Am I asexual (I already read the FAQ and “questioning I’m ace”)?
I have sexual thoughts and feelings, but no desire to act on them. I can find someone hot and might have thoughts but then some part of my brain shuts it down and focuses on something else. I have OCD so some of the thoughts might be that, but it's difficult to tell. Even when I do have genuine feelings, I find it disturbing and I sometimes actually physically gag.
I hope this makes sense and thanks for any responses.
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I have sexual thoughts and feelings, but no desire to act on them. I can find someone hot and might have thoughts but then some part of my brain shuts it down and focuses on something else. I have OCD so some of the thoughts might be that, but it's difficult to tell. Even when I do have genuine feelings, I find it disturbing and I sometimes actually physically gag.
I hope this makes sense and thanks for any responses.
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“Purity culture” “Why are you such a baby?” maybe I just don’t fucking like sex and would rather you not talk to me about it.
I fucking hate sex jokes and anything relating to sex in a conversation. I just can’t see why people enjoy joking or talking about such an intimate moment between two (or maybe more) people so fucking loudly. Like, it’s nobody else’s business but theirs. Why do I have to hear about it? I’m just a kid. I don’t like when people talk to me about that stuff. “You’re such a baby everyone does it” okay I’m aware that a lot of people do but it doesn’t mean I have to like it. “Just because you like to pretend you’re so innocent” I don’t like sex. I am on the ace-spec. What the fuck. Leave me alone with that kinda talk.
Does anyone else have ignorant friends like this? If so, how do you deal with them? I get so alienated from them because only one of them respects my identity and the rest just love to laugh about it, like I’m “joking”. Like I’m the fucking joke. Like it’s not fucking serious.
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I fucking hate sex jokes and anything relating to sex in a conversation. I just can’t see why people enjoy joking or talking about such an intimate moment between two (or maybe more) people so fucking loudly. Like, it’s nobody else’s business but theirs. Why do I have to hear about it? I’m just a kid. I don’t like when people talk to me about that stuff. “You’re such a baby everyone does it” okay I’m aware that a lot of people do but it doesn’t mean I have to like it. “Just because you like to pretend you’re so innocent” I don’t like sex. I am on the ace-spec. What the fuck. Leave me alone with that kinda talk.
Does anyone else have ignorant friends like this? If so, how do you deal with them? I get so alienated from them because only one of them respects my identity and the rest just love to laugh about it, like I’m “joking”. Like I’m the fucking joke. Like it’s not fucking serious.
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Why they simply don’t admit it?
If you’ve had experiences with an allo you’ll know what I’m talking about. Why they don’t simply admit that they only want to have sex?
They all have the same scheme: approach, make think the other person they care about them, fake to be interested and then after few minutes or hours (or days) they will start talking with second intentions, more or less explicitly they will start talking “dirty” or making jokes (that are not funny) about sex related stuff.
They will start complimenting the other person about specific parts of their body and bla bla…and they will have the audacity to say “I want a serious relationship”. Like, no? They only want sex but I still don’t get why instead of just saying it, they do all this scene first. Maybe they know how disgusting they are so they just want to be sure to get the other person attached? With some love bombing and fake attentions…I don’t know people, share with me your experiences I am curious. When I was younger (before acknowledging I am ace), I thought this was the prassi. I thought this “procedure” was normal and essential, but I’ve always felt that something was wrong. Today I see that is not normal, not for me. And honestly, is pretty sick.
Let me know if I am just unlucky or if this happened/happens to you too.
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If you’ve had experiences with an allo you’ll know what I’m talking about. Why they don’t simply admit that they only want to have sex?
They all have the same scheme: approach, make think the other person they care about them, fake to be interested and then after few minutes or hours (or days) they will start talking with second intentions, more or less explicitly they will start talking “dirty” or making jokes (that are not funny) about sex related stuff.
They will start complimenting the other person about specific parts of their body and bla bla…and they will have the audacity to say “I want a serious relationship”. Like, no? They only want sex but I still don’t get why instead of just saying it, they do all this scene first. Maybe they know how disgusting they are so they just want to be sure to get the other person attached? With some love bombing and fake attentions…I don’t know people, share with me your experiences I am curious. When I was younger (before acknowledging I am ace), I thought this was the prassi. I thought this “procedure” was normal and essential, but I’ve always felt that something was wrong. Today I see that is not normal, not for me. And honestly, is pretty sick.
Let me know if I am just unlucky or if this happened/happens to you too.
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Feeling I am having
Hey guys!
20M here
So I have been practicing nofap and celibacy and I am feeling completely asexual. I have lost the urges to fap and hookup with girls completely and now I don't particularly have libido to do anything sexual.
However, I noticed that I have been focused on my hobbies and passion like studying physics, martial arts and music. I also discovered I am deeply romantic.
I feel deeply when playing the violin, and think deeply when solving physics problems.
Sex was an inherent time sink and hookups a shallow relation, as I have noticed.
I wanted to thank you all from the bottom of my heart. Asexuality has been a secret blessing to me in disguise. I know celibacy and asexuality are different. But a year of celibacy has turned me into asexual.
I also met really cool people. Made great friends and met the love of my life today. I am asexual but I realised I am incredibly romantic. Things have been going good and this has been an incredible journey.
I believe you guys have a special gift. And that gift is asexuality, which I am experiencing now. I couldn't be more happier in life since I have desexualized my brain.
Thanks to this community and their superpower. You guys rock!❤️
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Hey guys!
20M here
So I have been practicing nofap and celibacy and I am feeling completely asexual. I have lost the urges to fap and hookup with girls completely and now I don't particularly have libido to do anything sexual.
However, I noticed that I have been focused on my hobbies and passion like studying physics, martial arts and music. I also discovered I am deeply romantic.
I feel deeply when playing the violin, and think deeply when solving physics problems.
Sex was an inherent time sink and hookups a shallow relation, as I have noticed.
I wanted to thank you all from the bottom of my heart. Asexuality has been a secret blessing to me in disguise. I know celibacy and asexuality are different. But a year of celibacy has turned me into asexual.
I also met really cool people. Made great friends and met the love of my life today. I am asexual but I realised I am incredibly romantic. Things have been going good and this has been an incredible journey.
I believe you guys have a special gift. And that gift is asexuality, which I am experiencing now. I couldn't be more happier in life since I have desexualized my brain.
Thanks to this community and their superpower. You guys rock!❤️
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Hate to be asexual
Writing from a second account for anonymity.
I just hate it. To never be in love. I've already “friendzoned” a couple of friends in my life. They were all amazing, and I also know that they were objectively attractive woman, but I just can't feel anything for them.
And in fact to no one. Everyone has some they “crush,” and I had recently twenty birthday and I have no one and I just don't feel like getting in relationship with anyone.
I mean, I “want” to be in a relationship, to be normal, but I know that I would not be able to feel in love with anyone.
The knowledge and desire to be in a relationship, but at the same time not wanting it at all.
I know I want to have love in my life, because it's also not that I don't feel it lol, I love my parents and some others and I would love TO love someone, but I have never felt attracted to anyone in my life.
IDK if such posts are allowed, just venting.
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Writing from a second account for anonymity.
I just hate it. To never be in love. I've already “friendzoned” a couple of friends in my life. They were all amazing, and I also know that they were objectively attractive woman, but I just can't feel anything for them.
And in fact to no one. Everyone has some they “crush,” and I had recently twenty birthday and I have no one and I just don't feel like getting in relationship with anyone.
I mean, I “want” to be in a relationship, to be normal, but I know that I would not be able to feel in love with anyone.
The knowledge and desire to be in a relationship, but at the same time not wanting it at all.
I know I want to have love in my life, because it's also not that I don't feel it lol, I love my parents and some others and I would love TO love someone, but I have never felt attracted to anyone in my life.
IDK if such posts are allowed, just venting.
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