Dear fellow aces & aros, before 2021 ends:

I love you

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My fam is really anti lgbtq+ so I win my own little battles, lets see if anybody notices? (P.s. mind how rough it is I don't art very often)
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who is someone from a tv show or movie you think is aromantic or an asexual?



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So, recently, discovered this particular term and wondering if it fits me. Has anyone else heard of Autochorissexual before? Anyone know/are someone who identifies as this?
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A Wild Ace-olotl Appeared!
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The reason for aphobia (maybe)

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I might have figured out why aphobia is a thing

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I hope this shred of representation disproportionately makes your days like it made mine :]
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Recs for aro-ace musicians?

Am familiar with Cavetown

Thanks in advance :)

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I wish not to be horny
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What is doggy style? Wrong answers only

I'll go first: Doggy style is licking your plate clean after eating

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Ace hoodie… should I buy it?
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Do you guys accept Apothisexuals?

Apothisexual is a person who is asexual and also sex repulsed

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The correct response to "my asexual girlfriend doesn't want sex" is not "well aces can still enjoy sex"

I've seen this come up so many times, in a space that's supposed to be safe for all aces including ones who will never ever enjoy sex.

(Before I go on: I have no problem with sex favorable aces. This post just isn't about you.)

Our rules for consent are not looser. If we don't want to, we don't want to. Especially as a woman, I already get told to 'learn to like it.' I already get told 'do it for his sake.' And then, if not that, I get told 'go to a therapist' or 'you're just not compatible.'

Sure, people accept that asexual women are ace, but then instead of asking 'what do you want?' they ask 'what can you put up with?' Again: Our rules for consent are just the same as they are for everyone else. If you wouldn't ask a gay man if he could put up with dating a woman, don't ask us to do things we wouldn't do of our own accord.

Maybe I'm not compatible with 99% of the population, like so many people on Reddit love to say, but I'm sure there's a better place to say that.

And also: let's not pretend we're the only ones 'tricking people.' In how many of these relationships did the allosexual partner tell their asexual, sex-repulsed partner that they were perfectly fine with a sexless relationship, and then later when they were committed, change their mind?

It's fine to leave. I may not personally understand how you can be 'so in love with someone' that you'd want them to have sex they don't want to have, but I don't judge anyone for leaving a relationship.

Honestly, I'd rather read a hundred messages telling me I'll never find love than read one telling me that people like me can change. Even if it comes from someone who's also on the ace spectrum. Your advice may work for you, if you're sex-favorable or sex-neutral or gray-ace or demi-sexual, but my sex repulsion is just as important to me as not being attracted to anyone.

If she doesn't want to have sex, she doesn't want to. I'm tired of 'liberating' myself and waking up in the same cage I've always been in.

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