Neck kisses

( hey, i don’t know what flair to use bc i am not exactly venting. I am ranting abt something. So i Hope that this flair is slightly similar to that )

Hi, i have rant abt this before and ima rant abt it again bc i am already tired of this world rn.


Number one, i love neck kisses, it feels good, sensual and i like it.

I never percieved it sexually bc to me they are just kisses on the necks and all. But ppl in my whole enviorment says its sexual. Like yeah, its ok to have an opinion abt it and its okay if you find it yourself sexual. But these ppl are just too much, cuz they say sh1t like this ‘’ no, they are sexual and sexual only. If someone liked neck kisses then they wanna find their g-spot to arouse the person ‘’



……STOP IT


WHYYYYYY.


So you’re telling me that if i would want to peck someone on the neck they are gonna assume that i am trying to find A G-SPOT????

ARE YOU SERIOUS RN?????


Bro, i mean yeah, neck kisses would mostly feel ticklish for me, but arousing? No tbh.



Im not saying ppl shouldn’t be, its okay if they find them arousing. But BRO….HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO KISS SOMEONES NECK WITHOUT THEM THINKING I WANNA DO SEXUAL THINGS TO THEM?????
DUDE I AM NOT TRYING TO FIND YOUR G-SPOT. I JUST WANNA KISS YOUR NECK BC I LIKE IT AND THATS HOW I SHOW AFFECTION. It is meant non-sexually when i do it. Im not trying to lead to something here


I just want to kiss ppls necks without ppl thinking its sexually intented. Like, NO THATD NOT WHAT I AM TRYING TO DO PLS STOP.


My whole enviorment literally thinks if you do one sensual thing then it sexual and sexual only and that you shouldn’t think otherwise bc sensual things lead to sex-

LET ME ENJOY MY SENSUAL NECK KISSES IN PEACE THANK YOU VERY MUCH.


I want sensual things. I want non-sexual SENSUAL THINGS MAN….it feels good for em and i like it. I find ppl sensually attractive LEAVE ME ALONE MAN.

I dont wanna lead it to sex bc…..why?

And at this point idk if i feel sensual attraction or sexual attraction ( or maybe both, but i doubt that i am feeling both. I think i am feeling only one of them )
My whole enviorment says sexual attraction is hugs cuddles kisses and Even though its not sexual, it doesnt matter bc its still sexual.

Ur joe King……right?

Like….i have a strong sensual attraction, so its so hard to tell if i feel sexual attraction. I can’t Even remember a Time feeling it…its insane.



But yeah, back to neck kisses.


i just wish neck kisses weren’t just percieved as sexual and just finding someone’s g-spot. Like, it can be more than that man. What if i want to me a sensual/ non-sexual affection?

I would like that man😭




Sooo yeah, the moral of the story is. Neck kisses aren’t always sexual for some ppl ( sure Hope so. Idk ). And stop making it think like its sexual and sexual ONLY ( heck forcing ppl to think this way )

Anyways Thats my rant, Hope you enjoyed it!












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Asexual male and realising that I probably will never have a healthy relationship

I speak from my personal experience and I can say that it’s just a too huge part of a relationship and 95% of the girls would either leave or cheat on you if you don’t want to do it with them. The only possibility would be finding someone who is also asexual too or has a low libido which is very rare. I just feel boring, miserable, hopeless and empty.

It’s not my intention to offend anybody by that but maybe someone is here that can give me an advice how to cope with this situation.

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Can I still call myself asexual?

(Pls be nice)
Ive considered myself ace ever since I’ve learned what it meant
And I know it’s a spectrum but sometimes I feel like a poser calling myself ace even though I am sometimes doing it with my partner.
It’s just that I don’t feel like doing it that often especially not alone. And I’ve never felt any libido or any wishes to do it before I got with my partner
It’s kind of hard for me to get in the mood but when it’s happening I really enjoy it.

So can I still call myself ace?

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Can an asexual like neck kisses ( or giving neck kisses ) ?


My apologies if this question sounds off, i am just curious bat how you guys feel abt it.
I am asking this bc of stupid reasons ok.

I have posted abt it on a rant and i wanted to Ask a question abt it on how do you feel if thats ok. I have Heard that neck kisses are sexual and all ( for me, i dont find them that way ) but i wanted to know if asexuals could like neck kisses and all. And if neck kisses could be part of sensual attraction instead of sexual? Like, if someone could desire to give neck kisses but font find them sexually attractive but sensual?
Sooo yeah


I just wanted to know if asexuals can like neck kisses/ initiations in one?

How do you feel abt them?

I would like to know!

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Need advise on how to navigate my sexual identity

I recently discovered that I could be asexual. In my current relationship, both my boyfriend and I noticed that I wasn’t initiating sex most of the time. At the time, I thought I just had a very low sex drive. However, it started to negatively affect my relationship with my boyfriend (who is a hetero male) when it came to sexual intimacy so I did a lot of reflecting. I realized that I don’t enjoy having sexual intercourse as much as I enjoy pleasuring myself. I also just have very little interest in it but don’t mind doing it if it pleases my boyfriend. The one thing I don’t understand is that when I think about the things that turn me on while I’m masturbating,I have to picture other people having sex. I can’t picture myself and my boyfriend having sex. The thought of me being involved turns me off.
Even though my boyfriend has a pretty low sex drive, its confusing for him because he wants to have sex with me and only me but feels uncomfortable having sex with me knowing that it’s not something I enjoy. I’d like some advice/tips/more information on how we can navigate this.

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I dumped my ex who kept trying to convert me into a trophy wife.

I just got out of a four-month relationship with my ex, after several months of her pressuring me into sex.

What's worse is that it was subtle, and built up over time. This is someone who I told, right off the bat, that I was asexual and explained what it was.

The other part that makes me genuinely angry, was saying to her that feminine things hurt me, only for her to continually push more and more feminine things onto me. When we met, I thought i was genderfluid and told her I lean masculine, since feminine things are painful and I go by they/them.

She continually misgendered me, bought me lesbian-themed items and got me a lesbian bracelet. Every time I would talk to her, there'd be something she'd say/do to force me back into the closet and I was absolutely miserable. Especially with the guilt-tripping into sex. Each time I would say no and she would continue to nag me like a horny dog. This went on for months.


I realised how miserable I was, because she gradually became so toxic and dismissive of me, but the last straw was her doing something extremely dangerous/stupid and me warning her about it, only for her to talk to me in such a condescending manner, like I was a stupid infant.


I straight up dumped her and finally came out as a trans man, saying how miserable I was in the relationship. She never acknowledged me coming out, just asking if we could be friends, since she was still desperate to try and bang me in the future. I'm so glad I never let her pressure me into sex, and if I ever get into a relationship again, it will be in a poly group, so no one harasses me for sex ever again.


The reason I'm saying this, is because if you ever have a gut feeling or find yourself feeling miserable since dating someone, or find yourself isolated, then that relationship isn't right for you and it's time to get the hell out.


As a proud, trans man who is transitioning and being the happiest he's ever been in his life, and a very proud ace, don't let horny, abusive assholes push you into a closet. You deserve better, just like I did. And yes, women can use abuse tactics, as she worked to isolate me.


My ex is an abusive, horny narcissist who only cared about turning me into a trophy wife. She objectified me, and constantly turned the conversation to her or to sex. Even when I was talking about an abusive situation, in the same sentence, she would immediately spin it around to be about sex. She would constantly shut down any masculine traits she would see me do, continually trying to shove me back into the 'hetero-gendered' closet.


With other people, she's supportive if they're trans but for me she would constantly undermine and tear me down, until I was almost always just in her room. She was disgustingly cruel and two faced, incredibly toxic and self-centered, hypocritical- the lot.


Once I realised I no longer wanted to be around her, I became excited to finally be free from the toxicity, drama and the sexual obsession she had with me. No one deserves to go through that. Not now, not ever.

Should your partner ever harass or pressure you into sex, you are more than in your right to end the relationship and dump their ass. Some people will act like they're okay with aces and will subtly try to pressure you over time, so you don't realise it. The moment someone even hints at it, that's your sign to bail on that relationship. That's what I wish I had done earlier.


So here I am now, finally transitioning and being the happiest man in the world, but also knowing that if I end up in any relationships in the future, the moment someone even hints at sex, to dump them in a heartbeat. Asexuality is valid, I am valid.


\-Sincerely, a very happy, asexual man!

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Can I vent about how Asexuality is getting hella muddied?

I need to state first that I fully understand that you can be Asexual and have low libido, be sex adverse, or a virgin (I'm certainly the last one). This isn't a rant about those people at all. If you don't feel sexual attraction, you're Ace! (or if you feel it only under certain conditions you're Demi :) )
With that out of the way though, I am frustrated that now just simply having low libido, or being sex adverse or a willful virgin is now being lumped under asexuality whether or not they feel sexual attraction.

At it's root, Asexuality has always been no sexual attraction. With Demi being sexual attraction but with terms and conditions. With romantic attraction being it's own happy little thing. And I know it's gatekeep-y and I'm sorry but I don't want anyone to go through my journey. I want them to know they don't feel sexual attraction and be validated that they're ace. Seeing people ace bullied online that they just need to 'take a boner pill' riles me up in all the wrong ways.

The reason I am against it is somewhat personal but also that I'm seeing another rise in 'your asexuality can be cured' because of those inclusions.
I went through hell on my Ace journey because I was bounced around to medical professionals by supposedly LGBT+ friendly therapists and psychiatrists, and doctors.
"There must be something wrong with you."
"There are medicines to fix it."
"It's because of X and that can be cured with therapy." and so on.

And what's worse is hearing some of the folks figuring themselves out at last being told to question who they are because of it and retreating back into the closet.
The most heartbreaking thing to read on one of my discords was someone admitting everyone (including doctors) were saying something was wrong with them when they came out, so they're only "Ace" until they can get fixed. They were asking how long it took the rest of us Aces until we were 'fixed' because the therapy they were going through didn't seem to work. A lot of folks helped them through it, but the thing is... they shouldn't have to. They felt no sexual attraction, it had zip all to do with their hormones or libido or the like.
And on top of that, I've seen non-ace low libido and willfully celibate people attack Ace folks who like sex (the action not the attraction) and drive them out of communities and that doesn't help anyone. It's confusing on all sides.
I am already tired of being told my asexuality is just a 'flaw' that can be 'fixed' and it's gotten so much worse with this, and I'm worried for the coming generations of Ace people. It feels like a slow form of sex positive Ace erasure.
I know my friend was upset with Parade (I think?) saying that Ace people felt no desire for sex, when he's very sex positive just doesn't feel the attraction. He felt invalidated and it broke my heart a bit.
Again, I don't have an issue with these people who fall under the umbrella of low libido/willful celibate but still feel sexual attraction, just that lumping us all in together harms both of us in different ways. I just don't consider it a sexuality, rather just a way a person is. Like being red-headed. And it would be weird if all red-headed people were lumped in with being, say, lesbians as being red headed doesn't necessarily mean they're attracted only to women, even if some lesbians have red hair.
I've struggled with expressing this, so I apologize if it comes off hateful or confusing, it's not meant to be. It's just frustration and fear. I'm not the best at expressing difficult ideals either. Thank you for wading through it. And I might completely be alone in this, and that's okay. Just want to vent the frustration.

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recently broke up with gf and my underlining issue is asexuality is it possible to amend it work?

Hello, posting on side account because she knows my other account. I dont know where to start or how to say what I am asking.

We have our other issues that we have been working through together for sure, and the main one that seemed to have ended things for good, a fundamental difference is our sexuality.

We are both bi romantic but I am allo and she is ace. We are also both trans. When we started this relationship the conversation came up as her letting me know most of her ace tendencies are sex repulsion due to dysphoria. Having my own issues I tried to understand and we started a relationship. Down the road we tried many tactics, work around, methods of being sexually intimate that could work for both of us. But more often than not it left us both unsatisfied, grossed out, unhappy, and worst of all for her like something she felt was she needed to do in order to keep me.

I tried to be as reassuring as possible that this wasn't the case. Intimacy was always an issue, until it subsided, and communication around it did as well. I got more nervous to engage in other forms of intimacy other than sex, worrying she would feel it necessary, I pulled away, I left her feeling alone, and I did too in the process.

It wasn't until the conversation that started the end where she finally set a hard boundary. In some ways I am so happy and proud that she finally told me how she truly felt, and yet so upset because this is what I wanted. To know that she had 0 interest and to stop pursuing it.

She told me that she couldn't, wouldn't, will not be having sex, and that if that was a deal breaker then it needed to end. In the heat of the moment I told her that it might be. I am an allo person, someone who craves intimacy, one who feels like its one of the ways for a romantic connection to thrive.

I can't help but feel this need to push her away because I feel disgusting for the many acts we have done in our relationship leading to this point. She has told me many times not to feel shame towards any of it, that I am valid for craving something she cannot provide for me, I commend her for this, love her for this.

In the end this was one of the healthiest most fulfilling relationships I have ever been through even through all its trials and tribulations. We are fundamentally different in many ways and yet through those I could see it working out, coming to a compromise, figuring how to make us happy. But here I am lost.

I have asked friends for advice and many of them are allo, but my sister and her gf are an asexual and allo couple who have made it work longer than we had. our situations are very different and I cna see those differences clearly but in this regard I can't help but wonder why its working for them but not for me.

I dont picture a life where I never have sex again, but I also dont picture a life with out her in it. Im worried the friendship we had is tainted but sexual and romantic tension. I'm worried that through all our all other issues this will hurt her in ways I can never imagine, will not understand. Part of me wants to reach out and ask her if we can make it work, but i dont want to leave her where its ended here or worse but trying and making the same mistakes.

Weve asked many times is it possible during, and now that its ended I cant help ask again if its possible for us to work.



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