Found out I'm demisexual today

It's my word of the day. Looked it up after seeing it thinking it had to be a little more than something like "half sexual" and found out it fits me pretty well. Apparently it's on the ace spectrum too? So here we are.

Always kinda suspected based on how I identified with some of the posts out of here, but figured you are or you aren't, period.

I now have a more compact way to express why I'm not into one night stands and hookups and a few other things.

So... where do you all get your prescription garlic bread?


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Parents can’t wrap their head around me wanting to travel to see my friend just because I’m not dating them

I just graduated from uni and have been feeling pretty lonely considering my friends all live away from me in different directions. I proposed the idea of me going to visit a good friend of mine a few hours away since they’ll also be coming up to my town next month. I thought my parents would be on board since they would let my younger sister drive the same distance to stay with her boyfriend and his family so I thought they’d say yes.

I was wrong. My parents thought it was “ridiculous” that I wanted to drive to see my friend’s hometown and that “you only do that if you’re dating someone.” I hate the idea that friends are somehow less important than romantic partners and that it’s somehow not worth coming to see someone just because you aren’t dating them.

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props on Kojima 🥳
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Why are we always “freakier” than a lot of allos when it comes to fictional characters?😭😭😭

My friends have called me out for being a “total freak” when it comes to some of my favourite characters. I’m not even gonna lie about the fact that I totally am, but it’s so funny reminding them that I’m aroace. They always pull the 😨 face every single time I bring it up, because they put my favourite character in my face right after that and I start acting like a dog. Does anyone else act like this, or am I just weird?😭

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TFW you have already gone back and forth between multiple microlabels and have finally confidently landed on one (for now)
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Ace reference for arcane hello?!
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Made a bracelet

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What is my sexuality called?

Hello,

I am 37 years old and don"t know what my sexuality is called. Since I accepted what I talk about below. I have shown little interest in my own sexuality. I think that says something about my interest in being intimate with anyone.

I've been in love once in 37 years. Even then I dreamed about us 2 loving each other very much and simply put living together. Just not having sex. Is it possible to find such a woman you guys think? I also have high functioning autism which makes it hard for me in advanced social interactions, like when trying to find a woman what wants to live wirh me. (duh) Invincible handicap. (please dont hate on autists like so many on reddit does, we are struggling and need love not hate)

If this is wrong sub for my question, please recommend other subreddits where it s better placed in that case.

My sexuality very short:

Since puberty I regulary get attracted sexually to women. Often times I can masturbate while thinking about these women. That includes being intimate.

I want to have sex with no one, not even females I masturbate about or are in love wirh.

So basically I get turned on by women but I strongly don't want to be intimidate with them.

Short background history:

I tried in my 20s to lose my virginity and were in a relationship with a woman i found attractive for months without having sex. I told her I wanted to take it slow. She accepted.

Eventually after months we were gonna have sex. I hated it very much and the only way we were gonna have sex.. I needed an erection.. Thankfully I were not close to getting erection. I left quickly and she broke up with me the next day. I know i were big asshole just leaving. I panicked. I apologised when she broke up with me.

I were not in love with that woman i was seeing for months. I just wanted then to lose my virginity, to not be a "freak. I was sexually attracted to her. Could masturbate to us having sex.

Yes I feel bad now that woman wasted months on me in her 20s.

Basically I want to know what my type of sexuality is called.

Guide me right pleaae if this is wrong sub.

Thanks.

Edit: Fixed bad language

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Dating as a asexual

So I just downloaded this app I’ve downloaded a few dating apps so I just download this lesbian app I identify as biromantic asexual so hopefully this goes well I’ve tried the dating apps with guys now I’m trying with girls I don’t know how this is going to go but I’m giving it a try

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My psychiatrist told me this...🤣

I recently went to see a psychiatrist about my mental health. He started asking me various questions, including whether I was married, whether I was sexually active and others. I am married to a wonderful man who loves me for who I am. And I love him too. We only make love when I have a little desire or when I can relate to it normally.The doctor listened to me, paused for a moment, and then asked me, "So why did you get married?" Lol, I almost laughed out loud. I didn't think people got married just to f*ck🤣. Yeah, I think I need to change my doctor.

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....ok.
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Found this too late for Pride but Aceflux coloured scarf :3
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Can pseudosexuals be sex-favorable?



Hello and yes ik its a dumb question i apologise for it.
I woke up to realize my intelligence is gonna and now Idk if pseudosexuals can like sex or not ( future me: im pretty sure they can )

Sooo yeah i came here to ask if pseudosexuals like sex since they feel strong sensual attraction and maybe could enjoy sex for the sensual feeling of it?

And if there are pseudosexuals that like sex, may i Ask why? Im just curious to know why you like sex, no judgements here. But its ok if you don’t want to answer it if you are not confortable sharing that!




Sooo yeah, i would like to know if thats okay!

Ty for listening!

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New Painting
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Am I asexual or just dysphoric

Sup guys, gals and nonbinary palls! I've got something to figure out and maybe other's opinions are gonna help me.

Idk if I'm asexual, intensely dysphoric, or a secret third option. I'm a trans*guy and suffering from acute Where's my dick? Where'd I lose it? - Syndrome. Srsly where is it? Anyone seen it?

I've never had the sex either because ehh no. But idk why it's an ehh no, and that's why I'm here.

Getting down and dirty with someone has been sounding like an adventure I'd like to go on but when it acctually comes down to it I'm not that interested anymore. It's as if only the vague idea of it appeals to me. It sounds so fun in my head but I in reality it's ehh no. Maybe it's because I realize I'm not interested in actuality? Like I've never found anyone sexually attractive either. I've never thought "oh yes I want to get intimate with this person". My sexuality seems to only exist in theory. I have a Penis when I see myself in my own head and I think re-realizing that I'm lacking one is a mayor turnoff for me. I'm not interested in engaging with my natal genitals. Like that's just weird to me.

In my mind it feels like there's just a crater where my sexuality should be, like it's gone missing or something, just like how my dicks missing lol.

Anyone's got a clue to what's going on?

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When you love chips, and chips love you back <3
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Am i ace/aro????? Please help!!!!

Idk

I never have had a crush

I hate the thought of having s*x with someone

And having it with my self is physically nice but activly repulses me for ages afterwards

I feel like i shoukd have it but i dont want too

I want to kiss people and cuddle but not have s*x

And sometimes i really want a relationship and then other times i just want it and then sometimes i Really dont want one which makes me think maybe im aroflux?



Am i ace? Am i aro? Amd i both? Am i neither?

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Helping a friend in a relationship with someone who is not ace

Hi there! I am not part of the ace community, but I do have some friends on the ace spectrum so I do understand the basis of your experience. However, I am seeking some advice for a friend who is potentially in the asexual spectrum.

I say "potentially" because they experience a fluctuation of libido as well as vary between sex positive and sex repulsed, even to the point of anxiety or panic attacks in intimate situations. But this friend does not currently identify wholly with an asexual label.

My thought is that whether she is or not, there are people in this community who would have extremely valuable insight into healthy ways to cope with those fluctuations and how to proceed in her relationship so that she can hold less guilt over what she is currently viewing as "shortcomings" and so that her partner can feel less neglected in his sexual needs or desires.

What I'm looking to hear is how any of you who have had partners that don't fall under the ace umbrella have evened the playing field when it comes to intimacy, giving and showing love and trust, and overcoming or cooperating with a partner who experiences sex differently than you do.

What kind of interactions or coping/communication skills have you utilized with partners who need or desire sex? What sexual options are there for an uneven balance of libido or desire that are not damaging to either party mentally, physically, or emotionally?

I'm aware that there are definitely couples based on one sexual partner and one who is not. And that there are success stories and practices that led them to that success. I would love to hear from you so that I can have something to offer my friends in terms of support.

Thanks in advance!

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