Growing up sucked

Everyone telling you that “you’ll want to have sex one day you just ain’t ready yet” meanwhile in high school everyone else already has it on the brain 24/7 and you know if you was like the rest of the people around you that you would of already been like them by now… you know you are different but you don’t have a name for it yet and you just think there is something wrong with you but you just don’t know what and didn’t understand you too was also completely normal but society doesn’t believe anyone out there could not want sex at all 😐 you just let people tell you that “one of these days it will change” while knowing deep down it won’t and all your friends are telling you about the sexual things they’ve done meanwhile you wanna puke while hearing it 😂 I struggled a lot and now I’m glad I’m comfortable knowing who I am! I AM PROUD! 🍰

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Fun fact: the first canon aroace Jedi is green & purple (Vernestra Rwoh)
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Oh God, my poorly flirted with bones
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Are there any asexual characters in media (books, movies, TV shows, etc.) as good as Todd from Bojack Horseman?
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Are there any asexual characters in media (books, movies, TV shows, etc.) as good as Todd from Bojack Horseman?
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I'm in my first QPR!

Never been in this kind of relationship, but have had cuddle buddies before. Also my first time dating a grey ace and knowing that I am ace. If peeps have advice that's cool, but I mostly wanted to post something positive!

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My coworker is constantly bullied for being ace

She is constantly being made fun of for saying she’s ace. I’m glad that she’s very open about her sexuality, but there wasn’t one person that was nice to her about it. I’m ace too, so I butted into the conversation because they were god awful rude. I have never came out as ace to anyone before, but seeing her get made fun of made my blood BOIL. I HAD to back her up and shut them up. She’s very shy and timid, so luckily I made the comments stop because I was equally rude (not the mature option, but after weeks of this they deserve it). Sometimes it’s hard for me to understand why other sexualities don’t get the disrespect that aces do. One of the reasons why I hadn’t came out was to avoid the scrutiny and this is a prime example of how misunderstanding turns into disrespect. I understand some people may not get it or agree with asexuality, but that doesn’t equate to being outright rude.

She was pretty upset for the rest of the shift, but thanked me and now we’re friends. It’s actually pretty comforting to find another ace in person (which is rare). I’m friends with my other coworkers, but after seeing how they treat someone who isn’t the norm ruined my vision of them.

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Me when I realize I'm both Asexual, Aromantic, and Agender
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Feel free to use this on your social media.
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what does emotional bond mean to you?

every other month i always see ppl online arguing if demisexuality is real or not bc they always think “that’s just every person”.. i always just thought ppl think that bc they don’t know what sexual attraction really means but i recently just saw someone say demisexuality is “needing to know a person first before feeling sexually attracted”.

but to me, i feel like you can know a person
and still not have an emotional bond with them.. so it got me questioning… maybe this misunderstanding stems from not knowing what sexual attraction + emotional bond really are

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i might be overreacting though
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This is my porpoise
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furry_irl
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Is it normal that I feel disgusted by kissing?

I don't really know what my problem is, but I have no desire to kiss at all.

I'm a virgin, but I've kissed a couple of girls before, but nothing more than that.

I think it's disgusting when you put your tongue in someone else's mouth, exchanging a lot of saliva. Just thinking about it makes me uncomfortable.

I also feel disgusted by sexual organs for some reason? Like, I hate seeing any image of a dick or a vagina. I think breasts are pretty, but if I see a pussy I look away, either out of embarrassment or discomfort. The same goes for dicks.

I'm a virgin, but I have no desire to stop being one. For me, sex seems to be a very overrated thing, a quick way to get a dopamine hit that also carries the risk of ruining your life if you contract an STD or get pregnant.

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Does being Asexual make me a Queer Person? 🌈🌈🌈

I know that being Asexual doesn't necessarily mean I'm gay, but does being Asexual make me apart of the gay community?

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Dear reader.

Hiiii, i hope you’re doing good, have a nice day because i’m sure that you’re pretty cool, or at least you are to me hehe 🦈🩷

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I finally know why I hate saxophone so much!

Oh my god, guys. I need to share this with someone and this is the best place to do it.

I’m a music fan with very eclectic tastes, I love pretty much everything. But I never liked any song with saxophone. It makes me feel uncomfortable. And today, listening to a lofi soundtrack with saxophone in it, it just clicked.

Saxophone is very present in movies during spicy scenes. So I guess I associated the instrument to sexy stuff.

I work in the film industry and it has been a passion since a young age to analyse every shot, the editing, sound effects, etc. So unconsciously, I think I developed a reflex to prepare myself to see and experience something uncomfortable when I hear saxophone.

Discovering my asexuality took some time and it’s always when I have those lightbulb moments that I tell myself : « It was so obvious, why didn’t I see it waaaayyyy earlier? »

Ok, that’s all, thank you for being here to share these kind of stuff !



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Suddenly I'm a dad

Now this is the story all about how, \
My life got flipped-turned upside down, \
And I'd like to take a minute, just sit right there, \
I'll tell you how I just became the Dad of two girls…

Well, “girls” isn't actually correct. They are young women. But more on that later.

I’m a cis guy in his late 40s and for most of my life I struggled with relationships and my sexuality. I always seemed to be somewhat different, but I never knew how and why. I didn't have the words for it. A few years ago I finally began to understand. I know now and now I have the right words for it. I'm asexual.

This discovery always felt very freeing and relieving for me. It's great to finally have a better understanding of what and who I am. To understand the world a bit better and the people around me. It's great and I wouldn't want to change anything about it. Except for one thing.

For my whole life I was single. I had deep and strong friendships with all genders, I loved and was loved, I had other kinds of relationships but there was never a long-term sexual relationship. Don't get me wrong, there was a lot of experimenting in this regard. But none of it lead to a relationship. This doesn't bother me. I'm happy without it.

But this and some other hurdles in life meant I also never had children. And that's a bit sad. When I was younger, whenever I imagined my future life, there always were children. There was never a doubt I would have at least one daughter. But reality had other plans and that's ok. Over the last few years I have come to terms with the fact that I probably never would be a father. I accepted it and for the most part I'm ok with it.

All that changed a few months ago.

A young woman approached me about a volunteer job. She and her girlfriend were interested in volunteering at the same place I do. They both seemed nice and I said I could show them around and if they are still interested they could work some test shifts with some colleagues.

I had no idea what started there and then.

They fit right in and me and all the colleagues immediately liked them and they quickly became part of the team. We didn't know it then, but this was very special for them and meant a lot to them.

They are 19 and 20 years old, and in their young lives, they had their own lot of struggles. A lot of people seem to have done a lot of damage. Never before did they receive such an amount of respect and trust. I never asked them details about their traumas. They gave the short version that they both had bad luck with their parents.

Quickly we became friends. They knew about my asexuality early on. Just like I knew that they are lesbians. That removed a lot of tension and potential creepiness and gave room for an amazing friendship. And the age gap didn't seem to mean a thing.

But it did a little.

A while ago they said that I somehow had become a bit of a substitute dad for them. And my heart bounced a little bit. I liked that idea. I liked it very much.

We joked around with that idea for a while, but it quickly became serious. I told them that I have no idea if I could be a good Dad, but if they were willing to figure this out, I would be willing to try my very best and we could look where this would take us.

They accepted and the time since then is easily the most amazing one of my whole life.

Those girls are amazing and I love them and care for them in a way and intensity I never even thought could be possible. And I'm as proud as a Dad can be. One now tries to finish school and the other one got a small paid training job at the place where we all volunteer.

Of course it's not all sunshine, lollipops and rainbows. There are ups and downs and it's an emotional rollercoaster. I knew exactly what I signed up for and I wouldn't wanna miss a second of it.

A few days ago they told me for the first time that they love me.

I now know without a trace of doubt, that I want this to be real. I'm exploring the possibility of adopting them. This will take some time. I'm not in a rush. This is a forever thing. I will ask them a

few months from now. I already know exactly where and when.

All of you who struggle, who feel lonely or broken or lose hope. I want you to know that whatever life throws at you, you can still find all the kinds of love you are looking for. And sometimes kinds you had no idea were possible. It might take a while and the path there might be twisted and you might wanna give up. But if you don't you will eventually get there.

And it will all be worth it.



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Asexual brothel ?!

Asexual brothel but there is no sex instead it’s just someone who makes you lots of garlic bread and is your best friend.

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