People throwing “I turned ace” casually on tiktok without even knowing what that is
I am really tired of going on tiktok and seeing the “my bf was stupid and made me go asexual”, “I finally decentered men and nearly turned asexual in the process”.
You cannot become asexual because you finally started seeing the patterns that patriarchal society has been making women follow all this time. You, finally finding self-worth and power to choose yourself and as a result not get sex, is not asexuality.
It rubs me the wrong way that people start to use it as 1) synonym for celibacy or 2) quirky title on tiktok without knowing what that is.
The amount of acephobia in the comments when you point it out is also insane. “Asexuality is not real, it’s just a lifestyle choice” or “it’s just a result of some medication” or “it’s just low libido”. This completely invalidates the whole community.
Asexuality is not a badge of honor you use for some time after you realised you need to focus on yourself and not men and then drop it. It’s a whole spectrum, it’s a valid sexuality. Yes, it ranges from zero attraction, to experiencing it rarely or when you established an emotional contact, or feeling it today and not tomorrow and MANY OTHER FORMS. But it all comes down to the sexual attraction and its deviation from the norm. Not libido and not your choice to put yourself first and the following consequences of not getting sex.
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I am really tired of going on tiktok and seeing the “my bf was stupid and made me go asexual”, “I finally decentered men and nearly turned asexual in the process”.
You cannot become asexual because you finally started seeing the patterns that patriarchal society has been making women follow all this time. You, finally finding self-worth and power to choose yourself and as a result not get sex, is not asexuality.
It rubs me the wrong way that people start to use it as 1) synonym for celibacy or 2) quirky title on tiktok without knowing what that is.
The amount of acephobia in the comments when you point it out is also insane. “Asexuality is not real, it’s just a lifestyle choice” or “it’s just a result of some medication” or “it’s just low libido”. This completely invalidates the whole community.
Asexuality is not a badge of honor you use for some time after you realised you need to focus on yourself and not men and then drop it. It’s a whole spectrum, it’s a valid sexuality. Yes, it ranges from zero attraction, to experiencing it rarely or when you established an emotional contact, or feeling it today and not tomorrow and MANY OTHER FORMS. But it all comes down to the sexual attraction and its deviation from the norm. Not libido and not your choice to put yourself first and the following consequences of not getting sex.
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Am I asexual if I want to have intercorse with a strap on sex toy; penetrating a butch?
I am Butch and i am ButchxButch
I don’t masterbate
I want to do as the title says. But i also only feel romantic parts of attraction.
But I don’t know.
Maybe Demi.
Once my desire happens the sexual attraction pops out.
No body understands.
My desire is a fetish I have.
My fetish is that I spoon them, I lift their shirt up and as they push their belly out I finger their belly button.
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I am Butch and i am ButchxButch
I don’t masterbate
I want to do as the title says. But i also only feel romantic parts of attraction.
But I don’t know.
Maybe Demi.
Once my desire happens the sexual attraction pops out.
No body understands.
My desire is a fetish I have.
My fetish is that I spoon them, I lift their shirt up and as they push their belly out I finger their belly button.
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My friend said i’m not asexual because I am able to get hard
My friend told me today that I am not asexual because i (18M) am able to be hard. He also said that because i goon sometimes (which is an addiction im trying to stop because i dont enjoy it), he said that i enjoyed it 5 years ago so that means im not asexual, i tried to tell him that asexuality isnt black and white but he told me that it is. Im not sure what to think now because im having a bit of an identity crisis, but i still firmly believe i am an asexual
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My friend told me today that I am not asexual because i (18M) am able to be hard. He also said that because i goon sometimes (which is an addiction im trying to stop because i dont enjoy it), he said that i enjoyed it 5 years ago so that means im not asexual, i tried to tell him that asexuality isnt black and white but he told me that it is. Im not sure what to think now because im having a bit of an identity crisis, but i still firmly believe i am an asexual
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I’ve been back and forth on this so many times but it never changes the fact that I will not have sex
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could we stop asexuality definition "checking"
sorry for the lack of a better title. i can't think of a better way to say it
sometimes when there's a post from an ace person with a low or no libido, there always seems to be a comment reiterating something along the lines of "asexuality has nothing to do with libido, it means little to no sexual attraction" when the poster isn't even claiming otherwise.. not every "stereotypical" ace is a low libido allo, just like favorable aces aren't "allos in denial"
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sorry for the lack of a better title. i can't think of a better way to say it
sometimes when there's a post from an ace person with a low or no libido, there always seems to be a comment reiterating something along the lines of "asexuality has nothing to do with libido, it means little to no sexual attraction" when the poster isn't even claiming otherwise.. not every "stereotypical" ace is a low libido allo, just like favorable aces aren't "allos in denial"
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just found out what aegosexuality is
why didn't anyone tell me lmao it's literally what i am ;w;
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why didn't anyone tell me lmao it's literally what i am ;w;
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Sensitive images in pride subreddits
Dear community, I ask for your advice in a certain matter. Over at r/nonbinary I suggested to please put a spoiler on pictures that show people in underwear. I'm not completely sex averse but I really dislike seeing strangers in underwear in my everyday feed. Almost all comments so far alienate and berate me to not be so sensible.
How are your thoughts on that issue?
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Dear community, I ask for your advice in a certain matter. Over at r/nonbinary I suggested to please put a spoiler on pictures that show people in underwear. I'm not completely sex averse but I really dislike seeing strangers in underwear in my everyday feed. Almost all comments so far alienate and berate me to not be so sensible.
How are your thoughts on that issue?
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Lol almost got me questioning...almost
Really REALLY wasn't sure what to tag this. Basically I compulsively pick at my scabs to the point where my arms are an art gallery of different colored scars. I have long suspected either dermatillomania or that it's some sort of self harm(I've had severe depression for more than half my life) anyway I decided to look it up today and see if it is a common form of self harm and saw that it's commonly associated with a disease called PWS(Prader-Willi Syndrome) I looked this up and saw that a common side effect of PWS is lack of sexual development/maturity so I looked it up and....nope it's caused by chromosome 15 not working properly which causes a hormone imbalance. Besides me not having literally ANY other symptoms(ravenous hunger which often causes obesity, poor infantile muscle tone, and developmental delays in other areas) I also have had my hormones tested for other medical reasons and I'm completely normal for someone my age, gender weight, height, etc. but it ALMOST had me questioning if I was really ace.
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Really REALLY wasn't sure what to tag this. Basically I compulsively pick at my scabs to the point where my arms are an art gallery of different colored scars. I have long suspected either dermatillomania or that it's some sort of self harm(I've had severe depression for more than half my life) anyway I decided to look it up today and see if it is a common form of self harm and saw that it's commonly associated with a disease called PWS(Prader-Willi Syndrome) I looked this up and saw that a common side effect of PWS is lack of sexual development/maturity so I looked it up and....nope it's caused by chromosome 15 not working properly which causes a hormone imbalance. Besides me not having literally ANY other symptoms(ravenous hunger which often causes obesity, poor infantile muscle tone, and developmental delays in other areas) I also have had my hormones tested for other medical reasons and I'm completely normal for someone my age, gender weight, height, etc. but it ALMOST had me questioning if I was really ace.
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How do I get people to understand that I don't experience crushes?
Yesterday I was having a conversation with my sister's boyfriend and randomly the subject of my sexuality came up. He asked if I liked boys or girls and I just told him no for both. He and my sister apparently believe im gay and have a secret massive crush on a friend of mine. I told him I have never experienced having a crush in my entire life and a definitely do not have one for my friend. He basically told me im in denial. It made me uncomfortable that not just him but also my sister think this stuff about me.
He looked at me insane when I told I have never had a crush in my life. And tbh it hurt. It happened yesterday and I still cant get it out of my head due to how adamant he was on me being in denial and the look he gave me. It reminds me of the time I told a classmate I had never had a crush and they told me they were genuinely scared of me and looked at me like I was insane.
How do I get people to understand that sometimes people just dont experience crushes? How do I get them to understand that it makes me uncomfortable to even assume that im in love with someone especially a friend?
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Yesterday I was having a conversation with my sister's boyfriend and randomly the subject of my sexuality came up. He asked if I liked boys or girls and I just told him no for both. He and my sister apparently believe im gay and have a secret massive crush on a friend of mine. I told him I have never experienced having a crush in my entire life and a definitely do not have one for my friend. He basically told me im in denial. It made me uncomfortable that not just him but also my sister think this stuff about me.
He looked at me insane when I told I have never had a crush in my life. And tbh it hurt. It happened yesterday and I still cant get it out of my head due to how adamant he was on me being in denial and the look he gave me. It reminds me of the time I told a classmate I had never had a crush and they told me they were genuinely scared of me and looked at me like I was insane.
How do I get people to understand that sometimes people just dont experience crushes? How do I get them to understand that it makes me uncomfortable to even assume that im in love with someone especially a friend?
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I don’t think he knows that I am Ace but look at what my Grandpa wore at my birthday.
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On which finger and which hand does the ACE ring go?
I was finally able to get the ring, and I think it goes on the middle finger, but I'm not so sure if I'm right.
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I was finally able to get the ring, and I think it goes on the middle finger, but I'm not so sure if I'm right.
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Are You Aro (Advice)?
**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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