Blind Demi/Ace woman having no success at dating
I have created profiles on multiple dating apps, both Ace, friendly and generic, but I have had zero luck at finding even someone to go on a simple date with. I am 39 years old, female, and I have been told that I am very attractive. Unfortunately, the only places where I have had even a tiny bit of success was on Tinder, where men would complement my appearance and we would chat about interests and things for a while, I would share with them that I am demisexual and they would say it’s OK. But, a couple days to a week later, I always receive a message asking me to have sex with them. I’m not sure if I am only finding people who really just don’t get it when I explain what I am or if I just have really bad luck with finding genuine, honest men. Or, maybe my expectations are too high. I started started this journey identifying as asexual, but have recently revised my label to demisexual to try and increase my chances of finding someone, plus I think I would be OK with physical intimacy once a firm and solid relationship was established. But, it seems like the men all of the men I’ve been talking to want to jump straight into bed with me. Please give me advice on what I should do and where I should be looking. By the way, I have also tried a couple of the asexual dating apps, but because of my blindness, I have difficulty using them because it seems that these apps have not been developed with accessibility in mind.
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I have created profiles on multiple dating apps, both Ace, friendly and generic, but I have had zero luck at finding even someone to go on a simple date with. I am 39 years old, female, and I have been told that I am very attractive. Unfortunately, the only places where I have had even a tiny bit of success was on Tinder, where men would complement my appearance and we would chat about interests and things for a while, I would share with them that I am demisexual and they would say it’s OK. But, a couple days to a week later, I always receive a message asking me to have sex with them. I’m not sure if I am only finding people who really just don’t get it when I explain what I am or if I just have really bad luck with finding genuine, honest men. Or, maybe my expectations are too high. I started started this journey identifying as asexual, but have recently revised my label to demisexual to try and increase my chances of finding someone, plus I think I would be OK with physical intimacy once a firm and solid relationship was established. But, it seems like the men all of the men I’ve been talking to want to jump straight into bed with me. Please give me advice on what I should do and where I should be looking. By the way, I have also tried a couple of the asexual dating apps, but because of my blindness, I have difficulty using them because it seems that these apps have not been developed with accessibility in mind.
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Questions regarding sex life
Ive been feeling somewhat conflicted recently because sex just doesn't bring me the same joy it used to. I am a 20yo M and since recently getting into a sexual relationship with a friend I thought I would ask around to see if anyone has had a similar experience to this. I can still enjoy sex but it seems to be a lot rarer than compared to when I first started doing it with my first gf. A lot of the time during it I over think and focus too much on finishing, making the experience feel mediocre, almost to the point where I would rather just masterbait. If I do not use a condom it is much more enjoyable, but a lot of the time when I am using one sometimes I feel nothing at all and need to use my hand to finish, almost as if I am more comfortable with the feeling of my own hand. I should also note when I smoke weed the act itself is more enjoyable, but I can sometimes get anxiety and overthink how I look/feel, but I definitely finish better and faster. If i'm not high or if im drunk and have a condom it feels like I could go for hours on straight without finishing, and I usually just use my hand after a while. I also notice that sometimes I'm holding my breath to the point where my heart pounds to try and get to that point of finishing. I do not go one dates or to clubs or bars to get sex, I just have no motivation for that at all, but when I get into a sexual relationship with someone i'm more comfortable with It's still enjoyable a lot of the time but it just feels a lot more like a burden than it used to back when I was a teenager. I wouldn't say I am asexual because I still get pleasure from it but if its this much less than from when I'm younger how do I know I won't lose my sex drive completely? Does anyone feel this way? Any advice or opinions would be very much appreciated, thank you.
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Ive been feeling somewhat conflicted recently because sex just doesn't bring me the same joy it used to. I am a 20yo M and since recently getting into a sexual relationship with a friend I thought I would ask around to see if anyone has had a similar experience to this. I can still enjoy sex but it seems to be a lot rarer than compared to when I first started doing it with my first gf. A lot of the time during it I over think and focus too much on finishing, making the experience feel mediocre, almost to the point where I would rather just masterbait. If I do not use a condom it is much more enjoyable, but a lot of the time when I am using one sometimes I feel nothing at all and need to use my hand to finish, almost as if I am more comfortable with the feeling of my own hand. I should also note when I smoke weed the act itself is more enjoyable, but I can sometimes get anxiety and overthink how I look/feel, but I definitely finish better and faster. If i'm not high or if im drunk and have a condom it feels like I could go for hours on straight without finishing, and I usually just use my hand after a while. I also notice that sometimes I'm holding my breath to the point where my heart pounds to try and get to that point of finishing. I do not go one dates or to clubs or bars to get sex, I just have no motivation for that at all, but when I get into a sexual relationship with someone i'm more comfortable with It's still enjoyable a lot of the time but it just feels a lot more like a burden than it used to back when I was a teenager. I wouldn't say I am asexual because I still get pleasure from it but if its this much less than from when I'm younger how do I know I won't lose my sex drive completely? Does anyone feel this way? Any advice or opinions would be very much appreciated, thank you.
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What is with ppl always assuming paper rolls in bed are for something sexual?
I have always had a roll of paper on top of my bed frame or sometimes even in bed. I have allergies and struggle with my nose being stuffy when i try to sleep. I also wear glasses and it’s convenient to be able to clean my glasses with a fresh piece of paper whenever they get dusty.
I spend a lot of time in bed bc its comfy obviously so its nice to have. But i swear in every video i watch ppl make it out to be sexual as a joke and honestly maybe even mean it seriously and honestly it makes ME feel weird about it. What do u guys think about it? Am i the weird one?
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I have always had a roll of paper on top of my bed frame or sometimes even in bed. I have allergies and struggle with my nose being stuffy when i try to sleep. I also wear glasses and it’s convenient to be able to clean my glasses with a fresh piece of paper whenever they get dusty.
I spend a lot of time in bed bc its comfy obviously so its nice to have. But i swear in every video i watch ppl make it out to be sexual as a joke and honestly maybe even mean it seriously and honestly it makes ME feel weird about it. What do u guys think about it? Am i the weird one?
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What does it mean to be "queer" in terms of sexuality? It was never clear to me.
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Are You Aro (Advice)?
**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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Boyfriend forcefully gave me backshots.
Yeah okay the title is very weird and abstract so long story short. I, 19(M) I'm asexual and I genuinely cringe at the idea of having sex. However I do like kissing,holding hands and cuddling and that's my way of showing love and affection. I have a boyfriend and I told.him casually about asexuality and myself and he took it too in a casual way. He s very caring and loving and we ve been holding hands and kissing untill a few days ago he just pushed me to.the bed and said he wanted to do it. I was sooo taken aback and wanted to say NO GOD I HATE IT. ITS SOO FUCKIN WEIRD AND CRINGY AND WE LL JUST BE DELIVERING OURSELVES PAIN FOR JUST A NICE FEELIMG THAT LASTS ONLY FOR A MIN AND HALF AND THEN IT TAKES SO MUCH TIME TO RECOVER AND CLEAN UP AND ITS SO PAINFUL AND ANNOYING GOD NO STOP IT. but I thought that would make him feel bad and he would leave me if I was not fulfilling his desire over me and so I gave in and said SURE. Honestly it was so painful and I hated every second of it coz I was the bottom. I wanted to curse him and say no but the fear of our relationship coming to an end haunted me so much. After that he said he liked it and maybe would do me more and idk I hate it so much but still I ll have to just agree coz he s so loving,caring,smart,sexy and head over heels for.me and the thought that maybe a girl( he's bi) that is his type will fulfill his sexual desires would just take him away one day and I ll.be left alone.
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Yeah okay the title is very weird and abstract so long story short. I, 19(M) I'm asexual and I genuinely cringe at the idea of having sex. However I do like kissing,holding hands and cuddling and that's my way of showing love and affection. I have a boyfriend and I told.him casually about asexuality and myself and he took it too in a casual way. He s very caring and loving and we ve been holding hands and kissing untill a few days ago he just pushed me to.the bed and said he wanted to do it. I was sooo taken aback and wanted to say NO GOD I HATE IT. ITS SOO FUCKIN WEIRD AND CRINGY AND WE LL JUST BE DELIVERING OURSELVES PAIN FOR JUST A NICE FEELIMG THAT LASTS ONLY FOR A MIN AND HALF AND THEN IT TAKES SO MUCH TIME TO RECOVER AND CLEAN UP AND ITS SO PAINFUL AND ANNOYING GOD NO STOP IT. but I thought that would make him feel bad and he would leave me if I was not fulfilling his desire over me and so I gave in and said SURE. Honestly it was so painful and I hated every second of it coz I was the bottom. I wanted to curse him and say no but the fear of our relationship coming to an end haunted me so much. After that he said he liked it and maybe would do me more and idk I hate it so much but still I ll have to just agree coz he s so loving,caring,smart,sexy and head over heels for.me and the thought that maybe a girl( he's bi) that is his type will fulfill his sexual desires would just take him away one day and I ll.be left alone.
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