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There is a girl in my life toward whom I feel a strong intellectual and emotional connection, but I do not feel physical attraction. She truly loves me and shows it consistently through both her words and her actions. May he her love to me is 1 in millions ymr. She is very mature for her age, and we are both around twenty-two.

I have tried many times to develop romantic feelings for her, but I have not been able to. I simply cannot love her in that way. I know what love feels like from my past experiences. It is missing someone deeply, constantly thinking about them, imagining a future together, and feeling excited just to see them even if time passes slowly. I have never felt those things for her.
Even though part of me wishes I could love her, because she is honestly the kind of person anyone would want to marry, I still do not feel that romantic connection. She keeps telling me that her love is growing stronger, not weaker. I have told her many times that we cannot be together, but I struggle to explain why clearly.

This situation is starting to stress me. When I think about her, I feel confused. I care about her deeply on an emotional and intellectual level. I enjoy our conversations, the way we think together, and how we support each other. But something important is missing for me, and that is the romantic feeling.
She is very complete as a person. She is strong in her beliefs, she reads, reflects on life, and is genuinely good. Sometimes I even feel like I am less mature compared to her.
So this is where I feel stuck.

I think there are two types of marriage.

The first type is a marriage built mostly on respect, patience, understanding, and shared values. This is the kind of marriage many of our parents had. People stayed together for years, built families, and grew together, even if there was not intense romantic love. There may have been some love, but it was calm and steady, supported by responsibility and commitment. If I imagine myself marrying her, I feel like I could succeed in life. She is supportive, and being with her feels like I could build a stable and meaningful future.

The second type is a marriage built on strong love and romance. This is where both people deeply love each other and continue to fall for each other even after marriage. There is excitement, passion, and a strong emotional pull. This kind of relationship feels more common in our generation.
I feel torn between these two. On one side, I see stability, support, and a good life with her. On the other side, I know that I am missing that deep romantic connection, and I cannot force it.

So guys, please share your thoughts. It could be from your life experience, your beliefs(specially from Islamic perspective) , or any perspective that might help me see this more clearly. I would truly appreciate honest advice.

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I don't why I'm writing this.. But I think I have to let it all out. After you telling me How she treated you I promised to my self that I would treat you better and show u how real love is but I think you are already used to such kind of toxic attachment. I gotta be honest with myself I miss you. I really do. I miss your humor, your kumneger and chewata , I miss kissing your lips and touching your body. I am speechlessly suffering thinking of your comfortable hug. You know aa I love your smile, that rabbit teeth of yours... Your voice, Your skin tone... Your presence, the gugut I had till I see your face on our dates. I think that feeling I had for u was completely real🥹. Sometimes I feel like bidg bye betih bimeta ena bagegnih ena akfeh nafkoten biweta fikren basayih gn ayihonm yihe kerase gar yatalagnal It makes me forget the reason I left and start the cycle all over again, the logic I erased all the memories of us and every possible way to reach out to you. We don't belong to each other you don't communicate, you give silent treatment and you had some irreversible behaviors that didn't align with my own values.. I know eko we had amazing gize gn ayihonm ene ayihonegnm even though I was spending time with yoylu I was dying inside... You didn't listened to me as I listened. You didn't validate my emotions... Yaskefagnin bahrihn sinegrih akaleh lemalef mitmokrew neger eyegodagn meta (plus I didn't feel appreciated)... I had to leave whether I like it or not because I couldn't tolerate them all... But I still love you I still miss every single thing about you... Sitnafkegn nefs ayikerilgnm but I choose to suffer here silently and alone... I am so grateful for the memories and the lesson that shaped me well enkuanm awekuh... But You are not the man for me and I am not the woman for you. I'm also glad I realized this before it is too late for both of us... I love you❤️

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Everday I keep breaking down in the middle of my shift, my coworkers see my eyes red and keep asking if im tired.

Shes going out and having fun like nothing happened, I guess what we had didn't mean as much to her. I can't believe she broke up with me.

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ሰላም እንዴት ናቹ ዛሬ ውለታችሁን ፈልጌ ነው በጌታ የሆናቹ ወንድሞች አአ የምትኖሩ እኔ እጮኛ አለችኝ እናም አሁን ላይ ልንጋባ አስበናል ጊዜው እየሄደ ሲመጣ ግን ትንሽ ሚያስጨንቅ ነገር ገጠመኝ ምን መሰላቹ ጏደኞች ቢኖሩኝም(መልካም ጏደኞች) ነገር ግን በጌታ የሆኑ ጏደኞች የሉኝም እና እባካችሁ በጣም ስለጨነቀኝ ነው ሊተባበረኝ የሚችል ካለ በውስጥ አናግሩኝ ወንድማቹ ተጨንቂያለሁ በፊት የማውቃቸው ክርስቲያን ጏደኞቼን ሳናግር አቅማሙ ለ ሰርጉ 9 ወር ነው የቀረው በዛውም የልብ ጏደኛ እንሆናለን አናግሩኝ am 26 btw
The main point is ሚዜ የሚሆነኝ አጠገቤ የሚቆም ወንድም ፈልጋለሁ

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And the thing is i have super severe period cramp ena like yalhedkubet hekmna yelm ena hulum get married and have kids endza nachew ena ke gize wede gize eyebasbge new guys ena lzi teblo ahun family arranged marraige linorge new ig ( its normal in muslim community) i dont know what to do

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Guys mn endechnekeng tawkalachu egziyabher fekdo tedar keseteng privacy mnamn mibalew neger chenkongal the first one abren ketengan behuwala how am going to see his eyes huletengaw period mnamn simeta lebsen binekaw mnamn siyameng lelaw toilet segeba beka privacy mnm yelem ena endet nw yehe neger milemedew

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As you know the entrance exam is in 2 months and I’m feeling overwhelmed and confused what should I do my academics are going down the hill and I haven’t covered all the topics I’m getting anxious my parents expect a lot from me can you guys give me tips

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There is this girl that confess about her virginity stuff yesterday at aau confession and that's literally my story too. There was this guy I met at university he was my first...I had no idea about anything sexual then I met him we make out every night like at uni in some darker place we kissed fingered and we make out most of the time with my pants on because I don't feel comfortable about the touching. And honestly I don't enjoy any of it  because as I realized it now I wasn't in love. But one day we were out for dinner and he got a room to surprise me then we kissed and make out like naked and he asked me to penetrate but I said nooo and he was okay he did it slowly like pushing we actually practiced sex with out doing it but the thing is when he push me on the end part in the hymen idk I feel pain like not that deep but uncomfortable only in the middle the tip part that I enjoy...then we did it all night like I can't get enough of it I just want to be pressed the tip non stop and he went Down to that part I stopped him and he said me endezi ko atchershim enat lgba chafun bcha chafun bcha eyale btam rub aregegn like not that hard tho honestly I didn't enjoy it as I thought it will be then no blood no that much pain then he buy me postpill and I went to class after that idk mayb it's bcoz I haven't observed it before buy there is structural change of mine like the leaf part idk the name the 1 side gets a bit bigger and moved to one side but still my thing is small...I consider my self as a virgin we broke up 3 4 yrs ago and I haven't dated after bcoz I hate the process and this thing I barely have sexual feeling now like I nearly puke when I think it....what do you think if I met someone now I will say I am virgin is that a problem because I am right what is the actual feeling of losing a virginity please I wanna know what will happen I was walking normally I saw people siyaneksu mnamn  no blood...what bothers me is the idea of him I was so immature and Jil when i did it i really regret it I wasn't in love I like him mayb but because I haven't had a male friend even in my life I mistakenly take him talking me as a love mind you I am the beautiful girl in campus you will literally know who I am if I tell you the uni. But it doesn't matter I was saved from him he was manuplative

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Hello guys am 24 and i like waching big dick since childhood what should i do

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Me hate all 🫩. Me hated it 😒. Guy promise world😏. Guy lied😡.Guy treat me like shit💩. Guy using me 🥱. Me need money 😪. Me count good sun days 😌. Me leave soon 😎. Guy think me love him 😐. Me wait no more 👿.

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This is supposed to be a reflection of my observation of societal norms in our country and if you feel offended by it, I unfortunately just recommend you to scroll past this. If you see a flaw in my logic then I am open to challenges. These are patterns I noticed from my daily interactions with people who are close to me as well as online platforms where Ethiopians dominate (like this).

So, lately I have been trying to figure out why our society is so backwards and I observed a really common pattern that is shared by the average Ethiopian. Most of our opinions pivot around hasty generalizations (surprisingly, it is also common in the newer more "literate" generation). What I mean by that is, when we make generalizations, we often isolate a variable with no justifications just so we can apply it across the board.

Here are some examples:

1. Most guys here in Ethiopia get furious at the mention of the word "feminism". They often pivot around the common trend of unauthoritative but loud tiktokers who are straight-up misandrist while the core concept of feminism circles around equal rights, opportunities and treatments of all genders. Just look at a vent that talks about feminism in this channel and I guarantee you, most assumptions have this idea of women demanding more while none of the vents carry anything suggestive of that ideology. Feminism is an abstract thing, how it pans out entirely depends on who is operating it and the concept of women demanding unfair rights loses points of relevance as long as the women that are carrying out the movement have equal rights in mind.

2. The mere mention of the legalization of homosexuality is guaranteed to generate some heat and the most prominent argument is the false parallel that is drawn between the legalization of homosexuality and the rise of male rape and pedophilia. The real question is, what is even the relevance of that law being written to the occurrence of these crimes? If that claim was logically sound, it should also follow that straight marriage should be banned because it "normalizes" rape towards women and pedophilia towards girls. Just because there are incidences of some terrible people disgustingly raping young boys, doesn't mean the mere legalization of homosexuality will lead to the rise in these crimes.

3. And this is probably the most destructive one "a certified professional within the realm of x profession wasn't able to help me so that profession must be unreliable". This is usually common in healthcare where patients usually consult a physician when it is already too late and subsequent complications or death will be attributed to doctors being incompetent. Or in a more "valid" sounding but invalid way, a patient that had a bad experience with one doctor will avoid going to hospitals as a whole.


Here is the conclusion I am trying to get at, generalization is good in some cases, it is how we as a species survive but human competence lies in identifying the correct variable to draw a generalization on. The variable worth generalizing in the feminist case isn't being a feminist, it is being uninformed about the ideology itself. In the second case the variable that is worth generalizing isn't being gay, it is being a criminal/terrible person. In the third case the problem isn't modern healthcare, it is professional incompetence from a few select doctors.

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So someone said when a girl is nice to a guy he thinks she's flirting with him or attracted to him because a guy dont like to be nice to girls they dont find attractive. N that shit clicked so hard cuz damn its too real the amount of times I was just being nice(humanly kind) to a guy they feel like i like em n try to flirt n shit😭😭
you lot make me sickkkkkk(with british accent n all)

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everything is lie there is no real friend every single person u met is temporary and theyre jealous of u when u perfom better than them bro only ur dad and ur bro loves u when are better than them brooo frienddsssssss omgg they really don want u get succeed i concluded this i may hv friemds but i am liar and they re pretty liar too u can find a friend but deep down he is jealous bro i don know may be amm wrong or may be am crazy or may be its truth.
hate life

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