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Forgiveness: The Mark Of A Muslim

Shaykhul-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah

May Allaah Have Mercy Upon Him

(Reflect on how he dealt with those who wronged him so greatly. May Allaah rectify us).

"In the Name of Allaah, the Most Merciful, the Bestower of Mercy. Indeed Allaah – to Whom belongs all praise – has bestowed upon me immense grace, great favours and generous blessings which necessitates immense gratitude, being firm upon obedience to Him, and becoming accustomed to having beautiful patience in that which He ordered. Indeed, a servant is ordered to have sabr (patience) in times of ease more so than in times of hardship. Allaah – the Most High – said (interpretation of the meaning):

"But if We let him taste good (favour) after evil (poverty and harm) has touched him, he is sure to say: "Ills have departed from me." Surely, he is exultant, and boastful (ungrateful to Allaah). Except those who show patience and do righteous good deeds, those: theirs will be forgiveness and a great reward (Paradise)."

[Al-Qur'aan 11:10-11].

And you all know that Allaah – the Most Perfect – has blessed this affair (the first of Ibn Taymiyyah’s unjust imprisonment – a period of one and a half years, in the year 705H – which occurred due to some lies and false accusations against him) with such blessings which contain the means to aid His Religion, raise high His Word, aid His Army, and grant honour to His Awliyaa (pious and righteous servants). It is also the cause for strengthening Ahlus-Sunnah wal-Jamaa’ah and causing humiliation to the people of innovations and sectarianism.

Likewise, it is also the cause for affirming that which has been affirmed by yourselves from the Sunnah (regarding the truth of this matter), and a cause for increasing this by opening up the avenues of guidance, victory and proofs: such that the truth becomes known to the people, who none but Allaah can enumerate. It is also a cause for the masses to begin to accept the way of the Sunnah and the Jamaa’ah; as well as countless other favours. All of this must therefore be accompanied by immense gratitude to Allaah, as well as having patience – even if this patience is in times of ease.

And you all know that from the great principles which sum up the religion is: Uniting the hearts, unifying the word, and reconcilination between each other, as Allaah – the Most High – said (interpretation of the meanings):

“So fear and obey Allaah, and reconcile the matters of differences between yourselves.” [Al-Qur'aan 8:1].

"And hold fast, all of you together, to the Rope of Allaah (i.e. this Qur'aan), and be not divided among yourselves..." [Al-Qur'aan 3:103].

"And be not as those who divided and differed among themselves after the clear proofs had come to them. It is they for whom there is an awful torment."

[Al-Qur'aan 3:105].

And other examples like this from the texts (of Revelation), which order us with the jamaa’ah (unity upon the way of the Companions) and coming together, and prohibit splitting and differing. And the people who most exemplify this principle are Ahlul-Jamaa’ah (the people of the Jamaa’ah); just as the people who most exemplify leaving it are the people of sectarianism.

And that which sums up the Sunnah is: Obedience to the Messenger. This is why the Prophet, SalAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said (translated meaning):

“Indeed Allaah is pleased with three things: That you worship Allaah alone without associating any partner along with Him; that you holdfast all together to the Rope of Allaah and not to become split-up; and that you give sincere advice to whomsoever Allaah put in charge of your affairs.“

[Saheeh Muslim, 3/1340, and Ahmad, 2/367].

And in the Sunan collections from the Hadeeth of Zayd Ibn Thaabit and Ibn Mas’uud – who were both great fuqahaa (scholars of deep understanding) – who relate that the Prophet, SalAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam, said (translated meaning):

“May Allaah enliven whosoever hears my words, memorises them and then conveys them to others. Many a carrier of knowledge does not understand it, a

nd many a carrier of knowledge conveys it to one who has better understanding. There are three things which the heart of a believer has no malice about: Sincerity for Allaah in one’s action; sincere advice to those in authority and clinging to the Jamaa’ah.”

[Ahmad, 4/80, and Ibn Maajah, No. 230. Authenticated by Al-Albaanee in As-Saheehah, No.404].

And his saying: "has no malice” means not having any contempt for them. So the heart of a Muslim does not hate these characteristics. On the contrary, it loves them and is pleased with them.

So the first thing which I shall begin with regarding this principle is what is connected to myself. So you all know – may Allaah be pleased with you all – that I do not desire any harm at all – inwardly or outwardly – for anyone from the general masses of the Muslims, let alone our colleagues and companions. Nor do I harbour any ill-feeling towards anyone of them, nor do I blame them for anything at all.

Rather, to me they are deserving of nobility, love, honour and respect, over and over – each in accordance with their level. And a person cannot be except (one of three types):

1) Someone who sincerely strives to ascertain the truth; and is correct,

2) or one who sincerely strives to ascertain the truth; but errs,

3) or a sinful person.

As for the first, then he is rewarded and thanked. The second is rewarded for his ijtihaad (striving to ascertain the truth), and is forgiven and excused for his error. As for the third, then may Allaah forgive us, and him, and all the believers.

So we should not try to dwell upon the words of those who opposed this fundamental; by saying that so and so is deficient, or so and so did not act, or so and so was the cause of harm to the shaykh, or was the reason why all this occurred, or so and so used to speak about the plots of so and so; and other such similar statements which contain criticism of some of our colleagues and brothers. For indeed do not allow them to harm the brothers and colleagues in this manner, and there is no might, nor any power except with Allaah.

(This is in reference to some of their colleagues and brothers in Damascus, who weakened during this ordeal, and did not remain firm upon the correct methodology. So Ibn Taymiyyah is prohibiting any of his students and collegues from harming them in any way, and makes an excuse for them, and explains that he bears no ill-feeling or hatred in his heart towards any of them. Rather, he makes it clear that he has respect for them, and loves them for the sake of Allaah).

Rather, the likes of this criticism actually returns to the one who said it in the first place, unless he has good deeds by which Allaah will forgive him – if He wills – and indeed Allaah does forgive that which has preceded. And you also all know about the harsh treatment that was given to some of the brothers in Damascus, and that which occurs even now in Egypt.

This – in reality – is not due to a deficiency or shortcoming in the brothers, nor has it occurred because we have changed our views and hate them. Rather, such people, after receiving such harsh treatment increase in the status, love and respect that we have for them. For indeed the likes of these trials are beneficial to the believers, because Allaah corrects and improves them due to it.

Since the believer to another believer is like each of a pair of hands, each washes the other. However, it sometimes happens that dirt cannot be removed except with a certain amount of roughness, but that brings about cleanliness and softness, for which that roughness is praised…

You (also) all know that much of what has occurred in this matter were lies, false accusations, false suspicions, and the following of false desires, the likes of which cannot be described. So all those lies and false accusations that were directed against me, are actually a source of goodness and blessing for me. Allaah – the Most High – said (interpretation of the meaning):

“Indeed those who brought forward the lie are a small group amongst you. However, do not think that it is an e

vil for you. rather, it is good for you. And every person amongst them will be paid the sin of what they earned. And as for the one who took on the leading role in this, his will be a severe punishment.” [Al-Qur'aan 24:11].

So through such trials, Allaah manifests the light of truth and its clear proofs, which repel the falsehood and lies. So I do not desire to take revenge upon any of those who lied against me, or oppressed me, or showed enmity and hatred towards me. For indeed I forgive every Muslim, and I love only the good for them, and I desire for every Muslim the good that I desire for myself.

As for those who lied and did wrong, then I have excused and forgiven them. However, whatever is connected to violating the Rights of Allaah in this affair, then they should seek tawbah (repentance). So if they turn to Allaah in repentance, then Allaah will turn to them in forgiveness, otherwise the Judgement of Allaah will apply to them.

So if a person were to be thanked for his evil actions, then I thank all those who were the cause for this (trial) to happen to me – for it entails all the good of this world and the Hereafter. However, Allaah is thanked for His good blessings and favours by which no affair happens to a believer, except that there is good for him in it.

And the people of good intentions are thanked for their intentions, and the people of good actions are thanked for their actions. And as for those who did evil – then we ask Allaah that He turns to them in forgiveness. And you all know that this is from my nature and character.

Likewise, you all know that Abuu Bakr As-Siddeeq, may Allaah be pleased with him, concerning the matter of al-ifq (the lie against ‘Aaishah, his daughter, and wife of the Prophet, SalAllaahu ‘alayhi wa sallam), about which Allaah revealed some Verses of the Qur’aan, swore that he would not give any more charity to Mistaah Ibn Athaathah; because Mistaah was one of those who participated in the lie. So Allaah revealed (interpretation of the meaning):

“And let not those among you who are blessed with graces and wealth swear not to give (any sort of help) to their kinsmen, al-masaakeen (the poor), and those who left their homes for Allaah's Cause. Let them pardon and forgive. Do you not love that Allaah should forgive you? And Allaah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."

[Al-Qur'aan 24:22].

So when this Verse was revealed, Abuu Bakr, may Allaah be pleased with him, said: “Rather, by Allaah! I love that Allaah should forgive me.” So he continued to give to Mistaah the aid and charity that he used to give before. [Saheeh Al-Bukhaaree, No. 4757].

So with forgiveness and kind treatment towards one another, and doing Jihaad (fighting and striving) in Allaah’s Path, then it is a must that (interpretation of the meanings):

"...Allaah will bring a people whom He will love and they will love Him; humble towards the believers, stern towards the disbelievers, fighting in the Way of Allaah, and never afraid of the blame of the blamers. That is the Grace of Allaah which He bestows on whom He wills. And Allaah is All-Sufficient for His creatures' needs, All-Knower.

Verily, your Wali (Protector or Helper) is Allaah, His Messenger, and the believers, - those who perform As-Salat (Iqamat-as-Salat), and give Zakat, and they bow down (submit themselves with obedience to Allaah in prayer).

And whosoever takes Allah, His Messenger, and those who have believed, as Protectors, then the party of Allah will be the victorious."

[Al-Qur'aan 5:54-56].

Was-salaamu ‘alaykum wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh."

[Majmuu’ Al-Fataawa, 28/50-57. Slightly abridged].

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Narrated by Jaabir ibn ‘Abdillah (may Allah be pleased with him) who said:

The Messenger of Allah (صلى الله عليه وسلم) said:

“The day of Friday has twelve hours, in which there is no Muslim slave who asks Allah for anything but He will grant it to him, so seek it in the last hour after ‘Asr.”

Reported by Abu Dawood (1048) and an-Nasaa’i (1389); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood; and by an-Nawawi in al-Majmoo‘, 4/471

It has been narrated that Ibn Tawoos reports from his father [Tawoos] that he used to strive in finding the hour that the supplications are accepted on the day of Jum'ah which was after Asr [i.e. the last hour of it]. Ibn Tawoos adds : "And my Father passed away in the hour he used to love , he passed away on the day of Jum'ah after 'Asr."

Reported by AbdRazāq bin Hammām As-San'āni in his 《Musannaf》(3/541) [Dār At-Ta'sīl print]

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Translators Note :

*Ibn Tawoos* : He Is Abdullaah bin Tawoos , The Son of the Great Tābi'iee Tawoos.
*Tawoos* : He is Abu Abdur-Rahman Tawoos bin Keysān Al-Hemyarī Al-Yamāni. A Tābi'iee that met the likes of Ibn 'Abbās, Ibn 'Umar and Jābir bin Abdillaah and others from the Companions of The Prophet ﷺ.

And Allah Knows Best
Translated by Abu 'Abdillaah Abdur-Rahman Pakistanee

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Yazid bin Hawshab said: "I have not seen anyone more God fearing than Al-Hasan (Al-Basri) & 'Umar bin 'Abdil-'Aziz. It is as if the Hell-fire wasn't created except for them".

Tarikh Dimishiq, 45/236

Translated by Abu Umaamah Mustafa

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✒ *Make Duʿā For Your Parents*

Prophet Muḥammad Ṣallallāhu-ʿAlaihi Wa Sallam said:

إن الرجل لترفع درجته في الجنة فيقول : أنى لي هذا ؟ فيقال : باستغفار ولدك لك

“Indeed a man's status is raised in Jannah and he asks: ‘Where did I get this from?’, so it is said to him: ‘By your child seeking forgiveness (of Allāh) for you’.”

● [مختصر صحيح الجامع الصغير برقم ١٦١٧ ، صححه الألباني]

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Sheikh-ul-Islām Ibn Taymiyyah (رحمه الله) mentioned in his Majmū’:

“The (truly) fortunate one (is he who) seeks forgiveness for the mistakes, and is patient upon the calamities, just as Allāh says: {So be patient. Verily, the Promise of Allāh is true, and ask forgiveness for your fault}in [Sūrah Ghāfir 40:55].”

[Majmū’ Al-Fatāwā 8/454]

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Bid'ah In The Month Of Rajab

Sh. Ṣāliḥ al-Fawzān (حفظه الله تعالى) was asked the following:

Question:

"There are those who single out the month of Rajab with fast; hence, is [there] anything that is confirmed [in the Sunnah to support this]?"

Answer:

The Shaikh had responded with the following:

"There is nothing that is confirmed from worship that is specifically to the month of Rajab; no fasting, no salāḥ, no 'Umrah-absolutely nothing at all specific to it.

[As for] those who are singling it out with worship, then they are the innovators since they introduced into the deen that which is not from it.

Thus, Allah and His Messenger did not legislate any specific form of worship in Rajab; no 'Umrah, no animal sacrifice, no standing [in salāḥ] in any specific night and no fasting in any specific day. Rajab is simply like any other (sacred) month.

The month of al-Muḥarram ([like Rajab) is sacred, since it is from the four sacred months.

As for singling it out with worship, then this from innovation."

Source:

Majmooah Fataawa Shaikh Sālih al-Fawzān (2/438)

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BENEFIT:

TAWHEED FIRST!!!

Did you know, the first verb in the Qur'an relates to worshipping ALLAH (Tawheed)?

Here it is:
(إِیَّاكَ *نَعۡبُدُ* وَإِیَّاكَ نَسۡتَعِینُ)
"*You alone we worship* and You alone we ask for help."
[Surat Al-Fatihah 5]

Did you also know, the first command (fi'l Amr) in the Qur'an relates to worshipping Allah alone (Tawheed)?

Here it is:
(یَـٰۤأَیُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ *ٱعۡبُدُوا۟* رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِی خَلَقَكُمۡ وَٱلَّذِینَ مِن قَبۡلِكُمۡ لَعَلَّكُمۡ تَتَّقُونَ)
"O humanity! *Worship your Lord*, Who created you and those before you, so that you may become mindful ˹of Him˺."
[Surat Al-Baqarah 21]

Hold on a second, I thought the first command was:
( *ٱهۡدِنَا* ٱلصِّرَ ٰ⁠طَ ٱلۡمُسۡتَقِیمَ)
*Guide us* along the Straight Path,
[Surat Al-Fatihah 6]

Is this not the first command (fi'l Amr) in the Qur'an?

Answer: Yes and No.

YES it's a fi'l Amr, according to nahu & sarf, but NO, because this (according to balaaghah) is actually a fi'l du'a (request/supplication) - not a fi'l Amr (command). Who are we to command Allah? Hence, it's a fi'l du'a, and this is what you should say when analysing this and anything like this.

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How can I advise when I fall short?

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“If only the perfect, free from sin people gave advice, nobody would have ever advised anyone after the Messenger of Allaah ﷺ, because there is no perfection for anyone after him.”

Lataa'if Al-Ma'aarif, Pg. 19

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CORONAVIRUS

Protect Yourself

The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said

"مَنْ رَأَى مُبْتَلًى، فَقَالَ: الْحَمْدُ لِلَّهِ الَّذِي عَافَانِي مِمَّا ابْتَلَاكَ بِهِ، وَفَضَّلَنِي عَلَى كَثِيرٍ مِمَّنْ خَلَقَ تَفْضِيلًا؛ لَمْ يُصِبْهُ ذَلِكَ الْبَلَاءُ".

"Whoever sees an afflicted person then says: "All praise is due to Allaah who saved me from that which He has afflicted you with, and blessed me greatly over many of those whom He has created" he shall not be struck by that affliction."

Source:

At-Tirmidhi (3432)[Hasan], from the hadith of Abu Huraira رضي الله عنه.  (As well as) Abu Nuaym in al-Hilyah (5/13), at-Tabaraani in al-Awsat (5324) from the hadith of Abdullah bin Umar رضي الله عنهما. As-Saheeha (602), (2737): Hasan based on (supportive narrations).

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Lesson 17 - The Three Fundamental Principles

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◾Benefits regarding the hadeeth of Tahneek from the chapter of Tahneek in the Adabul Mufrad by Imam Bukhari◾️

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*Tahneek of a Baby*📚


حَدَّثَنَا حَجَّاجُ بْنُ مِنْهَالٍ، قَالَ‏:‏ حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ، عَنْ ثَابِتٍ، عَنْ أَنَسٍ قَالَ‏:‏ ذَهَبْتُ بِعَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ أَبِي طَلْحَةَ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ صلى الله عليه وسلم يَوْمَ وُلِدَ، وَالنَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم فِي عَبَاءَةٍ يَهْنَأُ بَعِيرًا لَهُ، فَقَالَ‏:‏ مَعَكَ تَمَرَاتٌ‏؟‏ قُلْتُ‏:‏ نَعَمْ، فَنَاوَلْتُهُ تَمَرَاتٍ فَلاَكَهُنَّ، ثُمَّ فَغَرَ فَا الصَّبِيِّ، وَأَوْجَرَهُنَّ إِيَّاهُ، فَتَلَمَّظَ الصَّبِيُّ، فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ صلى الله عليه وسلم‏:‏ حُبَّ الأَنْصَارِ التَّمْرَ، وَسَمَّاهُ‏:‏ عَبْدَ اللهِ‏.‏


Anas bin Maalik رضي الله عنه said, "On the day he was born, I took 'Abdullah ibn Abi Talha to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace. I found him wearing a woollen robe while he was marking one of his camels with tar. The Prophet said, 'Do you have any dates with you?' 'Yes,' I replied. I gave him some dates. He chewed the dates and opened the child's mouth and put some chewed dates into the child's mouth. The child licked his lips. The Prophet (ﷺ) said, 'The Ansar love dates,' and gave him the name 'Abdullah."

Sahih (Al-Albani)

Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 1254


Abu Talha's newborn son Abdullah would go on to have 10 children whom all go onto become huffadh al- Qur'an (memorizers of the Qur'an) this is considered to be from the blessings of dua the prophet ﷺ made for the parents of Abdullah.

AT-Tahneek is rubbing a bit of honey or the sweetness of dates. And 'Hanak' is the upper & inner part of the mouth, so the parent places their clean finger and rubs it gently in the upper inner part of baby's the mouth.

Some people (in today's times) restrict this action to be done specifically by the Imams of masaajid but this never occurred amongst the companions that they would carry their new born to Abu Bakr or Umar or Uthman or Ali
رضي الله عنهم but rather the companions
used to bring their newborn to the prophet ﷺ to seek Allah's blessing.

As for tahneek then the parent should do this themselves and not go and take their baby to so and so to do tahneek. Tahneek is legislated Whether it's done by the father or the mother.

Be mindful as you do tahneek and dont give the baby too much since it can cause the child undesired effects for them such as diarrhoea, and fevers and you will be the cause of this.



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▪️Is it obligatory for a person to answer his fellow Muslim's invitation?▪️

Our Shaykh, Muhammad ibn Hizām -may Allāh preserve him- was asked the following question:

📩 Question:

The questioner says: Is it obligatory for a person to respond to an 'Aqīqah invitation?

📝 Answer:

It is recommended for a person to respond to a fellow Muslim's invitation; whatever the occasion/meal. But if a person is invited to a walīmah (marriage banquet), then it becomes obligatory for him to attend.

The Prophet ﷺ said:
((وإذا دعاك فأجبه))
"And if he invites you, answer his invitation."

This (answering the invitation) is from the rights of a Muslim towards his fellow Muslim.

Likewise, the Prophet ﷺ said:
((إذا دعاك أخوك فأجبه))
"If your brother invites you, answer his invitation."

And he ﷺ said:
((من دعي إلى طعام فليأته))
"Whoever is invited to a meal, then let him attend."

As for the obligation of attending the walīmah, then this is proven by the ḥadīth of Abū Hurairah:
((شر الطعام طعام الوليمة، يمنعها من يأتيها ويدعى إليها من يأباها، ومن لم يجب فقد عصى أبا القاسم))
"The worst food is the food of the marriage banquet (walīmah) from which those who come (i.e. the poor) are turned away, and to which those who refuse (i.e. the rich) are invited. Whoever rejects the invitation has disobeyed Abul Qāsim (i.e. The Prophet ﷺ)".
[Reported by Bukhāri & Muslim]

So whoever is invited to a walīmah must attend, unless the host excuses him, or he has a legitimate reason not to attend. As for the 'Aqīqah and any other banquet, then it is recommended for a person to attend - not obligatory; and this is proven by the ḥadīth of 'Āishah, may Allāh be pleased with her, reported by Muslim; once, a man invited the Prophet ﷺ to a meal, so he asked, "what about this one (i.e. is 'Āishah invited as well)?" The man replied, "No" (as he only wanted to invite the Prophet ﷺ). So upon that the Prophet ﷺ rejected his invitation. The man extended the invitation for a second, and a third time. On the third count, the Prophet ﷺ asked him, "how about this one?". This time round, the man said, "yes", so the Prophet ﷺ accepted his invitation.

Questioner: Is it obligatory for women to attend the walīmah if they are invited?

Sheikh: Women do not have to attend, because they are to remain in their homes and not leave except with their husband's permission.

Questioner: Is it wājib for a person to attend the banquet prepared by the bride's side?

Sheikh: The banquet that is obligatory for a person to attend is the one prepared by the groom. The walīmah is the duty of the groom. As for the banquet prepared by the bride's side, then one should also answer this invitation, but it appears that the obligation of attending applies only in the case of (the banquet prepared by) the groom, and Allāh knows best; because according to the Sharī'ah, the walīmah refers to the meal prepared by the groom. As for the banquet that is prepared by the bride's side, then this is merely a celebratory banquet - even if it is referred to as a walīmah (linguistically), it does not take the same (legal) ruling, and Allāh knows best.

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