Just discovering

Hi there! I'm new to the page and just discoved about asexuality. My sister is the one that pointed it out to me, told me what it is and said she believes I may be asexual. We watched a video about it, and everything to do with being asexual just set off bells in my head. It explained a lot about myself and made me think back too. Ive never been sexualy attracted to anyone, Ive had crushes and was in a serious relationship for 8 years.

After we watched I talked more with my sis about it and it just made sense. Ive never felt sexualy attracted to anyone, not even to my ex but I loved him with all my heart though. I'm currently seeing someone but I'm not sexualy attracted to him either. I don't care or want sex. I did have it with my ex but it never really interested me at all, was never really excited for it. I made it seem like I was all in for it but really I wasn't, hell sometimes it was me suggesting to have it, but I just thought that's something couples who love each other do and share.

And in all honesty, say if I wanted sex, i'd just rather go to my romance novels. Thats also what confuses me too. Is it normal, to instead of wanting the actual sex you'd rather just read let's say, a cheesy romance novel that has sex in it?

This is all really new to me, but it feels like a weight was lifted when I learned what asexual is. I always just figured it was because of my depression cuz I know that can lower a sex drive. But even when I'm not having a depressive state, I still don't care or want sex. Ill read about it and that's good enough for me really.

I'm glad my sister brought this up and told me to look into it. So far she and a coworker are the only two people that know and both said there's nothing wrong with it, it's who you are and as long as your happy about it that's what's important. And honestly, so far I am happy with it.

I just wanted to share my own little discovery, and if anyone wants to give any advice Ill be happy to read them. ✌

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How sexually active are you?
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He earth s pre lease th nk and are for it
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TFW you're fed up with how "hear me out" is sometimes followed up with gooner crap
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I love being AroAce

I found out my sexuality when I was 16. I never went through that phase of wondering what was wrong with me because I was too busy wondering what was wrong with everyone else haha. I always felt completely normal and happy for not feeling even the slightest interest toward relationship and things like that. When I found out about asexuality all I felt was relief and everything clicking into place. Never once did I question it, it just felt absolutely right to me. Sometimes I feel like I want the entire world to know how wonderful it is being ace. It is not a lonely and frightening thing. It is wonderful because of how right it feels to me. Never have I been so certain in my life about something except for this.

I am so happy that my brain does not need or want me to deal with all the drama and complications that come with romantic and sexual relationships. I am perfectly happy with looking for friends and occupying myself with my hobbies. I just don’t even know how to describe it, because it's not exactly joy, but being able to accept my sexuality or lack thereof immediately has brought a lot of peace into my life. I guess the word I am looking for is content.

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a fate worse than death
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What do you guys think about the comic strip that I made ?
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What do you think about the comic strip that I made ?
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The invasion begins
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Meme
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My Aro Ace rings finally came!

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Are certain piercings inherently sexual?

Tw: names of body parts

So, some background. I'm a transgender woman who has been on estrogen for a few years now. I'm also ace with no desire for sexual play.

I'm thinking about getting my nipples pierced because I feel like I would like the aesthetic for myself and to help take ownership of that part of my body. I've told a couple friends about these plans and they've all been confused as to why I want them.

Are nipple piercings inherently sexual, and will people assume that I want others to interact with them because I have them?

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"But you want kids!"

And? Why do aphobic people act like wanting kids suddenly makes you not ace?

If anything, the two are tied together. I see sex as the means to create my biological children/babies. That's it. I feel no other reason or desire to engage in sex other than procreation. And yes, I believe that this view does come from my asexuality.

Also there's plenty of ways to become a parent without having sex. Adoption, surrogacy, fostering. And you can become pregnant without having sex through IVF or artificial insemination.

I'm just tired of people learning I'm ace and then acting like I'm not supposed to want kids. The two can and do coexist.

Oh and DON'T get me started on the "your poor boyfriend" comments I get when I tell people I'm ace, in a relationship and still will only really have sex for procreation. They act like I'm some evil witch withholding some drastic need from him and that I must not really love him. Firstly, I'm 18. I don't "love" anyone, I like him in a romantic sense. Secondly, I'm 18. Why would I have sex and risk getting pregnant this young?

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Seriously hugging a horse is the best
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The thought of sex being real is horrifying to me

i don’t know why i have such a negative visceral reaction to it but the thought that humans have sex gives me a similar emotional response to the thought that everyone i care about will die someday. It’s true but i can’t do anything to change that and i just hate that i live in a world where sex and death are real and that everyone acts like both things are just normal

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Is this weird for an asexual?

I'm an asexual teen girl who believes that sex strips people out of their dignity, and I never tried sex and NEVER will. Doesn't even want to try having a boyfriend. But I don't know why I enjoy writing and drawing a couple (they're my original characters) arousing each other and the girl keeps lusting over the guy in her sleep and talking intimate stuff in her dreams, and she keeps asking him to guess her underwear's color, also there're tons of French kiss scenes and/or the guy touching her in arousing areas but without removing her dress. They even had sex later in the story when they got married because the girl is a princess and she should stay virgin till married. These fictional characters that I created don't seem that they lost their dignity to me and I absolutely love it when I imagine them being intimate because I love to create a happy story where my favorite original characters are enjoying their heterosexual sexual life because it's THEIR sexuality. Same with anime characters, but once it gets portrayed as real actors/actresses or an overly romantic story that happened in real life I absolutely get grossed out. Also I don't feel aroused when I'm writing/drawing them, maybe just a little ROMANTIC attraction to the guy character, sexual attraction to him may be present but very, very little. Am I weird? do you ENJOY writing characters lusting over each other but not feel anything with yourself when writing them, like just enjoy it non-sexually because you're giving someone else you wrote the life they want according to THEIR sexuality?

Tysm for reading my post!!

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scared to leave my toxic relationship

ok so first i’m 19 and i’ve been in a relationship for about a year and he accepts my asexuality, he isn’t asexual but he’s been curious about it before and asked me stuff multiple times throughout our relationship. he’s been treating me awfully the past month and i need to leave but im scared because what if i don’t find anyone else who accepts it? idk how far id be willing to compromise so leaving this relationship just makes me feel like ill never find anyone again.

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Bro….im so tired rn….WHY ARE PPL SHIPPING ME WITH THE SAME BOZO IN MY CLASS
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