Why can’t I do things for my own pleasure?
Idk how to word exactly this question but here it goes.
It seems that in society so many things that allos do they do them to get more attractive and have more sexual conquests, but I couldn’t care less, and people don’t seem to understand that (maybe because I am a male idk)
For example, I wear the clothes that I wear because having my own style makes me much more comfortable on my own skin, not because I want to be more appealing, I do exercise because I have so many health problems that I want to tackle, not because I want to have a more attractive and fit body, I go to parties because I like having a couple of drinks and dancing and going crazy, I do not care at all about hooking up.
For most allos it seems ingrained in their own psych that they have to do so many things to become more desirable, but I have literally never cared about any of that crap, and people don’t seem to understand lol
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Idk how to word exactly this question but here it goes.
It seems that in society so many things that allos do they do them to get more attractive and have more sexual conquests, but I couldn’t care less, and people don’t seem to understand that (maybe because I am a male idk)
For example, I wear the clothes that I wear because having my own style makes me much more comfortable on my own skin, not because I want to be more appealing, I do exercise because I have so many health problems that I want to tackle, not because I want to have a more attractive and fit body, I go to parties because I like having a couple of drinks and dancing and going crazy, I do not care at all about hooking up.
For most allos it seems ingrained in their own psych that they have to do so many things to become more desirable, but I have literally never cared about any of that crap, and people don’t seem to understand lol
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Can I become asexual very late into my life?
Im super confused about whats going on with me right now. I am female and almost 30 now but when i was younger 16-25 i was SOO sexually active— for example I could have sex like 3+ times a day and i can get turned on like a switch, it was pretty intense. However in these last few years like mid to late twenties. My sex drive literally disappeared. I recently tried going off of birth control to see if it made a difference but it’s still the same so now i’m wondering if i could just become asexual or is something physically wrong with me and i should get myself checked out???
Thank you in advanced😭
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Im super confused about whats going on with me right now. I am female and almost 30 now but when i was younger 16-25 i was SOO sexually active— for example I could have sex like 3+ times a day and i can get turned on like a switch, it was pretty intense. However in these last few years like mid to late twenties. My sex drive literally disappeared. I recently tried going off of birth control to see if it made a difference but it’s still the same so now i’m wondering if i could just become asexual or is something physically wrong with me and i should get myself checked out???
Thank you in advanced😭
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IF I WANTED TO SEE A BUTT, I WOULD HAVE WENT ON A PORN WEBSITE
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when you were younger, did you ever get confused/disgusted when your peers talked about sex because you "felt too young?"
hi there. im 15 and i think im aroace-spec. im not sure if im 100% either but im definitely somewhere on the spectrum.
id love some insight from older aces, as a 15 year old i feel like im keenly aware that im a child in comparison to my other peers. i feel like im really behind but im not necessarily in a rush to give up being a kid. not to say i want to stay one forever, but it seems like everyone is super eager to grow up. i understand why, but i remember being in middleschool and learning that a few of my peers werent virgins (though whos to say they werent exaggerating or lying) because i was like-- wait. but were all only kids???
im not a "0 libido" type, i consume nsfw and stuff like that. I indulge in fantasies, i develop *fictional* crushes, and i definitely get... yknow, hormonal. but before considering being aroace sex and romance always felt like something id do when i was older, like a far future thing im in absolutely no rush to get into. never in a million years could i imagine getting into a relationship right now. thinking about it, i dont think i could ever see myself getting with anyone in the traditional sense. seeing and hearing all of my peers get into relationships and talk about how hot this boy in their class is or whatever, i get so confused because im like.. yknow you guys are probably gonna break up in like 2 months right? i dont say that out loud. but i always think it. and i look at teenagers my age and im pretty juvenile-looking myself but everyone looks like a child to me. it creeps me out. how can anyone want to have sex as a teenager?? how does that not feel awkward and... i dunno, *horrifying??*
i guess its sort of easy to be a prude when youre not attracted to anyone, but id like to hear what you guys think and what it was like being an asexual teenager.
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hi there. im 15 and i think im aroace-spec. im not sure if im 100% either but im definitely somewhere on the spectrum.
id love some insight from older aces, as a 15 year old i feel like im keenly aware that im a child in comparison to my other peers. i feel like im really behind but im not necessarily in a rush to give up being a kid. not to say i want to stay one forever, but it seems like everyone is super eager to grow up. i understand why, but i remember being in middleschool and learning that a few of my peers werent virgins (though whos to say they werent exaggerating or lying) because i was like-- wait. but were all only kids???
im not a "0 libido" type, i consume nsfw and stuff like that. I indulge in fantasies, i develop *fictional* crushes, and i definitely get... yknow, hormonal. but before considering being aroace sex and romance always felt like something id do when i was older, like a far future thing im in absolutely no rush to get into. never in a million years could i imagine getting into a relationship right now. thinking about it, i dont think i could ever see myself getting with anyone in the traditional sense. seeing and hearing all of my peers get into relationships and talk about how hot this boy in their class is or whatever, i get so confused because im like.. yknow you guys are probably gonna break up in like 2 months right? i dont say that out loud. but i always think it. and i look at teenagers my age and im pretty juvenile-looking myself but everyone looks like a child to me. it creeps me out. how can anyone want to have sex as a teenager?? how does that not feel awkward and... i dunno, *horrifying??*
i guess its sort of easy to be a prude when youre not attracted to anyone, but id like to hear what you guys think and what it was like being an asexual teenager.
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This is the only place i can vent about this.
I’ve been trying and trying to make my mom understand that I’m so sure of my asexuality and the only thing she does is deny it saying “How can you know if you’ve never tried?” And gave me a WHOLE speech of why i am wrong and i just don’t know what i want. She almost freaked out, I wouldn’t like to see her reaction the day she finds out that I’m also aromantic. The thing is ok, i could just ignore it but i’m not asking for too much, i just want acceptance, stop treating me as if i was allo, it makes me so uncomfortable.
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I’ve been trying and trying to make my mom understand that I’m so sure of my asexuality and the only thing she does is deny it saying “How can you know if you’ve never tried?” And gave me a WHOLE speech of why i am wrong and i just don’t know what i want. She almost freaked out, I wouldn’t like to see her reaction the day she finds out that I’m also aromantic. The thing is ok, i could just ignore it but i’m not asking for too much, i just want acceptance, stop treating me as if i was allo, it makes me so uncomfortable.
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can i be bisexual and ace at the same time
i feel sexual attraction towards fictional characters but for people irl i don't and i just simply don't want to have anything romantic related with anyone.
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i feel sexual attraction towards fictional characters but for people irl i don't and i just simply don't want to have anything romantic related with anyone.
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I hate being such a black sheep
For context, I’m a sex repulsed ace. A very sex repulsed ace.
I always feel so alone, like no one else understands my disdain for sex. I don’t want anything to do with it or anything associated with it. It hurts that people try to change me, they don’t believe me. I hate walking on eggshells because everything can somehow be an “innuendo.” I somehow say something suggestive and people use it as a “gotcha” to prove im not sex repulsed. I genuinely don’t even know how somethings can be interpreted in that way, and my intentions are never to be sexual. It hurts to not have anyone that can relate to my situation. Everyone in my life doesn’t accept or believe my asexuality.
I’d just like some kind words to know I’m not alone.
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For context, I’m a sex repulsed ace. A very sex repulsed ace.
I always feel so alone, like no one else understands my disdain for sex. I don’t want anything to do with it or anything associated with it. It hurts that people try to change me, they don’t believe me. I hate walking on eggshells because everything can somehow be an “innuendo.” I somehow say something suggestive and people use it as a “gotcha” to prove im not sex repulsed. I genuinely don’t even know how somethings can be interpreted in that way, and my intentions are never to be sexual. It hurts to not have anyone that can relate to my situation. Everyone in my life doesn’t accept or believe my asexuality.
I’d just like some kind words to know I’m not alone.
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How do you date as an asexual?
As the title says, how do I date as an asexual/demisexual?
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As the title says, how do I date as an asexual/demisexual?
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I feel wrong
I feel so broken and desperately want to fix myself, I feel like there’s something seriously wrong with me, I just want to feel normal but I can’t
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I feel so broken and desperately want to fix myself, I feel like there’s something seriously wrong with me, I just want to feel normal but I can’t
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