Being loved is scary.

This is my personal experience and I would appreciate if someone would listen to me and maybe give me a word of advice or something.

I'm 20yo man. I'm asexual and I have befriended a woman who's also asexual. We have been talking for almost an year.

She would sometimes vent to me and I would say comforting words. Somehow, she fell for me. She said that she was in love with me, but It doesn't end there.

This woman has very negative thoughts and lashes out at me for anything. When I say I find someone pretty, she gets jealous to the point of saying she would stop talking to me if I ever said those words again. She even planned with a friend of hers to pretend to be in a relationship with him and then tell me she was in a relationship in order to test if I would feel upset, angry or jealous. (I just wished her a happy, healthy relationship. In the end she didn't get what she wanted)

She would threaten me, saying she would stop talking to me, saying I wasn't worth and that ''all men are the same'' just because I didn't love her back.

However, I cherish our friendship a lot, so I would get upset when she gets negative, jealous, throw insults and harmful words at me for something I'm not to blame for (Not feeling romantic feelings for her)

She says her life is not worth if the person she loves (Me) doesn't love her back and that I'm always gonna be a friend to her. She also multiple times stated that she would ''end it all'' because I don't love her and that she's always gonna be ''alone''.

She had also said that one day I would live with her and that we would be together, even though I said I don't love her in that way. She has already planned a future that I don't want.

This is genuinely scary for me. It looks like I'm being somehow pressured or manipulated to get into a relationship with her just for the sake to make her happy and not feel sad anymore, even though her love is one-sided.

What should I do? What should I tell her? And how?

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Why do I prefer women in their underwear and feel grossed out when I see them naked

What ever I see them in their underwear or swimsuit it turns me on but if I see them naked I feel grossed out I am a man btw

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Am I Asexual?

I am attracted to men, as a man, but I only orgasm from a specific fetish. However, I experience romantic attraction. Imagining the person I am romantically attracted to performing my fetish makes me lose their romantic appeal and disgusts me. What category am I in? What am I

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Is it just sex?

Okay so I have this friend who is asexual. Now my feelings towards them are complicated but for the purposes of this discussion you should know that I have no interest in having sex with them, I can't even imagine it.
HOWEVER,
I am obsessed with their hands and face and do imagine kissing both.

My question is, as an asexual person, do you just not like sex, or is it everything up to and including hand and general kissing?

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Dirty magazine
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Am I sex repulsed or neutral? Or… Positive?

I don’t want to have sex with someone, ever. Not even in a relationship to make the other person happy. The very idea of me having sex disgusts me. (I’m aegosexual)

BUT ALSO; I don’t mind if people are horny, make sexual jokes, wear revealing/sexy clothes, express their horniness, sex in music, people talking about it in general, etc. I don’t mind any of that in the least bit!

When most people mean sex repulsed, they mean they hate sex with a burning passion in anything and everything.
When people mean sex neutral, they mean neutral to everything, which means they don’t mind having sex at all even if they aren’t attracted or horny.

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I wish I was able to have crushes

This isn't me being aro or acephobic those sexualities are very valid these are just my honest feelings. Thought I should mention as a post like this of mine was removed for that reason.

I'm 18F and I've just never had a crush on anyone. Hell, no strong platonic interests either.

I see people who have crushes or are in relationships and their lives seem so interesting for it. Like, for no reason other than attraction, this one person is so captivating for no reason. Doesn't matter if you feel heartbreak at the end, it's like people say: better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

It's to the point where I feel so left out because of it. By all accounts I'm probably aromantic asexual, and I hate that. I only started caring about it in the past couple of years. Before this the idea of people being attracted to me disgusted me. Now it's like I love the idea of being in a relationship and kissing etc etc in theory but there's nobody I have the urge to put it on in real life? I think that's how most people feel.

If there was a way I could force myself to want someone in that way I would. I've found myself wishing I actually said yes to going out with this one guy that asked me out in secondary school, even though I didn't see him that way. I even tried making myself think of him that way, which didn't really work.

Anyway, he started dating my friend, and turns out he was an absolute psycho. I know it's a horrible thing to think but even then I feel left out and wish I was her almost.

The closest thing I've had to a crush is this fixation on a fictional character, but it's obviously not the same thing.

Maybe I just want something interesting in life, someone to rely on. I'm also at the point where I have no direction of what to do next (i just finished college) so maybe that's why.

People say I should accept myself for who I am but honestly I'm not happy. Help me please? Is this normal?

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I got it

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Yesterday, an Asexual man won the British version of reality show Big Brother.
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TIL Club Penguin had a scarf with the ace colors (minus gray but like c'mon)

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Me too, Batman. Me too.
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Question for non asexual people with asexual partners

This is very simple and straight to the point. If your partner is asexual, has no interest in sex but doesn’t mind having sex with you because they know you want it. Why would you still have sex with them even if they say they don’t mind? Especially knowing that it’ll be 100% one sided? How could you enjoy sex with someone for basically your own sake?

I know asexuals can enjoy sex before anyone says anything. But Im talking about the asexuals who really could go the rest of their life without sex but only end up doing it because their partner seems to need it, so they just try to satisfy THEM which to me I think makes the sex not 50/50 at all.

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Exchanges on Hinge
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Stop sexualising everything
https://v.redd.it/d3g557cqvg1g1

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Did you also thought you were bi because you felt the same about everyone?

I thought I was bisexual because I felt the same for everyone. Then I realized that what I feel is nothing for everyone. So now I just label myself as queer cause anyone could probably not but almost get it if you know what I mean. Have you experienced this ?

Also what's your sexuality?

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I made this weird meme and i hope y’all like it!
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