I really admire people who are willing to be humbled.
What I mean by that is.... Often times we cannot see our own dysfunction until it is pointed out to us through an external lens, perspective - by another person.
And when it is pointed out, we all have a couple of options:
- Be humbled and accept that the energy we're giving off may not be received in the way we intended. So instead of blaming the other person for sharing their perspective, we take it on the chin and reflect to see how we might be able to move in a new light, with this information. To become a better person.
Or
- We can become defensive and deflect the "criticism" back towards the person because surely they are wrong and we are right and there's nothing wrong with us because we've been through XYZ and we don't deserve to be "attacked" for it...
Both options are available for the taking. One leads to destruction - of self, of relationships. One leads to healing.
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@EmbersfromAsh
What I mean by that is.... Often times we cannot see our own dysfunction until it is pointed out to us through an external lens, perspective - by another person.
And when it is pointed out, we all have a couple of options:
- Be humbled and accept that the energy we're giving off may not be received in the way we intended. So instead of blaming the other person for sharing their perspective, we take it on the chin and reflect to see how we might be able to move in a new light, with this information. To become a better person.
Or
- We can become defensive and deflect the "criticism" back towards the person because surely they are wrong and we are right and there's nothing wrong with us because we've been through XYZ and we don't deserve to be "attacked" for it...
Both options are available for the taking. One leads to destruction - of self, of relationships. One leads to healing.
β¨β¨π»π»
@EmbersfromAsh
Happy SUNday π»π»
Birthday party day. Busy week, gonna be a busy day. Love y'all! Take care ππΌβ¨
Birthday party day. Busy week, gonna be a busy day. Love y'all! Take care ππΌβ¨
Forwarded from π₯Embers from Ashπ» (Ash)
Your Judgement isn't waiting for you in the after-life.
It's in the after-math of every choice you make today.
This is a world of cause and effect. Of karma and dharma. The choices you make today, how you show up today, has a direct consequence.
Make sure it's a good one ππΌπ€πΌβ¨
@EmbersfromAsh
It's in the after-math of every choice you make today.
This is a world of cause and effect. Of karma and dharma. The choices you make today, how you show up today, has a direct consequence.
Make sure it's a good one ππΌπ€πΌβ¨
@EmbersfromAsh
Happy MONDAY!! π»π»
It's a great day to get your mindset ready for the week.
I am HERE.
I am Awake.
I am Alive.
I am Happy.
I am capable of creating the week of my choosing.
I am willing to experience joy moment to moment.
π»π»βοΈβοΈβ¨β¨
Now...time to put it into action.
Time to get to work πͺπΌ.
It's a great day to get your mindset ready for the week.
I am HERE.
I am Awake.
I am Alive.
I am Happy.
I am capable of creating the week of my choosing.
I am willing to experience joy moment to moment.
π»π»βοΈβοΈβ¨β¨
Now...time to put it into action.
Time to get to work πͺπΌ.
Mindset β
Writing β
Next up .. circulation and workout πͺπΌ
Getting the big ticket items of the day #donebyone
Writing β
Next up .. circulation and workout πͺπΌ
Getting the big ticket items of the day #donebyone
If you misuse, abuse, manipulate and gaslight people for years and years on end....and they decide they no longer want to have any relationship with you, you are not a victim. Learn better. Do better. But let's be clear about who did what π£
For anyone out there who "gets this"...
You are never required to make space for someone who is always finding ways to shit in it.
You are never required to stay in contact with someone who abused you.
You do not need to give them access.
You do not need to break yourself to fix their own parade of chaos.
You don't even need to forgive them.
Forgive yourself.
Heal yourself.
Grow yourself.
And let them_somewhere else.
For anyone out there who "gets this"...
You are never required to make space for someone who is always finding ways to shit in it.
You are never required to stay in contact with someone who abused you.
You do not need to give them access.
You do not need to break yourself to fix their own parade of chaos.
You don't even need to forgive them.
Forgive yourself.
Heal yourself.
Grow yourself.
And let them_somewhere else.
π₯Embers from Ashπ» pinned Β«If you misuse, abuse, manipulate and gaslight people for years and years on end....and they decide they no longer want to have any relationship with you, you are not a victim. Learn better. Do better. But let's be clear about who did what π£ For anyone outβ¦Β»
Happy Tuesday!!!!
You know what?
Fuck em.
...the abusive parents.
...the abusive exes.
...the abusive leaders and government.
...the abusive news networks.
...the abusive industries.
Fuck em. Fuck all of em. And their fucking abuse of our minds, our spirits and our peace.
If they could've changed and gotten better, they would've by now. One thing is for sure, feeding them support and empathy and compassion just makes them feel more in control.
So starve them. Pay them the bare minimum attention.
Why?
We've got a kingdom to build.
We've got a paradise that needs our attention.
It's not waiting for Jesus. He did his job.
It's not waiting for a healed world. That comes as a by product.
It's waiting for us.
We each have gone through what we've gone through so that we could generate purpose.
What is purpose?
Purpose comes into the fold when you take whatever hard fought lessons you've earned...and turn them into service.
For the old you. The younger you. The you that is still suffering and lost.
Let the pests starve and pay the discipline and focus required to build the life you have always dreamt of. Pave the road for those who are today, stuck in your past.
You've got this.
I've got this.
We've got this.
We are counting on us π«ΆπΌπβ¨βοΈπ«ΆπΌπ»π»π»
@EmbersfromAsh
You know what?
Fuck em.
...the abusive parents.
...the abusive exes.
...the abusive leaders and government.
...the abusive news networks.
...the abusive industries.
Fuck em. Fuck all of em. And their fucking abuse of our minds, our spirits and our peace.
If they could've changed and gotten better, they would've by now. One thing is for sure, feeding them support and empathy and compassion just makes them feel more in control.
So starve them. Pay them the bare minimum attention.
Why?
We've got a kingdom to build.
We've got a paradise that needs our attention.
It's not waiting for Jesus. He did his job.
It's not waiting for a healed world. That comes as a by product.
It's waiting for us.
We each have gone through what we've gone through so that we could generate purpose.
What is purpose?
Purpose comes into the fold when you take whatever hard fought lessons you've earned...and turn them into service.
For the old you. The younger you. The you that is still suffering and lost.
Let the pests starve and pay the discipline and focus required to build the life you have always dreamt of. Pave the road for those who are today, stuck in your past.
You've got this.
I've got this.
We've got this.
We are counting on us π«ΆπΌπβ¨βοΈπ«ΆπΌπ»π»π»
@EmbersfromAsh
It is the hardest thing in the freaking world to have to make this choice to step away from a family of origin. And if you've had to do it, I stand with you. You don't deserve to be judged or criticized or blamed for walking away from Abuse. It helps to call it what it is.
You deserve to heal.
You deserve peace.
You didn't deserve what you went through as a child, but you did grow resilient in and through it and with that resilience, you can create a life that makes you happy, one that doesn't leave you questioning motives or stories or waiting around for the next shoe to drop.
Heal for you.
Heal for the next generation.
Heal for the world you have the power to influence and to help heal too.
You've got this. I believe in you. I see you. I am you. ππΌπ₯ΉππΌπͺπΌ
@EmbersfromAsh
You deserve to heal.
You deserve peace.
You didn't deserve what you went through as a child, but you did grow resilient in and through it and with that resilience, you can create a life that makes you happy, one that doesn't leave you questioning motives or stories or waiting around for the next shoe to drop.
Heal for you.
Heal for the next generation.
Heal for the world you have the power to influence and to help heal too.
You've got this. I believe in you. I see you. I am you. ππΌπ₯ΉππΌπͺπΌ
@EmbersfromAsh