Why is it always the same

My new boyfriend I've known for years just broke up with me. We match in everything else, but he wanted kids. I didn't want kids or to do the deed. We started dating two months ago but I've known him for about 6 years now. I feel upset because I really like him a lot. It's always the same thing. Guys want my body and their own flesh and blood children and I don't do that. Guess I'll end up alone again.

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Is it a stereotype, idk but I bought myself a whole garlic roll I love it 😭
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Aces, how do you feel about kissing?

Choose the lowest option that you actually enjoy and would seek out yourself!

Not the option that you would be okay doing if your partner wants!

View Poll

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So, however is sex- repulsed and experienced that, are you okay?
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Is it still asexual if I, myself, don’t like the pleasure of sex, but like to please my partner??

See I don’t really enjoy pleasure of someone else touching me, but I do enjoy masterbation. For a while I’ve considered myself as asexual, but do enjoy pleasing my partner every blue moon. Should I still consider myself as asexual or is there a different term for such act? I’m just confused and still trying to figure myself out.

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Comic I made about a year ago that im still very proud of

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Why ruin a perfectly good song though?
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Asexual, bi or just traumatized?

I was sexually abused when I was a child, and I have barely done anything sexual since (I am 25). I do not think about sex, I barely get attracted by anyone, but I do think people are beautiful in a platonic way. When I was in middle/high school, girls in my class was always talking about how boys or male teachers was hot or sexy, but I did not ever think of anyone in that way. I just thought they were beautiful in a way that they were made by God. I did have one boyfriend in high school, but he was very physical with kissing, which I did not like. I think it reminded me of the abuse, but I also was grossed out by thinking about sharing spit. However, I did like him, I really did, but when he wanted to kiss a lot, I freaked out and broke up with him. Today I find it very interesting how people live together and have sex, I find it interesting in a way because it seems so strange for me. I don’t know if I ever could do that because I need a lot of alone time. I’m also autistic, and I’ve heard a lot of autistics are asexual, but that could be wrong. I’m also schizophrenic and experience mania-like episodes, where I think more about sex, but I don’t know if I am still asexual because I never ever have had real voluntary sex, i just become more active when im in that type of episode. I also do not wish to have sex, unless I find someone to marry, but I haven’t ever fallen in love after the boy in high school.

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Seeking muslim

Salam. Asexual 25 F seeking marriage with a fellow asexual or an impotent. Only Europe or Gulf (due to my nationality). Want family and kids 🥹… Could adopt or IVF. Traditional gender roles. Would consider a lavender marriage.

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Hey so… this happened again and i am now really scared of somehow repressing sexual desires ( sorry )



For anyone who doesn’t know what i am talking abt, here is the link https://www.reddit.com/r/Asexual/s/I4YhxuUY4A


So first off, i really apologise for this type of post, i really did not felt well this time bc i woke up with a dream that i didn’t want at all


I am sex-repulsed. No, i don’t think sexual dreams are shameful. I think it is normal for ppl to have them and like it. I just did not like what i just witnessed in my dream bc i don’t like sex Thats it.




Welp this happened again, but worse bc now it included me ( i wish it wasn’t bc i did not want to be here. And tbh… while i was in that dream, i was literally thinking abt a comic book that i saw. Idk it was an action comic book abt two ppl fighting or whatever )

The worst part is that..( TMI I AM SORRY ) my body reacted even though i did not find it apealing.

Which made it even worse bc now i am afraid of somehow repress sexual desires/urges or attractions bc THESE ARE NORMAL.

At first i didnt react bc i thought
‘’ its just a dream. I didn’t like the dream but i am too tired to react ‘’


But then hours later my brain goes ‘’ You know that one dream that you had that your body reacted but you still didnt like the dream. Then it means you are trying to repress urges and you actually did like it. Bc it looks like you did bc your body reacted while you said you didnt like the dream which means you are lying and that you are trying to unconsciously block your sexual desires, urges and attraction ‘’



Yeah this whole paragraph made me cry……LITERALLY.


Bc I DON’T WANNA BLOCK/REPRESS URGES. ITS FRICKIN NORMAL.



But idk if i do feel them. But i am scared now bc i heard that ppl who are sexually repressed gets sex dreams and convinces themselves that they didn’t like it.




I GENUINELY DIDN’T LIKE IT. but I AM SCARED FOR MY LIFE ABT IT BC WHAT IF I SM SOMEHOW REPRESSING SEXUAL ATTRACTIONS/URGES/DESIRES THAT I HAVE WOTHOUT ME NOTICING IT?????



I don’t wanna do that.



Worse, i checked my phone the other Day and a dude in the comment said something abt ‘’ welp, it can happen that the reason why they have these dreams is bc its their actual desires being unconsciously blocked by themselves for whatever reasons ‘’



Yeah, this made me past my limits today. ( no hate on whoever commented this. I am sure you didnt mean to trigger me. It is my mental problem and it is not your fault )

Now i am scared THE PISS out of myself.


Bc i am scared of somehow repressing sexual attraction/desires and urges unconsciously

( future me: you have been repeating this a thousand Times…..stop it )



Like….i can’t no more. My brain keeps playing with me and even convinces me that i ‘’ did like it ‘’ bc i didnt react to it. STOPPPPPPPP





like i am scared of repression. I don’t wanna do that


Anyways Thats my stupid rant. I am sorrry abt it, it is pretty embarrassing.




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Question for asexuals — do you guys enjoy 🌽 in any form?

Genuine question! For asexual people, do you still enjoy 🌽 in any form — like videos, erotic novels, or illustrations? Or is it just something that doesn’t interest you at all? I’m just curious how it works for different people since everyone’s experience seems a bit different.

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Asexuality Pro List

Comment below and share some of your pro’s. Off the top of my head as an asexual without a dating life or a sex life (ever):
- time, time, time ⏰ I have lots of it and all of the freedom to do what I want with it
- I am readily available for my loved ones at all times
- studying my niche interests and goals like I’ve always wanted to since I was a kid
- Built (and still building) stronger familial relationships and friendships
- Stronger sense of personal values and beliefs
- Nobody is stressing me out
- physically, absolutely no risk of disease or pregnancy in my everyday life
- had the space and time to recognize my unhealthy habits and boundary issues and work on them
- no STD’s (sexually transmitted demons): Personally, I believe that sex transfers more than physical material. So, this is a pro for me

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Am i still Aceflux?

Title. I’ve been more interested in sex the last day or two and I label as a Queer Demiboy.

Queer ☂️
-Homoflexible
-Aceflux


So as i still Aceflux? If not, what label might fit me better now?

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Lingerie?

So, im in a relationship, and i was shopping the other day, and I was in a few lingerie stores just looking around cause why not, and i started imagining my partner in some of the things, we've never done anything sexual so far, and ive never had these thoughts, ive never imagined someone wearing them except for maybe me.. but like, it was just my partner wearing them, not anything sexual, just.. idk how to explain it. Has this happened to anyone else? I just saw some stuff and I thought oh they would wear something like this, and then the image popped up in my head

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I have no words,except why? And ew
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October 26th UK Meet-Up in Birmingham

Hey UK Aces 💜🖤 We are holding another Ace meet-up in Birmingham on Sunday 26th October! Possibly a bit spooky themed so if you want to dress up, bring accessories or games please do!

Starting at 12pm Meeting at Bacchus near New Street, here are directions as Google maps can be a bit confusing!

Bacchus is located under the Burlington hotel, in the Burlington arcade.
If you come out of new street station and turn right along Stephenson street, walk past the tram stop and then past grand central kitchen and ONU clothes shop, that is the entrance to the arcade. If on New street then the entrance to Burlington arcade is opposite cannon street.

Last two times were good turn outs, so it would be great to meet more of you! It’s a calm, safe and fun way to meet other ace people, play games, chat and have a laugh together.

Let me know if you’d be up for it, and feel free to bring friends or family if you are nervous coming alone. Hope to see you there!




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