Sex-averse aces: do you still get crushes on people? What does that look like for you?

I’m sex-averse but I still find myself developing attraction to people for various non-sexual reasons. I’m curious if others experience something similar, or do you just not have attraction to others at all?

My favorite way of putting it is:

I don’t look at someone and think “damn, I want to hit that”.

I think, “damn, I want to cuddle that” :)

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Older aces do you worry about being lonely?

I’m at a crossroads. I’m almost 30 and every one of my friends is either in a long term relationship, engaged or married. They’re buying houses with their spouses. And I’m single and alone. But I’m ace. But I feel sad that I may just be along the rest of my life. And you could say oh well friendships! But my friends don’t have much time for me now that they’re partnered. And you could say oh find another ace! In my area that’d be like finding a needle in a cornfield. Its hard enough finding someone: single, similar interests, available, within generally my age, and ace?? Not exactly easy.

I wish I could have a normal relationship minus intimacy but who else in the world would want that.

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Anytime some rando tries to flirt…
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Downloaded Hinge, now I want to delete it

For some context, all throughout middle school, high school, and college I was pretty boy crazy. I had a lot of talking phases, but never had a proper boyfriend. I would lose interest really quickly though once they reciprocated, and eventually labeled myself as aroace. I still found men attractive throughout my 20’s, but it was mainly limerence and I got over it after a few months. I never talked to them or initiated anything.

I’m 29 now and decided to downloaded Hinge to test the waters. However, I’ve been finding myself so icked out as I look through the profiles. Not icked out by the men, but icked out by the concept of dating. It just feels so cringe and stressful for some reason. The talking stage, the pressure of intimacy, all the things that we have to consider for compatibility, the “red flags” and the “green flags”, it all feels so performative. I’d rather have a relationship progress like the ones you see in kdramas or a shoujo anime, but that’s not reality. Reality is more transactional.

I think I’ll probably delete Hinge and be single for the rest of my life lol. It just feels more comfortable that way. I do get lonely and want to act on my desires (visual attraction) sometimes, but then I think about how much work goes into it, and how cringe flirting is, and decided that it’s better to just stay single.

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Disappointed more people dont know how much we like garlic bread

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For other asexual woman, did getting your period scare you like it did for me?

Sorry if this question isn’t appropriate for this subreddit, and sorry if this isn’t the right flair. I have no idea what flair to use for this so I just guessed 😅.

When I got my first period, it scared me to death 💀. I was literally screaming and crying for like, five minutes, purely disgusted by the sound of them. I was wondering if I’m the only one?

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Horny as an asexual

Hallo Ladies, am I the only one who gets horny when I am on my period?

I hate the feeling so what do you do to deal with it? Any tips?

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