Why is it that when im more comfortable in my relationship, the less i want sex. Is this asexuality?
Usually at the beginning stages of a relationship, or even when things are a little toxic, I have a sex drive but as soon as I'm comfortable, trust my partner and the relationship is healthy, i dont get the urge for sex.
Im wondering was it all performative in the beginning (but i was turned on though) but as soon as i actually feel safe, i can actually be myself (asexual?). Does anyone relate at all?
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Usually at the beginning stages of a relationship, or even when things are a little toxic, I have a sex drive but as soon as I'm comfortable, trust my partner and the relationship is healthy, i dont get the urge for sex.
Im wondering was it all performative in the beginning (but i was turned on though) but as soon as i actually feel safe, i can actually be myself (asexual?). Does anyone relate at all?
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I only recently watched Jaiden's video and it makes me sad
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Do you sometimes wish your weren’t Ace?
For context, I have known I’m ace for over 13 years now. I have lived a ton of things since, but for the last couple of months, I’ve felt like I would love to be « normal ». If there was a cure, a treatment, whatever, I would take it if it meant that I felt more normal, as if it was a sickness of something.
Today, this feeling hasn’t left my mind and my heart.
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For context, I have known I’m ace for over 13 years now. I have lived a ton of things since, but for the last couple of months, I’ve felt like I would love to be « normal ». If there was a cure, a treatment, whatever, I would take it if it meant that I felt more normal, as if it was a sickness of something.
Today, this feeling hasn’t left my mind and my heart.
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What do you guys think about todd chavez from bojack horseman ?
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I'm allo, but i HATE how hypersexual our society is.
The title pretty much says it all, i'm an allo gay man and i hate how sex is portrayed in society. I get absolutely sick when people talk about sex in such a romanticized way as if it was some kind of life-changing experience, like no, it just isn't.
Our society is deeply misogynistic, heteronormative and hypersexual, which of course influences pretty much every aspect of our culture from arts to poetry, music, movies, language, shows and festivals. That makes me feel really uncomfortable and always think twice before consuming any piece of media.
Through my life i've seen many people, mostly cishet men, talk about sex in such dehumanizing and disgusting ways, mostly through the idea of virginity (which is just complete bullshit by the way) or straight up reducing women to it's private parts.
Although i'm gay, i avoid some gay spaces too because i really hate that whole top/bottom shit and i feel it plays by the rules of heteronormativity and hypersexuality.
Anyways, just wanted to share my thoughts and personal experiences and i hope you all can understand my point of view.
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The title pretty much says it all, i'm an allo gay man and i hate how sex is portrayed in society. I get absolutely sick when people talk about sex in such a romanticized way as if it was some kind of life-changing experience, like no, it just isn't.
Our society is deeply misogynistic, heteronormative and hypersexual, which of course influences pretty much every aspect of our culture from arts to poetry, music, movies, language, shows and festivals. That makes me feel really uncomfortable and always think twice before consuming any piece of media.
Through my life i've seen many people, mostly cishet men, talk about sex in such dehumanizing and disgusting ways, mostly through the idea of virginity (which is just complete bullshit by the way) or straight up reducing women to it's private parts.
Although i'm gay, i avoid some gay spaces too because i really hate that whole top/bottom shit and i feel it plays by the rules of heteronormativity and hypersexuality.
Anyways, just wanted to share my thoughts and personal experiences and i hope you all can understand my point of view.
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Is sexual attraction the main motivation to pursue someone?
I've never been in a relationship (34) and recently after learning the proper definition of asexual, it 100% applies to me. I've never experienced sexual attraction to a person, which I figured out after learning what sexual attraction is suppose to actually feel like. I do experience aesthetic attraction which sometimes gives a sort of lightening sensation throughout my body that lasts a second, but it very much feels not sexual.
I've never really had the motivation to actually get to really know someone I find aesthetically attractive except maybe to a small degree. I see all these guys trying to hit on women and putting in so much effort and motivation to talk to women, but I don't have any of that. So my question is, is it the sexual attraction that is the motivator for the relationship seeking behavior? It seems without sexual attraction I don't get the correct motivational biomarker indicators that would give me the drive to put in sufficient effort to get to know someone to see if a relationship is possible. Like I have to "force myself" to put myself out there, where it seems to be a natural consequence of desire for other people.
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I've never been in a relationship (34) and recently after learning the proper definition of asexual, it 100% applies to me. I've never experienced sexual attraction to a person, which I figured out after learning what sexual attraction is suppose to actually feel like. I do experience aesthetic attraction which sometimes gives a sort of lightening sensation throughout my body that lasts a second, but it very much feels not sexual.
I've never really had the motivation to actually get to really know someone I find aesthetically attractive except maybe to a small degree. I see all these guys trying to hit on women and putting in so much effort and motivation to talk to women, but I don't have any of that. So my question is, is it the sexual attraction that is the motivator for the relationship seeking behavior? It seems without sexual attraction I don't get the correct motivational biomarker indicators that would give me the drive to put in sufficient effort to get to know someone to see if a relationship is possible. Like I have to "force myself" to put myself out there, where it seems to be a natural consequence of desire for other people.
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Vigilante (Peacemaker - 2022-25) is Ace and nothing can convince me otherwise ☝🏼
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I want a movie about a zombie apocalypse that is only transmitted sexually and the only people who will survive is virgins and rampant asexuals
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What response would you give to an acephobic when speaking badly to you?
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Not wanting sex is okay
I always hear people trying to normalise sex, being a sexual being and getting rid of purity culture which I could not agree more with. But i think people tend to forget to normalise not wanting sex. I grew up with a close bond with my mom and when I was a teen here and there came the topics of sex, not just with mt mom but in life, everyone telling you and saying how it's okay to want it, do it no matter how much or with who which of course is as It should be but it made me feel broken for not wanting it. I have drained myself over it so much thinking it wasnt normal and that I needed to want it. Eveyones secual needs are different and thats okay. We need to speak up more and normalise both wanting it and not wanting it!!♡
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I always hear people trying to normalise sex, being a sexual being and getting rid of purity culture which I could not agree more with. But i think people tend to forget to normalise not wanting sex. I grew up with a close bond with my mom and when I was a teen here and there came the topics of sex, not just with mt mom but in life, everyone telling you and saying how it's okay to want it, do it no matter how much or with who which of course is as It should be but it made me feel broken for not wanting it. I have drained myself over it so much thinking it wasnt normal and that I needed to want it. Eveyones secual needs are different and thats okay. We need to speak up more and normalise both wanting it and not wanting it!!♡
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