"Successful" but depressed af
AB32dl @ Apple
Mid 30s. Have a great job that I love and am happily married to a wonderful person. HH TC ~ $1.1M. But hardly any friends in the area. Mostly just work all day and come home to sleep. No hobbies to speak of or really any kind of life outside of work. I work a lot not because I want to but because I honestly have nothing better to do.
Don't know if this is normal or I'm just doing life wrong.
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AB32dl @ Apple
Mid 30s. Have a great job that I love and am happily married to a wonderful person. HH TC ~ $1.1M. But hardly any friends in the area. Mostly just work all day and come home to sleep. No hobbies to speak of or really any kind of life outside of work. I work a lot not because I want to but because I honestly have nothing better to do.
Don't know if this is normal or I'm just doing life wrong.
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what to do with 800-900k income (and a pathetic lifestyle) in bay area?
Jujubibi @ Meta
Just broke up with girlfriend. she accused me of "talking to other girls". She took away "her" cat that she bought, but the cat was literally mine the whole time.
I literally have 0 close friends at the moment. Work at meta and side hustle (~3hrs/day) and gym take most of my time.
I have a lot of matches on dating app and can probably go on date when I'm bored or do a few casual relationships here and there but it's so fucking meaningless. Occasionally I can do solo travel to places but then what? I'm not ready to get in a new relationship yet.
Anyone been in the same situation? what do?
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Jujubibi @ Meta
Just broke up with girlfriend. she accused me of "talking to other girls". She took away "her" cat that she bought, but the cat was literally mine the whole time.
I literally have 0 close friends at the moment. Work at meta and side hustle (~3hrs/day) and gym take most of my time.
I have a lot of matches on dating app and can probably go on date when I'm bored or do a few casual relationships here and there but it's so fucking meaningless. Occasionally I can do solo travel to places but then what? I'm not ready to get in a new relationship yet.
Anyone been in the same situation? what do?
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Half a million illegals will get citizenship with new Biden executive order on Tuesday
lione @ Amazon
Illegal aliens who cross the border, sell drugs and commit crime will get citizenship with Biden executive order in Tuesday
http://fox59.com/news/politics/ap-politics/ap-half-a-million-immigrants-could-eventually-get-us-citizenship-under-new-plan-from-biden
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lione @ Amazon
Illegal aliens who cross the border, sell drugs and commit crime will get citizenship with Biden executive order in Tuesday
http://fox59.com/news/politics/ap-politics/ap-half-a-million-immigrants-could-eventually-get-us-citizenship-under-new-plan-from-biden
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Fox 59
Half a million immigrants could eventually get US citizenship under a sweeping new plan from Biden
WASHINGTON (AP) — President Joe Biden ordered expansive election-year action Tuesday to offer potential citizenship to hundreds of thousands of immigrants without legal status in the U.S., aiming t…
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When people acknowledge suburbs suck
🦆🦆✨️ @ Capital One
But they live there to raise their kids, is that not acknowledging they chose to raise their kids somewhere that sucks?
So everyone in the family suffers.
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🦆🦆✨️ @ Capital One
But they live there to raise their kids, is that not acknowledging they chose to raise their kids somewhere that sucks?
So everyone in the family suffers.
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Koreans need to start making more babies
GojoJJK @ Cisco
Look at their president. He has an extremely hot wife. If I were him, I would be making so many babies with her. And yet, they have 0 children despite sleeping on the same bed?
Koreans have hot girls, kpop, and sexiest girls in Asia, and yet, they're birth rate is <1.
Whats wrong with you ppl
TC 160
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GojoJJK @ Cisco
Look at their president. He has an extremely hot wife. If I were him, I would be making so many babies with her. And yet, they have 0 children despite sleeping on the same bed?
Koreans have hot girls, kpop, and sexiest girls in Asia, and yet, they're birth rate is <1.
Whats wrong with you ppl
TC 160
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Vietnamese are NOT Southeast Asia. We are East Asians.
nguoi_viet @ ex-Proofpoint
Vietnamese belong in the same group as Koreans, Chinese, and Japanese. And not the same group as Thais, Phillipines, Cambodia, or Taiwan.
We were influenced by Chinese culture, and as a result share a lot of characteristics with Koreans, Chinese, and Japanese. A lot of Vietnamese can be pale, just like the East Asians.
We are NOT Southeast Asian.
Vietnamese are East Asian.
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I’ve had a lot of trauma and inferiority complex my whole life from being a supposed “Southeast Asian” Vietnamese. But I think Vietnamese have enough in common with the upper-class East Asian countries of China, Korea, and Japan to be accepted into the East Asian club. And not classified with the other Southeast Asian countries, like Taiwan or Cambodia.
I support Vietnam falling under the “East Asian” identity label.
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Edit: for those of you telling me I have an “inferiority complex,” read my post again. I do not.
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Edit 2: This is common thinking among Vietnamese.
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nguoi_viet @ ex-Proofpoint
Vietnamese belong in the same group as Koreans, Chinese, and Japanese. And not the same group as Thais, Phillipines, Cambodia, or Taiwan.
We were influenced by Chinese culture, and as a result share a lot of characteristics with Koreans, Chinese, and Japanese. A lot of Vietnamese can be pale, just like the East Asians.
We are NOT Southeast Asian.
Vietnamese are East Asian.
——
I’ve had a lot of trauma and inferiority complex my whole life from being a supposed “Southeast Asian” Vietnamese. But I think Vietnamese have enough in common with the upper-class East Asian countries of China, Korea, and Japan to be accepted into the East Asian club. And not classified with the other Southeast Asian countries, like Taiwan or Cambodia.
I support Vietnam falling under the “East Asian” identity label.
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Edit: for those of you telling me I have an “inferiority complex,” read my post again. I do not.
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Edit 2: This is common thinking among Vietnamese.
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New Grad Starter Budget in NYC
postsynd @ Google
Hey all I’m 20 YO and will be joining Google as a swe new grad in August; enough money saved from internships to move to NYC in July. I’ve calculated tentative expenses as the following and would like to hear opinions on if I’m off the mark on anything.
Monthly salary post tax: $8,856
Rent (locked in): $3,200
Tithes (general giving according to beliefs): $885
Savings: $1,771
Student loans (15k): $1,000
Utilities (based on avg from previous owners): $207
Food: $1,000
Transportation: $200
Unallocated/pocket funds: $591
All of the above is coming from the salary, then I’m planning to use stock sales to save in 401k/roth. Parents say I don’t need to go so heavy toward student loans and I’ve also been given advice by mentor to load up my 401k early to secure match $$ and use as down payment for house.
Open to thoughts and can provide extra information as requested.
TC: will be ~237k
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postsynd @ Google
Hey all I’m 20 YO and will be joining Google as a swe new grad in August; enough money saved from internships to move to NYC in July. I’ve calculated tentative expenses as the following and would like to hear opinions on if I’m off the mark on anything.
Monthly salary post tax: $8,856
Rent (locked in): $3,200
Tithes (general giving according to beliefs): $885
Savings: $1,771
Student loans (15k): $1,000
Utilities (based on avg from previous owners): $207
Food: $1,000
Transportation: $200
Unallocated/pocket funds: $591
All of the above is coming from the salary, then I’m planning to use stock sales to save in 401k/roth. Parents say I don’t need to go so heavy toward student loans and I’ve also been given advice by mentor to load up my 401k early to secure match $$ and use as down payment for house.
Open to thoughts and can provide extra information as requested.
TC: will be ~237k
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Trump is going to mop the floor with sleepy joe at the first debate
prestieg @ ex-SpaceX
It’s going to be elder abuse at the first debate. Whatever stimulant or amphetamine they give joe, better last for the duration of the debate. Trump is literally going to mop the floor with this non sentient, declining, fascist pedophile puppet
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prestieg @ ex-SpaceX
It’s going to be elder abuse at the first debate. Whatever stimulant or amphetamine they give joe, better last for the duration of the debate. Trump is literally going to mop the floor with this non sentient, declining, fascist pedophile puppet
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Please choose your partner wisely
pot.luck @ Amazon
Single earner, household with two kids. My wife stays at home even though she got an MBA here that I paid for. She doesn't drive, doesn't do household chores either except maybe cook once in a while when she feels like it. I am totally burned out managing both work and kids. The older one is in elementary while the younger one goes to daycare (wife doesn't want to keep her at home as she cannot manage). My daily routine is getting up early and getting the kids ready, dropping both off to daycare/school then battling the traffic to reach downtown Seattle from the east side; I then come home and spend time with kids and put them to bed. Then either get takeout or make food for myself. I have zero life outside of this. My wife just watches some BS daily soaps with zero empathy towards me.
I can't say anything to her because she starts shouting on top of her voice and it's not good for my kids. I feel burned out as I have no life outside work and kids. I haven't been able to workout in over a year nor pursued any of my hobbies. Please choose your partner wisely.
TC: 330k
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pot.luck @ Amazon
Single earner, household with two kids. My wife stays at home even though she got an MBA here that I paid for. She doesn't drive, doesn't do household chores either except maybe cook once in a while when she feels like it. I am totally burned out managing both work and kids. The older one is in elementary while the younger one goes to daycare (wife doesn't want to keep her at home as she cannot manage). My daily routine is getting up early and getting the kids ready, dropping both off to daycare/school then battling the traffic to reach downtown Seattle from the east side; I then come home and spend time with kids and put them to bed. Then either get takeout or make food for myself. I have zero life outside of this. My wife just watches some BS daily soaps with zero empathy towards me.
I can't say anything to her because she starts shouting on top of her voice and it's not good for my kids. I feel burned out as I have no life outside work and kids. I haven't been able to workout in over a year nor pursued any of my hobbies. Please choose your partner wisely.
TC: 330k
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I bought NVDA at 139
FtrG63 @ Google
What on earth, I thought it would just not rallying. And now I have lost 15%. God dammit.
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FtrG63 @ Google
What on earth, I thought it would just not rallying. And now I have lost 15%. God dammit.
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32 with 1.2M , when should I quit ?
looknfrjob @ Intel
I am 32 years old with 8 YOE, and a NW of 1.25M.
My current TC is 220K and my family TC is 360K. With current levels of savings, I should be able to get to 2M in the next 3 years.
However, I don't enjoy my work anymore. In fact, I hate it.
I am aware that I am not rich enough to quit and do nothing. But quitting is always in my mind. However I am not sure when I should pull the trigger.
What do you guys think ? Any feedback ?
Edit 1: Many in the comments section are asking about my savings ratio. So here is the breakdown:
Effective tax rate - 29%
Post tax income - 255K
Annual rent - 30K
Annual expenses - ~20K (no kids, paid off used car)
Therefore, savings around 200K
#personal finance
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looknfrjob @ Intel
I am 32 years old with 8 YOE, and a NW of 1.25M.
My current TC is 220K and my family TC is 360K. With current levels of savings, I should be able to get to 2M in the next 3 years.
However, I don't enjoy my work anymore. In fact, I hate it.
I am aware that I am not rich enough to quit and do nothing. But quitting is always in my mind. However I am not sure when I should pull the trigger.
What do you guys think ? Any feedback ?
Edit 1: Many in the comments section are asking about my savings ratio. So here is the breakdown:
Effective tax rate - 29%
Post tax income - 255K
Annual rent - 30K
Annual expenses - ~20K (no kids, paid off used car)
Therefore, savings around 200K
#personal finance
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Waymo is now available to everyone in SF Goodbye Uber and Lyft?
WdMcup @ Microsoft
https://www.theverge.com/2024/6/25/24184814/waymo-waitlist-robotaxi-san-francisco-app-ride
How's it for people who have tried it? Will Waymo be replacing Uber and Lyft entirely soon?
What do you all think? Personally I don't see what role lyft and uber will have
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WdMcup @ Microsoft
https://www.theverge.com/2024/6/25/24184814/waymo-waitlist-robotaxi-san-francisco-app-ride
How's it for people who have tried it? Will Waymo be replacing Uber and Lyft entirely soon?
What do you all think? Personally I don't see what role lyft and uber will have
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The Verge
Waymo ditches the waitlist and opens up its robotaxis to everyone in San Francisco
Interested customers can download the app and request a ride.
Exposing DEI
growler 🐻❄️ @ New
Without sharing too many details, I was heavily involved in some of the DEI initiatives at larger companies and was horrified by what I’ve seen behind the scenes.
Without naming any companies, I’m thinking about making a video sharing some of the stories of what I saw behind the scenes. I’ve wanted to make a YouTube channel for a long time anyway.
My brother thinks it could be career suicide for me. He thinks no one would want to hire me because I’m squealing on employers. However, I’m not naming any names.
How would you feel about a job candidate who made a video like that, even if they didn’t name any of the companies?
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growler 🐻❄️ @ New
Without sharing too many details, I was heavily involved in some of the DEI initiatives at larger companies and was horrified by what I’ve seen behind the scenes.
Without naming any companies, I’m thinking about making a video sharing some of the stories of what I saw behind the scenes. I’ve wanted to make a YouTube channel for a long time anyway.
My brother thinks it could be career suicide for me. He thinks no one would want to hire me because I’m squealing on employers. However, I’m not naming any names.
How would you feel about a job candidate who made a video like that, even if they didn’t name any of the companies?
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Stop wasting your time preparing for the interview
#sfdc_guy @ Informatica
It’s not a surprise that the market is going to get tougher and tougher and all of the industry leaders recognizing it with fear. Check the recent statement from salesforce Benoif how he sees the market will be impacted by AI and custom software development.
Now I have a offer for you , instead of wasting your time preparing with leetcode - how about launching your own business? I’m working on three right now and I’m shorthanded. The best part is not typical start up bullshit. It’s already generates cash but needs to scale.
I see that it can be scaled in 6 to 18 months with proper development and growth.
DM me if you’re interested
Do not DM me if you’re looking for a job as a safe Harbour and just want to go to massages and drink coffee and rest and West you guys better do something else
Thanks for your attention
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#sfdc_guy @ Informatica
It’s not a surprise that the market is going to get tougher and tougher and all of the industry leaders recognizing it with fear. Check the recent statement from salesforce Benoif how he sees the market will be impacted by AI and custom software development.
Now I have a offer for you , instead of wasting your time preparing with leetcode - how about launching your own business? I’m working on three right now and I’m shorthanded. The best part is not typical start up bullshit. It’s already generates cash but needs to scale.
I see that it can be scaled in 6 to 18 months with proper development and growth.
DM me if you’re interested
Do not DM me if you’re looking for a job as a safe Harbour and just want to go to massages and drink coffee and rest and West you guys better do something else
Thanks for your attention
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Why does America respect hip-hop and rap people?
ja7q6f @ Amazon
Most of those songs are vulgar and promote degenerate behavior
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ja7q6f @ Amazon
Most of those songs are vulgar and promote degenerate behavior
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Hot Chinese girl on my team
38nfks @ Microsoft
Outside of work, what are some topics that Chinese girls may be interested in?
I was thinking I could learn more about that topic to engage in conversation, before asking her out.
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38nfks @ Microsoft
Outside of work, what are some topics that Chinese girls may be interested in?
I was thinking I could learn more about that topic to engage in conversation, before asking her out.
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If you were to invest all your money in one stock, yolo style - not ETF what would it be?
pat709 @ TikTok
What do you have most confidence in?
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pat709 @ TikTok
What do you have most confidence in?
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Meta Q2 2024 Layoffs
SЕV0 @ Meta
Seems there's another moment happening... Unclear how many affected... internal reports of Realty Labs and Monetization people affected 🫡
#layoff
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SЕV0 @ Meta
Seems there's another moment happening... Unclear how many affected... internal reports of Realty Labs and Monetization people affected 🫡
#layoff
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Offer from meta.
ocidude @ Oracle
I interviewed with meta for a M1 position and got a positive rating from the hiring committee. They started the team match and gave me initial numbers around 550k tc which seems low for the bay area according to levels.fyi.
I am interviewing elsewhere as well but no offers in hand yet. What is the best way to get FB to up their offer?
Thank you in advance
Current TC: 278k base - 325k rsu per year
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ocidude @ Oracle
I interviewed with meta for a M1 position and got a positive rating from the hiring committee. They started the team match and gave me initial numbers around 550k tc which seems low for the bay area according to levels.fyi.
I am interviewing elsewhere as well but no offers in hand yet. What is the best way to get FB to up their offer?
Thank you in advance
Current TC: 278k base - 325k rsu per year
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