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do the work especially when you don’t feel like doing it, if you don’t have enough self discipline

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To learn from the best, you don’t need to meet them, you just need to absorb them. This can be through books, audio, or a single powerful quote.

Feeding your mind is how you become your own best coach.

To paraphrase Jim Loehr: The power broker in your life is the voice that no one ever hears. How well you revisit the tone and content of your private voice is what determines the quality of your life. It is the master storyteller, and the stories we tell ourselves are our reality.

For instance, how do you speak to yourself when you make a mistake that upsets you? Would you speak that way to a dear friend when they’ve made a mistake? If not, you have work to do. Trust me, we all have work to do.

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1. "Context switching is incredibly important—there is no life without it."

2. "Raising your standard for everything in life is the key to growth."

3. "Lived wisdom is the poetry of growing older in this world."

4. "Cognition-heavy tasks tax your resources, simply put."

5. "The process of real adulting reveals how ill-prepared we might be."

6. "There’s a beauty in how we learn to embrace life’s complexities over time."

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1. If you had a heart attack and had to work two hours per day, what would you do?

Not five hours, not four hours, not three—two hours. It’s not where I want you to ultimately be, but it’s a start. Besides, I can hear your brain bubbling already: That’s ridiculous. Impossible! I know, I know. If I told you that you could survive for months, functioning quite well, on four hours of sleep per night, would you believe me? Probably not. Notwithstanding, millions of new mothers do it all the time. This exercise is not optional. The doctor has warned you, after triple-bypass surgery, that if you don’t cut down your work to two hours per day for the first three months post-op, you will die. How would you do it?

2. If you had a second heart attack and had to work two hours per week, what would you do?

3. If you had a gun to your head and had to stop doing ⅘ of different time-consuming activities, what would you remove?

Simplicity requires ruthlessness. If you had to stop ⅘ of time-consuming activities—e-mail, phone calls, conversations, paperwork, meetings, advertising, customers, suppliers, products, services, etc.—what would you eliminate to keep the negative effect on income to a minimum? Used even once per month, this question alone can keep you sane and on track.

- Tim Ferriss

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"This is how civilizations decline. They quit taking risks. Every year there are more referees and fewer doers. When you’ve had success for too long, you lose the desire to take risks." -- Elon Musk

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Being a loser has nothing to do with money or status or power or success (you can have all those things and still be a massive loser) but rather a certain joyless and narcissistic orientation toward the world, those in it, and yourself, and you can unloser yourself at any time

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I bear the wounds of all the battles I avoided

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Rock bottom is a great place to start building a new foundation

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When you make a mistake…

A bad partner will tell you what they told you a while ago to remind you how right they were.

A good partner will tell you what you said a while ago to remind you how right you were.

We need to be reminded more than we need to be taught.

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People criticize because it helps them justify the risks they chose not to take

Tim Ferriss × Chris

What matters more than the how
Material matters more than the method
Effectiveness over efficiency

2-3 hours of uninterrupted time where you can focus on your high leverage tasks.

Single tasking for 2-3 hours a day. You are gonna be ahead of 90% of the population.

Weekly Routine over daily routine

Identify diversification

Multiple tracks running at the same time - hedging against the indentity

State - story - strategy

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Everyone owns a phone; maybe you're holding one in your hand right now. If you look up around you, chances are you'll see someone else on their phone. When we're standing in line at the store, in between sets at the gym, it's really become second nature to us by now. But why? Sure, we use our phones when we're bored, but we also use them at concerts, at dinner with friends, even when spending time with the people who gave birth to us.

When Steve Jobs first introduced the iPhone back in 2007, there wasn't really much you could do with it. Sure, you could send a text to your friends, call them if you needed, maybe play a game of chess if you liked. Fast forward 6,238 days later, and the impulse to pull out our phones and mindlessly watch split-screen TikToks pretty much consumes every single one of us. So, what happened? And more importantly, what does the future of content addiction really look like?

Now, if there's one fatal flaw the human species has, it's our curious nature. Sure, it helps us advance as a species and as individuals. It gives us a reason to learn and create new things, but how does it end? We've already become so addicted to watching what everyone else is doing, scared that if we don't open the app, we're going to miss out on something. You don't even really like using them, yet we still find ourselves opening the app for the 10th time today, ready to waste another two hours of our life. And without you even knowing, there's an army of people working to make sure you stay like that.

None of this is random. These big social media companies have one main objective: keep you on the platform. And so they manipulate you. They know exactly how the human mind works, and they take advantage of that. When you grab your phone first thing in the morning, when you open an app without even thinking about it—all of the habits you have, all of them, have been specifically engineered to happen. The apps are literally designed after a slot machine—the way we can pull down and refresh the feed, getting another hit of instant dopamine.

Dopamine. There's a common misconception with dopamine online. It's currently being portrayed as the "feel-good chemical," the chemical that's released in your brain whenever something good happens. Many believe we're addicted to dopamine, and as a result, we seek constant stimulation to fulfill this addiction. This idea works well if you're selling a course on a "dopamine detox." But dopamine is originally a hunting mechanism; it's not released when we catch what we're hunting for, but when we're in pursuit of it. Dopamine's primary role in the human brain is to make the hunt fun. If you put two and two together, you can see why social media is so addictive—it's basically one big hunt. A hunt for a funny video or a post you actually want to see.

But what does this mean for our future? Well, ultimately, there are two different ways this can go. The first path will be one of dystopia. Think back to the year before the iPhone was released. What would give us a hit of dopamine? Maybe a walk in the park, spending time with our families. These things would produce a level of dopamine in our brains that satisfied us. And then imagine the year later, when you could still do those things, but this time you could use your iPhone at the same time. What happens now? It's not that we receive more dopamine; we receive the exact same amount as before, except this time our tolerance has gone up. We now find those previous things not as fun anymore because we've experienced "better."

This is exactly what's happening now. It's why we can't do anything without some sort of noise in the background. It's why we have to watch a TikTok while also watching another TikTok. In simple terms, our baselines have shifted. As long as new and better things keep coming out in the world, we're constantly going to be increasing our baselines. For most people, day-to-day life without any technology has already become unbearable. And we're only 16 years in from the first iPhone coming out.

Just imagine in another 50 years.

I think we're heading down a dark path here, without the majority of us even realizing it. Or do we have the ability to turn this around? Sure, we won't ever be able to stop our advancements in technology, and neither should we want to. But is there another way around this? We've all seen the recent rise in the popularity of genuine content. Podcasts over the last few years have skyrocketed in views, and people just sitting down, talking to a camera, are being heavily pushed in the algorithm. Why is this happening? Well, humans crave social connection.

At first, social media was there to help us with that, and it worked. In the early days, we didn't have this problem. Social media was used as a tool—a tool to connect us with people. But when they realized they could take advantage of that, it was no longer about giving us social connection but giving us a false feeling of it. I mean, when was the last time you actually got some value out of social media? People are starting to realize this. People like you and many more across the world are just tired of being fed the same thing every day. We're actually taking a step back for once.

The whole point of this message is to ask you to take that step—a step away from all the content, my videos included. Because ultimately, it's our children who will suffer the true consequences if we carry on at this trajectory. So, keeping that in mind, just ask yourself: What do you value more? Keeping those apps on your phone, or a better future for your children?

Via : Modern Ideas