The more I know about Freud the more I feel like being asexual just disproves all of his f'd up research and I like that lol

Like "sexual impulses are the source of all human energy" huh you know that's interesting where does my energy come from, interesting huh

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Not sure how to describe it — the most intense form of “romantic” desire for someone who’s asexual.

I’ve considered myself asexual since I was 16.
I’ve liked both men and women before, but I’ve never felt any sexual attraction at all, nor had entered a stable relationship.

What I truly crave is mental resonance — talking for hours, sharing thoughts, or simply existing in the same space with someone I deeply connect with. Sometimes I find myself drawn to small, vivid details — cherry-like lips, or warm eyes glimmering behind the chill of glasses — but it’s more of an aesthetic pull than anything physical.

Even kissing feels like the farthest my fantasies can go; anything beyond that instantly turns me off.

There was one person I once loved most deeply. At the height of that feeling, all I wanted(and did)was to hold her tightly in my arms. Sometimes, I’d feel a fleeting urge to kiss her, soft and transient, gone before it ever became real desire. That’s when I realized: my affection runs deep, but it never becomes sexual. It’s warmth, admiration, and quiet awe — but never lust.

I’m wondering how others here experience this.
What’s the most intense form of romantic or emotional desire you’ve ever felt?
I’d really love to hear how you define or experience “romantic” connection without sexual attraction.

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And it is always because i mentioned that i am sex-repulsed ( OCD related pretty long story i am sorry )
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Idk what to title this but I thought this was funny and seemed kinda ace
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Ace flag near bottom
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And it is always because i mentioned that i am sex-repulsed ( OCD related pretty long story i am sorry )
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Sprinkling in some ace joy: favourite part(s) of being asexual?

Hi everyone! I don't know about you guys, but I'm craving some ace joy. Between questioning or TW posts, I've noticed this sub can get a bit... focused on the darker sides of asexuality, which personally have been really enlightening and even sometimes heart-warming, but I'm looking forward to hearing some of you guys' favourite parts of being asexual! <3

It's such a beautiful thing imo, like the fact that we have a subreddit to gather together and discuss this complex thing. I've spent so many years in the dark about it, and feeling alone, but I'm so grateful for connections like the ones we have here.

Some of my favourite parts of being ace include how easy and natural it feels to embrace who I am. I'm a very practical person who likes to get things done right away, so I love that I don't have any desire for sex because it's definitely not happening right now (or ever, lol), if that makes sense! I also love how it feels like no matter how much has changed over the years, or how much I've changed, asexuality is at the core of who I am throughout my life and it feels like an anchoring fact about myself. I also think our community has hella good humour, and I love how much I can relate to everyone in big or small ways, it's truly meaningful.

Okay, rant over! Your turn pls!

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And it is always because i mentioned that i am sex-repulsed ( OCD related pretty long story i am sorry )
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ACE MONARCH!!!
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I swear I'm always being reminded of why I'm sex repulsed and negative
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i made my own aroace flag !
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I made something
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Aromantic, asexual and anxious
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Alcohol free asexuals

I’ve noticed an interesting pattern since joining asexual communities (just Reddit and AceSpace to be fair) - a very large percentage of ace individuals I have met, compared to the general population, tend to be alcohol free. Has anyone else noticed this? It may be a coincidence but I don’t think I’ve actually met a single asexual person who drinks alcohol yet! 😂 the only theory I can think of is that alcohol related cultures tend to be tied closely with hookup culture, and for those of us who don’t care about hookups maybe we are less inclined to drink? would love to hear y’all’s opinions.

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Publicity is making me feel like I am sick

Where I live, there are adds about a med that is suppose to help with libido.

Already, I wish more and more that there was something to help me get rid of my Asexuality, as I feel like I am sick and life seems so much easier for allosexuals.

And now I see those adds and it makes me wish even more that there was med to help me be sexually interested in anyone.

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Question

So I identify as asexual because I don't feel sexual attraction to people (mostly because of childhood trauma) but I do for fictional characters that I find attractive like Astarion from BG3 (its a game based off DnD) my ongoing theory is because fictional characters haven't hurt me like real people but honestly im just confused, i know im only 20 but it's hard to explain to people who just say "oh you'll change when you get older " but honestly I personally feel like I could be single the rest of my life and my own mother said thats sad because and I quote "I don't love myself enough"......sorry for the weird rant but this has just been on my mind lately and I just want to talk to other people who might understand as well

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Am I Asexual?

If you are questioning whether or not you are asexual (including all microlabels), reply to this post with what made you start questioning, and why.

If you are too shy to post a reply, then you can scroll through the responses for the advice you may be searching for.

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Are asexual lives better?

I've always daydreamed about being asexual, I assume my life would be simpler and more time and energy focused on myself. I wouldnt have wasted my entire teenage years chasing girls with terrible personalities. I wouldnt have spent my entire 20s healing from heart breaks. I feel like I wasted so much time because the urge to reproduce is increadibly strong and I wish to escape it for a simpler existance.

is this actually the case, or am I doing the whole grass always greener thing?

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how to be okay with your so desiring you?

I'm running on a big hypothetical. This is my first real relationship at 18 and it's still pretty new. We were friends for a while before this though. I'm simultaneously wishing he'd express more want for me and also thinking that if that happened I would be uncomfortable. So, obviously I cannot know how i'll react until I do, but is there another way I can think of someone desiring you? Because that, to me, means lust and objectifying and dehumanizing and just gross and unsafe behavior. I have previously opened up more to the idea of sex by thinking of it as an exchange of love, where you're with someone you trust with your sensitives and your heart. So, is there any kind of romanticism I can replace that traumatized line of thinking with? Because I think I would like that but I don't want to ask for anything before I understand this.

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Saw all the horny people in the comments getting goth girls and wondered what y'all thought
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