So what exactly is a "crush"? Now that I look back at it, I think everyone was talking about sexual attraction...
(So this is my first proper post on reddit so bear with me. Also, English isn't my first language...)
This is a bit of a stupid overthinking spiral I had in the shower today over the word "crush" in the shower today lol...
(19 F) In the last few months, I realized I'm ace (although as I look back at life, there were so many signs that I missed but I didn't know what asexuality was to label them) and I am sure of my asexuality but it's still confusing sometimes because I've felt romantic & even sensual attraction (never dated anyone btw).
Back in middle school, 'crushes' became a big deal. When my friends asked me about my crush, I did like a guy so I said his name. The attraction was NEVER-EVER sexual thank you. I found him super cute & charming & when we got partnered up for a project, I felt all the butterflies & whatever. I used to wonder how nice it would be to go on dates, hold hands, cuddle, talk to him all day long, etc. Had a few crushes after him. My latest crush was on a friend & I was head-over-heels for her oh god... Had all the romantic & some sensual feels but never sexual.
I've heard many aromantic people say that they never had crushes but after I saw some ace people said it too, I got confused. So are these 2 scenarios above "crushes" or is there another term for it? I know queerplatonic attraction is called a "squish" so is a "crush" the equivalent of sexual attraction or does it include other non-platonic attractions as well? Because now that I look back at my school days, I think everyone meant "who are you sexually attracted to" when they said "who is your crush" lol...
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(So this is my first proper post on reddit so bear with me. Also, English isn't my first language...)
This is a bit of a stupid overthinking spiral I had in the shower today over the word "crush" in the shower today lol...
(19 F) In the last few months, I realized I'm ace (although as I look back at life, there were so many signs that I missed but I didn't know what asexuality was to label them) and I am sure of my asexuality but it's still confusing sometimes because I've felt romantic & even sensual attraction (never dated anyone btw).
Back in middle school, 'crushes' became a big deal. When my friends asked me about my crush, I did like a guy so I said his name. The attraction was NEVER-EVER sexual thank you. I found him super cute & charming & when we got partnered up for a project, I felt all the butterflies & whatever. I used to wonder how nice it would be to go on dates, hold hands, cuddle, talk to him all day long, etc. Had a few crushes after him. My latest crush was on a friend & I was head-over-heels for her oh god... Had all the romantic & some sensual feels but never sexual.
I've heard many aromantic people say that they never had crushes but after I saw some ace people said it too, I got confused. So are these 2 scenarios above "crushes" or is there another term for it? I know queerplatonic attraction is called a "squish" so is a "crush" the equivalent of sexual attraction or does it include other non-platonic attractions as well? Because now that I look back at my school days, I think everyone meant "who are you sexually attracted to" when they said "who is your crush" lol...
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Any alloromantic asexuals here?
Anyone else here feel romantic attraction but not sexual attraction?
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Anyone else here feel romantic attraction but not sexual attraction?
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Share your favorite 'romantic', non-sexual songs
Just looking for those sort of romantic songs about emotional and or mental connection and sweet moments instead of hard core sexual stuff or hints at that.
Please share your favorites, from whatever genre you're interested in.
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Just looking for those sort of romantic songs about emotional and or mental connection and sweet moments instead of hard core sexual stuff or hints at that.
Please share your favorites, from whatever genre you're interested in.
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It’s weird honestly. Why do people care about sex so much. It’s so odd
I’m trying to live my life and all my friends are talking about sex and having a girlfriend like damn there’s more to life then that shit bro. Why is the media so obsessed with it. Idk I find it odd and kinda disgusting. It feels like I can’t relate to people my age yk. Thanks for the rant ? I guess lol
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I’m trying to live my life and all my friends are talking about sex and having a girlfriend like damn there’s more to life then that shit bro. Why is the media so obsessed with it. Idk I find it odd and kinda disgusting. It feels like I can’t relate to people my age yk. Thanks for the rant ? I guess lol
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How is s*x supposed to feel?
I’m asexual, but comfortable enough that my boyfriend and I have been having sex.
So I’m not really sure what I’m supposed to be feeling… It’s not bad necessarily, but I’d hesitate to call it good, sometimes it’s nice but, mostly just kind of A Lot I guess. And at some angles it definitely does hurt a little. It just feels weird?
I’m not sure if this is an ace thing or a more universal thing, if anyone is comfortable sort of explaining what it feels like, I’d be grateful!
Or has any tips I guess!
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I’m asexual, but comfortable enough that my boyfriend and I have been having sex.
So I’m not really sure what I’m supposed to be feeling… It’s not bad necessarily, but I’d hesitate to call it good, sometimes it’s nice but, mostly just kind of A Lot I guess. And at some angles it definitely does hurt a little. It just feels weird?
I’m not sure if this is an ace thing or a more universal thing, if anyone is comfortable sort of explaining what it feels like, I’d be grateful!
Or has any tips I guess!
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How can I succinctly and clearly tell a room full of high schoolers that being asexual is ok?
I’m going to be discussing sex and sexuality to a group of about 80-100 high schoolers, and one of the brief caveats I want to go over (before I get into the meat of the message) is that if a student is thinking that something is wrong with them because they’re not relationship/sex crazy “like everyone else is,” that they might be asexual and that is okay. Is there anything more I would need to say, besides that? It seems like enough to me, but I don’t identify as ace. If you knew you were asexual by the time you were a teen, what could someone have said to make you feel supported and loved?
For context: this is in a conventional Christian church setting. If you’d like to know more about what else I’m planning on saying during the message, feel free to ask.
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I’m going to be discussing sex and sexuality to a group of about 80-100 high schoolers, and one of the brief caveats I want to go over (before I get into the meat of the message) is that if a student is thinking that something is wrong with them because they’re not relationship/sex crazy “like everyone else is,” that they might be asexual and that is okay. Is there anything more I would need to say, besides that? It seems like enough to me, but I don’t identify as ace. If you knew you were asexual by the time you were a teen, what could someone have said to make you feel supported and loved?
For context: this is in a conventional Christian church setting. If you’d like to know more about what else I’m planning on saying during the message, feel free to ask.
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Media is too big
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One of the many gifts for a Redditor who's sending me bugs!
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