Is sexual attraction the main motivation to pursue someone?

I've never been in a relationship (34) and recently after learning the proper definition of asexual, it 100% applies to me. I've never experienced sexual attraction to a person, which I figured out after learning what sexual attraction is suppose to actually feel like. I do experience aesthetic attraction which sometimes gives a sort of lightening sensation throughout my body that lasts a second, but it very much feels not sexual.

I've never really had the motivation to actually get to really know someone I find aesthetically attractive except maybe to a small degree. I see all these guys trying to hit on women and putting in so much effort and motivation to talk to women, but I don't have any of that. So my question is, is it the sexual attraction that is the motivator for the relationship seeking behavior? It seems without sexual attraction I don't get the correct motivational biomarker indicators that would give me the drive to put in sufficient effort to get to know someone to see if a relationship is possible. Like I have to "force myself" to put myself out there, where it seems to be a natural consequence of desire for other people.

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germanic asexuality
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snow leopard for ace mascot
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Vigilante (Peacemaker - 2022-25) is Ace and nothing can convince me otherwise ☝🏼

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I want a movie about a zombie apocalypse that is only transmitted sexually and the only people who will survive is virgins and rampant asexuals

Not sure which flair to categorize this as :P

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What response would you give to an acephobic when speaking badly to you?



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Not wanting sex is okay

I always hear people trying to normalise sex, being a sexual being and getting rid of purity culture which I could not agree more with. But i think people tend to forget to normalise not wanting sex. I grew up with a close bond with my mom and when I was a teen here and there came the topics of sex, not just with mt mom but in life, everyone telling you and saying how it's okay to want it, do it no matter how much or with who which of course is as It should be but it made me feel broken for not wanting it. I have drained myself over it so much thinking it wasnt normal and that I needed to want it. Eveyones secual needs are different and thats okay. We need to speak up more and normalise both wanting it and not wanting it!!♡

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I was asked am I asexual

My cousin's friends (I have know them my whole life) asked me if I was asexual and a virgin. I do not talk about my sexual experiences, and most people have said I come off innocent. I am nice, reserved, and can be soft spoken, but I also have an intense side if needed. I am a male

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Is it normal to watch prn?

Is it normal to watch and like prn as an asexual or na?

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I don't understand how this concept is so astronomical for some people. It's really that simple.
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Am I Asexual?

If you are questioning whether or not you are asexual (including all microlabels), reply to this post with what made you start questioning, and why.

If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.

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Have you ever experienced a friendship so close, it could easily be mistaken for romance? Or even a romance so laid-back, it could easily be mistaken for friendship?



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Do asexuals want to be asexual?

I've been considering parts of my life recently, one of them being if I want to date or ever get married. During those conversations it came up that as someone who has never been in love, had any kind of crush or been in a relationship in 36 years I am likely asexual.

I'm unsure of this label, because I don't want to be asexual but multiple people have said that my view of relationships, lack of interest in masturbation, lack of interest in ONS or sexualizing women likely points to being both asexual and probably aromantic.

How would I actually know for sure?

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Saw a meme and decided to modify it (original is image 2)

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Am I?

I am 16M and recently have been going through some things religiously (mainly in the process of leaving a religion I had been tied to since birth), this sparked a questioning of my sexuality. In the past I had been attracted to women, and would watch porn, but recently I have become sort of disillusioned with all it, porn feels gross and weird after learning more about the industry and how harmful it is, and sex just feels like “why?”. Like I can’t personally justify a reason to have sex, it just sees not really appealing. Am I asexual?

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This is a perfect fit for us! :)
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Garlic bread!
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This sounds like us! :)
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Relationship Advice

Hello! Currently, I'm in a new relationship with a loving girlfriend (it's been nearly 2 months), the only problem is that I'm asexual (or at least somewhere on the spectrum. Maybe leaning towards aegosexual?) and I'm pretty sure she's hypersexual. She is polyamorous and has recently come to me about seeing another partner purely for sex. I agreed because I want her to feel better, and I have no problems with her being polyamorous, but now I think I just feel worse and worse about myself. I feel inadequate and like something is wrong with me, do all asexuals feel this way when in a relationship with an allosexual? I just kind of feel like I'm not satisfying her and she'd be better of with someone else. Or that we should just change our relationship into something different.... (thinking QPR??)
Also, we have different relationship needs, I think. I'm very much so a person who is very... clingy?? But that sounds kinda iffy, it's mainly just, I'm pretty insecure and I'd like at least a text message a day or something, but she's very much so doesn't text at all, and we hardly ever see each other and I feel like she doesn't miss me at all while I'm going insane because I haven't seen her in like a week and we haven't hardly talked.

I'm really stressed out about all this, and I'm so scared because she's awesome, and I'd like to keep being in a relationship with her, but I genuinely don't think I can keep going like this with the way it is now...

If anyone could offer any advice or anything at all, I'm open to anything.

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