Did you also thought you were bi because you felt the same about everyone?
I thought I was bisexual because I felt the same for everyone. Then I realized that what I feel is nothing for everyone. So now I just label myself as queer cause anyone could probably not but almost get it if you know what I mean. Have you experienced this ?
Also what's your sexuality?
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I thought I was bisexual because I felt the same for everyone. Then I realized that what I feel is nothing for everyone. So now I just label myself as queer cause anyone could probably not but almost get it if you know what I mean. Have you experienced this ?
Also what's your sexuality?
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Do you ever talk/think about romance drive?
So I see people talk about sex drive all the time but I dont see people talk about romance drive. And it's been a problem in all of my relationships way more than my tiny sex drive has been.
So the second I learned about asexual I knew that was me. But then I learned about aromantic shortly there after and I still don't know if tbats me. I say I'm aromantic cause I dont want to explain it to people. But I do want to a romantic partner. I want to have someone to go on dates and cuddle with. Someone I can show my whole self too. Someone to take to funerals (have you ever gone to a funeral by yourself? One of the worst experiences of my life.)
But
I only want to go on dates like once every other month. And things like gift giving, kissing, holding hands, all of those couple things I only like to do on the rare occasion. I do like cuddling a lot but I need my own bedroom and bathroom. I hate sharing a bathroom or a bed. And I need plenty of time to myself. Like at least two hours a day and at least 2 days a week. I just don't think about romance or wanting to be romantic often.
And yeah that would make me a terrible girlfriend. But all of the advice I ever got is that relationships are work and I'm just being lazy or selfish. But I feel smothered by affection. I feel about it the same way I do sex. I want it a very small amount and I'm willing to put in the work to go above what I want but there is a limit.
Does this make sense to anyone else or am I just lazy/selfish/crazy?
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So I see people talk about sex drive all the time but I dont see people talk about romance drive. And it's been a problem in all of my relationships way more than my tiny sex drive has been.
So the second I learned about asexual I knew that was me. But then I learned about aromantic shortly there after and I still don't know if tbats me. I say I'm aromantic cause I dont want to explain it to people. But I do want to a romantic partner. I want to have someone to go on dates and cuddle with. Someone I can show my whole self too. Someone to take to funerals (have you ever gone to a funeral by yourself? One of the worst experiences of my life.)
But
I only want to go on dates like once every other month. And things like gift giving, kissing, holding hands, all of those couple things I only like to do on the rare occasion. I do like cuddling a lot but I need my own bedroom and bathroom. I hate sharing a bathroom or a bed. And I need plenty of time to myself. Like at least two hours a day and at least 2 days a week. I just don't think about romance or wanting to be romantic often.
And yeah that would make me a terrible girlfriend. But all of the advice I ever got is that relationships are work and I'm just being lazy or selfish. But I feel smothered by affection. I feel about it the same way I do sex. I want it a very small amount and I'm willing to put in the work to go above what I want but there is a limit.
Does this make sense to anyone else or am I just lazy/selfish/crazy?
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They exist 🖤 happy story
I found out I’m gray and this week my gf told me she would be happy to spend her life with me even if it means we won’t have sex anymore together. It lifted something off my chest I didn’t knew lied there 🖤
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I found out I’m gray and this week my gf told me she would be happy to spend her life with me even if it means we won’t have sex anymore together. It lifted something off my chest I didn’t knew lied there 🖤
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I posted on a relationship advice Reddit and now I need a hug
I posted in a relationship advice Reddit basically about how my partner is upset with our sex life. I won’t post many details but basically my boyfriend is regularly upset we don’t have sex as often as he wants to (which is every day) but we do around 1-3 (more like 3) times a week and as someone on the asexual scale that’s a lot.
Anyways some people were kind but a lot of people were also saying stuff like “you aren’t willing to do the bare minimum” or “you’re always going to have this problem” and just the idea that I should compromise because that’s what you do in relationships. Some people compared having sex when you don’t want to to listening to your partner when they’ve had a bad day.
Idk man. I feel like i really needs hug and feel so alone….
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I posted in a relationship advice Reddit basically about how my partner is upset with our sex life. I won’t post many details but basically my boyfriend is regularly upset we don’t have sex as often as he wants to (which is every day) but we do around 1-3 (more like 3) times a week and as someone on the asexual scale that’s a lot.
Anyways some people were kind but a lot of people were also saying stuff like “you aren’t willing to do the bare minimum” or “you’re always going to have this problem” and just the idea that I should compromise because that’s what you do in relationships. Some people compared having sex when you don’t want to to listening to your partner when they’ve had a bad day.
Idk man. I feel like i really needs hug and feel so alone….
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I have recently realized I might be Ace, could I be?
It all funnily enough started with a couple of friends celebrating Ace Week recently, and when I heard them talking about it, I thought “this kinda… sounds like me…”
So since then I’ve been googling and thinking it over, and I have realized I really might be Ace? I (Male) have always found a lot of women pretty, but I have realized it’s the same feeling of appreciation for beauty or cuteness as I get from looking at a beautiful old Ferrari, or a cute doggo or cat. I think most of my “crushes” have just been people I think look pretty; but that’s it.
I have only had 1 person that I felt very different about; I wanted to get close with her. I liked how she looked, but it wasn’t till I got to knew her I really got a “crush”. But looking back, I never even thought about or wanted to do anything remotely sexual with her, even in imagination. I have realized what I was actually dreaming about was emotional and personal closeness, sharing life together. I love hugs and physical affection like cuddles, but sexual intimacy never even crossed my mind.
Looking back it does seem like I might be Ace, but it’s also difficult to really understand it? 😅 I know it’s impossible to be 100% “certain”, but just wanted to get some insights here from y’all, could I be or am I Ace?
I appreciate any advice, suggestions or discussions! 😄
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It all funnily enough started with a couple of friends celebrating Ace Week recently, and when I heard them talking about it, I thought “this kinda… sounds like me…”
So since then I’ve been googling and thinking it over, and I have realized I really might be Ace? I (Male) have always found a lot of women pretty, but I have realized it’s the same feeling of appreciation for beauty or cuteness as I get from looking at a beautiful old Ferrari, or a cute doggo or cat. I think most of my “crushes” have just been people I think look pretty; but that’s it.
I have only had 1 person that I felt very different about; I wanted to get close with her. I liked how she looked, but it wasn’t till I got to knew her I really got a “crush”. But looking back, I never even thought about or wanted to do anything remotely sexual with her, even in imagination. I have realized what I was actually dreaming about was emotional and personal closeness, sharing life together. I love hugs and physical affection like cuddles, but sexual intimacy never even crossed my mind.
Looking back it does seem like I might be Ace, but it’s also difficult to really understand it? 😅 I know it’s impossible to be 100% “certain”, but just wanted to get some insights here from y’all, could I be or am I Ace?
I appreciate any advice, suggestions or discussions! 😄
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Can you be Ace and still enjoy sex? To a point..
Can you be Asexual and still sort of enjoy sex?
I’d much rather give it but sometimes i feel like, ‘aroused’ i guess? but its not really like a need to act on. most of the time i never act on it. in my last relationship sex was a huge part because my partner was hypersexual, i would help them a lot but never really do anything myself. if i did it was to calm down or relive stress, but he never really made me feel comfortable when i did. part of me like does like it?? i think? like somewhat.. like in my head im like yeah okay but when i act on it i feel worse? like i dont feel good really.
i would much rather give it to my partner and never have anything done to me but i still like ’want’ it sometimes, but alone. I’ve never had comfortable 50/50 sex. its always been uncomfortable or me having to get off by myself. so maybe because of that i just don't want someone else to touch me but even when i do it alone i still don't feel good. like sometimes part of me does but its rare. and i almost always feel worse after unless i just don’t think about it.
Also can you be ace and have sex dreams- like this is the most confusing part to me sometimes ill have sex dreams but i feel anxious and gross when i wake up.. I'm just so confused.
Maybe i just have a really low sex drive and don't really like having sex- i don't know— I just don't want to say I'm ace if I'm not in the like range? I think im against myself on this because I feel like if i am ace then i wont find a partner because all of my last partners would have broken up with me if i told them i was ace whether or not i would still help them.
i don't think i like sex. i like giving it to others but not all the time. if my future partner wasn’t hypersexual but enjoyed sex i would want to give it to them but i dont think i want to act on it myself. Actually maybe i would prefer not having sex at all—
but like sometimes i feel like aroused so i dont know what it means.. i dont like acting on it though. But like sometimes i do act on it but like 99% of me feels like shit after but sometimes i feel a bit more relaxed but i have to forget about it to feel mentally better.
I’m so confused and i feel like im just annoying people by asking this :,) im just confused and trying to figure this out. I want to know myself better ,:|
sorry i talk a lot.. im just trying to figure this out. basically.. can someone be asexual and still want to give their partner sex? can you be ace and still feel aroused sometimes even if you dont like acting on it? im just confused on how i feel. i dont know if theres like a spectrum to this and theres something else I identify with more but i dont know- i made another post but i had an easier to read question this time ,:) sorry if this is against the rules or weird im having a crisis lol not really im just super confused and want to get this right- if anyone can like educate me.. like help me figure this out.. are there other things i align with better.. i think im overthinking this.
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Can you be Asexual and still sort of enjoy sex?
I’d much rather give it but sometimes i feel like, ‘aroused’ i guess? but its not really like a need to act on. most of the time i never act on it. in my last relationship sex was a huge part because my partner was hypersexual, i would help them a lot but never really do anything myself. if i did it was to calm down or relive stress, but he never really made me feel comfortable when i did. part of me like does like it?? i think? like somewhat.. like in my head im like yeah okay but when i act on it i feel worse? like i dont feel good really.
i would much rather give it to my partner and never have anything done to me but i still like ’want’ it sometimes, but alone. I’ve never had comfortable 50/50 sex. its always been uncomfortable or me having to get off by myself. so maybe because of that i just don't want someone else to touch me but even when i do it alone i still don't feel good. like sometimes part of me does but its rare. and i almost always feel worse after unless i just don’t think about it.
Also can you be ace and have sex dreams- like this is the most confusing part to me sometimes ill have sex dreams but i feel anxious and gross when i wake up.. I'm just so confused.
Maybe i just have a really low sex drive and don't really like having sex- i don't know— I just don't want to say I'm ace if I'm not in the like range? I think im against myself on this because I feel like if i am ace then i wont find a partner because all of my last partners would have broken up with me if i told them i was ace whether or not i would still help them.
i don't think i like sex. i like giving it to others but not all the time. if my future partner wasn’t hypersexual but enjoyed sex i would want to give it to them but i dont think i want to act on it myself. Actually maybe i would prefer not having sex at all—
but like sometimes i feel like aroused so i dont know what it means.. i dont like acting on it though. But like sometimes i do act on it but like 99% of me feels like shit after but sometimes i feel a bit more relaxed but i have to forget about it to feel mentally better.
I’m so confused and i feel like im just annoying people by asking this :,) im just confused and trying to figure this out. I want to know myself better ,:|
sorry i talk a lot.. im just trying to figure this out. basically.. can someone be asexual and still want to give their partner sex? can you be ace and still feel aroused sometimes even if you dont like acting on it? im just confused on how i feel. i dont know if theres like a spectrum to this and theres something else I identify with more but i dont know- i made another post but i had an easier to read question this time ,:) sorry if this is against the rules or weird im having a crisis lol not really im just super confused and want to get this right- if anyone can like educate me.. like help me figure this out.. are there other things i align with better.. i think im overthinking this.
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Am I Asexual?
Sooo this is sort of new for me. After some recent events I discovered for certain that I don't enjoy sex, at least physically, at all. It's boring and doesn't feel like anything. It's possible that maybe I haven't found some way to have sex that would give me pleasure but I can't imagine anything actually feeling good.
It's all the feelings around the sex that confuses me. Like people say asexual don't feel sexual attraction to others and I can't tell if I do or not. I definitely see certain people and would say I find them attractive but do I actually? I am not aromantic I know that and I still masturbate, feel horny and stuff. I would like a partner one day and I would want them to be someone I find attractive, why do I feel like that even though I don't like sex? I like knowing other people find me sexually attractive and the little enjoyment I do get out of sex is the emotional connection and knowing the other person felt good. Why do I feel any of these things when I don't like sex? Honestly I would be pretty happy to never have sex again but I also want other people to want to have sex with me? It's all very frustrating.
The only things I know for certain is that I am not aromantic and I get no physical pleasure from sex. All these other feelings are a massive headache.
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Sooo this is sort of new for me. After some recent events I discovered for certain that I don't enjoy sex, at least physically, at all. It's boring and doesn't feel like anything. It's possible that maybe I haven't found some way to have sex that would give me pleasure but I can't imagine anything actually feeling good.
It's all the feelings around the sex that confuses me. Like people say asexual don't feel sexual attraction to others and I can't tell if I do or not. I definitely see certain people and would say I find them attractive but do I actually? I am not aromantic I know that and I still masturbate, feel horny and stuff. I would like a partner one day and I would want them to be someone I find attractive, why do I feel like that even though I don't like sex? I like knowing other people find me sexually attractive and the little enjoyment I do get out of sex is the emotional connection and knowing the other person felt good. Why do I feel any of these things when I don't like sex? Honestly I would be pretty happy to never have sex again but I also want other people to want to have sex with me? It's all very frustrating.
The only things I know for certain is that I am not aromantic and I get no physical pleasure from sex. All these other feelings are a massive headache.
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Hate Being Told That I’m “Lucky” To Be Asexual
If I had a nickel for everytime someone told me “you’re lucky you’re asexual, I wish I was too!” I’d have two nickels. Which is alot.
Shut the fuck up, genuinely. You think being ace is fun? You think I’m lucky? Oh yeah, it sure is awesome not being able to sleep and crying all night because I’m worried I’ll die alone! It’s great not seeing myself as a real man because I don’t want sex, and knowing I’ll never be enough for anyone! I love having less than 1% of the population to date , I love constantly being sexualised by people and having them disrespect my sexuality multiple times! I love not being able to make friends and being afraid to go outside because I’m terrified of being seen in a sexual manner by anyone!
What a fun life!
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If I had a nickel for everytime someone told me “you’re lucky you’re asexual, I wish I was too!” I’d have two nickels. Which is alot.
Shut the fuck up, genuinely. You think being ace is fun? You think I’m lucky? Oh yeah, it sure is awesome not being able to sleep and crying all night because I’m worried I’ll die alone! It’s great not seeing myself as a real man because I don’t want sex, and knowing I’ll never be enough for anyone! I love having less than 1% of the population to date , I love constantly being sexualised by people and having them disrespect my sexuality multiple times! I love not being able to make friends and being afraid to go outside because I’m terrified of being seen in a sexual manner by anyone!
What a fun life!
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any people attracted to voice alone
aesthetically, sexually......
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aesthetically, sexually......
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Am I Asexual?
If you are questioning whether or not you are asexual (including all microlabels), reply to this post with what made you start questioning, and why.
If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.
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If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.
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Is it possible if I could be asexual?
Hi all,
I'm questioning if I could be asexual and possibly aromantic. I'm not entirely sure if this belongs under "inquiry", but no other flair seems to fit.
Anyway, I've never really had much of an interest in sex or dating or romance. I have looked at porn quite a few times, but have pretty much always felt disgusted with myself afterwards. The idea of actually doing anything with a physical partner really doesn't interest me.
Adding to this is the fact that like I said, I don't really care about romance or dating and never have. I have no intention of ever actually marrying or having kids, whether biological or adopted.
So, once again, is it possible I could be asexual or aromantic? Or both? Or neither?
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Hi all,
I'm questioning if I could be asexual and possibly aromantic. I'm not entirely sure if this belongs under "inquiry", but no other flair seems to fit.
Anyway, I've never really had much of an interest in sex or dating or romance. I have looked at porn quite a few times, but have pretty much always felt disgusted with myself afterwards. The idea of actually doing anything with a physical partner really doesn't interest me.
Adding to this is the fact that like I said, I don't really care about romance or dating and never have. I have no intention of ever actually marrying or having kids, whether biological or adopted.
So, once again, is it possible I could be asexual or aromantic? Or both? Or neither?
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WIRED mag callout - AI companions
Hey everyone, an AI companion site last month offered free membership to people on the asexual spectrum to mark Asexual Awareness Week — and so my editor at WIRED and I thought it would be interesting to explore whether many asexual people are relating with such companions. I know there might be concerns that we would enter into this with a preconceived notion that asexuals might be uniquely suited to have AI companions, but that’s really not the case. We understand that asexual people share intimacy with folks, perhaps to a greater extent than many hetero people, and that the asexual spectrum is diverse. I’m really coming into this with an open mind and seeking to speak to as many people as possible and represent their views accurately and sensitively.
We’re open to speaking to anyone who feels that they have an AI companion — and of course we would be happy to keep one’s identifying details private as desired.
Thanks,
Mattha
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Hey everyone, an AI companion site last month offered free membership to people on the asexual spectrum to mark Asexual Awareness Week — and so my editor at WIRED and I thought it would be interesting to explore whether many asexual people are relating with such companions. I know there might be concerns that we would enter into this with a preconceived notion that asexuals might be uniquely suited to have AI companions, but that’s really not the case. We understand that asexual people share intimacy with folks, perhaps to a greater extent than many hetero people, and that the asexual spectrum is diverse. I’m really coming into this with an open mind and seeking to speak to as many people as possible and represent their views accurately and sensitively.
We’re open to speaking to anyone who feels that they have an AI companion — and of course we would be happy to keep one’s identifying details private as desired.
Thanks,
Mattha
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Mattha Busby is a journalist who writes about health, drugs and (sub)culture. His work has appeared in The Guardian, Rolling Stone, Vice, Time, and Men's Health. In 2024, he was a Ferriss-UC Berkeley fellow in psychedelic journalism.
I hate being asexual
It feels so isolating. I just want to enjoy sex and be normal. My partner (21m) of 2.5 years is allosexual and I know he loves me, I love him, but I can't help but feel as if I know he'd be happier if I liked having sex. Nobody truly understands and sex looks like it could be so much fun. It makes me want to cry. I wish I could just be normal.
I've known I'm asexual for the last 4-5 years.
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It feels so isolating. I just want to enjoy sex and be normal. My partner (21m) of 2.5 years is allosexual and I know he loves me, I love him, but I can't help but feel as if I know he'd be happier if I liked having sex. Nobody truly understands and sex looks like it could be so much fun. It makes me want to cry. I wish I could just be normal.
I've known I'm asexual for the last 4-5 years.
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