I'm asexual. Thanks for helping me figure that out, Todd Chavez from BJH.
Some shit happened in 2020 that made me question a lot of things about my sexuality. (TMI for the next few sentences) I slept with a guy, it was terrible, I wasn't sure if I was supposed to enjoy it at all and I was very, very dry throughout the whole thing- I just wanted it to be over. Then I thought MAYBE it was only terrible bc it was the first and it was forced. Then it happened again and same output. I was bored as shit and the guy looked at me like I was supposed to be enjoying so I pretended to be enjoying and thought, maybe he's just bad at this. Maybe I'm just not used to it. Pandemic started, I had a reason to never see him again (I hope he's dead!) and started watching Bojack Horseman because my life was depressing at that time and I wanted to watch someone with a more depressing life. Enjoyed the small arc of Todd figuring out he's asexual and finding sexless love and realized I really wanted that for myself. Do I want to have kids? Hell no. Am I ever turned on? I don't think so tbh. I'm open to my uh sexually active friends discussing sex but I don't know how to react most of the time. Many ppl have admitted that sex IS gross but they can't help it so
I'm getting off topic sorry. Todd is the best asexual representation I know of. He helped me understand small things about myself. Like how sex, for me, will ruin an evening. How watching movies with a significant other sounds more romantic than riding him. How talking to people and finding a connection is better than making out. The show taught me that it's going to be hard finding a sexless relationship with an emotional connection but it's not impossible. While Todd’s asexuality doesn’t define his character, he has to learn that in a world that likes to pretend that people like him don’t exist, finding love isn’t as simple as finding someone who shares your identity. When Todd assures Yolanda after breaking up with her that there is someone out there who is perfect for her who also doesn’t want to have sex, she asks “But what if there isn’t?” and it’s an inescapable fact. Definitely check out Bojack Horseman!
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Some shit happened in 2020 that made me question a lot of things about my sexuality. (TMI for the next few sentences) I slept with a guy, it was terrible, I wasn't sure if I was supposed to enjoy it at all and I was very, very dry throughout the whole thing- I just wanted it to be over. Then I thought MAYBE it was only terrible bc it was the first and it was forced. Then it happened again and same output. I was bored as shit and the guy looked at me like I was supposed to be enjoying so I pretended to be enjoying and thought, maybe he's just bad at this. Maybe I'm just not used to it. Pandemic started, I had a reason to never see him again (I hope he's dead!) and started watching Bojack Horseman because my life was depressing at that time and I wanted to watch someone with a more depressing life. Enjoyed the small arc of Todd figuring out he's asexual and finding sexless love and realized I really wanted that for myself. Do I want to have kids? Hell no. Am I ever turned on? I don't think so tbh. I'm open to my uh sexually active friends discussing sex but I don't know how to react most of the time. Many ppl have admitted that sex IS gross but they can't help it so
I'm getting off topic sorry. Todd is the best asexual representation I know of. He helped me understand small things about myself. Like how sex, for me, will ruin an evening. How watching movies with a significant other sounds more romantic than riding him. How talking to people and finding a connection is better than making out. The show taught me that it's going to be hard finding a sexless relationship with an emotional connection but it's not impossible. While Todd’s asexuality doesn’t define his character, he has to learn that in a world that likes to pretend that people like him don’t exist, finding love isn’t as simple as finding someone who shares your identity. When Todd assures Yolanda after breaking up with her that there is someone out there who is perfect for her who also doesn’t want to have sex, she asks “But what if there isn’t?” and it’s an inescapable fact. Definitely check out Bojack Horseman!
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I'm asexual. Thanks for helping me figure that out, Todd Chavez...
Some shit happened in 2020 that made me question a lot of things about my sexuality. (TMI for the next few sentences) I slept with a guy, it was...
Being asexual feels like a burden.
I’ve never met another ace person IRL in my 24 years of existence. I don’t even try to engage emotionally with the individuals I fall in love with, because they’re allo. It’s making me so sad and frustrated that being in the presence of an allo I have a crush on makes me inevitably nauseous due to anxiety.
I had a traumatising 3-year long relationship, during which I realised (too late) that sex wasn’t my thing but felt obligated to do it anyway, and got dumped as soon as I started expressing my will to stop. That relationship ended more than five years ago but still haunts me to this day.
I usually don’t care about being single and with no ace friends, but today I feel really alone and needed to vent. Thanks for taking the time to read this.
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I’ve never met another ace person IRL in my 24 years of existence. I don’t even try to engage emotionally with the individuals I fall in love with, because they’re allo. It’s making me so sad and frustrated that being in the presence of an allo I have a crush on makes me inevitably nauseous due to anxiety.
I had a traumatising 3-year long relationship, during which I realised (too late) that sex wasn’t my thing but felt obligated to do it anyway, and got dumped as soon as I started expressing my will to stop. That relationship ended more than five years ago but still haunts me to this day.
I usually don’t care about being single and with no ace friends, but today I feel really alone and needed to vent. Thanks for taking the time to read this.
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Being asexual feels like a burden.
I’ve never met another ace person IRL in my 24 years of existence. I don’t even try to engage emotionally with the individuals I fall in love...
We hope the offer is appeasing and you will join us in the invasion 👀
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Not nervous around “crush” (Is this actually romantic attraction?)
So, let’s start with the fact that this is one of the only girls I’ve ever been attracted to, (I believe I’ve been attracted to maybe one or two other girls, but I’m not sure.) and that I’ve been having trouble with aesthetic and romantic attraction lately. I’ve only ever been attracted to guys and this feels different to word in at best. That’s why I’m thinking it might not be romantic. I don’t feel nervous around her (at least not that much.) I’m good friends with her and pretty comfortable around her. I only realized I might like her after someone mentioned something to me. Mostly about the way I speak about her. I thought about it and I would like to do more “intimate things” with her. Nothing sexual, just things that would be deemed romantic, which I’m honestly not sure if I’ve ever wanted to do with guys or other genders in general. It’s the fact that I’m not nervous around her that throws me off. Could this be romantic attraction, or maybe a different form of attraction? Could one of you explain romantic attraction in a better way? Thank you. I’m only asking because of that. Not because I plan on getting with her
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So, let’s start with the fact that this is one of the only girls I’ve ever been attracted to, (I believe I’ve been attracted to maybe one or two other girls, but I’m not sure.) and that I’ve been having trouble with aesthetic and romantic attraction lately. I’ve only ever been attracted to guys and this feels different to word in at best. That’s why I’m thinking it might not be romantic. I don’t feel nervous around her (at least not that much.) I’m good friends with her and pretty comfortable around her. I only realized I might like her after someone mentioned something to me. Mostly about the way I speak about her. I thought about it and I would like to do more “intimate things” with her. Nothing sexual, just things that would be deemed romantic, which I’m honestly not sure if I’ve ever wanted to do with guys or other genders in general. It’s the fact that I’m not nervous around her that throws me off. Could this be romantic attraction, or maybe a different form of attraction? Could one of you explain romantic attraction in a better way? Thank you. I’m only asking because of that. Not because I plan on getting with her
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Not nervous around “crush” (Is this actually romantic attraction?)
So, let’s start with the fact that this is one of the only girls I’ve ever been attracted to, (I believe I’ve been attracted to maybe one or two...
Conspicuously crossposted from good new sub for both ace and aro spec content
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Just your Friendly Neighborhood Asexual reminding everyone there is No Way to "Look Asexual" 🖤🌙✨💫🖤
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Just your Friendly Neighborhood Asexual reminding everyone there...
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