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MRW I'm at Little Caesar's and they ask if I want some free Crazy Bread (Does it count as garlic bread?)
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My partner cheated on me because I was asexual
I'm going to be honest. Being ace is difficult. My partner cheated on me because of my low sex drive. I was in a 6-year relationship with my girlfriend, and she always ranted to me about craving intimacy and sex and how she desperately wanted to have sex with a man. She told me these things while she was with me, and it made me feel so guilty that she saw the relationship as more of a burden than an actual one. She ranted about it so much to the point that she suggested me being a fucking cuck since I didn’t see “sex” as a big deal, but just because my viewing of sex is different doesn’t mean I’m okay with getting cheated on.. like??? But yeah, skip to a few months later, and it’s August; she called me on the phone and cried about how she had a nightmare that she slept with a man and whatnot. At first, I didn’t care because it was just a dream, but later, as the day continued, guess what! She confessed that the reason she didn’t talk to me the entire day yesterday was because she was getting dicked down by a 29-year-old catholic prick. He knew we were dating too; my girlfriend sobbed and claimed that “the sex didn’t mean anything, it was bad, “ and I told her, “I don’. t give a fuck if the sex was good or not; you still cheated on me.” And she continued to cry, whining how “You’re never gonna speak to me again after this.” And I was thinking, “Yeah, no fucking shit.. you’re right about that.” Honestly, I was a fool for believing she’d stay loyal. I trusted her; I gave her everything, even sent her fucking care packages while she was in foster care, and spent six years of my life trying my hardest to please her. I even went as far as to give my virginity to her, despite the fact I felt pressured to do it and utterly uncomfortable during the entire thing, but I pushed it aside to have sex because I knew that’s what she wanted. I truly believed that there’s no love if there’s no sex; it still hurts; I wanted the relationship to work out, and I even hoped to see her this October. But no, long-distance relationships can’t work, especially if one in the relationship is an out-of-control sex freak and the other is an asexual with zero libido. I just wish she would’ve told me sooner that she wanted to break up with me instead of cheating behind my back, just for a short lived sex moment.
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I'm going to be honest. Being ace is difficult. My partner cheated on me because of my low sex drive. I was in a 6-year relationship with my girlfriend, and she always ranted to me about craving intimacy and sex and how she desperately wanted to have sex with a man. She told me these things while she was with me, and it made me feel so guilty that she saw the relationship as more of a burden than an actual one. She ranted about it so much to the point that she suggested me being a fucking cuck since I didn’t see “sex” as a big deal, but just because my viewing of sex is different doesn’t mean I’m okay with getting cheated on.. like??? But yeah, skip to a few months later, and it’s August; she called me on the phone and cried about how she had a nightmare that she slept with a man and whatnot. At first, I didn’t care because it was just a dream, but later, as the day continued, guess what! She confessed that the reason she didn’t talk to me the entire day yesterday was because she was getting dicked down by a 29-year-old catholic prick. He knew we were dating too; my girlfriend sobbed and claimed that “the sex didn’t mean anything, it was bad, “ and I told her, “I don’. t give a fuck if the sex was good or not; you still cheated on me.” And she continued to cry, whining how “You’re never gonna speak to me again after this.” And I was thinking, “Yeah, no fucking shit.. you’re right about that.” Honestly, I was a fool for believing she’d stay loyal. I trusted her; I gave her everything, even sent her fucking care packages while she was in foster care, and spent six years of my life trying my hardest to please her. I even went as far as to give my virginity to her, despite the fact I felt pressured to do it and utterly uncomfortable during the entire thing, but I pushed it aside to have sex because I knew that’s what she wanted. I truly believed that there’s no love if there’s no sex; it still hurts; I wanted the relationship to work out, and I even hoped to see her this October. But no, long-distance relationships can’t work, especially if one in the relationship is an out-of-control sex freak and the other is an asexual with zero libido. I just wish she would’ve told me sooner that she wanted to break up with me instead of cheating behind my back, just for a short lived sex moment.
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AITAH for telling my asexual friend that I wish I wasn't asexual?
(using a friends account) I am asexual but struggle with internalized acephobia. I'm trying to accept myself, but I'm not there yet. I have one other friend who is asexual and proud, and I asked them if they would be up to talk to me about it. I told them that I often wish I was not asexual, and that I really want to work on that. I said this thinking that maybe they went through the same stuff when they realized they were asexual and could give me tips, as they are a lot older than me.
They later told me that me saying that I wish I wasn't asexual made them really uncomfortable, and that I shouldn't talk to asexual people about this because it will hurt them. They recommended some books for me to read instead.
AITAH for saying this to them? If another asexual person would talk to you about their internalized acephobia, would this hurt you?
I'm asking genuinely, I want to work on myself and thought that talking to other ace people could help me, but if it just hurts them I will stop doing it.
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(using a friends account) I am asexual but struggle with internalized acephobia. I'm trying to accept myself, but I'm not there yet. I have one other friend who is asexual and proud, and I asked them if they would be up to talk to me about it. I told them that I often wish I was not asexual, and that I really want to work on that. I said this thinking that maybe they went through the same stuff when they realized they were asexual and could give me tips, as they are a lot older than me.
They later told me that me saying that I wish I wasn't asexual made them really uncomfortable, and that I shouldn't talk to asexual people about this because it will hurt them. They recommended some books for me to read instead.
AITAH for saying this to them? If another asexual person would talk to you about their internalized acephobia, would this hurt you?
I'm asking genuinely, I want to work on myself and thought that talking to other ace people could help me, but if it just hurts them I will stop doing it.
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Fellow aces, forget about aphobia or whether you’re valid for a minute. Do you wear your cloak over both shoulders, just one, or not covering either shoulder?
I’ve tried all three and I can’t settle on one way to wear a cloak. Is it a situational, pragmatic kind of decision, or just a fashion choice? Am I making some kind of statement if I wear it a certain way? This is bugging me and I need to know.
The Ace Council probably has some answers, if nobody else does
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I’ve tried all three and I can’t settle on one way to wear a cloak. Is it a situational, pragmatic kind of decision, or just a fashion choice? Am I making some kind of statement if I wear it a certain way? This is bugging me and I need to know.
The Ace Council probably has some answers, if nobody else does
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GUYS IM GOING INSAINE WHAT EVEN IS ROMANCE?????
Like i hear people describe it as like “caring about someone a-lot and wanting to be with them all the time and giving them gifts and complements and hugging n stuff” BUT I FEEL ALL THOSE ABOUT FRIENDS?????? The only substantial difference I understand is sex but what about asexual alloromantics??? Clearly they can still feel romantic attraction without sex so WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE????
(Sorry for being so angry lul ive just been confused about this for months and i still can’t figure it out)
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Like i hear people describe it as like “caring about someone a-lot and wanting to be with them all the time and giving them gifts and complements and hugging n stuff” BUT I FEEL ALL THOSE ABOUT FRIENDS?????? The only substantial difference I understand is sex but what about asexual alloromantics??? Clearly they can still feel romantic attraction without sex so WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE????
(Sorry for being so angry lul ive just been confused about this for months and i still can’t figure it out)
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Can a QPR count as “gay,” even if it’s not romantic or sexual?
I’m pretty sure I’m grayromantic and gray ace (or maybe aceflux?), and I’m still learning about how all of this stuff works. I’ve never had a QPR before, but I would be open to one. I’m just wondering if two people of the same gender (or similar genders?) in a QPR would count as gay, even if they’re aro and ace?
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I’m pretty sure I’m grayromantic and gray ace (or maybe aceflux?), and I’m still learning about how all of this stuff works. I’ve never had a QPR before, but I would be open to one. I’m just wondering if two people of the same gender (or similar genders?) in a QPR would count as gay, even if they’re aro and ace?
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Petition to make Gwenpool a larger icon within the aro and ace communities! She is getting her own comic about her coming out and I hardly see her here
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Allo people joining ace spaces because they gave up on relationships
I’ve been in a few ace discussion groups where there’s one person who admits they’re not ace but is choosing not to date anymore. Has anyone else experienced this? It’s so annoying lol
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I’ve been in a few ace discussion groups where there’s one person who admits they’re not ace but is choosing not to date anymore. Has anyone else experienced this? It’s so annoying lol
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I think I am just going to date Ace people.
I'm having the same issue with my partner which is why the topic and title. I'm just not going to post the partner one since I know they reddit.
This weekend I had, a few years younger, friend bring up that I was more sex positive years ago and laugh. The only reason they know is because I was explaining Asexuality to a support group for LGBTQ we're both in. Majority of the group is fine or understanding.
I'm still having regrets. This friend, and my partner seem to bring it up accordingly if I do bring up that I'm Ace. Or just occasionally if it's relevant to the topic. So if I'm explaining it to a new person in the group or I am just communicating it.
So I explain that I'm Ace. They make a comment about me being sex positive in the 'but not really' Ace tone. Like their correcting me.
Maybe it's insecurity.. but I have had to deal with relationships going bad because they don't understand that I'm ace and I mean it. So occasionally I will bring up that I am Ace/Aro in a confirmation conversation. Just to remind them.
Still happens. So you just get so mad and tried of allo's some times.
I don't feel any sexual attraction or physical attraction and that makes me Asexual. The rest is just soup. That's the meat of it and the rest is just soup.
(Or in Ace terms, that's just the bread to my garlic. Garlic to my bread?)
I have been pretty historically sex positive but more of I 'thought it was interesting'.
As I have matured that's Just no longer the case. It's just eh and I have better things to do. I would be more in the sex-neutral to sex-repulsed category now.
"I don't feel any sexual attraction or physical attraction and that makes me Asexual." Is still true regardless. It's true and VALID.
It's like...
I've never found a hamburger to be appetizing. I would enjoy it is an option when I was younger because hey food. Now I just don't. I tried things and explored when I was younger, sure.
I still don't fine them appetizing, that hasn't changed. It's never going to.
Does that make me choosing not to eat hamburger even if it's presented to me now any less valid?
No no it doesn't. But hey I'm preaching to the choir. Still it needs to be said.
I have never found hamburgers appetizing and now I don't eat them either, why is it such a hard thing for others to get?
I've tried to explain what Asexual is actually occasionally to those two but it just goes back to this.
Whenever I hear this type of comments I just sometimes wish to never date the Allo's anymore just because it always happens. Or even explain Asexuality to people.
It's exhausting and being invalidated hurts. Their both Trans/bi for context so they should understand on some level.
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I'm having the same issue with my partner which is why the topic and title. I'm just not going to post the partner one since I know they reddit.
This weekend I had, a few years younger, friend bring up that I was more sex positive years ago and laugh. The only reason they know is because I was explaining Asexuality to a support group for LGBTQ we're both in. Majority of the group is fine or understanding.
I'm still having regrets. This friend, and my partner seem to bring it up accordingly if I do bring up that I'm Ace. Or just occasionally if it's relevant to the topic. So if I'm explaining it to a new person in the group or I am just communicating it.
So I explain that I'm Ace. They make a comment about me being sex positive in the 'but not really' Ace tone. Like their correcting me.
Maybe it's insecurity.. but I have had to deal with relationships going bad because they don't understand that I'm ace and I mean it. So occasionally I will bring up that I am Ace/Aro in a confirmation conversation. Just to remind them.
Still happens. So you just get so mad and tried of allo's some times.
I don't feel any sexual attraction or physical attraction and that makes me Asexual. The rest is just soup. That's the meat of it and the rest is just soup.
(Or in Ace terms, that's just the bread to my garlic. Garlic to my bread?)
I have been pretty historically sex positive but more of I 'thought it was interesting'.
As I have matured that's Just no longer the case. It's just eh and I have better things to do. I would be more in the sex-neutral to sex-repulsed category now.
"I don't feel any sexual attraction or physical attraction and that makes me Asexual." Is still true regardless. It's true and VALID.
It's like...
I've never found a hamburger to be appetizing. I would enjoy it is an option when I was younger because hey food. Now I just don't. I tried things and explored when I was younger, sure.
I still don't fine them appetizing, that hasn't changed. It's never going to.
Does that make me choosing not to eat hamburger even if it's presented to me now any less valid?
No no it doesn't. But hey I'm preaching to the choir. Still it needs to be said.
I have never found hamburgers appetizing and now I don't eat them either, why is it such a hard thing for others to get?
I've tried to explain what Asexual is actually occasionally to those two but it just goes back to this.
Whenever I hear this type of comments I just sometimes wish to never date the Allo's anymore just because it always happens. Or even explain Asexuality to people.
It's exhausting and being invalidated hurts. Their both Trans/bi for context so they should understand on some level.
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Just curious, but how do you feel about s*x?
I’m so sorry if I didn’t tag this post accordingly—
I feel like it could just be somewhat due for growing up with my parents NEVER bringing up the subject all. It was always taboo and they still never acknowledged it or anything and I’m 19. Never rlly had “the talk” or anything so I had to figure out a lot on my own.
Sex and sexual attraction just seems so odd to me. I don’t understand it in the slightest bit.
Growing up I finally realized I was actually the odd one when I realized that people actually do feel sexually attracted to others. I just sort of thought sex was some big joke I wasn’t in on. I still think it’s a big joke and the whole idea of sex is so funny to me.
But realizing that it’s actually a BIG part of a relationship for some people took me aback—I couldn’t imagine thinking any less of your partner just because they decline to have sex. You love your partner so why would it be a necessity anyways, yk?
I never really connected the dots either when I thought how about how I was even born. I just like to think of me just spawning from nowhere.
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I’m so sorry if I didn’t tag this post accordingly—
I feel like it could just be somewhat due for growing up with my parents NEVER bringing up the subject all. It was always taboo and they still never acknowledged it or anything and I’m 19. Never rlly had “the talk” or anything so I had to figure out a lot on my own.
Sex and sexual attraction just seems so odd to me. I don’t understand it in the slightest bit.
Growing up I finally realized I was actually the odd one when I realized that people actually do feel sexually attracted to others. I just sort of thought sex was some big joke I wasn’t in on. I still think it’s a big joke and the whole idea of sex is so funny to me.
But realizing that it’s actually a BIG part of a relationship for some people took me aback—I couldn’t imagine thinking any less of your partner just because they decline to have sex. You love your partner so why would it be a necessity anyways, yk?
I never really connected the dots either when I thought how about how I was even born. I just like to think of me just spawning from nowhere.
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Calling ppl “lonely virgins” as an insult is so annoying
You realize some people choose it voluntarily and have no interest right?? They make it seem like virgins are these pathetic humans. Just shows how society always assumes people want to have sex and not having it makes u some kind of weirdo.
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You realize some people choose it voluntarily and have no interest right?? They make it seem like virgins are these pathetic humans. Just shows how society always assumes people want to have sex and not having it makes u some kind of weirdo.
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