I've recently realised I'm not ace. But thank you anyway.

Thanks to everyone for recognising me as valid, even though I now don't think I'm ace anymore. You all are valid, and this community is one of the best I've had the pleasure to be a part of. I'll still stand by y'all as an ally of course 🫡

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Are you asexual if you find fictional characters sexually attractive

Hope this isn’t too weird to ask. I might be somewhere on the asexual spectrum (I think?? Idk actually) like I can be sexually attracted only once I’ve really gotten close to them. I’ve only been sexually attracted to like 3 ppl, but I won’t be unless I get close. But I don’t feel the want to be close if im not attracted, so theyre gonna need to be the nicest man to exist and pursue me. I won’t look at a good looking man on the street and think damn I wanna fuck them. But a fictional character? Immediately yes. I’m not aromantic but it doesn’t happen often either. Once every 2 years I’d feel something.

What do you think?

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I’m sure you guys see so many of these posts…

I’ve been trying to understand myself because I’ve been this way since I was a little girl. Hopping around relationships most of my life, feeling disinterested in my partners (of all genders) sexually, never initiating first, only finding fictional men sexually appealing in a weird way because they aren’t real, and feeling so confused. I’ve always approached the topic of sex as if its an intellectual thing and not something that just.. Happens. I’ve always seen it as a means to an end and a requirement to have an intimate relationship.

I don’t feel anything when I’ve look at my partners naked. Maybe embarrassed because its odd and unusual for me to look at but other than that.. Nothing. I’ve always felt like I’m broken as a woman.

I feel disgusted and weird whenever people talk to me in a sexually charged way. I don’t have any trauma… Which I assumed maybe that would be a reason why I’m so indifferent but nothing comes to mind.

I feel so lost in a world constantly surrounded by sex appeal and subjects I can’t relate to…

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What's up with people's obsession of boobs?

I don't get it. They get sexualized everywhere you look. I like mine, they are pretty and soft but I don't like them in a sexual way. But every time someone has a bit of a big chest, people, especially guys are like:"Oah! Nice boobs!!" Wtf?? It's just a normal part of the body and a lot of women have to be afraid to go outside because people will stare at their body, even though it's not their fault that they have bigger boobs. It's simply how some bodies are build. Get over it! I wonder if those people would like when everyone always stares at their private areas too.

Why do people have to be afraid of going outside simply because of how biology made their body!? Especially for introverts like me, who hates being the center of attention. So that's why I also don't understand why some people want big boobs. They are uncomfortable, heavy and attract a lot of dirty looks.

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my mom gave me her old jersey and looks like the desaturated version of the aroaceflag

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tell me what you find to be the best part of being asexual?

had a really tough day at work, and I could use some cheering up. Tell me what you find to be the best part of being asexual?

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With this being my dinner, I thought of y'all ...
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How do I deal with the fact that most humour in the world just boils down to making a sexual reference no one asked for?

One of the things that never fails to bring me instantly back to the trenches of fighting off my dysphoria and trying to reconcile with the fact that maybe I am just the weird one. It really feels like this is what the vast majority humour in the world today is, and it makes me incredibly uncomfortable every time but if I say something about it then I know I'm going to be the one they look at weirdly. I'm not trying to say that the whole world has to now cater to my needs or whatever but I just feels like I can't escape it. It just brings me right back to every piece of bullying I've ever recieved for my sexuality, telling me that I'm just too sensitive or I'll get over it or I'm just broken.

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Y’all….i need to say something

Hey so, idk if it is the right place to talk abt it but it really made me want to talk abt it here since i noticed that most ppl here are sometimes annoyed by sex scenes.( which i agree ) but i just saw something that made me want to talk abt that subject and i hope it isnt too TMI. Sooo yeah

So i watched hazbin hotel season 2. I am not really the biggest fan of it but i watch it anyways since i am curious abt it.

I saw like an episode and it had the scene where vaggie and Charlie are together. Which was apparently a sex-scene

And ngl, i liked it so much. It made me happy.

Why?

It is bc most of the time when i watch an episode and there is a sex scene. They would show like…every detail on what they are doing which kind of annoys me in my opinion. And don’t worry i do not hate to ppl who like watching that. I am just sex-repusled and i am not into sexual things and all of that.

But the way that they made the sex scenes was different….LITERALLY. What they did was actually skipped that and instead of seeing them doing it in the musical episode we see them dance with cool dresses. But in reality they are infact doing it, they just portrayed the scene like this as if they are skipping it but they aren’t and when the music ended we see them sleeping in bed

And i personally find it so refreshing to see that bc of how i mostly get annoyed of seeing sex scenes most of the time to the point that i had to skip it. So seeing how they animated it in a way that they skipped the scene and replaced it with them doing a little dancy dance is so nice. Like, i love how they did that, i think it is cool.

So i decided to post abt it and wanted to know if anyone agrees and all of that

It is kind of a stupid post but i just wanted to talk abt it to see what your opinion is on that?

I would like to know

Edit: again, i don’t hate ppl who watch, make and enjoy sex scenes that are specific. It is okay if you do and you can enjoy it as long as you aren’t hurting anybody. It is just my personal opinion on sex scenes since i am sex-repulsed and i don’t really enjoy watching them. Especially when the scene is mixed with a dramatic scene which IN MY OPINION makes it more annoying to me.

So yeah, no hate to ppl who make, like and watch them. You do you boo

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How do you navigate friendships when your friends are in romantic relationships?

As someone who identifies as asexual, I've often found it challenging to maintain friendships when my friends enter romantic relationships. It seems like their partners take up most of their time and attention, leaving little space for our friendship. I’m curious how others in the ace community handle this situation. Do you feel left out when your friends are dating? Have you found ways to keep the friendship strong despite the changes? I’d love to hear your experiences and any tips you might have on nurturing platonic relationships during these transitions. It's important to feel connected and supported, and I think sharing our stories could help us all navigate these dynamics better.

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Anyone else happy/proud to be ace? This subreddit is dragging me down with it’s negativity

How many of you so not mind being ace? I like myself and a huge part of my person is me being ace. Having found out about the term, definition and flag has given me SO much.

But I seem to be part of the minority in that regard? Because it seems that so many people on this subreddit harbour resentment of their asexuality or are ashamed of it, even if there is nothing wrong with being ace. The amount of „I wish I wasn’t ace“ or „I hate being ace“ post seem frankly staggering. I came to this reddit looking forward to interacting with other aces and exchange experiences. But I think I will need to distance myself from this subreddit for my own mental health. The negativity is so overwhelming. I know that a part of this is probably sample selection. If you are settled in who you are (any maybe in a happy relationship), you are less likely to seek out an online exchange platform on the topic of asexuality. So this subreddit gives the impression that most/many aces are unhappy with their sexuality and can not seem to find good romantic partners. It kind of feels like a self fulfilling prophecy. Anyone else feeling the same?

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Y’all….i need to say something

Hey so, idk if it is the right place to talk abt it but it really made me want to talk abt it here since i noticed that most ppl here are sometimes annoyed by sex scenes.( which i agree ) but i just saw something that made me want to talk abt that subject and i hope it isnt too TMI. Sooo yeah

So i watched hazbin hotel season 2. I am not really the biggest fan of it but i watch it anyways since i am curious abt it.

I saw like an episode and it had the scene where vaggie and Charlie are together. Which was apparently a sex-scene

And ngl, i liked it so much. It made me happy.

Why?

It is bc most of the time when i watch an episode and there is a sex scene. They would show like…every detail on what they are doing which kind of annoys me in my opinion. And don’t worry i do not hate to ppl who like watching that. I am just sex-repusled and i am not into sexual things and all of that.

But the way that they made the sex scenes was different….LITERALLY. What they did was actually skipped that and instead of seeing them doing it in the musical episode we see them dance with cool dresses. But in reality they are infact doing it, they just portrayed the scene like this as if they are skipping it but they aren’t and when the music ended we see them sleeping in bed

And i personally find it so refreshing to see that bc of how i mostly get annoyed of seeing sex scenes most of the time to the point that i had to skip it. So seeing how they animated it in a way that they skipped the scene and replaced it with them doing a little dancy dance is so nice. Like, i love how they did that, i think it is cool.

So i decided to post abt it and wanted to know if anyone agrees and all of that

It is kind of a stupid post but i just wanted to talk abt it to see what your opinion is on that?

I would like to know


Edit: again, i don’t hate ppl who watch, make and enjoy sex scenes that are specific. It is okay if you do and you can enjoy it as long as you aren’t hurting anybody. It is just my personal opinion on sex scenes since i am sex-repulsed and i don’t really enjoy watching them. Especially when the scene is mixed with a dramatic scene which IN MY OPINION makes it more annoying to me.

So yeah, no hate to ppl who make, like and watch them. You do you boo

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It'll pass...

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Hmm garlic bread
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To aces to have had sex: what is it like?

I’ve never been opposed to the idea of sex and would be open to it with the right partner/situation, but I don’t date much and have only ever been in one relationship that ended before me and my partner ever came close to having sex. I’m curious about what it’s like and I’m curious to hear people’s perspective who are also asexual.

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Quick Reminder:

There is nothing wrong with you. Live your life to the fullest. Stay safe, strive for your goals and ambitions, and stay just as yourself (cheesy, I know). Hope you guys have a great day!!

🖤🩶🤍💜

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Yo…hear me out on this
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My partner and I (both ace) met in college when we were 19 years old. We just celebrated her 30th birthday.

Feeling a bit sappy tonight, folks. Tonight at dinner we realized that we had spent our entire 20s together.


When I figured out I was ace in high school, I kind of just quietly assumed that I'd probably never find someone to spend my life with. Jokes on me, because I met my partner literally my first year of college.


Ten years later, here we are! We moved to the big city together. We have an adorable apartment and a cat. We craft and cook and read and work out and play video games and just in general have a goddamn hoot together. She is truly my best friend. She makes me want to be the best version of myself. I can't wait to spend this next decade with her, living our best ace lives.








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