How did you meet your partner that accepted you for being ace?
I really need some uplifting stories after getting rejected so many times after I tell them I’m ace. What did your partner do differently that made you know they were the one?
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I really need some uplifting stories after getting rejected so many times after I tell them I’m ace. What did your partner do differently that made you know they were the one?
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Don’t want to date but feel left out when all my friends are getting married?
Like…having someone who wants to hang out with you for the rest of your life seems cool. But that’s pretty much always like a regular relationship wanting things like physical intimacy. Like I’m pretty sure if that was off the table none of my friends would be getting married. But I’m not interested in it. And yet I also feel left out by not participating in kind of a big part of human lives.
And I know there’s ace folks in relationships but the dating pool for that is so small I’ve never even met around ace person in my life.
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Like…having someone who wants to hang out with you for the rest of your life seems cool. But that’s pretty much always like a regular relationship wanting things like physical intimacy. Like I’m pretty sure if that was off the table none of my friends would be getting married. But I’m not interested in it. And yet I also feel left out by not participating in kind of a big part of human lives.
And I know there’s ace folks in relationships but the dating pool for that is so small I’ve never even met around ace person in my life.
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Does anyone else view heavily sexualized characters as “ruined”?
I haven’t been able to play a certain extremely popular game, both because I have no money and the main character is HEAVILY sexualized and the internet absolutely exploded with goon art of her drastically changing her proportions literally JUST because shes a woman. The game and the character are ruined for me now. As usual everyone tells me to get over it and not to let it affect my view of the game.
I’m just so beyond sick and tired of how women, fictional or not, are treated and having to grapple with my rough relationship with femininity because of it. I don’t want to be a woman anymore. This is unbearable to me, I can’t take it anymore. I only find comfort in fictional men because I SOLELY associate women with being objectified and sexualized now, which is also why I specifically don’t like genderbending and crossdressing masc into fem characters
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I haven’t been able to play a certain extremely popular game, both because I have no money and the main character is HEAVILY sexualized and the internet absolutely exploded with goon art of her drastically changing her proportions literally JUST because shes a woman. The game and the character are ruined for me now. As usual everyone tells me to get over it and not to let it affect my view of the game.
I’m just so beyond sick and tired of how women, fictional or not, are treated and having to grapple with my rough relationship with femininity because of it. I don’t want to be a woman anymore. This is unbearable to me, I can’t take it anymore. I only find comfort in fictional men because I SOLELY associate women with being objectified and sexualized now, which is also why I specifically don’t like genderbending and crossdressing masc into fem characters
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Where do you even meet other aces?
Please delete if not allowed, I’m not sure where else to ask. Where do you even meet other aces? Do any exist that prefer online or long distance relationships? I have kids, and I want to enjoy adult conversations and intimacy that does not involve sex, but I’m in the Bible Belt and I don’t know where to meet anyone. I’m not asking anyone here because I know that’s not allowed, I guess I’m wondering if anyone has a recommendation for an app or FB group or different subreddit maybe? Thanks!
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Please delete if not allowed, I’m not sure where else to ask. Where do you even meet other aces? Do any exist that prefer online or long distance relationships? I have kids, and I want to enjoy adult conversations and intimacy that does not involve sex, but I’m in the Bible Belt and I don’t know where to meet anyone. I’m not asking anyone here because I know that’s not allowed, I guess I’m wondering if anyone has a recommendation for an app or FB group or different subreddit maybe? Thanks!
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Can someone tell me what why this guy called me john ace???
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Are You Aro (Advice)?
**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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**Hi everyone!**
Welcome to our weekly Advice post about Aromanticism! Aromantic people experience little to no romantic attraction.
**Do any of these resonate with you?**
\* You rarely (if ever) experience crushes on others.
\* You find the idea of a romantic relationship unappealing, and prefer strong platonic bonds.
\* You've been in romantic relationships but felt like you were going through the motions.
\* You've researched what crushes are "supposed" to feel like, but can't relate.
These are just a few signs you might be Aromantic. Aromanticism is a spectrum, and every person's experience is unique.
\*\*Have questions about aromanticism or your own identity?\*\* Ask away in the comments below, and we'll and your fellow Aro’s will do the best to help!
* [**More signs that you are Aro**](https://aromanticguide.com/am-i-aro)
* [**Honeymoon Phase**](https://health.clevelandclinic.org/what-is-the-honeymoon-phase)
* [**Types of attraction (might be incomplete)**](https://types-of-attraction.carrd.co/)
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Does anyone like the thought of ‘fucking around’ more than they do actually doing it?
Like I feel like the thought of having sex is more entertaining and hot than actually doing it…like you know once you’re in there, it just becomes another activity to scratch an itch then like…what then? I’ve only had sex a few times with one person. I don’t hate it. Liked it a lot, still do, but honestly, I don’t go searching for it. I can fantasize about being the biggest slut on the block, but I really wouldn’t know what to do with myself. lol
I guess that’s the curse of this spectrum of sexuality, at least for me. I love sex, and the idea of it but it’s not the first thing on my mind when it comes to anyone. If someone I’m aesthetically interested in asked me, then sure.
(Expectation > Reality)
Like it gives me huge imposter syndrome, sometimes.
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Like I feel like the thought of having sex is more entertaining and hot than actually doing it…like you know once you’re in there, it just becomes another activity to scratch an itch then like…what then? I’ve only had sex a few times with one person. I don’t hate it. Liked it a lot, still do, but honestly, I don’t go searching for it. I can fantasize about being the biggest slut on the block, but I really wouldn’t know what to do with myself. lol
I guess that’s the curse of this spectrum of sexuality, at least for me. I love sex, and the idea of it but it’s not the first thing on my mind when it comes to anyone. If someone I’m aesthetically interested in asked me, then sure.
(Expectation > Reality)
Like it gives me huge imposter syndrome, sometimes.
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General confusion if I am Ace or not/wanting to went a bit.
English not my first language. Plus i got dyclixia. So apologize for the poor grammar in this.
I am a 25 year old male.
And of late mainly the last two years or so.
I really been confused what I actually am.
Think my main confusion stem from the fact that my entire family starting to dog pile me. Because I am the only one still single, and the only one not thinking about getting or already have a child.
But I just dont want too. Just never really had.
I just like to come home from work and know when i enter my own home, that I be left alone to peace and quiet.
I just dont see myself able to live with someone else, that be around me when I am home, or when I head to bed and wake up early.
And I think my lack of desire for a relationship comes from the fact I am subconsciously scared I wont be able to be a good partner.
Because for one sex is a really low priority of mine, and have had relationship fall apart because after a year me and and an old ex still havent had sex and they where mad about it.
I think I am scared i cannot please or perform for someone. Because I just never wanted to have sex.
I always felt like I was bi.
But I also felt weird and different, because other would have talked about how "hot and sexy Megan Fox was in transformers"
I just never saw it. Yeah I guess she looks nice. But not "sexy". Like I can see the appeal in both sexes. Like I find it visually nice that a woman have a good size chest and thighs, and see the appeal in a thinn but still bulky man.
But I just never see it past Visual pleasing.
Even as a teen I hated being around other boys. Because they used virgin as an insult, and bragged how they already lost their virginity.
I am still a virgin at age 25. Because I just never saw the reason it lose it. But that also made me insecure. Because how much its talked about that you need to lose it.
And doesnt help with my own insecurity and self loathing that we also have movies like "40 year Old Virgin"
Just signals to me that is supposed to be a bad thing.
I just lacked a sex drive.
Like when I was between 16 to 20 I had a drive. But it was delt with by self pleasure. I also tried viewing porn for a time. But I just lose my drive and feel second hand embarecement from viewing it.
Same with sex scenes or nudity. I just skip ahead away from it.
And as I reached 24 and now 25 I just notice how my drive have vanished more and more. Now there been periods where I can go a month without craving it.
Then there might be 5 days straight it suddenly returns. Then it vanish fully again.
Also just never liked being naked around people.
Like in locker rooms. I hate being naked around others. Think its a combination of not really liking how i look, and a feeling I just dont know where to look, or how to act.
Even now i have directly choosen to locker room at my job, of the department that doesnt have the same work hours as me. So when i meet and leave i have it to myself.
So yeah.
I just dont know if I am Ace, or what.
Was told this is a place I could went about my own frustrations. Because I just always felt weird or outside. Because I just never "sex hell yeah" like so many others i know off.
And how now I am being shoved towards relationships. I just feel even more alienated than ever.
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English not my first language. Plus i got dyclixia. So apologize for the poor grammar in this.
I am a 25 year old male.
And of late mainly the last two years or so.
I really been confused what I actually am.
Think my main confusion stem from the fact that my entire family starting to dog pile me. Because I am the only one still single, and the only one not thinking about getting or already have a child.
But I just dont want too. Just never really had.
I just like to come home from work and know when i enter my own home, that I be left alone to peace and quiet.
I just dont see myself able to live with someone else, that be around me when I am home, or when I head to bed and wake up early.
And I think my lack of desire for a relationship comes from the fact I am subconsciously scared I wont be able to be a good partner.
Because for one sex is a really low priority of mine, and have had relationship fall apart because after a year me and and an old ex still havent had sex and they where mad about it.
I think I am scared i cannot please or perform for someone. Because I just never wanted to have sex.
I always felt like I was bi.
But I also felt weird and different, because other would have talked about how "hot and sexy Megan Fox was in transformers"
I just never saw it. Yeah I guess she looks nice. But not "sexy". Like I can see the appeal in both sexes. Like I find it visually nice that a woman have a good size chest and thighs, and see the appeal in a thinn but still bulky man.
But I just never see it past Visual pleasing.
Even as a teen I hated being around other boys. Because they used virgin as an insult, and bragged how they already lost their virginity.
I am still a virgin at age 25. Because I just never saw the reason it lose it. But that also made me insecure. Because how much its talked about that you need to lose it.
And doesnt help with my own insecurity and self loathing that we also have movies like "40 year Old Virgin"
Just signals to me that is supposed to be a bad thing.
I just lacked a sex drive.
Like when I was between 16 to 20 I had a drive. But it was delt with by self pleasure. I also tried viewing porn for a time. But I just lose my drive and feel second hand embarecement from viewing it.
Same with sex scenes or nudity. I just skip ahead away from it.
And as I reached 24 and now 25 I just notice how my drive have vanished more and more. Now there been periods where I can go a month without craving it.
Then there might be 5 days straight it suddenly returns. Then it vanish fully again.
Also just never liked being naked around people.
Like in locker rooms. I hate being naked around others. Think its a combination of not really liking how i look, and a feeling I just dont know where to look, or how to act.
Even now i have directly choosen to locker room at my job, of the department that doesnt have the same work hours as me. So when i meet and leave i have it to myself.
So yeah.
I just dont know if I am Ace, or what.
Was told this is a place I could went about my own frustrations. Because I just always felt weird or outside. Because I just never "sex hell yeah" like so many others i know off.
And how now I am being shoved towards relationships. I just feel even more alienated than ever.
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Therapist says I’m not asexual
So basically it’s been a long time /whole life thinking I’m just sexually dysfunctional or something, always identified as some kind of queer because I just didn’t fit the mold when it came to sexuality. Like I’ve been in love with all sorts of people, sex was always awkward and really unimportant. If I was extremely in love with someone I was willing to have sex, casual sex was an absolute no. Last year I finally read on asexuality and realized this must be the grey zone I fit in.
Fast forward to my crumbling marriage and a relationship therapy session . I came out to my partner last night, they didn’t seem shocked. Our therapist says she thinks I’m not asexual because I can enjoy sex, thinks my sexuality is some symptom of depression and I kinda argued with them for awhile and said “like, that’s your opinion man” and left it at that. I’m pretty bummed out
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So basically it’s been a long time /whole life thinking I’m just sexually dysfunctional or something, always identified as some kind of queer because I just didn’t fit the mold when it came to sexuality. Like I’ve been in love with all sorts of people, sex was always awkward and really unimportant. If I was extremely in love with someone I was willing to have sex, casual sex was an absolute no. Last year I finally read on asexuality and realized this must be the grey zone I fit in.
Fast forward to my crumbling marriage and a relationship therapy session . I came out to my partner last night, they didn’t seem shocked. Our therapist says she thinks I’m not asexual because I can enjoy sex, thinks my sexuality is some symptom of depression and I kinda argued with them for awhile and said “like, that’s your opinion man” and left it at that. I’m pretty bummed out
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Why is it always the same
My new boyfriend I've known for years just broke up with me. We match in everything else, but he wanted kids. I didn't want kids or to do the deed. We started dating two months ago but I've known him for about 6 years now. I feel upset because I really like him a lot. It's always the same thing. Guys want my body and their own flesh and blood children and I don't do that. Guess I'll end up alone again.
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My new boyfriend I've known for years just broke up with me. We match in everything else, but he wanted kids. I didn't want kids or to do the deed. We started dating two months ago but I've known him for about 6 years now. I feel upset because I really like him a lot. It's always the same thing. Guys want my body and their own flesh and blood children and I don't do that. Guess I'll end up alone again.
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Is it a stereotype, idk but I bought myself a whole garlic roll I love it 😭
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Aces, how do you feel about kissing?
Choose the lowest option that you actually enjoy and would seek out yourself!
Not the option that you would be okay doing if your partner wants!
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Choose the lowest option that you actually enjoy and would seek out yourself!
Not the option that you would be okay doing if your partner wants!
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So, however is sex- repulsed and experienced that, are you okay?
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