Anyone else like this or is it just me?

I am totally fine with anything sexual - until it involves me. I’ll watch corn, think about it, imagine it, get turned on by it, joke and laugh and talk about it, but having to change in the same room as other people? Hell no! Someone thinks I’m attractive? 🤮

I avoid gynecologists and I don’t masturbate. No trauma or weird parents here either, I’m just…the one who feels like a weirdo cause everyone says that I make no sense.

So I thought I’d find out if I indeed make no sense, cause I know there are aces that masturbate, and then others that don’t even want to see sex scenes in films. Everyone’s a little different. But I haven’t heard anyone say anything like this, even the fictosexuals (a community that I am definitely a part of; no matter how hot real people are, they’re nowhere near as aesthetic as in films lol)

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The only right answer

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‼️VENT-ISH MEME‼️Me realizing that female characters have big boobs and stuff so that they're more sexually appealing to the male audience and that works and is not "just a joke"/failed marketing:
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Gf is allo im ace what to do

Sooo we have been dating for about 3 months now and before getting together we discussed my asexuality. At first we had a pretty bad argument abt it but then she told me that she is fine with it as long as we can openly talk about our feelings and needs. Also I made it clear that it was okay if she wanted to end things with me because of it (even tho it would hurt ofc) but she was so sure that we could make this work.

Now that it has been a while she keeps bringin it up and telling me how much this hurts her feelings and how hard it is for her. I do get it but it does feel like she is guilt tripping me with loong videos of her crying and paragraphs on how she doesn't feel loved or wanted. Still everytime I bring up the fact that no matter how much we love eachother this is oblivious doing damage to both of us and we should really discuss is this going to work in the long term she insist that we are going to be okay.

I feel like she doesnt really even get what it means to be asexual and often tells me that she feels like its something personal i have against her.

What should i do? Try to convince that its not personal and educate her? Push my boundaries and try new things w her? Or are we doomed to end

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As an ace, this is sort of amusing
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If you were famous (or a big TikToker) would you say you were asexual on the internet?

Hi guys, I realized that it's very difficult to see famous people or influencers saying they are asexual. Even accounts from “normal” people that talk about this don’t engage. So, I was thinking: in real life we ​​already receive so many strange comments when we talk about this (I already did), imagine on the internet? If I were famous, I would probably want to speak out to bring visibility, but at the same time I think it's dangerous.
People often see asexuals as a “challenge” or simply don’t take them seriously. And you, what do you think? If they were famous, would they count?

A famous streamer in my country came out as asexual and it was great to see someone big talking about it. But it also created space for a lot of annoying people to talk nonsense, both outside the LGBTQ+ community and within it.

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Funny enough minecraft parodies apply
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"I'm LGB about QIAPN+"

For those who don't know, maybe it's a sensitive topic!!!
But yes it is real, they want to exclude anyone from the community who is not Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual
I'm shocked by this actually. They want to exclude Trans, intersexual, Queer, and by extension us too...

I don't know what to think about this now, and I also know that many here have never felt like they belong to the community in any way, and that's okay, I'm not here to judge.
I'm just disappointed because I think they're trying to pathologize us again 😕

And I have a heavy heart for the Queer, intersexual and especially Trans people who pioneered the existence of this community.

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How many asexual males feel this way?

I'm 17 female, and I found out I was ace like a year ago. I've come to terms with it though I struggle with hopeless when it comes to finding relationships. I always think that no one would want to date me if I wasn't willing to have sex. I'm sex indifferent (for the most part). My feelings fluctuate majorly, okay with somethings sometimes then repulsed by them later. I feel like I COULD have penetrative sex with the right boundaries, but preferably would want a relationship where it's not required... y'know? I don't know why, penetrative fluctuates so much with me. It's an okay idea with boundaries like no full nudity (I'd like to keep a shirt on), but sometimes it's just gross to me. Whereas I'm more comfortable with oral and stuff. Love makeouts and foreplay sorta things. And I'd TOTALLY peg a dude if he wanted tbh. For some reason that makes me more comfortable with the idea of receiving penetrative as well, like it makes it feel even? And then I also just have lower libido and could survive without, I wouldn't want anything often. It feels like no one MATCHES me and my asexuality is my downfall.

Anyway, point of this post being (I like to ramble) are there any men out there that feel similarly to this? Guys who experience similar feelings or desires? Sorta looking for hope that I can still find someone out there!

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Ugh 😩 So true
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I fixed it

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Pro’s and con’s of having your schools main color being purple
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I’ll never meet the “right one”

If you don’t understand asexuality just say that. The pressure to conform when I live like Virgin Mary is UNHINGED. Just think of me as a spider or not at all.



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anyone else feel this way?

I was explaining to my boyfriend about my experience with still feeling sexual desire despite not wanting to act on it due to it feeling like nothing at best and uncomfortable at worst, and I just basically said “it’s like when you want to eat cupcakes but you don’t because you know it’s gonna taste like sour pickles and make you lose your appetite” and he started laughing in a concerned way and said “dude that’s not normal???” He has a high libido, so I guess it’s hard to wrap his head around. So now I’m wondering if I’m alone in this experience or if others also experience asexuality this way. Let me know your thoughts!

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I think this fits here too, as a meme for allos
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Thank you for being the only subreddit for anyone not purely straight as well as straight that isn’t so hateful and considers more than one possibility.

Seriously.

(Read my bio if that helps you better comment.)


I feel like subreddit does a good job at being nice, kind, respectful and at being willing to consider more than one possibility.

For the Asexual part of me it is that I just don’t want to. Eh. No thanks. Don’t care.

I have tried posting in other lesbian subreddits since we all aren’t in one place; here. But good hell it is tiring with hate and the unwillingness for more than one possibility consideration. It is always insisted must be a trauma reason; can’t be otherwise. But even if it was a trauma reason (Not a trauma reason for me.) it is also not a choice like; hello?… You of all people should know that to those subreddits…


Thank you Asexual Subreddit. I feel accepted here.

As to why don’t see any posts in those other subreddits; I quit trying to there.

Last Edit: Thank you for real. Much love.

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Trying to find a middle ground?

My partner (29m) and I (23f) struggle with a balance in how much are active. He only really wants it about 2-3 times a month, I want 2-3 times a week. He isnt asexual, it’s only a speculation, I think this because he often misses very obvious hints and moves (like close touching),etc. however he doesn’t express an interest in labels and i respect that. I felt this sub Reddit could help because It doesn’t come down to me making moves, because I have and it’s gone over his head. I asked him what he was thinking about while being very close and touching his thigh and he was like “about having to grocery shop tomorrow:(“ and I knew he didn’t know. There’s only so many times a girl can get rejected (even if it isn’t really realized). Even when we do, it’s kinda the same 2 variations (positions aren’t really an option, they just don’t work out for us). Its been a long going issue and I’m good at communicating but at this point I hate bringing it up cause I feel like I’m just telling him how terrible he’s doing when I know he is putting in some effort and I know he feels like he’s disappointing in this aspect. We are very open with each other so we’ve talked about everything I mentioned however we have no issues outside of this, a lot of people suggest breaking up but that’s definitely not on the table, I truly don’t think it’s worth that, the problem just affects me emotionally (often getting more irritable, i try to watch out for that). We are absolutely perfect on every other front of our relationship but we’ve discussed how to fix many times and it seems to be not quite working. We just need ideas or advice please:)

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Feeling friend-zoned in my own relationship

My partner is asexual and I used to have lots of physical intimacy in the beginning of our relationship. Then over time things began to fade and it's to the point where physical touch is non-existent. Only after 3.5 years together and getting engaged did she finally tell me she was asexual and now I feel like the rug has been pulled from underneath me.

From this community, a common piece of advice is to have an open discussion with your partner about needs, wants and expectations however it almost always ends up in a heated discussion or argument that doesn't help the situation.

I'm sure people on here are going to hurry to defend or justify the asexual person in my story but it doesn't change the fact that doing the mature thing here by giving them a non-judgmental and safe space to openly discuss our relationship issues and not pressuring them into anything physical there not comfortable with; has had no positive impact on the relationship because in reality I'm the only person in our relationship who's open to talking and can take criticism without getting flustered or shutting down to go conversation. Perhaps I should be posting this on a fourm around Stonewalling in relationships but still, knowing my physical (and now emotional) needs won't be bet is getting too painful to keep going

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