I feel blessed. The lack of sex makes no difference when you prioritize honesty and genuine emotional connection. I realized that when I focus on just myself and self-improvement, I don't feel like I'm a victim of my asexuality. I dont feel like I'm missing out. I just feel comfortable in my own skin.
My advice? Think about yourself in isolation, as an individual. Think about who you are and who/what you value. Work on that and don't let society's standards bog you down. Yes, it is a choice. Yes, you can form long-term, meaningful connections with people without sex. Go back to the community, volunteer. Get off social media, hang out with friends in real life. Do fun nerd stuff with like-minded people. See people as they truly are and they'll see you too.
I know this is corny, but that's what I am. Corny, not horny. Hehe 🌽🖤🩶🤍💜🌽
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