Y’all….i need to say something

Hey so, idk if it is the right place to talk abt it but it really made me want to talk abt it here since i noticed that most ppl here are sometimes annoyed by sex scenes.( which i agree ) but i just saw something that made me want to talk abt that subject and i hope it isnt too TMI. Sooo yeah

So i watched hazbin hotel season 2. I am not really the biggest fan of it but i watch it anyways since i am curious abt it.

I saw like an episode and it had the scene where vaggie and Charlie are together. Which was apparently a sex-scene

And ngl, i liked it so much. It made me happy.

Why?

It is bc most of the time when i watch an episode and there is a sex scene. They would show like…every detail on what they are doing which kind of annoys me in my opinion. And don’t worry i do not hate to ppl who like watching that. I am just sex-repusled and i am not into sexual things and all of that.

But the way that they made the sex scenes was different….LITERALLY. What they did was actually skipped that and instead of seeing them doing it in the musical episode we see them dance with cool dresses. But in reality they are infact doing it, they just portrayed the scene like this as if they are skipping it but they aren’t and when the music ended we see them sleeping in bed

And i personally find it so refreshing to see that bc of how i mostly get annoyed of seeing sex scenes most of the time to the point that i had to skip it. So seeing how they animated it in a way that they skipped the scene and replaced it with them doing a little dancy dance is so nice. Like, i love how they did that, i think it is cool.

So i decided to post abt it and wanted to know if anyone agrees and all of that

It is kind of a stupid post but i just wanted to talk abt it to see what your opinion is on that?

I would like to know

Edit: again, i don’t hate ppl who watch, make and enjoy sex scenes that are specific. It is okay if you do and you can enjoy it as long as you aren’t hurting anybody. It is just my personal opinion on sex scenes since i am sex-repulsed and i don’t really enjoy watching them. Especially when the scene is mixed with a dramatic scene which IN MY OPINION makes it more annoying to me.

So yeah, no hate to ppl who make, like and watch them. You do you boo

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How do you navigate friendships when your friends are in romantic relationships?

As someone who identifies as asexual, I've often found it challenging to maintain friendships when my friends enter romantic relationships. It seems like their partners take up most of their time and attention, leaving little space for our friendship. I’m curious how others in the ace community handle this situation. Do you feel left out when your friends are dating? Have you found ways to keep the friendship strong despite the changes? I’d love to hear your experiences and any tips you might have on nurturing platonic relationships during these transitions. It's important to feel connected and supported, and I think sharing our stories could help us all navigate these dynamics better.

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Anyone else happy/proud to be ace? This subreddit is dragging me down with it’s negativity

How many of you so not mind being ace? I like myself and a huge part of my person is me being ace. Having found out about the term, definition and flag has given me SO much.

But I seem to be part of the minority in that regard? Because it seems that so many people on this subreddit harbour resentment of their asexuality or are ashamed of it, even if there is nothing wrong with being ace. The amount of „I wish I wasn’t ace“ or „I hate being ace“ post seem frankly staggering. I came to this reddit looking forward to interacting with other aces and exchange experiences. But I think I will need to distance myself from this subreddit for my own mental health. The negativity is so overwhelming. I know that a part of this is probably sample selection. If you are settled in who you are (any maybe in a happy relationship), you are less likely to seek out an online exchange platform on the topic of asexuality. So this subreddit gives the impression that most/many aces are unhappy with their sexuality and can not seem to find good romantic partners. It kind of feels like a self fulfilling prophecy. Anyone else feeling the same?

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Y’all….i need to say something

Hey so, idk if it is the right place to talk abt it but it really made me want to talk abt it here since i noticed that most ppl here are sometimes annoyed by sex scenes.( which i agree ) but i just saw something that made me want to talk abt that subject and i hope it isnt too TMI. Sooo yeah

So i watched hazbin hotel season 2. I am not really the biggest fan of it but i watch it anyways since i am curious abt it.

I saw like an episode and it had the scene where vaggie and Charlie are together. Which was apparently a sex-scene

And ngl, i liked it so much. It made me happy.

Why?

It is bc most of the time when i watch an episode and there is a sex scene. They would show like…every detail on what they are doing which kind of annoys me in my opinion. And don’t worry i do not hate to ppl who like watching that. I am just sex-repusled and i am not into sexual things and all of that.

But the way that they made the sex scenes was different….LITERALLY. What they did was actually skipped that and instead of seeing them doing it in the musical episode we see them dance with cool dresses. But in reality they are infact doing it, they just portrayed the scene like this as if they are skipping it but they aren’t and when the music ended we see them sleeping in bed

And i personally find it so refreshing to see that bc of how i mostly get annoyed of seeing sex scenes most of the time to the point that i had to skip it. So seeing how they animated it in a way that they skipped the scene and replaced it with them doing a little dancy dance is so nice. Like, i love how they did that, i think it is cool.

So i decided to post abt it and wanted to know if anyone agrees and all of that

It is kind of a stupid post but i just wanted to talk abt it to see what your opinion is on that?

I would like to know


Edit: again, i don’t hate ppl who watch, make and enjoy sex scenes that are specific. It is okay if you do and you can enjoy it as long as you aren’t hurting anybody. It is just my personal opinion on sex scenes since i am sex-repulsed and i don’t really enjoy watching them. Especially when the scene is mixed with a dramatic scene which IN MY OPINION makes it more annoying to me.

So yeah, no hate to ppl who make, like and watch them. You do you boo

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It'll pass...

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Hmm garlic bread
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To aces to have had sex: what is it like?

I’ve never been opposed to the idea of sex and would be open to it with the right partner/situation, but I don’t date much and have only ever been in one relationship that ended before me and my partner ever came close to having sex. I’m curious about what it’s like and I’m curious to hear people’s perspective who are also asexual.

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Quick Reminder:

There is nothing wrong with you. Live your life to the fullest. Stay safe, strive for your goals and ambitions, and stay just as yourself (cheesy, I know). Hope you guys have a great day!!

🖤🩶🤍💜

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Yo…hear me out on this
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My partner and I (both ace) met in college when we were 19 years old. We just celebrated her 30th birthday.

Feeling a bit sappy tonight, folks. Tonight at dinner we realized that we had spent our entire 20s together.


When I figured out I was ace in high school, I kind of just quietly assumed that I'd probably never find someone to spend my life with. Jokes on me, because I met my partner literally my first year of college.


Ten years later, here we are! We moved to the big city together. We have an adorable apartment and a cat. We craft and cook and read and work out and play video games and just in general have a goddamn hoot together. She is truly my best friend. She makes me want to be the best version of myself. I can't wait to spend this next decade with her, living our best ace lives.








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So like... Are we also welcome in Denmark?
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I feel bad for not desiring my boyfriend

He can't stop touching me, telling me I'm hot, just getting horny for me in general and I always try to match his energy, but recently I found out I suck at it because he told me he felt like I didn't want to do anything sexual to him at all. I just initiate kisses and that's kind of it.

It stopped me dead in my tracks because I never had a want to take off his shirt, see him naked, or touch his body in a sexual way and I didn't know I was supposed to...? I like cuddling but I always assumed that "needing" to touch someone sexually was an exagerration. Yes he is beautiful and I like looking at him, but it doesn't turn me on.

And I wasn't even sure if I was ace when we started dating, because people always told me I couldn't be and that it'd change when I found a boyfriend.

I'm trying to get more physical with him to make him happy, but I wish I could just have that program that everyone else has in their heads that tells them to do all that stuff automatically, so I wouldn't always be scared that I'm missing something obvious that an allo would've done in my place.

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Being loved is scary.

This is my personal experience and I would appreciate if someone would listen to me and maybe give me a word of advice or something.

I'm 20yo man. I'm asexual and I have befriended a woman who's also asexual. We have been talking for almost an year.

She would sometimes vent to me and I would say comforting words. Somehow, she fell for me. She said that she was in love with me, but It doesn't end there.

This woman has very negative thoughts and lashes out at me for anything. When I say I find someone pretty, she gets jealous to the point of saying she would stop talking to me if I ever said those words again. She even planned with a friend of hers to pretend to be in a relationship with him and then tell me she was in a relationship in order to test if I would feel upset, angry or jealous. (I just wished her a happy, healthy relationship. In the end she didn't get what she wanted)

She would threaten me, saying she would stop talking to me, saying I wasn't worth and that ''all men are the same'' just because I didn't love her back.

However, I cherish our friendship a lot, so I would get upset when she gets negative, jealous, throw insults and harmful words at me for something I'm not to blame for (Not feeling romantic feelings for her)

She says her life is not worth if the person she loves (Me) doesn't love her back and that I'm always gonna be a friend to her. She also multiple times stated that she would ''end it all'' because I don't love her and that she's always gonna be ''alone''.

She had also said that one day I would live with her and that we would be together, even though I said I don't love her in that way. She has already planned a future that I don't want.

This is genuinely scary for me. It looks like I'm being somehow pressured or manipulated to get into a relationship with her just for the sake to make her happy and not feel sad anymore, even though her love is one-sided.

What should I do? What should I tell her? And how?

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Why do I prefer women in their underwear and feel grossed out when I see them naked

What ever I see them in their underwear or swimsuit it turns me on but if I see them naked I feel grossed out I am a man btw

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Am I Asexual?

I am attracted to men, as a man, but I only orgasm from a specific fetish. However, I experience romantic attraction. Imagining the person I am romantically attracted to performing my fetish makes me lose their romantic appeal and disgusts me. What category am I in? What am I

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Is it just sex?

Okay so I have this friend who is asexual. Now my feelings towards them are complicated but for the purposes of this discussion you should know that I have no interest in having sex with them, I can't even imagine it.
HOWEVER,
I am obsessed with their hands and face and do imagine kissing both.

My question is, as an asexual person, do you just not like sex, or is it everything up to and including hand and general kissing?

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Dirty magazine
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Am I sex repulsed or neutral? Or… Positive?

I don’t want to have sex with someone, ever. Not even in a relationship to make the other person happy. The very idea of me having sex disgusts me. (I’m aegosexual)

BUT ALSO; I don’t mind if people are horny, make sexual jokes, wear revealing/sexy clothes, express their horniness, sex in music, people talking about it in general, etc. I don’t mind any of that in the least bit!

When most people mean sex repulsed, they mean they hate sex with a burning passion in anything and everything.
When people mean sex neutral, they mean neutral to everything, which means they don’t mind having sex at all even if they aren’t attracted or horny.

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I wish I was able to have crushes

This isn't me being aro or acephobic those sexualities are very valid these are just my honest feelings. Thought I should mention as a post like this of mine was removed for that reason.

I'm 18F and I've just never had a crush on anyone. Hell, no strong platonic interests either.

I see people who have crushes or are in relationships and their lives seem so interesting for it. Like, for no reason other than attraction, this one person is so captivating for no reason. Doesn't matter if you feel heartbreak at the end, it's like people say: better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.

It's to the point where I feel so left out because of it. By all accounts I'm probably aromantic asexual, and I hate that. I only started caring about it in the past couple of years. Before this the idea of people being attracted to me disgusted me. Now it's like I love the idea of being in a relationship and kissing etc etc in theory but there's nobody I have the urge to put it on in real life? I think that's how most people feel.

If there was a way I could force myself to want someone in that way I would. I've found myself wishing I actually said yes to going out with this one guy that asked me out in secondary school, even though I didn't see him that way. I even tried making myself think of him that way, which didn't really work.

Anyway, he started dating my friend, and turns out he was an absolute psycho. I know it's a horrible thing to think but even then I feel left out and wish I was her almost.

The closest thing I've had to a crush is this fixation on a fictional character, but it's obviously not the same thing.

Maybe I just want something interesting in life, someone to rely on. I'm also at the point where I have no direction of what to do next (i just finished college) so maybe that's why.

People say I should accept myself for who I am but honestly I'm not happy. Help me please? Is this normal?

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I got it

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