How do you feel about the daily “is my partner ace?” posts?
Interested in what other people’s take on this is. It’s not one or two posts, it’s all the time!
I think people ask with the best intentions, but it comes from a place of entitlement and allo privilege. I don’t think we need to hear how miserable a fellow ace is making their partner by not putting out. Our community really lacks in pride, and stuff like this just contributes to that. Also hate that there are asexuals who feel they have to partake in sexual activity just to keep their partner happy. I have so much love and empathy for our community, this should be a safe space. Kinda feels like a bit of an invasion.
What’s your take?
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Interested in what other people’s take on this is. It’s not one or two posts, it’s all the time!
I think people ask with the best intentions, but it comes from a place of entitlement and allo privilege. I don’t think we need to hear how miserable a fellow ace is making their partner by not putting out. Our community really lacks in pride, and stuff like this just contributes to that. Also hate that there are asexuals who feel they have to partake in sexual activity just to keep their partner happy. I have so much love and empathy for our community, this should be a safe space. Kinda feels like a bit of an invasion.
What’s your take?
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Guess what I found! A perfect recipe for garlic bread
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There are allosauruses, but where are asauruses? This is ace erasure!
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Finding safer community
Maybe it's just me but as non-materialistic queer/ asexual neurodivergent person I constantly feel like I'm attracting same type of people who "get off" on trying to see me poor or mentally vulnerable to
"break me"
Since I essentially don't want all the things a normal person should want, sometimes I feel off-put by the peer pressure to do things. Any tips on how to handle these misaligned situations??
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Maybe it's just me but as non-materialistic queer/ asexual neurodivergent person I constantly feel like I'm attracting same type of people who "get off" on trying to see me poor or mentally vulnerable to
"break me"
Since I essentially don't want all the things a normal person should want, sometimes I feel off-put by the peer pressure to do things. Any tips on how to handle these misaligned situations??
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I am doing great today! ( sexuality OCD vent sorry if it is a long post)
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What asexual dating platforms are out there?
Just curious if there's anything else besides acespace
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Just curious if there's anything else besides acespace
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Is asexuality part of the queer community?
So I (23f) am bisexual and definitely on the asexuality spectrum, and think of myself as queer. The issue is that I don’t want to say that I am if being asexual is not included in the queer terminology. Anyway idk if that made sense lol and any advice would be greatly appreciated!
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So I (23f) am bisexual and definitely on the asexuality spectrum, and think of myself as queer. The issue is that I don’t want to say that I am if being asexual is not included in the queer terminology. Anyway idk if that made sense lol and any advice would be greatly appreciated!
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Confused if I am ace or not
Hi, I(25F) am trying to understand where I fall on the sexual orientation spectrum, and I’m confused about whether I might be asexual or trauma-averse to sex. I’ve never felt sexual attraction to anyone, even though I can recognize when someone is attractive like seeing a painting, I mean I get the techniques and strokes but I don't want to disrupt with the painting. I’ve only felt romantic attraction toward men. I enjoy the idea of cuddling, hand-holding, cheek kisses, and emotional closeness, but sexual activity, being naked with someone, or even lip-kissing makes me uncomfortable or nauseous. I have libido during ovulation, but it feels purely physical like being hungry or thirsty. Also, I have a history of sexual abuse (a female relative in childhood for 7 years and assault by a guy when I was 23), so I’m trying to untangle that too. When I told my close friend I might be ace, she said not to label myself because “sexual attraction will come naturally in a serious relationship,” which only confused me more. I want companionship and a long-term partner, but I don’t know where I fit or how to label this. And I feel like getting into a relationship just to see if I am ace or not seems highly unfair to my future partner.
I cannot stop thinking about this and I am highly confused. I live in a pretty conservative place so talking about this openly isn't a viable option. This is kind of gnawing me from inside out so some feedback or advice would be highly appreciated, please.
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Hi, I(25F) am trying to understand where I fall on the sexual orientation spectrum, and I’m confused about whether I might be asexual or trauma-averse to sex. I’ve never felt sexual attraction to anyone, even though I can recognize when someone is attractive like seeing a painting, I mean I get the techniques and strokes but I don't want to disrupt with the painting. I’ve only felt romantic attraction toward men. I enjoy the idea of cuddling, hand-holding, cheek kisses, and emotional closeness, but sexual activity, being naked with someone, or even lip-kissing makes me uncomfortable or nauseous. I have libido during ovulation, but it feels purely physical like being hungry or thirsty. Also, I have a history of sexual abuse (a female relative in childhood for 7 years and assault by a guy when I was 23), so I’m trying to untangle that too. When I told my close friend I might be ace, she said not to label myself because “sexual attraction will come naturally in a serious relationship,” which only confused me more. I want companionship and a long-term partner, but I don’t know where I fit or how to label this. And I feel like getting into a relationship just to see if I am ace or not seems highly unfair to my future partner.
I cannot stop thinking about this and I am highly confused. I live in a pretty conservative place so talking about this openly isn't a viable option. This is kind of gnawing me from inside out so some feedback or advice would be highly appreciated, please.
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'Asexuality isn’t about a lack of intimacy, it’s about redefining it'
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Is it bad for me as someone who isn’t ace to seek dating asexual people?
I don’t like the constant pressure for sex that comes with relationships. It makes me feel uncomfortable and like my body isn’t mine. I do like sex and feel aroused, but usually not as often as the people I’m dating once the newness wears off. I would be fine if I never had it again. It turns into a chore that I constantly have to think about maintaining, and I really don’t want to live my life that way anymore. I want a partner who I wouldn’t be being “cruel” to if I never wanted to have sex again and I want a relationship where sex isn’t the most important thing for a connection. I feel some might say “just find someone like you” but a relationship where I either don’t care about sex or never wanna have sex again is considered cruel and unusual for most people who engage in it. I just wanna know some thoughts on this.
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I don’t like the constant pressure for sex that comes with relationships. It makes me feel uncomfortable and like my body isn’t mine. I do like sex and feel aroused, but usually not as often as the people I’m dating once the newness wears off. I would be fine if I never had it again. It turns into a chore that I constantly have to think about maintaining, and I really don’t want to live my life that way anymore. I want a partner who I wouldn’t be being “cruel” to if I never wanted to have sex again and I want a relationship where sex isn’t the most important thing for a connection. I feel some might say “just find someone like you” but a relationship where I either don’t care about sex or never wanna have sex again is considered cruel and unusual for most people who engage in it. I just wanna know some thoughts on this.
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Why are people like this? Why do people treat asexuals like they can't be romantically attracted to people because they are ace?
16F here. I think I honestly need some uplifting right now.
Recently I came out to my mom as lesbian ace, and she's been freaking out about it. She keeps yelling about how "it isn't possible to want romance without sex", and "that's all romance is" (its not). My mom can't separate in her head romantic and sexual attraction, and she's driving me insane with all her comments. She keeps saying stuff like: "so you like this girl?", "how do you know you won't ever be attracted to boys? maybe you haven't found the right guy yet!', "so you want to eat girls vaginas?" (cuz apparently that's how lesbians have sex), "maybe its just a girl crush, and you want to be her friend.", "I know your body better than you."
Yes I have a crush on a girl, no I don't want to fuck around with her. I want to hug her, and cuddle, and hold hands, and I want her to call me a "good girl" (don't ask), and maybe kiss her sometimes, and no I still don't want to fuck her. The thought of it disgusts me, it's absolutely repulsive. And its the same with men. I don't wanna fuck around with them either. No disrespect to heteronis, because you are free to like whomever you wish, but the idea of even being with a man repulses me, let alone fucking around with them. I could never imagine myself with a guy in the future, like ever. I always used to imagine myself living with my girl best friend, or not imagining anything at all. People used to even mentioned the idea of marrying a guy, or having a boyfriend, and I would be like "ewwwwww no." Like, I remember when I thought I was gonna end up living in an apartment with my friend after HS, and my mom said "well what are your boyfriends going to think of that?", and I was just confused and was like: "what boyfriend?", and then the conversation I mentioned prior took place.
And the frustrating thing is, that I have had some of those thoughts, and I overcame them (mostly), and she's just yelling them back at me like I'm broken, and that I don't understand myself, and I know she's scared and doesn't understand, but she's not even trying to. She think's I'm obsessed and confused, and that just because "I didn't talk about anything like this before", that these feelings are new, a product of brainwashing, when I've been very clear that I've done extensive research, and that I've literally always felt this way, and now I just have a word for it. She always just brushed me off, calling me "immature", and saying "you don't know what you're talking about, you don't know what you want." I've felt this way since I was fucking ten woman. If my opinion hasn't changed in the past six years of my life, I don't think it's ever going to, but I'm open to the change, if it ever happens. Yuck. It's not a fucking "hormone imbalance", or me being "scared", it's literally me being repulsed and asexual. I don't look at people ever and think "I'd love to get in their pants." I don't masturbate, and was surprised and disgusted when I learn that was a thing. Who wants to touch their privates for fun? And I definitely don't find the idea of sex appealing.
Sorry this is so long but how do I get this to stop? It's become so bad that it's starting to affect my mental health, and it's distracting me from all the other things going on in my life. It's starting to be that whenever I even romanticize about my crush, her negative thoughts enter my mind. I know she's just scared for me, and I just want to help her understand that I'm not broken. Please help.
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16F here. I think I honestly need some uplifting right now.
Recently I came out to my mom as lesbian ace, and she's been freaking out about it. She keeps yelling about how "it isn't possible to want romance without sex", and "that's all romance is" (its not). My mom can't separate in her head romantic and sexual attraction, and she's driving me insane with all her comments. She keeps saying stuff like: "so you like this girl?", "how do you know you won't ever be attracted to boys? maybe you haven't found the right guy yet!', "so you want to eat girls vaginas?" (cuz apparently that's how lesbians have sex), "maybe its just a girl crush, and you want to be her friend.", "I know your body better than you."
Yes I have a crush on a girl, no I don't want to fuck around with her. I want to hug her, and cuddle, and hold hands, and I want her to call me a "good girl" (don't ask), and maybe kiss her sometimes, and no I still don't want to fuck her. The thought of it disgusts me, it's absolutely repulsive. And its the same with men. I don't wanna fuck around with them either. No disrespect to heteronis, because you are free to like whomever you wish, but the idea of even being with a man repulses me, let alone fucking around with them. I could never imagine myself with a guy in the future, like ever. I always used to imagine myself living with my girl best friend, or not imagining anything at all. People used to even mentioned the idea of marrying a guy, or having a boyfriend, and I would be like "ewwwwww no." Like, I remember when I thought I was gonna end up living in an apartment with my friend after HS, and my mom said "well what are your boyfriends going to think of that?", and I was just confused and was like: "what boyfriend?", and then the conversation I mentioned prior took place.
And the frustrating thing is, that I have had some of those thoughts, and I overcame them (mostly), and she's just yelling them back at me like I'm broken, and that I don't understand myself, and I know she's scared and doesn't understand, but she's not even trying to. She think's I'm obsessed and confused, and that just because "I didn't talk about anything like this before", that these feelings are new, a product of brainwashing, when I've been very clear that I've done extensive research, and that I've literally always felt this way, and now I just have a word for it. She always just brushed me off, calling me "immature", and saying "you don't know what you're talking about, you don't know what you want." I've felt this way since I was fucking ten woman. If my opinion hasn't changed in the past six years of my life, I don't think it's ever going to, but I'm open to the change, if it ever happens. Yuck. It's not a fucking "hormone imbalance", or me being "scared", it's literally me being repulsed and asexual. I don't look at people ever and think "I'd love to get in their pants." I don't masturbate, and was surprised and disgusted when I learn that was a thing. Who wants to touch their privates for fun? And I definitely don't find the idea of sex appealing.
Sorry this is so long but how do I get this to stop? It's become so bad that it's starting to affect my mental health, and it's distracting me from all the other things going on in my life. It's starting to be that whenever I even romanticize about my crush, her negative thoughts enter my mind. I know she's just scared for me, and I just want to help her understand that I'm not broken. Please help.
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Films/series/books recommandations
Hi. I'm reading a book who talked about asexuality, it's 'Loveless' by Alice Oseman ( not finished it yet but find it interesting ) and i was wondering if someone have some recommandations for movies, series and/or books who talked about asexuality too.
It's recent that i'm thinking about being ace and for now i find it difficult to find some characters to identify with :/ .
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Hi. I'm reading a book who talked about asexuality, it's 'Loveless' by Alice Oseman ( not finished it yet but find it interesting ) and i was wondering if someone have some recommandations for movies, series and/or books who talked about asexuality too.
It's recent that i'm thinking about being ace and for now i find it difficult to find some characters to identify with :/ .
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