How is it like being asexual?

Your experiences?

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I like hugs. How do I find people to hug if my breath always smells like garlic bread?



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Any Egyptians here
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My bf broke up with me

I am Korean in early 20s. And I know I am asexual. I never felt comfortable with any sexual content ever in my life, and was not interested in any people that way.

This was my first serious relationship and it didn't went well. South Korea is not very opened to queer community and most of them doesn't know about the concept of asexual. When our relationship got a bit serious i told my ex that im a platonic person and was afraid of sex... He said he doesn't care and will wait until I was okay with it, he even said he already knew that I wouldn't be so into sexual stuff from the vibe I gave him before he got in to the relationship... so we got along well (or me just thinking it was going well). I tried to do *better* in the relationship... since I know my ex was sexually active and I couldn't fulfill that part of him. but 8 months in, he gave up. He said he cant continue this relationship if I cant have sex with him... It ended kinda dirty with other things he did while breaking up with me. I'm okay now but lost a little hope on dating. The whole situation going on while dating him was killing me inside, I lost 15kg in 8 months.

My question is... is dating as asexual better on other countries or is it the same? I know its gonna be difficult as well but is the situation any different from korea?

(english is not my first language sorry if it was too gibberish )

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Sexual men hate asexual women

I know this can bring drama by my experience really is that sexual men truly hate asexual women and find comfort in bullying them in any way they can think of. Has anyone else experienced this?
Why could this be?

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How do you feel when ovulating?

I’ve seen a couple posts/memes online over the years of people saying they become extremely horny/craving intimacy when ovulating. So I’m curious, how do my fellow asexual people feel during ovulation? For me I don’t notice any difference in sex drive and I never have so never really understood the “horny while ovulating” discourse.



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People Actually Do It?

I went to the grocery store earlier today and needed to grab some things from the personal care aisle. I walked by the display of condoms and thought to myself “I can’t believe people actually do that.” I’ve never once in my life desired sex or felt the need to masterbate. It’s just not something my body craves. It literally never crosses my mind. I could go my whole life without out it and be completely fine. I just can’t wrap my head around the fact that people need it like food and water. I feel like a defective robot that was made without the right hardware. I’m glad I found this community because it makes me realize that I’m not the only one out there with no sexual drive or desire.

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MY FRIEND CALLED ME A POSER ASEXUAL

So for more context, I am kinda sex repulsed and stuff but I'm also pan. Anyway, me and some of my friends decided to do a silly little thing and make a Google slide show with all the characters we would smash. It didn't actually mean I would smash them, but it was like a joke you know? So we print them out to show to our whole friend group. We're all having a good time and stuff and then comes my slide. It was mostly for giggles and stuff since I wasn't being serious, but one of my friends looked at it and shouted "You're a poser asexual! Asexual dont want to fuck anyone!" And one of them said "I thought Asexual didn't like anyone" then I had to explain that being Asexual meant not feeling sexual attraction (i still feel romantic attraction). But coming back to the first...what? How can I pose being Asexual? They have seen me gag when they talk about sex, and isn't asexuality a septum? Also this friend is always preaching about how they're the wokest and most left-wing of us all, so it's a bit funny that they dont know that.

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Has sexual experience changed your mind?

Not saying that it made you not asexual, but I wonder if any sexual experience has made you question anything at all.

I recently had my first sexual experience. Not all the way, but whatever. I did like it a lot (I knew I would), and will most likely do it again, and who knows, maybe I'll end up going all the way with the guy. I want to try.

I am fully ace, so I obviously don't feel sexual attraction to him. I experience aesthetic attraction but it is not the case for me here. Despite of it all, I was able to enjoy myself. I've been thinking about it a lot and, even though I'm also aromantic, now I'm 100% sure that I want to keep exploring. But being aroace... it's hard. I think I'd be open to a QPR, but for me aesthetic attraction is needed. And that person would need to be open to explore sexually too. Ugh.

Anyway, I just wanted to see if any of this has happened to other people too.

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If i had a nickel for every ace vtuber made by Maki Hitsuji...

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Is anyone else getting almost spammed with "the importance of sex in relationships" in social media?

Like in the past two days it's all over the place. I get it on insta reels, on twt, from content creators to news sources - what's up with that all suddenly? "Sex is like food and water, you have to do it even if you don't feel like it" sort of thing, it's weird as hell lol

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Would it be fair to say that asexual people do not experience "lust"?

"Lust" is defined as: usually intense or unbridled sexual desire : lasciviousness (Merriam-Webster)

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I made an ace fox sticker!
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Being sex-repulsed shouldn't be your whole personality.

I'll begin by saying that the vast majority of sex-repulsed ace people don't act like this. This post is dedicated to a very small percentage of the ace community, which also tends to be younger compared to the rest of us.

I might get downvoted for this, but as someone who's sex-neutral, leaning towards sex-repulsed, this pisses me off. I get the world can be frustrating sometimes. Some people make everything about sex, and that SUCKS! But that's not all people, and the vast majority of allosexual people aren't sick perverts like some of you all say they are. I have friends who I thought were asexual before they told me they weren't.

I'm tired of seeing people here being sex-negative or shaming people for having sex or having sexual thoughts, or ranting about it. It's just repetitive, annoying, and even infantilising. I feel like some of you don't even know what asexuality actually means. The lack of sexual attraction doesn't automatically mean the lack of arousal. That's a biological response (one very inconvenient, in my experience) that people simply can't help with. If you don't feel that, congrats! But that doesn't make you more asexual than other people here. You can also be sex-repulsed and feel arousal. Humans are complicated!

Anyway, I'm writing this because I just saw a post that went "people actually do that? People actually have sex?" and yes, they do! Including some asexual people. Was that all? Or are you going to keep acting like a child who just found out where babies come from?

Sex-positivity is important for us too, you know? Some people don't realise they're on the ace spectrum because of sex-negativity. They don't realise it's okay to be ace, because sex-negativity is all about telling people how they need to have sex. Oh, you like having sex with clothes on? That's wrong. That's not even sex! You like having kinky sex? That's wrong too, and you're a disgusting freak. You don't like having sex at all? That's also wrong-- who doesn't like having sex?! Here's how you have to do it.

Got it? Being sex-negative isn't the same as being sex-repulsed. You can be sex-positive and absolutely disgusted by sex, and that's valid! People will appreciate you more if you understand that it's not because you're disgusted by sex that everybody who partakes in it is also disgusting. You can separate these things!

Again, to state the obvious one last time: It's completely fine to be sex-repulsed. I support you, and I will defend you and fight for you if anybody ever tries to pressure you into having sex or even talking about sex. But don't act like other people are weird freaks because they're into it. - an asexual person.

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What does it mean when an asexual person finds someone "hot"?

I came across a few asexuals who say as an asexual person, they are allowed to find people or characters "hot", and it doesn't mean they want to have sex with them. I understand that compliments does not equate to sexual attraction, but I was confused because usually when I deem a person attractive, I usually wouldn't refer to them as hot because to me that word has sexual connotations. Do they mean it as a synonym for beautiful or something?

Sorry if this question sounds stupid, this also isn't meant to invalidate asexual experiences. I think this actually broadens it!

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Safe bubble broken

I just needed to enter a safe space for a bit.
I commented on a post in r/showerthoughts about how without sexual desire sex would probably seem gross.

I made a comment about how my journey into discovering that I am Ace is that I had a conversation with a friend about oral sex, getting told «well if you won’t blow him then you can’t expect him to go down on you». And that started a thought process in my head about how repulsed I was at the idea of having my mouth hear anyone’s genitalia, AND having anyone’s mouth near my genitalia. From that point, I realised sex in general didn’t excite me, at probably 16 y/o I discovered tumblr and what asexuality was, and started a journey of self-discovery.

Anywho, since this is the internet, someone started arguing, being obtuse about how not liking oral sex doesn’t make me «diagnosed as an asexual». I know I shouldn’t expect «more» from the general internet, but I just needed to come on in this subreddit and vent for a bit.

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Asexuals with OCD be like

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