Aces have family. You have family. I have family. :) Never forget that!!!
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Mainly just venting
I dont even know what I'm doing anymore. I'm on vacation at the moment in a rather...romantic place. And thats exactly what I'm getting shoved down my throat. I even witnessed two proposals already in the past 2 days alone. And it makes me think that the last time I have gotten a real hug was literally 4 years ago.
I have made peace with the fact that I might stay alone throughout my entire life due to my preferences already quite a while ago. But being here and having it held under my nose is still pretty rough. I'm a romantic too, which only makes it worse.
Sorry, I dont know what I'm even ranting about, just blowing off some steam.
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I dont even know what I'm doing anymore. I'm on vacation at the moment in a rather...romantic place. And thats exactly what I'm getting shoved down my throat. I even witnessed two proposals already in the past 2 days alone. And it makes me think that the last time I have gotten a real hug was literally 4 years ago.
I have made peace with the fact that I might stay alone throughout my entire life due to my preferences already quite a while ago. But being here and having it held under my nose is still pretty rough. I'm a romantic too, which only makes it worse.
Sorry, I dont know what I'm even ranting about, just blowing off some steam.
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What is even the basis of aphobia???
Like I don't get it, what are you mad about? What religion am i offending by not wanting to screw someone? Tbh i think aphobes are just sad i don't think they're hot.
So anyways, what are your guy's experiences with aphobia and how common is it?
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Like I don't get it, what are you mad about? What religion am i offending by not wanting to screw someone? Tbh i think aphobes are just sad i don't think they're hot.
So anyways, what are your guy's experiences with aphobia and how common is it?
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The shameful story of my username
Hi folks, I wanted to share with you the story behind the ABSURDITY of my Reddit username.
Soooo back when I never heard of ace and still struggle like shit to « heal what’s broken with me and my sexuality » I was thinking that maybe I had to try more, to try different things. So as a woman living in this overly sexualized society, I thought : why not try an OF account (😭). i am currently mortified writing this. So I created a Reddit account to know more about how to start and find tips lmao
Long story short OF FUCKING COURSE it felt wrong and I quickly dropped this insane project. And now, the same Reddit account is used to know more about Asexuality and find confort in the community 🫂.
That’s it, I can’t change it unfortunately. Sometimes it makes me a bit sad but most of the time I find it funny and oddly representative of my journey to aceness
:)
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Hi folks, I wanted to share with you the story behind the ABSURDITY of my Reddit username.
Soooo back when I never heard of ace and still struggle like shit to « heal what’s broken with me and my sexuality » I was thinking that maybe I had to try more, to try different things. So as a woman living in this overly sexualized society, I thought : why not try an OF account (😭). i am currently mortified writing this. So I created a Reddit account to know more about how to start and find tips lmao
Long story short OF FUCKING COURSE it felt wrong and I quickly dropped this insane project. And now, the same Reddit account is used to know more about Asexuality and find confort in the community 🫂.
That’s it, I can’t change it unfortunately. Sometimes it makes me a bit sad but most of the time I find it funny and oddly representative of my journey to aceness
:)
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Does aesthetic attraction matter to you when dating?
I'm ace, biromantic and potentially demi- or aromantic, but as of now still intereted in the pursuit of romantic relationships. I'm not interested in sex whatsoever and experience no sexual attraction, but definitely aesthetic attraction and it is for sure impacting my romantic attraction to other people. Just wanted to see what it is like for others because I have some doubts nagging me in the back of my mind that it's shallow to filter romantic partners by physical apperance if the physical technically "doesn't even matter" for me, but like ... it does 😭 for me, aesthetic attraction is important to romantic and not just sexual attraction, but idk how to explain it. How do y'all feel about it?
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I'm ace, biromantic and potentially demi- or aromantic, but as of now still intereted in the pursuit of romantic relationships. I'm not interested in sex whatsoever and experience no sexual attraction, but definitely aesthetic attraction and it is for sure impacting my romantic attraction to other people. Just wanted to see what it is like for others because I have some doubts nagging me in the back of my mind that it's shallow to filter romantic partners by physical apperance if the physical technically "doesn't even matter" for me, but like ... it does 😭 for me, aesthetic attraction is important to romantic and not just sexual attraction, but idk how to explain it. How do y'all feel about it?
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Libido around ovulation?
(I didn’t know which category)
Am I the only one never experiencing elevated libido around my ovulations? Like NEVER. It’s actually more oppusite, it tends to get lower than baseline instead. Turned off. Idk why. I can’t even get it if i try.
This is coming from a 22 yearold with an unstable libido, long periods of time being asexual and other periods where i’m hypersexual. (Not cycle related but more like random months in my life). Attraction to others is difficult no matter which mode I’m in
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(I didn’t know which category)
Am I the only one never experiencing elevated libido around my ovulations? Like NEVER. It’s actually more oppusite, it tends to get lower than baseline instead. Turned off. Idk why. I can’t even get it if i try.
This is coming from a 22 yearold with an unstable libido, long periods of time being asexual and other periods where i’m hypersexual. (Not cycle related but more like random months in my life). Attraction to others is difficult no matter which mode I’m in
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probably don't have to be ace to find this relatable but i think it fits all the same
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When to tell partner about trauma?
TW: Some talk of past sexual assault
So I(16F) am not in a relationship and never have been but I plan to be in relationships eventually so I'm asking this question now to avoid as much pain as possible in the future. I am asexual and a victim of CSA something that I don't really feel comfortable discussing with people I know personally but basically I was touched as a child(never raped though) and it is something I would ideally like to tell future partners before we get too serious but when I'm comfortable enough to talk about it the two problems with that
1. I can't tell what stage in a relationship that is
2. I wouldn't want it to effect their relationship with my family as it was a family member I cannot avoid interacting with in my life. I thought I had forgiven them as the thing happened when I was 6 and I didn't really remember it that well and I thought what had happened didn't really count because it never went further than touching basically they got found out by my parents and as of late I'm starting to remember more and I can't help but wonder how far they would've gone if they never got found out and have started to harbor a lot of feelings of hate towards them and again wouldn't want a partner to not be able to talk to them the same or anything like that
I'm also nervous about what if they weaponize that because I've been in arguments with some of my siblings before and had them bring that up without actually meaning it and even though they apologized and I told them I was fine it still actually really hurt and I just wouldn't want that to happen and sorry for ranting a bunch I think I needed to get that off my chest.
Basically when would be an ideal time to tell a partner about it in a relationship, how would you tell them, and in what level of detail for those of you who've had similar situations.
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TW: Some talk of past sexual assault
So I(16F) am not in a relationship and never have been but I plan to be in relationships eventually so I'm asking this question now to avoid as much pain as possible in the future. I am asexual and a victim of CSA something that I don't really feel comfortable discussing with people I know personally but basically I was touched as a child(never raped though) and it is something I would ideally like to tell future partners before we get too serious but when I'm comfortable enough to talk about it the two problems with that
1. I can't tell what stage in a relationship that is
2. I wouldn't want it to effect their relationship with my family as it was a family member I cannot avoid interacting with in my life. I thought I had forgiven them as the thing happened when I was 6 and I didn't really remember it that well and I thought what had happened didn't really count because it never went further than touching basically they got found out by my parents and as of late I'm starting to remember more and I can't help but wonder how far they would've gone if they never got found out and have started to harbor a lot of feelings of hate towards them and again wouldn't want a partner to not be able to talk to them the same or anything like that
I'm also nervous about what if they weaponize that because I've been in arguments with some of my siblings before and had them bring that up without actually meaning it and even though they apologized and I told them I was fine it still actually really hurt and I just wouldn't want that to happen and sorry for ranting a bunch I think I needed to get that off my chest.
Basically when would be an ideal time to tell a partner about it in a relationship, how would you tell them, and in what level of detail for those of you who've had similar situations.
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Really heard a super sad conversation at work… can’t get allos
I work at a place with people older than me, and I’m also the only guy there. So I keep to myself sometimes, cuz I truly can’t relate with them sometimes.
The person who sits in the cubicle next to mine is the “designated meet up” spot for a lot of the older women. They forget I’m there and sometimes talk.
One lady, who’s like late 30s, said her husband has been having a stressful time at work, and has been having “performance issues”(she went into detail but I’ll spare you guys). But he’s allergic to something in the pill you take for those things, and he can’t do it. She says they tried alternate stuff, but she can’t “see him as a man anymore” and wants to leave him. Even though, she confessed this is due to the work stress in his life right now(he started his own business recently and left a steady job to do it, with his wife’s encouragement).
They have kids together, and she wants to leave him over this. And everyone else agreed. Let me repeat… EVERY SINGLE FRIEND AGREED AND TOLD HER TO LEAVE OR CHEAT!!!
These two have been together for 12 years and these issues only started 7-8 months ago.
I understand a healthy sex life is needed for allos, but man, hearing that 7-8 months of hardship was enough for her to leave her husband was insane. And I know allo men are the same given how many people we see cheat during their wife’s pregnancy.
I understand the importance of sex for them, but leaving someone you built a life with and “not seeing him as a man” over it?
I’m okay to die alone, but I don’t think I’ll ever date an allo. I’ll continue waiting for an ace woman. Sorry for the rant, but this just broke my heart hearing this. Wish people valued relationships beyond sex.
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I work at a place with people older than me, and I’m also the only guy there. So I keep to myself sometimes, cuz I truly can’t relate with them sometimes.
The person who sits in the cubicle next to mine is the “designated meet up” spot for a lot of the older women. They forget I’m there and sometimes talk.
One lady, who’s like late 30s, said her husband has been having a stressful time at work, and has been having “performance issues”(she went into detail but I’ll spare you guys). But he’s allergic to something in the pill you take for those things, and he can’t do it. She says they tried alternate stuff, but she can’t “see him as a man anymore” and wants to leave him. Even though, she confessed this is due to the work stress in his life right now(he started his own business recently and left a steady job to do it, with his wife’s encouragement).
They have kids together, and she wants to leave him over this. And everyone else agreed. Let me repeat… EVERY SINGLE FRIEND AGREED AND TOLD HER TO LEAVE OR CHEAT!!!
These two have been together for 12 years and these issues only started 7-8 months ago.
I understand a healthy sex life is needed for allos, but man, hearing that 7-8 months of hardship was enough for her to leave her husband was insane. And I know allo men are the same given how many people we see cheat during their wife’s pregnancy.
I understand the importance of sex for them, but leaving someone you built a life with and “not seeing him as a man” over it?
I’m okay to die alone, but I don’t think I’ll ever date an allo. I’ll continue waiting for an ace woman. Sorry for the rant, but this just broke my heart hearing this. Wish people valued relationships beyond sex.
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What's the worst thing about trying to date as an asexual?
I'll go first!
It's so exhausting and depressing when you're upfront with your sexuality and your potential partner says they're okay with it. You start dating. You draw your boundaries. Then suddenly they're not okay with it.
And they're not okay with it in like the most infuriating ways. You'll be post-romantic date, cuddling, kissing, exchanging confessions of adoration, and then they ask for more and you say you don't want to. Now suddenly because you don't want to have sex they "don't feel loved" even after all the hours of other loving stuff that happened before that. Now suddenly they're taking it personally, thinking they "did something wrong" and that's why you don't want to. Maybe they get mad, focusing entirely on their needs and ignoring yours. And they just can't grasp that your lack of lust doesn't have anything to do with them or anything they did or didn't do. You get the cold shoulder as they suddenly turn away. Now YOU feel like the bad guy for enforcing your boundaries and saying no.
Love turns into a math equation of how many times do you need to have sex in a given time span to save the relationship. How long do you have to prepare ahead of time to even be in some semblance of a mood to do it. Now it's all about numbers and planning instead of how you feel, trying to schedule in intimacy instead of letting it occur naturally.
It happens every time. They always think they can handle it. But they never can, and they make it your fault, even though you told them before you even started that you were ace. They just thought they could magically "fix" you, that they will be the "right one" to make you normal, and they get offended when you don't change for them.
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I'll go first!
It's so exhausting and depressing when you're upfront with your sexuality and your potential partner says they're okay with it. You start dating. You draw your boundaries. Then suddenly they're not okay with it.
And they're not okay with it in like the most infuriating ways. You'll be post-romantic date, cuddling, kissing, exchanging confessions of adoration, and then they ask for more and you say you don't want to. Now suddenly because you don't want to have sex they "don't feel loved" even after all the hours of other loving stuff that happened before that. Now suddenly they're taking it personally, thinking they "did something wrong" and that's why you don't want to. Maybe they get mad, focusing entirely on their needs and ignoring yours. And they just can't grasp that your lack of lust doesn't have anything to do with them or anything they did or didn't do. You get the cold shoulder as they suddenly turn away. Now YOU feel like the bad guy for enforcing your boundaries and saying no.
Love turns into a math equation of how many times do you need to have sex in a given time span to save the relationship. How long do you have to prepare ahead of time to even be in some semblance of a mood to do it. Now it's all about numbers and planning instead of how you feel, trying to schedule in intimacy instead of letting it occur naturally.
It happens every time. They always think they can handle it. But they never can, and they make it your fault, even though you told them before you even started that you were ace. They just thought they could magically "fix" you, that they will be the "right one" to make you normal, and they get offended when you don't change for them.
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Just found this sex-repulsed flag! Is it true? Do we really have a flag for us sex-repulsed people?
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The sex repulsed aces are having a field day with this one
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Made a New NSFW Sub for Aces
Yeah, I know the Allos will be scratching their heads about it lol.
I know we have Asexual Porn but that's more of a meme joke place (which I love, we Aces are funny as hell if I do say so myself).
However, I've actually discovered a lot of other Asexual people in the NSFW reddit world of all places. Seems like there are lots of us moving in those spaces but... quietly. Like we Aces have been doing many things, because Allos are just so fucking loud (metaphorically speaking).
I find myself struggling to even know where to post things I am wanting to post because all the spaces are so full of the Allosexual gaze that I can't navigate them well.
Anyway, I made aceapprovednsfw so myself & others could have a space that is geared to our aesthetic gaze; rather than the super sexual NSFW spaces that exist like that. It is Sex Positive but not Sex Driven; so things that are often labeled Sexual is the goal; while not allowing anything that shows sex acts of any kind (solo sex is still sex people. All types of sex are sex when you are taking to Ace people especially ahaha).
Cross posting is welcome & encouraged to give a boost & credit to NSFW creators out there; original content that is not sex driven is also welcome.
Body Positive & Self-Love/Acceptance is the name of the game; quality of the composition matters more than idea beauty standards.
I'm on a mission to join my favorite Ace representation person as an equal someday; I invite any person on the Ace spectrum to travel the path with me by joining this space I made (+18 only, sorry baby Aces, I love you too but this is not for you guys).
*Also if you have experience as a Mod, I would LOVE to add someone else as a Mod since I am still learning lots about reddit.
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Yeah, I know the Allos will be scratching their heads about it lol.
I know we have Asexual Porn but that's more of a meme joke place (which I love, we Aces are funny as hell if I do say so myself).
However, I've actually discovered a lot of other Asexual people in the NSFW reddit world of all places. Seems like there are lots of us moving in those spaces but... quietly. Like we Aces have been doing many things, because Allos are just so fucking loud (metaphorically speaking).
I find myself struggling to even know where to post things I am wanting to post because all the spaces are so full of the Allosexual gaze that I can't navigate them well.
Anyway, I made aceapprovednsfw so myself & others could have a space that is geared to our aesthetic gaze; rather than the super sexual NSFW spaces that exist like that. It is Sex Positive but not Sex Driven; so things that are often labeled Sexual is the goal; while not allowing anything that shows sex acts of any kind (solo sex is still sex people. All types of sex are sex when you are taking to Ace people especially ahaha).
Cross posting is welcome & encouraged to give a boost & credit to NSFW creators out there; original content that is not sex driven is also welcome.
Body Positive & Self-Love/Acceptance is the name of the game; quality of the composition matters more than idea beauty standards.
I'm on a mission to join my favorite Ace representation person as an equal someday; I invite any person on the Ace spectrum to travel the path with me by joining this space I made (+18 only, sorry baby Aces, I love you too but this is not for you guys).
*Also if you have experience as a Mod, I would LOVE to add someone else as a Mod since I am still learning lots about reddit.
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