🆕 THE RARITY OF SINCERITY (2): INSINCERITY CAUSES BURNOUT IN KNOWLEDGE & ACTION: https://www.umarquinn.com/articles/the-rarity-of-sincerity-2-insincerity-causes-burnout-in-knowledge-amp-action

💎 The Sign of a Sincere Person

Imam Al-Dhahabi said:

قُلْتُ: عَلاَمَةُ المُخْلِصِ الَّذِي قَدْ يُحبُّ شُهرَةً، وَلاَ يَشعُرُ بِهَا، أَنَّهُ إِذَا عُوتِبَ فِي ذَلِكَ، لاَ يَحرَدُ وَلاَ يُبرِّئُ نَفْسَه،

I said: The sign of a sincere person who may love fame without realizing it is that if he is criticized for it, he does not get angry or defend himself.

بَلْ يَعترِفُ، وَيَقُوْلُ: رَحِمَ اللهُ مَنْ أَهدَى إِلَيَّ عُيُوبِي،

Rather, he acknowledges it and says: "May Allah have mercy on the one who shows me my faults."

وَلاَ يَكُنْ مُعجَباً بِنَفْسِهِ؛ لاَ يَشعرُ بِعُيُوبِهَا، بَلْ لاَ يَشعرُ أَنَّهُ لاَ يَشعرُ، فَإِنَّ هَذَا دَاءٌ مُزْمِنٌ.

Let him not be amazed with himself, unaware of his flaws, much less unaware that he is unaware, which is a chronic disease.”

💎 [Don’t Allow Rivalry & Discord to Malign the Image of Our Da’wah]


The esteemed scholar ‘Abd Allah b. ‘Abd al-Raḥīm al Bukhārī (حفظه الله) said:

‘يا إخوتاه لا نجعل أفعال بعض إخواننا سُبّةً على هذا المنهج الطاهر النقيِّ، هذه الدعوة المباركة السنية السلفية الطاهرة النقيّة المبرأة من الأحقاد والضغائن والقلاقل،

“O brothers, let us not allow the actions of some of our brothers to tarnish this pure and pristine methodology, this blessed and Sunnah-based Salafi dawah, which is free from hatred, grudges, and turmoil.

هذه دعوة النبي صلى الله عليه و سلم احفظوها حافظوا عليها اتقوا الله جلّ وعلا فيها لا تشوهوها لا تذمروا الناس منها ومن أهلها،

This is the call of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم). Preserve it, protect it, and fear Allah, the Most High, in regards to it. Do not distort it or cause people to detest it and its adherents.

اتقوا الله يا جماعة الخير في هذه الدعوة، لا نكون مَعَاول هدمٍ نأتي على هذه الدعوة! احترموا هذه الدعوة قوموا بحقها

Fear Allah, O people of goodness, in this dawah. Let us not become instruments of destruction that undermine this dawah! Respect this dawah and fulfill its rights.

اتقوا الله في مشايخها وعلمائها و طلبة العلم فيها،

Fear Allah in regards to its scholars, its learned ones, and its students of knowledge.

ما هذا التناحر والتدابر كأنه صارت عند كثيرٍ من الناس الآن سلفي يعني ماذا تناحر! يعني تدابر يعني تنابز يعني كذا

What is this rivalry and discord, as if, to many people now, being Salafi means rivalry, discord, and mutual abuse?

هكذا صارت كثيرٌ من الناس من العامة والدهماء تشوه هذه الدعوة النقية الصافية الرحيمة، تشوه في أذهان كثير من الناس بسبب من؟، بسبب بعض السفهاء وبعض الرويبضات المنتسبين إليها صحيح؟،

This is how it has become for many of the common people and the ignorant ones, distorting this pure and merciful dawah in the minds of many. And who is to blame? Some foolish individuals and some insignificant people who claim to be part of it, isn't that correct?

سبحان الله العلي العظيم تسمع عجبا وتقرأ عجباً هل هذا من دين الله؟، أقسم برب السماء والله وبالله وتالله هذه اليمين المغلظة لا أكفر عنها والله إن هذا ليس من شرع الله وليس من هديٍ رسول الله وليس من الدعوة السلفية في شيء، ولو لبّست هذا هذا الأمر ألف عبائة، لا يمكن أن يكون هذا من دين الله،

Glory be to Allah, the Most High. You hear astonishing things and read astonishing things. Is this part of the religion of Allah? I swear by the Lord of the heavens, by Allah, and by Allah, this severe oath requires no expiation. This is not from the Shariah of Allah, nor from the guidance of the Messenger of Allah, nor from the Salafi dawah in any way. Even if you disguise it in a thousand cloaks, it cannot be from the religion of Allah.

اتقوا الله في أنفسكم يا إخوتاه، اتقوا الله في هذه الدعوة احترموها،

Fear Allah in regards to yourselves, O brothers. Fear Allah in this dawah and respect it.

أين الرفق ؟ أين اللين ؟ أين الرحمة ؟ أين العطف ؟ أين نشر المودة ؟ أين نشر المحبة ؟ أين نشر الألفة بين الإخوة بعضهم بعضاً ؟ أين إظهار بياض هذه الدعوة النقية ؟ أين إظهار صفاء هذه الدعوة ووضوحها للناس ؟!

Where is the gentleness? Where is the kindness? Where is the mercy? Where is the compassion? Where is the spreading of love and affection among brothers towards one another? Where is the demonstration of the purity and clarity of this dawah? Where is the demonstration of its purity and clarity to the people?

هل معنى الصفاء والوضوح هو تدمير الغير حتى تتوضح ؟

Does clarity and purity mean destroying others to make it clear?

هل معنى الصفاء والنقاء أن أقتل أخي وأطعن في أخي الذي معي صباح مساء عقيدًة ومنهاجاً حتى أقول أني من الواضحين ومن الأنقياء والأصفياء ؟

Does purity and clarity mean killing my brother who shares my creed and methodology and criticizing him morning and evening to claim that I am clear and pure?

من قال هذا ؟ من قال هذا؟ لا يقول هذا إلاّ دسيسة دخيلٌ على الدعوة ليس منها أجنبيٌ عنها ما عرفها ولا شمّ رائحتها،

Who said this? Who said this? Only an infiltrator foreign to the dawah, not from it, would say this, someone who does not know it and has never smelled its fragrance.

💎 [An essential cause of unity is disregarding & ignoring provocation and instigation]

Al-Hasan al Basri (رحمه الله) said,

ما استقصى كريم قط.

"A noble person never insists on exacting his full rights."

Amr ibn Uthman al-Makki ( رحمه الله) said,

"المروءة التغافل عن زلل الإخوان".

"True nobility is overlooking the faults of friends."

Al-Awza'i ( رحمه الله) said,

السلامة عشرة أجزاء؛ منها: تسعـة في التغافل.

"Well-being consists of ten parts; nine of them are in overlooking faults."

This is similarly reported from Imam Uthman ibn Zaidah, eliciting Imam Ahmad to respond,

العافية عشرة أجزاء كلها في التغافل

"Well-being consists of ten parts, all of them in overlooking faults."

Sufyan al-Thawri ( رحمه الله) said,

ما زال التغافل من فعل الكرام.

"Overlooking faults has always been the practice of the noble."

Al-A’mash ( رحمه الله) said,

: "التغافل يطفئ شرًا كثيرًا"

"Overlooking faults extinguishes much evil."

Al-Shafi’i ( رحمه الله) said,

"الكيّس العاقل هو الفطن المتغافل"

"The intelligent and wise person is the one who pretends not to notice."

The poet said:

ليس الغبي بسيد في قومه *** لكن سيد قومه المتغابي

"The fool is not the leader of his people, but the leader of his people is the one who pretends to be a fool."

Aktham ibn Saifi ( رحمه الله) said:

مَنْ شَدَّدَ نَفَّرَ، وَمَنْ تَرَاخَى تَأَلَّفَ، وَالشَّرَفُ فِي التَّغَافُلِ،

"Whoever is strict repels others, and whoever is lenient wins their affection. Nobility lies in overlooking faults."

He also said,

السَّخَاءُ حُسْنُ الْفَطِنَةِ وَاللُّؤْمُ سُـوءُ التَّغَافُـلِ.

"Generosity is good perception, and meanness is poor perception of what should be overlooked."

Salahuddin al-Ṣafadī said in his Lāmiyah poem:

واستشعرِ الحِلمَ في كلِّ الأمورِ ولا * * * تُسرع ببادرةٍ يوماً إلى رجلِ

Embrace wise-restraint in all matters,
And never hastily lash out at anyone.

وإنْ بُليتَ بشخصٍ لاَ خَلاقَ لهُ * * * فكُنْ كأنَّكَ لمْ تسمعْ ولمْ يَقُلِ

If you are afflicted with a person who lacks goodness,
Act as if you did not hear him and he did not speak.


Ibn al-Azraq said about kingly manners in "Bada'i' al-Silk fi Taba'i' al-Mulk":

إِن من السخاء وَالْكَرم ترك التجني وَترك الْبَحْث عَن بَاطِن الغيوب والإمساك عَن ذكر الْعُيُوب كَمَا أَن من تَمام الْفَضَائِل الصفح عَن التوبيخ وإكرام الْكَرِيم والبشر فِي اللِّقَاء ورد التَّحِيَّة والتغافل عَن خطأ الْجَاهِل، من شدد نفر وَمن ترَاخى تألف

"Generosity and nobility include refraining from seeking revenge, abstaining from probing into hidden matters, refraining from mentioning faults, and part of perfect virtues is forgiving reproach, honoring the noble, showing a cheerful countenance, reciprocating greetings, and overlooking the mistakes of the ignorant. Strictness repels people, and leniency wins their affection."

💎[Don’t Dwell on Abusive Speech; Rise Above it With Dignity]

The eminent scholar ‘Abd al-Rahman Al-Saadi (d. 1376 AH رحمه الله) said in "Al-Wasa'il Al-Mufida":

"ومن الأمور النافعة أن تعرف أن أذية الناس لك وخصوصًا في الأقوال السيئة، لا تضرك بل تضرهم، إلا إن أشغلت نفسك في الاهتمام بها، وسوغت لها أن تملك مشاعرك، فعند ذلك تضرك كما ضرتهم، فإن أنت لم تضع لها بالًا لم تضرك شيئًا".

"Among the beneficial matters is knowing that the harm people inflict upon you, especially through bad words, does not harm you but harms them, unless you preoccupy yourself with paying attention to it and allow it to dominate your feelings. In that case, it harms you as it harms them. If you do not pay attention to it, it will not harm you at all."

💎[Behind Good Men are Good Women Pushing them to Greatness]

📖Ibn Qutaybah al-Dinawari said (in "Al-Mujalasa wa Jawahir al-Ilm"):

"قَالَ بَعْضُ حُكَمَاءِ الْعَرَبِ: "مَا أَعَانَ عَلَى نَظْمِ مُرُوءَاتِ الرِّجَالِ كَالنِّسَاءِ الصَّوَالِحِ"

Some of the wise men of the Arabs said, "Nothing helps to organize the dignified virtues of men like righteous women" (4/495).

💎Golden Advice:

✍🏻 Sheikh Muhammad bin Ghalib Al-Umari - may Allah preserve him - said:

“Seasons of goodness, such as the first ten days of Dhul-Hijjah, are not only opportunities for righteous deeds; they are also moments to remind oneself of forgiveness and to dispel the Shaytan's schemes from our hearts.

For hearts are prepared for this during these seasons, so do not let the devil overcome you in the matter of forgiveness.

Forgive,
Overlook,
Forget disputes,
Eliminate the estrangement caused by the Shaytan,
And seek the reward from Allah, the Oft-Pardoning, the Most Generous.

Your souls will find peace,
Your hearts will be content,
And you will enjoy peace of mind.”