Am I Asexual?
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I Don’t Know What This Is?
I am in a relationship and it’s not just this one but the relationships I’ve had before. I’ve had trouble communicating this: I don’t want to have sex. I do « feel horny » but it’s more akin to I feel this weird tension in my body. And my body tells me that this is the one way to get rid of it. It’s distracting, it’s annoying, it interrupts my thoughts with ideas of closeness that honestly I don’t want. I don’t want to have sex with my partner. Not because there’s anything wrong with them, but because I genuinely don’t think it’s enough. And I don’t think sex or sexual intimacy properly expresses what them and the other people I care about mean to me. It’s like there’s this itch under my skin where I want someone I care about to know I love them, and I feel my body misconstrue it. I’ve tried sexual intimacy, I’ve tried that kind of closeness, and the best way I can express it is that I feel tingly. Like pins and needles but without any reaction to it. I feel tingly and then I feel the tension subside and then I don’t feel anything. And then I feel disgust. My partner jokes that it’s « Catholic guilt » but that’s not it. I can see why it seems that way but it feels like (yet again in a vital way) the way my mind (and soul?) wants to interact with the world is in contrast to the way my body acts. I’ve tried to « cut myself off » because I know masturbating or the like doesn’t resolve anything. I know all it does is take the discomfort away but sooner or later it will be back. I like beautiful things (not in physical appearance way but in a more intimate psychological and artistic way), but I don’t want sex to be the way I express that. I feel tired, honestly. I don’t know how to appreciate the things and people I care about without my body intruding and demanding something that is not just unsatisfactory and uninteresting, but it just exhausts and disgusts me.
I guess, do y’all know of anyway to tackle this dissonance?
Oh and the touch. The gods’ damned touch. One moment I’m neutral to touch and the next the feeling of my clothes on my skin is driving me to the brink of a panic attack. And I can see it in my partner’s eyes how they don’t know when is the right or wrong time. How bitter and confused they look. And I’m just too damn tired to explain—and even if I could I wouldn’t be able to express everything fully before they somehow make it representative of the nature of our relationship and my opinion of them.
It feels like nothing could ever possibly go right. I feel like I want to pack up, take out a loan and rent an apartment. Live in isolation because it’s only when I’m alone that this shite feels more doable. Gods I feel so damn exhausted. Of myself. Of people.
I don’t know how to exist with people. I’m starting to feel more and more that I’m better with people when they’re not this close. When I can control the distance.
I hate when my partner’s hand is on my thigh and i feel my crotch react, because I know I don’t want this. I (my mind) does not want this, but it’s like I have to dig my nails into my skin before my body leaves me alone…
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I am in a relationship and it’s not just this one but the relationships I’ve had before. I’ve had trouble communicating this: I don’t want to have sex. I do « feel horny » but it’s more akin to I feel this weird tension in my body. And my body tells me that this is the one way to get rid of it. It’s distracting, it’s annoying, it interrupts my thoughts with ideas of closeness that honestly I don’t want. I don’t want to have sex with my partner. Not because there’s anything wrong with them, but because I genuinely don’t think it’s enough. And I don’t think sex or sexual intimacy properly expresses what them and the other people I care about mean to me. It’s like there’s this itch under my skin where I want someone I care about to know I love them, and I feel my body misconstrue it. I’ve tried sexual intimacy, I’ve tried that kind of closeness, and the best way I can express it is that I feel tingly. Like pins and needles but without any reaction to it. I feel tingly and then I feel the tension subside and then I don’t feel anything. And then I feel disgust. My partner jokes that it’s « Catholic guilt » but that’s not it. I can see why it seems that way but it feels like (yet again in a vital way) the way my mind (and soul?) wants to interact with the world is in contrast to the way my body acts. I’ve tried to « cut myself off » because I know masturbating or the like doesn’t resolve anything. I know all it does is take the discomfort away but sooner or later it will be back. I like beautiful things (not in physical appearance way but in a more intimate psychological and artistic way), but I don’t want sex to be the way I express that. I feel tired, honestly. I don’t know how to appreciate the things and people I care about without my body intruding and demanding something that is not just unsatisfactory and uninteresting, but it just exhausts and disgusts me.
I guess, do y’all know of anyway to tackle this dissonance?
Oh and the touch. The gods’ damned touch. One moment I’m neutral to touch and the next the feeling of my clothes on my skin is driving me to the brink of a panic attack. And I can see it in my partner’s eyes how they don’t know when is the right or wrong time. How bitter and confused they look. And I’m just too damn tired to explain—and even if I could I wouldn’t be able to express everything fully before they somehow make it representative of the nature of our relationship and my opinion of them.
It feels like nothing could ever possibly go right. I feel like I want to pack up, take out a loan and rent an apartment. Live in isolation because it’s only when I’m alone that this shite feels more doable. Gods I feel so damn exhausted. Of myself. Of people.
I don’t know how to exist with people. I’m starting to feel more and more that I’m better with people when they’re not this close. When I can control the distance.
I hate when my partner’s hand is on my thigh and i feel my crotch react, because I know I don’t want this. I (my mind) does not want this, but it’s like I have to dig my nails into my skin before my body leaves me alone…
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Any hopeless romantic aces out there ?
I want to be in a relationship so bad but there isn't anyone that I'm attracted to in any way 😭😭 I see a pretty girl and I'm like 'damn she's fine' and then that's it. And even if I try to date it seems pointless cause I won't feel anything. I'd really like to find a QPR but where am I going to find someone like that ?? Especially in this country I haven't even met any aces in the wild.
I just want to have a partner to cuddle with and spend time with and it has to be a queer relationship.
I love love and I've been in love before. But, I just want someone that's special to me like that and they won't have any issues with me being who I am.
Can you relate?
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I want to be in a relationship so bad but there isn't anyone that I'm attracted to in any way 😭😭 I see a pretty girl and I'm like 'damn she's fine' and then that's it. And even if I try to date it seems pointless cause I won't feel anything. I'd really like to find a QPR but where am I going to find someone like that ?? Especially in this country I haven't even met any aces in the wild.
I just want to have a partner to cuddle with and spend time with and it has to be a queer relationship.
I love love and I've been in love before. But, I just want someone that's special to me like that and they won't have any issues with me being who I am.
Can you relate?
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Me realizing I wasn't trans, I just didn't like being sexualized like all women:
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Does anyone else love being Asexual?
I love it. I don’t have sex because I just don’t want to. No thanks. The sex world isn’t for me.
But damn; I saw the lesbian subreddits on here thinking I could maybe post into them; I looked and was like, “So much sex and Acephobia I won’t be trying in these. Maybe the Asexual Subreddit will do something.”
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I love it. I don’t have sex because I just don’t want to. No thanks. The sex world isn’t for me.
But damn; I saw the lesbian subreddits on here thinking I could maybe post into them; I looked and was like, “So much sex and Acephobia I won’t be trying in these. Maybe the Asexual Subreddit will do something.”
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