A world without sex

Kinda wish I lived in a world without it sometimes, so at least I feel normal for not wanting it.

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Relatable
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Do you need to have sex first to know if you're asexual?

I myself am still a virgin but feel very strongly that I may be asexual/demisexual/aegosexual but feel like i cant call myself that because I've never even had sex. But at the same time I kinda dont want to be put in that situation to find out, but I do at the same time?

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edit: To clarify, I mean I dont want to be put in a situation where I meet someone I like and theres an expectation of having sex that I now have to meet. But I kinda want to force myself to do it to sort of know for sure what I even feel about it.

Just want to say thank you all for helping me clarify my thoughts and feelings. I'm happy that reddit exists so I can learn more about not only myself but about others as well. Now that I read the question I see that it's kinda silly but I'm glad I posted it regardless.

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I'm tired of people pretending to be allies (vent.)

I was over on r/ace (not going to do the entire aaaa) and someone asked what allos are. I explained it to them, and they immediately asked 'why not say normal?' We had an entire argument where the person just kept trying to justify why calling allos 'normal' was okay because asexuals weren't normal and I kept telling them that, no, it wasn't okay, because asexuals are normal. I called them out on pretending to be an ally, and they immediately jumped to saying they WERE an ally. They told me making up words (allosexual and alloromantic) just makes it harder for the community to be accessible to outsiders and people won't take asexuals seriously. (Because that's why queer people formed their own communities, right? So it's friendly and accessible to cishetallo people? /s)

I wasn't the only person who thought they were being an ass; they were being downvoted.

So I blocked them and they said I was throwing a hissy fit. For...blocking someone because I was done arguing with an aphobe.

I'm just tired of fake allies. If your response to an asexual person telling you that 'hey, asexuals are normal' is to throw a tantrum and say other people won't take you seriously, you aren't an ally. You're a aphobe pretending to be an ally.

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Just checking
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Hell yeah
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Person at Pizza Hut gave me a free slab of garlic bread 👌🏻
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this is us
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relatable
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Why does everyone hate ace people so much??

Recently I have been on tiktok and seen multiple videos of people talking about asexually and how it’s “not real” or how ace people are just straight and things of that nature. I am new to the ace community so I don’t know a whole lot but why do people hate asexuals so much? It’s annoying and lowkey makes me upset when I see this stuff but I just don’t know why people are like this.

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Very ironic indeed
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If you ever feel useless, just remember that my gender fluid ace ass just got this in my Spotify recommended:
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Told my therapist I'm Ace today

I knew she was pretty open minded, as on our first meeting she asked for my pronouns. When I told her that I realised recently that I'm Ace, she seemed pretty supportive, although it didn't quite seem that she completely understood what it meant. She has told me that she'll research into it more for our future meetings so she can better understand me and is happy that I've found a label for myself that helps bring me more clarity in myself. She also kept apologising in case she said anything that wasnt quite right. She's the only person I've told other than my boyfriend so I'm quite happy. It's nice to know that medical professionals are a little more open minded these days so I wanted to share this.

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i haven’t played enough to know whether or not this is what it looks like, but i still prefer to think that this is what she wants
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There is so much nuance within the spectrum of sexuality and romance. Let’s see what’s out there and get eyes on the variety!
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Asexual representation in video games.

Yesterday, I was thinking about asexual representation in video games and realised that there are almost no representation of asexuality in video games.

So, I thought about the most relatable video games and my mind went directly to Life Is Strange games.

I don't know why I thought about it first eventhough all the characters are clearly not asexual, but I felt some kind of representation in it. Maybe it's because I'm biromantic? I don't know. Does anyone feel the same or is it just me?

I didn't feel that way towards Life Is Strange games only, but I also thought about the rebooted Tomb Raider games. I feel like the rebooted Lara Croft is somehow ace or aroace. She looks like she's not interested in anything but her work and it feels relatable.

I've seen alot of people headcanoning her as a lesbian because of her relationship with her bestfriend Sam, but I feel like she might be ace.

Maybe it's just my mind or maybe I've gone crazy because of the lack of representation.

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I don't know if I feel romantic attraction or not.

That's it. That's the post. I don't really know what flair to put this under, but I feel like just voicing it would help me to not think about it so much.

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G A R L I C
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this feels asexual
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It’s more painful when I experience Acephobia from the LGBTQIAA+ Community

Cause I don’t really expect much from cishetallo people cause maybe they aren’t informed or are just hateful
But when I get it from my own community it feels bad, the worst part is how anytime I mention being Ace or Acephobia in LGBTQIAA spaces I usually get discredited and they try to play “oppression/discrimination olympics” with me and it’s so frustrating
The worst part is how I always try not to play that game cause I would hands down win, the shit I’ve been through and face as someone who doesn’t fit into Heteronormative way of thinking in my country where they are laws in place that kill queer people
And then when I’m talking about my issues somebody would try to invalidate my experience

Thanks for all the support I’m getting here also please I would advise y’all to not visit the subreddit r/askgaybros cause it’s filled with a lot of Acephobia and hate
Apparently from what I’ve heard it’s generally not a safe space for anyone that doesn’t fit in with their standards

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