Having sex as a sex-repulsed ace
I'm being pressured to get married and I can't take it anymore. I'm wondering if I should just cave in and just be with an allo, compromising my "no sex" stance. But it seems terrifying. I would like some advice from sex-repulsed aces who have forced themselves to have sex.
1) How horrible is it to have sex as a sex-repulsed ace ? Does it feel like rape ?
2) Does it get easier ? Do you get desensitised after a while (like ERP for OCD) or do you remain repulsed and miserable forever ?
3) How do you manage to hide your disgust from your partner ? What happens if your unsuccessful in doing so ?
4) How is your partner's reaction to your sex-repulsed nature ? Do they get sour and resentful after a while ? Do they break up with you ?
5) Is this traumatic and how much does it affect your quality of life ?
6) Should I force myself to do it ? I hate it and just the thought of it gives me a panic attack. I also have OCD, so everything combined is just killing me.
Thanks in advance for taking the time to read and answer.
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I'm being pressured to get married and I can't take it anymore. I'm wondering if I should just cave in and just be with an allo, compromising my "no sex" stance. But it seems terrifying. I would like some advice from sex-repulsed aces who have forced themselves to have sex.
1) How horrible is it to have sex as a sex-repulsed ace ? Does it feel like rape ?
2) Does it get easier ? Do you get desensitised after a while (like ERP for OCD) or do you remain repulsed and miserable forever ?
3) How do you manage to hide your disgust from your partner ? What happens if your unsuccessful in doing so ?
4) How is your partner's reaction to your sex-repulsed nature ? Do they get sour and resentful after a while ? Do they break up with you ?
5) Is this traumatic and how much does it affect your quality of life ?
6) Should I force myself to do it ? I hate it and just the thought of it gives me a panic attack. I also have OCD, so everything combined is just killing me.
Thanks in advance for taking the time to read and answer.
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New post flairs – please read
As discussed [two weeks ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/comments/1ee22my/share_your_opinions_about_the_sub_post_flairs_and/), we have been considering adding new post flairs for sex-averse, sex-favourable, and sex-indifferent discussions. We are going ahead with this with the following new flairs:
* Sex-averse topic
* Sex-favourable topic
* Sex-indifferent topic
As a bit of background, there is a perception (rightly or wrongly) that the subreddit swings between being very sex-favourable and very sex-averse, which some users find upsetting / feel like they are being excluded. Over the several years I've moderated this subreddit this has consistently been the only major complaint that we have received from our members.
The creation of new post flairs where people can state what kind of discussion they are starting has been suggested as a way to alleviate this problem, because it a) makes it easy for people who don't want to engage with that kind of content to scroll past; and b) states explicitly that all types of post/user are welcome.
Some quick clarification on how we are intending for this to work:
1. Using the new post flairs is entirely optional. All the existing flairs are remaining in place which can be used for general discussions or if you aren't a subscriber to the sex-averse/sex-favourable model. That said if e.g. you're making a post which you have reason to believe sex-favourable people don't want to see, consider using the sex-averse flair (and vice versa).
2. The flairs are for information only, they do not change the rules about e.g. what people can comment on your post. Please be aware that it already considered against rule #1 (No rudeness) to e.g. tell someone that is sex-repulsed that "actually asexuals have sex" or vice versa. (You can report this in the normal way.)
3. The automoderator has been set up to automatically spoiler any posts with any of these new flairs. This is the mechanism which makes it so users are making a choice when engaging with flaired content.
4. If somebody is abusing these flairs (e.g. posting sex-repulsed content under a sex-favourable flair), please report them under Rule #3: Mark posts appropriately. The rule has been edited slightly to make this clearer.
5. Reddit doesn't have a feature where you can filter out / block certain flairs. However, on the New Reddit desktop site there is a widget in the sidebar you can use to select a single specific flair to show only flairs of that type.
Finally a quick reminder on what these terms mean. "Sex-averse" means that someone tends to feel they don't want sex for whatever reason. "Sex-repulsion" is when someone is disgusted by the idea of having sex, which is a kind of sex-aversion. "Sex-favourable" means that someone likes or seeks sex, and "Sex-indifferent" means they don't mind either way. These should not be confused with "sex-negative", "sex-positive", and "sex-neutral", which are established terms about *political* beliefs relating to sex in society.
We welcome any and all feedback in the comments below.
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As discussed [two weeks ago](https://www.reddit.com/r/asexuality/comments/1ee22my/share_your_opinions_about_the_sub_post_flairs_and/), we have been considering adding new post flairs for sex-averse, sex-favourable, and sex-indifferent discussions. We are going ahead with this with the following new flairs:
* Sex-averse topic
* Sex-favourable topic
* Sex-indifferent topic
As a bit of background, there is a perception (rightly or wrongly) that the subreddit swings between being very sex-favourable and very sex-averse, which some users find upsetting / feel like they are being excluded. Over the several years I've moderated this subreddit this has consistently been the only major complaint that we have received from our members.
The creation of new post flairs where people can state what kind of discussion they are starting has been suggested as a way to alleviate this problem, because it a) makes it easy for people who don't want to engage with that kind of content to scroll past; and b) states explicitly that all types of post/user are welcome.
Some quick clarification on how we are intending for this to work:
1. Using the new post flairs is entirely optional. All the existing flairs are remaining in place which can be used for general discussions or if you aren't a subscriber to the sex-averse/sex-favourable model. That said if e.g. you're making a post which you have reason to believe sex-favourable people don't want to see, consider using the sex-averse flair (and vice versa).
2. The flairs are for information only, they do not change the rules about e.g. what people can comment on your post. Please be aware that it already considered against rule #1 (No rudeness) to e.g. tell someone that is sex-repulsed that "actually asexuals have sex" or vice versa. (You can report this in the normal way.)
3. The automoderator has been set up to automatically spoiler any posts with any of these new flairs. This is the mechanism which makes it so users are making a choice when engaging with flaired content.
4. If somebody is abusing these flairs (e.g. posting sex-repulsed content under a sex-favourable flair), please report them under Rule #3: Mark posts appropriately. The rule has been edited slightly to make this clearer.
5. Reddit doesn't have a feature where you can filter out / block certain flairs. However, on the New Reddit desktop site there is a widget in the sidebar you can use to select a single specific flair to show only flairs of that type.
Finally a quick reminder on what these terms mean. "Sex-averse" means that someone tends to feel they don't want sex for whatever reason. "Sex-repulsion" is when someone is disgusted by the idea of having sex, which is a kind of sex-aversion. "Sex-favourable" means that someone likes or seeks sex, and "Sex-indifferent" means they don't mind either way. These should not be confused with "sex-negative", "sex-positive", and "sex-neutral", which are established terms about *political* beliefs relating to sex in society.
We welcome any and all feedback in the comments below.
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I don't know if I'm asexual
I've identified as bisexual for a long time because I'm attracted to women and non binary people. But I don't think my attraction to them is sexual. I definitely feel romantic attraction and aesthetic attraction. I think for my when I think about what I look for in a partner, sex is the last thing I think of. I can still enjoy sex even though 99% of the time I've had sex all I felt was shame or awkwardness but there have been times when I've enjoyed it even if I didn't find the other person sexually attractive.
Also my feelings about sex have changed since I've started hormone replacement
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I've identified as bisexual for a long time because I'm attracted to women and non binary people. But I don't think my attraction to them is sexual. I definitely feel romantic attraction and aesthetic attraction. I think for my when I think about what I look for in a partner, sex is the last thing I think of. I can still enjoy sex even though 99% of the time I've had sex all I felt was shame or awkwardness but there have been times when I've enjoyed it even if I didn't find the other person sexually attractive.
Also my feelings about sex have changed since I've started hormone replacement
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I came out to my mother yesterday
I got into an argument with my mother yesterday. It was mostly me yelling at her. The topic turned towards marriage. Context: I am from India and I am single. She suggested arranged marriage. We've had this argument many times before. And I came out to her screaming at the top of my voice. My mother took it well? Or perhaps I was already angry, she didn't say much. She's been normal today too. I don't what I expected her to react like, but it wasn't this. Anyway I'm out now, feeling kinda numb and lonely. I don't know the point of this post is. I guess I want to talk to fellow aces but I don't know anyone like that irl. I want to talk. But I don't know what I want to talk about.
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I got into an argument with my mother yesterday. It was mostly me yelling at her. The topic turned towards marriage. Context: I am from India and I am single. She suggested arranged marriage. We've had this argument many times before. And I came out to her screaming at the top of my voice. My mother took it well? Or perhaps I was already angry, she didn't say much. She's been normal today too. I don't what I expected her to react like, but it wasn't this. Anyway I'm out now, feeling kinda numb and lonely. I don't know the point of this post is. I guess I want to talk to fellow aces but I don't know anyone like that irl. I want to talk. But I don't know what I want to talk about.
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35M in SC would like to have a asexual boyfriend like me!!!🥰
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Teling my mum I'm AroAce. What do I say?
Enby (16) as the title says, I don't know what to say to my mum about the subject. She's pro LGBTQ so that's not the issue it's just outright admitting it that's whats making me anxious.
So, we were alone downstairs and my mum asks me if I'm going to look for a relationship someday in college. I replied by saying I'm not interested with being in a relationship with someone, as an Aromatic would do. Then she asked if I was the type to participate in a short term stand with a girl or boy. I said the typical deflection comments: why are you 1) going on about sex, I'm 16 and your my own mum and 2) why are you disguising this over ice cream and true crime shows? 😅
Honestly I'm at a loss for what to say and what to do. I don't want to disappoint my mum but then again I don't want to fake who I am to my own family. This is a super sticky situation. If anyone has an suggestions I will be forever in your debt. 💜💜💜
FWI: I spoiled it purly because this made me uncomfortable and I don't want anyone else feeling uncomfy 💜
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Enby (16) as the title says, I don't know what to say to my mum about the subject. She's pro LGBTQ so that's not the issue it's just outright admitting it that's whats making me anxious.
So, we were alone downstairs and my mum asks me if I'm going to look for a relationship someday in college. I replied by saying I'm not interested with being in a relationship with someone, as an Aromatic would do. Then she asked if I was the type to participate in a short term stand with a girl or boy. I said the typical deflection comments: why are you 1) going on about sex, I'm 16 and your my own mum and 2) why are you disguising this over ice cream and true crime shows? 😅
Honestly I'm at a loss for what to say and what to do. I don't want to disappoint my mum but then again I don't want to fake who I am to my own family. This is a super sticky situation. If anyone has an suggestions I will be forever in your debt. 💜💜💜
FWI: I spoiled it purly because this made me uncomfortable and I don't want anyone else feeling uncomfy 💜
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I think I’m ruining my marriage.
I’m 25f my spouse is 26f, to give some back story I was overly sexual growing up after being molested at a young age. Around 13 I was SA’ed and just went completely over board. I ended up having sex with many many many people from both genders. Around 18 I was for sure I was a lesbian. (Having sex with men began making me puke) Fast forward to 2018 , I met my wife and we hit off pretty quickly and became sexually active very fast. She introduced me to stimulants and I ended up becoming addicted to cocaine. She indulged me and it got to the point where I was doing it all day everyday for about 3 years starting in 2018 till about 2021. We got sober and a week into sobriety we got married.
I was hyper sexual with her on drugs and than still pretty sexual after. But within the last year or so i slowly stopped feeling like I wanted to sex. I honestly felt no sexual arousal for anything.
Recently it’s completely stopped, I don’t feel the urge to want to have sex, I don’t want to be physically touched in my androgynous zones and I’ve pretty much become sex repulsed.
I told my wife this and she’s convinced it’s her and that I’m not attracted to her specifically anymore. I try to explain to her that’s not it, that I feel like it’s just who I am now. I tried whatever I could to want to do this with her but even the last time we tried I almost puked.
When I asked my friends for help they basically said to just suck it up, it’s my duty as a wife.
I feel like I’m letting her down and I personally can’t stand the thought of her being with someone else.. I know it’s selfish. I feel like I’m a terrible wife and I don’t know what to do…
Should I just suck it up?
Should I just try to fight my insecurities and let her be with another person?
I beat myself up daily about this.. what’s wrong with me?
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I’m 25f my spouse is 26f, to give some back story I was overly sexual growing up after being molested at a young age. Around 13 I was SA’ed and just went completely over board. I ended up having sex with many many many people from both genders. Around 18 I was for sure I was a lesbian. (Having sex with men began making me puke) Fast forward to 2018 , I met my wife and we hit off pretty quickly and became sexually active very fast. She introduced me to stimulants and I ended up becoming addicted to cocaine. She indulged me and it got to the point where I was doing it all day everyday for about 3 years starting in 2018 till about 2021. We got sober and a week into sobriety we got married.
I was hyper sexual with her on drugs and than still pretty sexual after. But within the last year or so i slowly stopped feeling like I wanted to sex. I honestly felt no sexual arousal for anything.
Recently it’s completely stopped, I don’t feel the urge to want to have sex, I don’t want to be physically touched in my androgynous zones and I’ve pretty much become sex repulsed.
I told my wife this and she’s convinced it’s her and that I’m not attracted to her specifically anymore. I try to explain to her that’s not it, that I feel like it’s just who I am now. I tried whatever I could to want to do this with her but even the last time we tried I almost puked.
When I asked my friends for help they basically said to just suck it up, it’s my duty as a wife.
I feel like I’m letting her down and I personally can’t stand the thought of her being with someone else.. I know it’s selfish. I feel like I’m a terrible wife and I don’t know what to do…
Should I just suck it up?
Should I just try to fight my insecurities and let her be with another person?
I beat myself up daily about this.. what’s wrong with me?
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hell is real and it is my dating options as an asexual person
So, all my life I've avoided feeling anything romantic towards other people because, even before I knew the word "asexual", I knew that sex did not appeal to me at all, and that for most people, no sex in a relationship is an instant deal breaker even though I am okay with every single other thing that comes with a relationship.
About a year ago, I found out I was asexual, sex-repulsed, and biromantic.
After taking some time to process it all, I felt ready to let go of that mental block and to put myself out there. So, I looked up dating apps/websites specifically geared towards other aces and created a profile, hoping to find compatible people near me I would be interested in getting to know better.
Guess what? Absolutely no one. Not even just people who aren't, like, my age range, or don't seem appealing personality wise, I mean no one at all. Zero. Not just in my city, but in the whole landmass I currently live in, not a single profile.
What am I even supposed to do? It was hard enough a thing to accept finding someone "the old-fashioned way" would be next to impossible and that I would likely need to turn to the online dating world. But not even that is an option, it seems. I don't even live in that small of a place, the entire island I live in probably has a population of around 300K people.
As someone who is not willing to compromise by means of an open relationship, or to just do it to satisfy my partner even though I find it absolutely repulsive, it feels like I'll die alone.
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So, all my life I've avoided feeling anything romantic towards other people because, even before I knew the word "asexual", I knew that sex did not appeal to me at all, and that for most people, no sex in a relationship is an instant deal breaker even though I am okay with every single other thing that comes with a relationship.
About a year ago, I found out I was asexual, sex-repulsed, and biromantic.
After taking some time to process it all, I felt ready to let go of that mental block and to put myself out there. So, I looked up dating apps/websites specifically geared towards other aces and created a profile, hoping to find compatible people near me I would be interested in getting to know better.
Guess what? Absolutely no one. Not even just people who aren't, like, my age range, or don't seem appealing personality wise, I mean no one at all. Zero. Not just in my city, but in the whole landmass I currently live in, not a single profile.
What am I even supposed to do? It was hard enough a thing to accept finding someone "the old-fashioned way" would be next to impossible and that I would likely need to turn to the online dating world. But not even that is an option, it seems. I don't even live in that small of a place, the entire island I live in probably has a population of around 300K people.
As someone who is not willing to compromise by means of an open relationship, or to just do it to satisfy my partner even though I find it absolutely repulsive, it feels like I'll die alone.
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How would you explain libido to a non-asexual?
I’m taking testosterone and one of the side effects is increased libido or arousal. My partner was a little excited about this thinking it might change my Asexuality.
But I’m trying to explain to him that just because I have a libido (experience arousal) doesn’t mean I want sex. Usually my arousal just happens. It’s not really triggered by anything. Often my libido is not paired with sexual desire so I just ‘self manage’ and get on with my day.
My partner asked why I don’t come to him when I want to “manage” my libido. Because it’s not sexual desire. I do not desire sex. My body is having a biological reaction to the testosterone.
I looked up the definition of libido and it says it is “sexual desire”. So I guess how I view my libido is an asexual reaction. To me it’s just biology that can be annoying sometimes and has to managed. Like my period.
How would you explain it?
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I’m taking testosterone and one of the side effects is increased libido or arousal. My partner was a little excited about this thinking it might change my Asexuality.
But I’m trying to explain to him that just because I have a libido (experience arousal) doesn’t mean I want sex. Usually my arousal just happens. It’s not really triggered by anything. Often my libido is not paired with sexual desire so I just ‘self manage’ and get on with my day.
My partner asked why I don’t come to him when I want to “manage” my libido. Because it’s not sexual desire. I do not desire sex. My body is having a biological reaction to the testosterone.
I looked up the definition of libido and it says it is “sexual desire”. So I guess how I view my libido is an asexual reaction. To me it’s just biology that can be annoying sometimes and has to managed. Like my period.
How would you explain it?
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HELP! Ace woman married to allo man!
Hello! I am 23 years old, cis woman. I'm bi/pan and probably somewhere on the ace spectrum. I am married to a wonderful allo man. We've been married a year. I really need some advice. This is a long post. I have a lot to get off my chest. There are 3 parts to this post: background, confession, advice.
1. Background
We were both virgins when we got married. We both grew up religious and evangelical. I am no longer a Christian, he still is, but he's not super conservative. Before getting married, I had never looked at porn or read erotica. I grew up sexually repressed due to toxic religious environment. I am also traumatized due to my parents abusing me, parentifying me, infantilizing me, enduring their homophobia, and them oversharing their sex life with me. It's hard to tell if I'm truly ace or just repressed. My husband did not grow with nearly as much repression as I did. We discovered our kinkiness together, which is awesome. Even though I'm bi, I have only been with men. My husband is straight.
2. Confession
Now that background is out of the way, here comes the confession part.
Someone please help. I am so scared. I feel utterly alone. I H-A-T-E sex. I cannot stress this enough. Penetration brings pain. Hand jobs and oral sex make me want to vomit. Plus strong sensory issues. I have tried them many times. They make me want to vomit and are just painfully boring. Adding kink helps some but not a lot. I am attracted to men and male bodies, just not genitalia. I am not attracted to vaginas, either, although I could stomach intimate relations with vulva owners more so than penis owners. I love kissing, cuddling, emotional connection, romance, roleplay, kinky stuff....just please God. Not. Sex. I don't know how to tell him. He's convinced it's all just a matter of skill. We've had multiple conversations. I've gotten ok at pretending. It can only be tolerable with kink but even then, why can't we just have kinky cuddles?! It would be a relief to me if I never had to have sex with anyone, regardless of anatomy or gender.
3. Advice
The way I see it, I have 4 options.
have sexual activities and endure, try to add kink and hope it gets better
sexless marriage
open marriage/polaymory
divorce
I cannot stress how much I L-O-V-E my husband but H-A-T-E sex. Someone please help. Please. Thank you.
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Hello! I am 23 years old, cis woman. I'm bi/pan and probably somewhere on the ace spectrum. I am married to a wonderful allo man. We've been married a year. I really need some advice. This is a long post. I have a lot to get off my chest. There are 3 parts to this post: background, confession, advice.
1. Background
We were both virgins when we got married. We both grew up religious and evangelical. I am no longer a Christian, he still is, but he's not super conservative. Before getting married, I had never looked at porn or read erotica. I grew up sexually repressed due to toxic religious environment. I am also traumatized due to my parents abusing me, parentifying me, infantilizing me, enduring their homophobia, and them oversharing their sex life with me. It's hard to tell if I'm truly ace or just repressed. My husband did not grow with nearly as much repression as I did. We discovered our kinkiness together, which is awesome. Even though I'm bi, I have only been with men. My husband is straight.
2. Confession
Now that background is out of the way, here comes the confession part.
Someone please help. I am so scared. I feel utterly alone. I H-A-T-E sex. I cannot stress this enough. Penetration brings pain. Hand jobs and oral sex make me want to vomit. Plus strong sensory issues. I have tried them many times. They make me want to vomit and are just painfully boring. Adding kink helps some but not a lot. I am attracted to men and male bodies, just not genitalia. I am not attracted to vaginas, either, although I could stomach intimate relations with vulva owners more so than penis owners. I love kissing, cuddling, emotional connection, romance, roleplay, kinky stuff....just please God. Not. Sex. I don't know how to tell him. He's convinced it's all just a matter of skill. We've had multiple conversations. I've gotten ok at pretending. It can only be tolerable with kink but even then, why can't we just have kinky cuddles?! It would be a relief to me if I never had to have sex with anyone, regardless of anatomy or gender.
3. Advice
The way I see it, I have 4 options.
have sexual activities and endure, try to add kink and hope it gets better
sexless marriage
open marriage/polaymory
divorce
I cannot stress how much I L-O-V-E my husband but H-A-T-E sex. Someone please help. Please. Thank you.
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Am I Asexual?
If you are questioning whether or not you are asexual (including all microlabels), reply to this post with what made you start questioning, and why.
If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.
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If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.
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When does usually one start feeling attraction?
(16M) This might be an odd question, but I was wondering since I've seen many say that you're too young to know if you're ace/aro at 16.
I would say personally I don't know 100% what I am right now and feel fine with that, but I started puberty relativly early at around 10-11 so I guess that would have given me 5-6 years to feel some attraction at least for now?
I tried googling But kept getting different answers, but generally when would one usually start developing attraction towards others?
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(16M) This might be an odd question, but I was wondering since I've seen many say that you're too young to know if you're ace/aro at 16.
I would say personally I don't know 100% what I am right now and feel fine with that, but I started puberty relativly early at around 10-11 so I guess that would have given me 5-6 years to feel some attraction at least for now?
I tried googling But kept getting different answers, but generally when would one usually start developing attraction towards others?
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Anyone else wish you were less Asexual?
Like, I used to have more of a sex drive, and wish I still did. I kinda don’t know how to date nowadays.
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Like, I used to have more of a sex drive, and wish I still did. I kinda don’t know how to date nowadays.
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Is it normal for a orgasm to not be that great?
I'm new here, and the only real time I "interract" with reddit is just watching AITA videos, so apologies if I don't do this right.
I've known that I'm asxeual for a while, and that I'm mostly sex repulsed. Perfectly fine and happy with that. I never wanted to explore down there and find the idea gross. But I've had intrusive thoughts, mainly sexual, that have been freaking me out. I know they're intrusive and not indicative of me as a person, but they're not pleasant. My therapist thought that maybe I'm too repressed sexually and so I started exploring.
The problem is that I don't find it all that great. I don't go "all in" so to speak, but I've been told that the female orgasm feels like peeing kinda, so I'm pretty sure I've orgasmed. I don't know for certain tho as I've been told orgasms feel amazing and I've heard it called "the little death" because it's so good. Honestly, I don't get it. Don't get me wrong, it kinda feels good, just not amazing.
My mom always told me that I'll know when I've orgasmed, so I've been holding back on this break down for a while now. I'm just worried that there's something wrong with me.
Is it normal for asexual people to just not enjoy orgasms all that much?
https://redd.it/1eq7pt8
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I'm new here, and the only real time I "interract" with reddit is just watching AITA videos, so apologies if I don't do this right.
I've known that I'm asxeual for a while, and that I'm mostly sex repulsed. Perfectly fine and happy with that. I never wanted to explore down there and find the idea gross. But I've had intrusive thoughts, mainly sexual, that have been freaking me out. I know they're intrusive and not indicative of me as a person, but they're not pleasant. My therapist thought that maybe I'm too repressed sexually and so I started exploring.
The problem is that I don't find it all that great. I don't go "all in" so to speak, but I've been told that the female orgasm feels like peeing kinda, so I'm pretty sure I've orgasmed. I don't know for certain tho as I've been told orgasms feel amazing and I've heard it called "the little death" because it's so good. Honestly, I don't get it. Don't get me wrong, it kinda feels good, just not amazing.
My mom always told me that I'll know when I've orgasmed, so I've been holding back on this break down for a while now. I'm just worried that there's something wrong with me.
Is it normal for asexual people to just not enjoy orgasms all that much?
https://redd.it/1eq7pt8
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since this works so well in the bi subreddit, let's try it ourselves
type "I'm asexual which means I'm attracted to" and let autocomplete fill in the rest.
I'll start:
I'm asexual which means I'm attracted to someone that is not quite sure how to proceed with a knife.
https://redd.it/1eq7991
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type "I'm asexual which means I'm attracted to" and let autocomplete fill in the rest.
I'll start:
I'm asexual which means I'm attracted to someone that is not quite sure how to proceed with a knife.
https://redd.it/1eq7991
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