Is this really stupid?
So I have a YouTube channel and I have had one for a little while now. It has less than 100 subs and maybe about 20k views on the entire channel the point is it's small, however, I like my little community over there. I recently had to delete all of my videos because someone in my real life was spamming my comment section in an attempt to get me to speak to them I am assuming or maybe to intimidate me, I am not really sure what their goal was.
It was kind of a blessing in disguise though as I decided to really commit to making my channel all about asexuality I am doing this because when I was really going through a particular traumatic incident I wish I had videos on asexuality to help me through and I just did not see any and it made me feel even crazier tbh, especially not of anyone who was a person of color and autistic.
So I came back and I really wanted to make a video on said traumatic incident as I really think my story could help others, maybe they can recognize the signs and the patterns of manipulation in their own lives and they can spare themselves all the trash that I had to go through. But now I am having second thoughts. I sat down to film the video and could not stop crying. Mind you, this event took place years ago now. I finally managed to get a decent take though I will still have to edit because I did cry quite a bit or should I leave it in? My friend says that I should just leave it in to be transparent but I don't know, I have never been a crying on the internet kind of person. Is this whole thing stupid? Should I just call it quits? Sometimes I feel as if this video is a form of cope for me if I am being honest, like I didn't go through all of this for nothing if that makes sense. At least maybe I can help a few people or make them feel less alone if they too have been in a manipulative "relationship".
I just don't know what to do.
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So I have a YouTube channel and I have had one for a little while now. It has less than 100 subs and maybe about 20k views on the entire channel the point is it's small, however, I like my little community over there. I recently had to delete all of my videos because someone in my real life was spamming my comment section in an attempt to get me to speak to them I am assuming or maybe to intimidate me, I am not really sure what their goal was.
It was kind of a blessing in disguise though as I decided to really commit to making my channel all about asexuality I am doing this because when I was really going through a particular traumatic incident I wish I had videos on asexuality to help me through and I just did not see any and it made me feel even crazier tbh, especially not of anyone who was a person of color and autistic.
So I came back and I really wanted to make a video on said traumatic incident as I really think my story could help others, maybe they can recognize the signs and the patterns of manipulation in their own lives and they can spare themselves all the trash that I had to go through. But now I am having second thoughts. I sat down to film the video and could not stop crying. Mind you, this event took place years ago now. I finally managed to get a decent take though I will still have to edit because I did cry quite a bit or should I leave it in? My friend says that I should just leave it in to be transparent but I don't know, I have never been a crying on the internet kind of person. Is this whole thing stupid? Should I just call it quits? Sometimes I feel as if this video is a form of cope for me if I am being honest, like I didn't go through all of this for nothing if that makes sense. At least maybe I can help a few people or make them feel less alone if they too have been in a manipulative "relationship".
I just don't know what to do.
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Is this really stupid?
So I have a YouTube channel and I have had one for a little while now. It has less than 100 subs and maybe about 20k views on the entire channel the point is it's small, however, I like my little community over there. I recently had to delete all of my videos because someone in my real life was spamming my comment section in an attempt to get me to speak to them I am assuming or maybe to intimidate me, I am not really sure what their goal was.
It was kind of a blessing in disguise though as I decided to really commit to making my channel all about asexuality I am doing this because when I was really going through a particular traumatic incident I wish I had videos on asexuality to help me through and I just did not see any and it made me feel even crazier tbh, especially not of anyone who was a person of color and autistic.
So I came back and I really wanted to make a video on said traumatic incident as I really think my story could help others, maybe they can recognize the signs and the patterns of manipulation in their own lives and they can spare themselves all the trash that I had to go through. But now I am having second thoughts. I sat down to film the video and could not stop crying. Mind you, this event took place years ago now. I finally managed to get a decent take though I will still have to edit because I did cry quite a bit or should I leave it in? My friend says that I should just leave it in to be transparent but I don't know, I have never been a crying on the internet kind of person. Is this whole thing stupid? Should I just call it quits? Sometimes I feel as if this video is a form of cope for me if I am being honest, like I didn't go through all of this for nothing if that makes sense. At least maybe I can help a few people or make them feel less alone if they too have been in a manipulative "relationship".
I just don't know what to do.
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So I have a YouTube channel and I have had one for a little while now. It has less than 100 subs and maybe about 20k views on the entire channel the point is it's small, however, I like my little community over there. I recently had to delete all of my videos because someone in my real life was spamming my comment section in an attempt to get me to speak to them I am assuming or maybe to intimidate me, I am not really sure what their goal was.
It was kind of a blessing in disguise though as I decided to really commit to making my channel all about asexuality I am doing this because when I was really going through a particular traumatic incident I wish I had videos on asexuality to help me through and I just did not see any and it made me feel even crazier tbh, especially not of anyone who was a person of color and autistic.
So I came back and I really wanted to make a video on said traumatic incident as I really think my story could help others, maybe they can recognize the signs and the patterns of manipulation in their own lives and they can spare themselves all the trash that I had to go through. But now I am having second thoughts. I sat down to film the video and could not stop crying. Mind you, this event took place years ago now. I finally managed to get a decent take though I will still have to edit because I did cry quite a bit or should I leave it in? My friend says that I should just leave it in to be transparent but I don't know, I have never been a crying on the internet kind of person. Is this whole thing stupid? Should I just call it quits? Sometimes I feel as if this video is a form of cope for me if I am being honest, like I didn't go through all of this for nothing if that makes sense. At least maybe I can help a few people or make them feel less alone if they too have been in a manipulative "relationship".
I just don't know what to do.
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Asexual or just a nervous virgin?
Hi, I’m 20M and I’m a virgin. Whenever I think about having sex it makes me uncomfortable like the idea of being in that situation myself scares me and makes my stomach churn but I watch porn and masturbate to it with no such worries. Am I just nervous about sex because I’m a virgin? Or could I be asexual?
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Hi, I’m 20M and I’m a virgin. Whenever I think about having sex it makes me uncomfortable like the idea of being in that situation myself scares me and makes my stomach churn but I watch porn and masturbate to it with no such worries. Am I just nervous about sex because I’m a virgin? Or could I be asexual?
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Asexual or haven’t met the “right guy”!
Over so many years of talking to people around me, I am low key (high key) tired of hearing from men that you aren’t asexual, you just haven’t engaged in sex with me or I will cure your asexuality (as if it’s a disease)!
Frankly now its useful too! It helps me filter out insensitive or non-learners people.
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Over so many years of talking to people around me, I am low key (high key) tired of hearing from men that you aren’t asexual, you just haven’t engaged in sex with me or I will cure your asexuality (as if it’s a disease)!
Frankly now its useful too! It helps me filter out insensitive or non-learners people.
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What do people like about kissing?
Had my first kiss yesterday at the age of 24 and I need to talk to someone about it.
TLDR: It was an extremely neutral experience, I’m wondering what other people (ace, aro, or allo) feel when they kiss someone
So I’m extremely scared of any physical intimacy and been pretty sure I was ace the last 10 years or so. I went out to a club for Halloween and started dancing with a girl and she wanted to kiss me, so I said sure. TBH I did kinda approach the evening hoping for this, since I’ve always had that thought of “how do you know if you’ve never tried” and just wanted to see how it was. And it was… just okay? I feel like there was so much lead up and it was kinda strange. Not bad but not really enjoyable, I was more curious during it than anything.
Basically nothing came natural to me, like how I’m supposed to move or what I’m expected to do next (like, do we just makeout the same way for 20 minutes or am I supposed to do something else?), at some point my friend even literally reached over to put my hand on her waist 😬
Basically I’m wondering what do people feel when they kiss someone? Does it depend on the person? As far as I can tell the kiss wasn’t bad but I also wasn’t super super into her (which sounds bad to say but, to be fair, I’m ace and I’m never super into anyone). I’m curious to hear from any ace people who enjoy sex and kissing, or those who don’t, or even allo people who can tell me how it is for them.
Thank you! 😘
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Had my first kiss yesterday at the age of 24 and I need to talk to someone about it.
TLDR: It was an extremely neutral experience, I’m wondering what other people (ace, aro, or allo) feel when they kiss someone
So I’m extremely scared of any physical intimacy and been pretty sure I was ace the last 10 years or so. I went out to a club for Halloween and started dancing with a girl and she wanted to kiss me, so I said sure. TBH I did kinda approach the evening hoping for this, since I’ve always had that thought of “how do you know if you’ve never tried” and just wanted to see how it was. And it was… just okay? I feel like there was so much lead up and it was kinda strange. Not bad but not really enjoyable, I was more curious during it than anything.
Basically nothing came natural to me, like how I’m supposed to move or what I’m expected to do next (like, do we just makeout the same way for 20 minutes or am I supposed to do something else?), at some point my friend even literally reached over to put my hand on her waist 😬
Basically I’m wondering what do people feel when they kiss someone? Does it depend on the person? As far as I can tell the kiss wasn’t bad but I also wasn’t super super into her (which sounds bad to say but, to be fair, I’m ace and I’m never super into anyone). I’m curious to hear from any ace people who enjoy sex and kissing, or those who don’t, or even allo people who can tell me how it is for them.
Thank you! 😘
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The more I know about Freud the more I feel like being asexual just disproves all of his f'd up research and I like that lol
Like "sexual impulses are the source of all human energy" huh you know that's interesting where does my energy come from, interesting huh
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Like "sexual impulses are the source of all human energy" huh you know that's interesting where does my energy come from, interesting huh
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Not sure how to describe it — the most intense form of “romantic” desire for someone who’s asexual.
I’ve considered myself asexual since I was 16.
I’ve liked both men and women before, but I’ve never felt any sexual attraction at all, nor had entered a stable relationship.
What I truly crave is mental resonance — talking for hours, sharing thoughts, or simply existing in the same space with someone I deeply connect with. Sometimes I find myself drawn to small, vivid details — cherry-like lips, or warm eyes glimmering behind the chill of glasses — but it’s more of an aesthetic pull than anything physical.
Even kissing feels like the farthest my fantasies can go; anything beyond that instantly turns me off.
There was one person I once loved most deeply. At the height of that feeling, all I wanted(and did)was to hold her tightly in my arms. Sometimes, I’d feel a fleeting urge to kiss her, soft and transient, gone before it ever became real desire. That’s when I realized: my affection runs deep, but it never becomes sexual. It’s warmth, admiration, and quiet awe — but never lust.
I’m wondering how others here experience this.
What’s the most intense form of romantic or emotional desire you’ve ever felt?
I’d really love to hear how you define or experience “romantic” connection without sexual attraction.
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I’ve considered myself asexual since I was 16.
I’ve liked both men and women before, but I’ve never felt any sexual attraction at all, nor had entered a stable relationship.
What I truly crave is mental resonance — talking for hours, sharing thoughts, or simply existing in the same space with someone I deeply connect with. Sometimes I find myself drawn to small, vivid details — cherry-like lips, or warm eyes glimmering behind the chill of glasses — but it’s more of an aesthetic pull than anything physical.
Even kissing feels like the farthest my fantasies can go; anything beyond that instantly turns me off.
There was one person I once loved most deeply. At the height of that feeling, all I wanted(and did)was to hold her tightly in my arms. Sometimes, I’d feel a fleeting urge to kiss her, soft and transient, gone before it ever became real desire. That’s when I realized: my affection runs deep, but it never becomes sexual. It’s warmth, admiration, and quiet awe — but never lust.
I’m wondering how others here experience this.
What’s the most intense form of romantic or emotional desire you’ve ever felt?
I’d really love to hear how you define or experience “romantic” connection without sexual attraction.
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And it is always because i mentioned that i am sex-repulsed ( OCD related pretty long story i am sorry )
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Idk what to title this but I thought this was funny and seemed kinda ace
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And it is always because i mentioned that i am sex-repulsed ( OCD related pretty long story i am sorry )
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Sprinkling in some ace joy: favourite part(s) of being asexual?
Hi everyone! I don't know about you guys, but I'm craving some ace joy. Between questioning or TW posts, I've noticed this sub can get a bit... focused on the darker sides of asexuality, which personally have been really enlightening and even sometimes heart-warming, but I'm looking forward to hearing some of you guys' favourite parts of being asexual! <3
It's such a beautiful thing imo, like the fact that we have a subreddit to gather together and discuss this complex thing. I've spent so many years in the dark about it, and feeling alone, but I'm so grateful for connections like the ones we have here.
Some of my favourite parts of being ace include how easy and natural it feels to embrace who I am. I'm a very practical person who likes to get things done right away, so I love that I don't have any desire for sex because it's definitely not happening right now (or ever, lol), if that makes sense! I also love how it feels like no matter how much has changed over the years, or how much I've changed, asexuality is at the core of who I am throughout my life and it feels like an anchoring fact about myself. I also think our community has hella good humour, and I love how much I can relate to everyone in big or small ways, it's truly meaningful.
Okay, rant over! Your turn pls!
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Hi everyone! I don't know about you guys, but I'm craving some ace joy. Between questioning or TW posts, I've noticed this sub can get a bit... focused on the darker sides of asexuality, which personally have been really enlightening and even sometimes heart-warming, but I'm looking forward to hearing some of you guys' favourite parts of being asexual! <3
It's such a beautiful thing imo, like the fact that we have a subreddit to gather together and discuss this complex thing. I've spent so many years in the dark about it, and feeling alone, but I'm so grateful for connections like the ones we have here.
Some of my favourite parts of being ace include how easy and natural it feels to embrace who I am. I'm a very practical person who likes to get things done right away, so I love that I don't have any desire for sex because it's definitely not happening right now (or ever, lol), if that makes sense! I also love how it feels like no matter how much has changed over the years, or how much I've changed, asexuality is at the core of who I am throughout my life and it feels like an anchoring fact about myself. I also think our community has hella good humour, and I love how much I can relate to everyone in big or small ways, it's truly meaningful.
Okay, rant over! Your turn pls!
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And it is always because i mentioned that i am sex-repulsed ( OCD related pretty long story i am sorry )
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I swear I'm always being reminded of why I'm sex repulsed and negative
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Alcohol free asexuals
I’ve noticed an interesting pattern since joining asexual communities (just Reddit and AceSpace to be fair) - a very large percentage of ace individuals I have met, compared to the general population, tend to be alcohol free. Has anyone else noticed this? It may be a coincidence but I don’t think I’ve actually met a single asexual person who drinks alcohol yet! 😂 the only theory I can think of is that alcohol related cultures tend to be tied closely with hookup culture, and for those of us who don’t care about hookups maybe we are less inclined to drink? would love to hear y’all’s opinions.
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I’ve noticed an interesting pattern since joining asexual communities (just Reddit and AceSpace to be fair) - a very large percentage of ace individuals I have met, compared to the general population, tend to be alcohol free. Has anyone else noticed this? It may be a coincidence but I don’t think I’ve actually met a single asexual person who drinks alcohol yet! 😂 the only theory I can think of is that alcohol related cultures tend to be tied closely with hookup culture, and for those of us who don’t care about hookups maybe we are less inclined to drink? would love to hear y’all’s opinions.
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Publicity is making me feel like I am sick
Where I live, there are adds about a med that is suppose to help with libido.
Already, I wish more and more that there was something to help me get rid of my Asexuality, as I feel like I am sick and life seems so much easier for allosexuals.
And now I see those adds and it makes me wish even more that there was med to help me be sexually interested in anyone.
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Where I live, there are adds about a med that is suppose to help with libido.
Already, I wish more and more that there was something to help me get rid of my Asexuality, as I feel like I am sick and life seems so much easier for allosexuals.
And now I see those adds and it makes me wish even more that there was med to help me be sexually interested in anyone.
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