I don't know if I am asexual at all?
I'm a sex-averse male pursuing my master's. Due to my orientation and academic stress, I never had a relationship until recently. I finally began dating a heterosexual female who, initially, appeared to accept and grasp my asexuality.
I was totally truthful with her right from the start — I said that sex would not be included in our relationship and that she could leave if it was something she really wanted. She was okay with it.
But with time, things shifted. She started dropping hints that she misses intimacy. I politely declined every time, reminding her of my limits. A few days back, she mentioned that she wants to open up the relationship. She said she loves me but "can't live without intimacy."
I explained to her that I don't feel comfortable with an open relationship and that we perhaps need to break up if our needs are not compatible. She became angry and said, "Why would you even feel hurt or jealous? You're asexual — if you have no sexual attraction, you shouldn't mind if I sleep with someone else."
That really got to me. She also asked me to “reconsider” whether I’m truly asexual, which made me feel even more confused and invalidated.
I can’t stop thinking about it. Am I wrong for feeling hurt by her wanting to sleep with other people? Is it unreasonable for an asexual person to still want this above exclusivity like i didn't force her to remain in relationship I was honest to her from start, but what I say I don't know.
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I'm a sex-averse male pursuing my master's. Due to my orientation and academic stress, I never had a relationship until recently. I finally began dating a heterosexual female who, initially, appeared to accept and grasp my asexuality.
I was totally truthful with her right from the start — I said that sex would not be included in our relationship and that she could leave if it was something she really wanted. She was okay with it.
But with time, things shifted. She started dropping hints that she misses intimacy. I politely declined every time, reminding her of my limits. A few days back, she mentioned that she wants to open up the relationship. She said she loves me but "can't live without intimacy."
I explained to her that I don't feel comfortable with an open relationship and that we perhaps need to break up if our needs are not compatible. She became angry and said, "Why would you even feel hurt or jealous? You're asexual — if you have no sexual attraction, you shouldn't mind if I sleep with someone else."
That really got to me. She also asked me to “reconsider” whether I’m truly asexual, which made me feel even more confused and invalidated.
I can’t stop thinking about it. Am I wrong for feeling hurt by her wanting to sleep with other people? Is it unreasonable for an asexual person to still want this above exclusivity like i didn't force her to remain in relationship I was honest to her from start, but what I say I don't know.
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why do some sex favorable aces act like not liking sex is a personal attack on them?
"but aces can enjoy sex!" i know bro but thats not what im talking about rn
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"but aces can enjoy sex!" i know bro but thats not what im talking about rn
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Asexuality and veganism get such similar reactions
Hi! I've been part of the ace community for years and went vegan earlier this year. As time goes on, I've been realizing that people respond to asexuality and veganism so similarly.
Not eating animals / Not experiencing sexual attraction:
"But everyone does it!"
"But it's natural, so you have to"
"You just haven't tried it yet!"
"It's just a phase"
Both asexuality and veganism defy social norms and abstain from common practices that are considered natural/normal. People really have a hard time understanding that!
God forbid a girl won't eat cock or cock 🐓😔
ETA: I'm not trying to say asexuality and veganism are the same! I'm well aware that asexuality isn't a choice. I just wanted to share the humor of how people respond to identities that don't align with the norm. And I just wanted to make my cock joke :(
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Hi! I've been part of the ace community for years and went vegan earlier this year. As time goes on, I've been realizing that people respond to asexuality and veganism so similarly.
Not eating animals / Not experiencing sexual attraction:
"But everyone does it!"
"But it's natural, so you have to"
"You just haven't tried it yet!"
"It's just a phase"
Both asexuality and veganism defy social norms and abstain from common practices that are considered natural/normal. People really have a hard time understanding that!
God forbid a girl won't eat cock or cock 🐓😔
ETA: I'm not trying to say asexuality and veganism are the same! I'm well aware that asexuality isn't a choice. I just wanted to share the humor of how people respond to identities that don't align with the norm. And I just wanted to make my cock joke :(
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Looking for asexual people in Rennes or Brittany 😊
Hi everyone, are there any asexual people in Rennes, or in Brittany? 🙂
M27 looking for platonic love 😜
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Hi everyone, are there any asexual people in Rennes, or in Brittany? 🙂
M27 looking for platonic love 😜
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Could I be Ace?
I haven't had a crush in years, but I like the idea of sex, but don't feel anything. I've talked to girls before, have had talking stages, I really did feel excited around them, and even when fallouts happen, I deeply feel emotional about the loss of connection. I'm very confused about my feelings. I know a lot of it has to do with my environment too, I'm socially awkward, have trouble speaking to people, and self self-conscious about my looks, so that can reflect how I feel about sex too. I just want to know what's up with me.
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I haven't had a crush in years, but I like the idea of sex, but don't feel anything. I've talked to girls before, have had talking stages, I really did feel excited around them, and even when fallouts happen, I deeply feel emotional about the loss of connection. I'm very confused about my feelings. I know a lot of it has to do with my environment too, I'm socially awkward, have trouble speaking to people, and self self-conscious about my looks, so that can reflect how I feel about sex too. I just want to know what's up with me.
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Why is it so difficult to date as an asexual?
I don’t know if it’s just the people I have dated or met, but a lot of people assume being asexual means they don’t date at all, like sure that is true for some folks but you can’t assume that. And I’ve dated an asexual before but they definitely weren’t actually asexual (no offence). But it’s so difficult to date as an asexual, because people I’ve dated clearly want sexual things while I rarely ever want that. Like why can’t I just have a normal relationship with love in it, I crave that so fucking much!
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I don’t know if it’s just the people I have dated or met, but a lot of people assume being asexual means they don’t date at all, like sure that is true for some folks but you can’t assume that. And I’ve dated an asexual before but they definitely weren’t actually asexual (no offence). But it’s so difficult to date as an asexual, because people I’ve dated clearly want sexual things while I rarely ever want that. Like why can’t I just have a normal relationship with love in it, I crave that so fucking much!
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It be so funny if we banned ppl with this mindset from breeding.
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